Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)

[VainDoll]

@young_maiden

Yeah, tama si sis simang. Awkward naman kasi ng tanong niyo. Parang if they said yes ano mafifeel nyo or if no? Both guys answering yes or no. Awkward talaga lalo na friends kayong 4.

[young_maiden]

@sis estelle: salamat sa payo sis

@sis simang: thanks. hehe. gusto ko talaga yung rational way of thinking mo. hmm... if he says no, aba, ouch sa ego ko yun kasi it means he doesn't find me attractive. if yes naman ang sagot niya, mukhang awkward nga kasi baka magkatension kami. i remember may nakwento ako kay crush na guy who likes me. itong si guy umamin sa akin na he felt his little one down there na tumigas nung sinayawan ko siya in a seductive way. nainis ako sa guy na yun because i felt so violated. so nag-rant ako kay crush. iniisip ko na lang baka kaya di yes sagot ni crush kasi baka ma-offend ako tulad nung naramdaman ko dun sa guy na may gusto sa akin. naku. mag move on na nga lang ako imbes na i-overanalyze [textspeak!] sagot ni crush.

@jtsanco: ok fine may nafifeel nga akong lust. haha. pero kaya ko pa naman i-control. i have to maintain my self-respect kasi may gf siya.

@vaindoll: oo nga eh. very awkward question talaga. akala ko kasi ok lang kasi super open sila pag usapan ang sex eh. silly me. hehe.

[simang]

ok fine may nafifeel nga akong lust. haha. pero kaya ko pa naman i-control. i have to maintain my self-respect kasi may gf siya.

feeling ko aside from yung sinasabi mong lust, wanting to know the answer is a need for validation na hey, someone is sexually attracted to me. do you really need that validation? para saan? pang boost ng confidence?

also, not because you can talk about sex with a guy, ibig sabihin eh super close na kayo na bff levels. alam mo ba hobbies nya? heck, middle name nya alam mo? alam mo ba kwento ng buhay nya in general? i mean, even if sex seems to be an awkward topic for some, anyone can be open to talk about it, yung iba nga mas okay pa magkwento ng sexcapades nila sa hindi nila kaclose eh. there's more to this person that you probably don't know, so yes maybe it's just lust.

[estelle21]

^at young_maiden, if you really care about the GF you won't even ask that question, i think. you won't massage him. or flirt with him. wala lang. what if you have a BF and you found out he's having some sort of a flirtationship with someone?

[j.adore]

Malandi ka teh.
Lusting on a committed guy and dancing seductively with another.. Hope you really do have the self control!

[estelle21]

^sis young maide na single for 5 years, may darating din dyan na single at yung bagay sayo. o kaya antay mo na lang maging single si crush saka mo itanong ulit yung question haha!

[young_maiden]

@sis simang: aside sa sex, we also talk about our families and past relationships. pati na din studies. pero thanks sa payo. siguro nga pang confidence booster na din kaya ako na-curious. pero never mind. madami naman ways to boost my confidence at hindi lang yung malaman ang sagot sa tanong ng crush ko. pwede naman ako mag-aayos o mag smile more often para maging confident.

@estelle21: sis, honestly, there are times na nakaramdam ako ng guilt. kasi kung ako yung gf at nalaman kong ganun ang ginagawa ng bf ko behind my back, magagalit talaga ako. maski pa di naman sila all the way maglandian, nakakainis pa din. i don't expect o assume na magugustuhan din niya ako pero ewan ko ba hirap ako i-resist yung pagiging flirt niya. siguro tama nga si sis simang. confidence booster kasi someone flirts with me. pero yeah i know di dapat lumalim ito kasi may taong masasaktan.

sana nga single na lang siya eh.

@j.adore: sis, single ako so siguro naman pwede ako makipagflirt sa kahit sinong gusto ko. ang mali ko lang kasi committed itong crush ko so dapat bawas-bawasan ko nga pagiging sweet. by the way, yung guy na sinayawan ko single naman siya. so kahit sayawan ko siya, wala naman siguro magagalit. he is also a good friend of mine. off nga lang for me yung umamin siya na he felt something hard. and yes, i have self-control.

[jtansanco]

^ Care to share some questions which results to the "I don't know" answers?

[devonheire]

Kapag ba tinatanong kayong mga guys, pag ang sagot e "hindi ko alam", "kahit ano" "ewan ko", "bahala ka" does it really means they don't know? Ang gulo kasi, walang specifics.

Depends.
Check your guy if he's busy or being bothered by something. You know, men aren't good with multitasking. We are not like women who can manage talking on the phone, writing things, waiting for the laundry to finish and cooking meals all at the same time.

At times  "hindi ko alam", "kahit ano" "ewan ko", "bahala ka"  are just excused not to be bothered.
Men, who are totally into you will do anything to answer those questions - with pride.

[sacred cow]

Kapag ba tinatanong kayong mga guys, pag ang sagot e "hindi ko alam", "kahit ano" "ewan ko", "bahala ka" does it really means they don't know? Ang gulo kasi, walang specifics.

yes, dont make it unecessarily complicated. men are simple creatures, unless he's like me..:p

[baliwsayo]

Guys question, nireregaluhan ninyo pa ba ang mga ex ninyo? Expensive stuff ha. Does it mean anything pag nireregaluhan ninyo pa? Walang okasyon ha.

[estelle21]

^pwedeng walang meaning. ex after break up, binilhan pa ako ng something pero ayaw na talaga makipagbalikan. di naman ganun kamahal sa ibang bansa kasi nya binili. except ako at nanay nya wala syang pinasalubungan

[simang]

^kung mga ganyan questions, take his answer literally. Na hindi nya talaga alam gusto nya, na ikaw ang bahala, na kahit ano ayos lang sa kanya.

Pero kung tanungin mo sya kung mahal ka ba nya at sagutin ka nya ng i dont know, ibang usapan yun

[jtansanco]

^^ No wonder he "doesn't know" what to answer... Haha. Imagine this, what if he says something that you can't cook? Ano gagawin mo? In short, since you're the cook, prepare your best entree and he'll take care of the rest. Guys can eat anything you know. A way to a man's heart is through his stomach.

[slickchick]

Sample:
Q: Ano favorite mong ulam?
A: Hindi ko alam e, kahit ano naman kinakain ko. Hindi ako choosy.

Q: Anong gusto mong ulam mamaya?
A: Kahit ano. Bahala ka.

Hahaha. Yung mga ganyan.

sis bea, i agree with what sis simang said on this... eto yung mga tipo ng questions na hindi mo dapat mamasamain kung "i don't know" or "bahala ka na" ang isagot ni guy.. isama na natin dito yung "saan mo gusto magpunta o mamasyal ngayon"... hindi naman pala ganun ka-personal or intimate yung questions... kasi there are times, even us girls answer these questions the same way guys do, lalo na kung wala tayong particular craving or particular place in minda diba? 

[simang]

^normally, hindi  naman talaga yan pinag iisipan ng mga lalaki. i mean, as long as they're getting sex, the position is the least of their concerns. if you really want your guy to have a specific answer, give him choices.

ano favorite position mo? doggy or missionary? if he answers doggy -- probe why.

sa fantasy naman, try telling him yours first. at least siguro magopen sya sayo ng fantasies nya.

[estelle21]

^selosa ka ba sis bea31?

[jtansanco]

@bea31 - I think you're the guy in the relationship. Haha. Seems like the guy can't make any decisions for himself and for the both of you so he's telling/asking you whatever you want, which is fine for him. A question for you, do you find him boring or unchallenging due to his indecisiveness?

[slickchick]

@ sis bea31, did you ask those questions out-of-the-blue lang (tipong habang kumakain sa labas or namamasyal sa mall/park/etc), or did you ask those questions while you and your guy are in an intimate setting? kasi kung out-of-the-blue lang, baka naman caught offguard lang si guy when you asked those questions or pwede rin si guy yung tipo ng tao na hindi nya idi-discuss yung mga sagot sa questions na yan in an not-so-intimate setting... if you try asking him when you two are in a more intimate setting (intimate meaning yung kayong dalawa lang magkasama), baka mas relaxed sya, so mas may makuha kang sagot...

[estelle21]

^baka kaya ayaw sagutin yung mga tanong mo dahil magseselos ka.

e.g. 
bea31: anong fave position mo?
guy: fave ko yung __________
bea31: talaga? sino ginanun mo etc. etc. magaling ba si ganyan sa ganun etc. etc.

hula ko lang naman yan.