Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)

[young_maiden]

salamat sa mga sagot nyo

[nixiquita]

i agree din, like some girls, may boys din na flirt at pafall. :p

[argento]

Malaking bagay talaga sa guys ang attraction at first sight.

Sa inyo ba hindi?

[simang]

Sa inyo ba hindi?

i'd like to say hindi sya applicable for girls. mas naiinlove ang babae sa lalaki who 'sweeps them off their feet', kahit pa mukhang pinitpit na palanggana yan. even with guys who have sense of humor. sabi nga nila, daig na may sense of humor ang gwapo. sure initial attraction may be present, but it's really the other attributes ang mas pinapahalagahan ng mga babae.

[Girltalker2]

^ I agree.  Basta ba hindi naman nakakatakot yung itsura nung guy, he can still be loved by a girl. Alam mo naman mga babae, mas may depth at substance ang hinahanap nila.  Hindi yun tipong mababaw lang at parang hangin lang ang itsura tapos walang laman naman ang utak or walang confidence.

[killbill]

Malaking bagay talaga sa guys ang attraction at first sight.

Follow up question lang, given na may attraction at first sight, eventually ba nababawasan to ? If so, mga gano katagal? Pano namin mame maintain na attracted kayo samin?

[nixiquita]

^i have to agree with sis simang.

when a girl finds someone attractive sa first sight pa lang, it usually becomes 'crush level' lang.

pero sometimes, sa boys na a girl isnt initially attracted to, madalas ang nangyayari, when the girl gets to know the guy, saka lang marerealize ni girl na may attributes si guy na she finds endearing and impressive. madalas, its the sense of humor and being a gentleman.

[Girltalker2]

Follow up question lang, given na may attraction at first sight, eventually ba nababawasan to ? If so, mga gano katagal? Pano namin mame maintain na attracted kayo samin?

Good question sis.

I personally don't believe in love at first sight.  Puede madagdagan at puede mabawasan after the first sight. 

Madagdagan because you both have chemistry, compatibility, masarap kasama. Then as time goes by, you build more memories together, lalo nagd-deepen ang relationship. At least sa pov ko. As for men, ewan ko kung ano tumatakbo sa utak nila pero feeling ko dapat same lang din na ganyan, at least kung may substance syang tao at pinapahalagahan nya ang relationship ninyo.

Puede mabawasan din as he sees some things in you that he cannot accept which he did not see initially.  And these things should be discussed between you.  Kaya importante ang communication at open dapat kayo sa isa't isa about issues na hindi gusto ng isa. Para mapag usapan.

 

[simang]

^ I agree.  Basta ba hindi naman nakakatakot yung itsura nung guy, he can still be loved by a girl. Alam mo naman mga babae, mas may depth at substance ang hinahanap nila.  Hindi yun tipong mababaw lang at parang hangin lang ang itsura tapos walang laman naman ang utak or walang confidence.

well this still depends on the girl. let's just say na a woman with substance will look for a partner of the same level. so yung mga nagtatyaga sa walang laman ang utak eh, hmm, hashtag alam na. haha

[nixiquita]

I dont believe in love at first sight too.

Its either just attraction or lust :p

[sacred cow]

Follow up question lang, given na may attraction at first sight, eventually ba nababawasan to ? If so, mga gano katagal? Pano namin mame maintain na attracted kayo samin?

I don't think there's really an answer to this query, but to be blunt...stay pretty lang talaga, kung ano nagustuhan sainyo (physically) as much as possible wag baguhin...e.g. huwag tumaba

[simang]

Follow up question lang, given na may attraction at first sight, eventually ba nababawasan to ? If so, mga gano katagal? Pano namin mame maintain na attracted kayo samin?

whatever made him attracted to you, maintain lang yun siguro. if he liked you being playful and fun, be that. hindi yung sa una playful and fun and then a year or so later of being together ang dami ng rules for the guy. if he liked you being sexy, be that. if he liked you being independent, then don't resort to being clingy and needy.

[nixiquita]

^^grabe naman haha

unless ofcourse if the guy liked you for being fat or chubby

[Miss.Pancake]

I don't think there's really an answer to this query, but to be blunt...stay pretty lang talaga, kung ano nagustuhan sainyo (physically) as much as possible wag baguhin...e.g. huwag tumaba

Yup. That's the ugly truth.

[sacred cow]

^^grabe naman haha

unless ofcourse if the guy liked you for being fat or chubby

it was just an example..haha

[jtansanco]

Eto medyo lighter observation and question for the guys. I noticed that some men (including my brother, my bf, and some of my male friends and officemates, and sometimes even my dad) do not like to ask for directions, be it on the road or even sa mall (while looking for shops/resto). Magtatanong lang kung talagang naliligaw na or kung may kasama, yung kasama ang pagtatanungin.  Not that I'm pissed with the behavior, nakakatawa lang minsan na kailangan muna mawala or maligaw bago magtanong. Is there something sa pagtatanong na ikinahihiya nyo? Just curious... 

Sometimes, I'm like this not because of pride or ego or whatever you girls have mentioned but because I'm just shy to talk to strangers... XD

[Girltalker2]

whatever made him attracted to you, maintain lang yun siguro. if he liked you being playful and fun, be that. hindi yung sa una playful and fun and then a year or so later of being together ang dami ng rules for the guy. if he liked you being sexy, be that. if he liked you being independent, then don't resort to being clingy and needy.

Eh bakit mga guys. Kahit pa lumaki ang tyan or hindi na ganun ka sweet pag mag asawa na, laging pinagtya-tyagaan ng babae? 

Tapos pag lalaki naman, kelangan magstay si wife AS IS.  We know how hard to stay AS IS for women, not impossible, but hard. You have to make it a point na part ng lifestyle mo ang eating healthy and exercising, day in and day out. If you are young in your 20s, you won't notice this. But once you step into your 30s, look around you, this is the time when women develop saddlebags and tummies bigger than their boobs if they don't exercise. 

[slickchick]

Sometimes, I'm like this not because of pride or ego or whatever you girls have mentioned but because I'm just shy to talk to strangers... XD

seriously bro?? as in nahihiya makipag usap sa strangers? hahaha! i also don't buy the pride and ego thing.. ano ba meron sa pagtatanong na makaka-affect ng ego diba? it's not a sign of weakness (well at least in my POV).. pero natawa/nagulat dun sa shy to talk to strangers..

Eh bakit mga guys. Kahit pa lumaki ang tyan or hindi na ganun ka sweet pag mag asawa na, laging pinagtya-tyagaan ng babae? 

Tapos pag lalaki naman, kelangan magstay si wife AS IS.  We know how hard to stay AS IS for women, not impossible, but hard. You have to make it a point na part ng lifestyle mo ang eating healthy and exercising, day in and day out. If you are young in your 20s, you won't notice this. But once you step into your 30s, look around you, this is the time when women develop saddlebags and tummies bigger than their boobs if they don't exercise. 

agree sis.. somehow double-standard eh.. women can accept their guy kahit na may beer-belly na or napapanot na (haha!).. pero sa guys, dapat as is pa rin ang wife/gf nila.. personally, i think a relationship is a two-way street.. so the effort should not only come from the girls na dapat magpa-stay fit or stay in shape.. somehow the guys should also have a change in mindset at maisip nila na tao ang wife/gf nila that she subject to physical changes brought about by time.. kaya lang baka mas madali pa sa girls ang magpapayat kesa ang guys ang magpalit ng mindset.. haha! just my opinion ah..   

[simang]

Well to be fair, no one imposes to us girls na pagtyagaan ang mga lalaking malalaki ang tyan. That's actually our decision to stick with them. Ibig sabihin we can also decide na 'magsawa' once hindi na sila kasing attractive nung simula. For guys, mas pinipili lang nila the latter. So it's not really a double standard thing. Magkaiba lang talaga ang pinapahalagahan ng mga lalaki at babae, so you can't really say na one standard is also applicable to the other. Kase to begin with, men and women are different.

[jtansanco]

^^ Hey, I may be a guy but I'm also an introvert you know. Sometimes, I'm just shy. Sometimes, I could just tell myself.. "I can do this! Bahala na!" Hahaha