Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)

[jtansanco]

^ Haha that's cute. Well, then just bring him back to your life and see how it goes. No one's perfect. Men will always have tendency to cheat maybe because they yearn for something that you couldn't or wouldn't do for him. Either way, it's up to you. As long as you think he's worth it, then go for it. Wow, lady gamer... I'm sure marami kang boyfriend online... Hahaha

[little_princess]

^ shoti! I didn't know you post here :p So.. question for you, why are boys show off wannabes? hahahahaha

[jtansanco]

^ Of course, I'm the creator of this thread since I've got nothing to do here. And this place is much better than PEX. Hahaha

To answer your question, because most boys are still SINGLE and have no girlfriend to spend on so they prefer to spend money on material things. HAHAHA 

[killbill]

Question lang mga bro, my bf recently opened up about his past. Dati napag uuspan naman namin pero last friday kasi i just asked him kung pano niya nahuli yung ex Gf niya na may ibang lalake, out of nowhere kinuwento naman niya lahat lahat from pano niya nakilala yung ex niya, hanggang sa umabot sa mga kalokohang ginawa niya in the past e.g. Pag nahuhuli niya si ex niya may nilalanding ibang lalake, gaganti siya with 2 other girls, etc. which was really shocking to me kasi i never expected him to be like that. He told me na sobrang nainsecure daw siya noong time na yun kaya niya nagawa yun, yun daw yung "lowest of low" niya, andami daw niyang natutunang lessons with his ex gf, na hindi na din niya nagustuhan yung mga ginagawa niya, super toxic daw for him kaya nakipag hiwalay na siya dun sa babae. Ginawa daw niya, lumipat siya ng bahay (live in kasi sila nun) pinalitan lahat ng gamit niya, ultimo damit, furnitures, sportsbike and car.

Although sure naman ako na naka move on na siya dun sa ex niya, i still couldn't help but wonder kung nabago na ba niya talaga yung sarili niya. Iniisip ko, kaya ba sya nag open up ng ganun kasi seryoso siya samin or play lang niya yun to earn my trust? Paano ko masisiguro na nagbago na nga ba talaga siya?

[Miss.Pancake]

Ako may QUESTION:

What do men/boys do (or how do you keep yourselves busy) HABANG hindi kayo nag uusap o nagcocommunicate with your GF dahil may tampuhan kayo?


Curious lang ako. Kasi i'm wondering kung anung ginawa ng ex bf ko for a week na hindi kami nag uusap. Or everytime hindi kami nag uusap.

[nixiquita]

^^sis im not a guy but lemme help you out hehe. Before ba niya makuwento yan eh may mga duda ka na or napapansin sakanya na parang nanchichics siya? Before ba niya iopen sa yo yung behavior niya noon eh magiisip ka na ba ng mga ganyan? I guess not. Bottomline is, you learned to trust him because of who he is nung nakilala mo na siya. Yung taong tinanggap mo at minahal. Past is past. As long as he never showed you any sign na nambababae siya, regardless of what he did in his past, as long as hindi naman na nagreresurface yun ngayon, let it go. Dont let your doubts and worries ruin the good relationship you both built. I understand na medyo nakakabother na youve just discovered it all now, but its all for the better, siguro he just wanted to start clean and fresh and avoid unneccesary issues from the past to affecr his current. If you believed in him and trused him before you got together.. why should it change now? Siguro natuto na talaga siya. So wag ka papakain sa mga hinala at duda lang.

^haha i wonder too. but i believe depende sa type of guy. May iba nanchichics, or karamihan siguro haha. May ibang nagiging wrokaholic, may ilan na nagiinom at gumigimik. Yung ibang immature dinadaan sa video games at anime haha

[sacred cow]

^^ although madaling isipin na panchichics ang inaatupag ng guy kapag may tampuhan, most guys carry on with their lives and keep themselves busy with other more important things than wondering what our partners are doing when may tampuhan.

^ anime and video games are just as immature as makeup and taking lots of photos for girls

[nixiquita]

^That observation with re girls, id have to ageee!! Haha.

Yung namention ko, ganun na ganun kasi ang ex ko, lagi kong karibal noon ang games at anime.

And additional, some guys spend their time sa gym or sa court or sports.

[Miss.Pancake]

damn how do you guys do it? move on with your lives given na may tampuhan kayo with your partners. Samantalang kaming girls halos mapraning na minsan pag ganun. Nawawalan kami ng gana sa mga bagay bagay.

That's what fascinates me sa mga guys. How come kaya nilang tiisin and just move on with their lives. Yun ex ko kasi pag may tampuhan kami nag iinuman sila ng barkada niya. Hindi ko tuloy alam kung dahil ba depressed siya o nagcecelebrate ba siya? hahaha

[killbill]

^ actually sis wala. Kaya ko sya nagustuhan kasi nung nagdadate pa lang kami (3 mos.) never siya nagpakita ng kamanyakan, never nagyaya uminom unlike some guys na hihiritan ka ng 'kelan tayo iinom?' na obvious yung intentions, si bf at that time nag stand out talaga kaya nung 4th month naging exclusive na kami.

Ngayon tuloy inaatake ako ng kapraningan.

[killbill]

^ actually sis wala. Kaya ko sya nagustuhan kasi nung nagdadate pa lang kami (3 mos.) never siya nagpakita ng kamanyakan, never nagyaya uminom unlike some guys na hihiritan ka ng 'kelan tayo iinom?' na obvious yung intentions, si bf at that time nag stand out talaga kaya nung 4th month naging exclusive na kami.

Ngayon tuloy inaatake ako ng kapraningan. Like pag hindi kami magkasama, pag hindi agad nasagot yung phone, hindi agad nakapag reply. Mga tipong ganun. Hayyy

[sacred cow]

^ simple, a real man's happiness doesn't depend on his girl. icing to the cake na lang kayo sa buhay namin. and mas attractive ang guy na kayang magwalk away, sa movies lang cute ang nagpapaka john lloyd..in real life it only feeds the girl's ego and repels her kasi it confirms the fact na tama siyang iwan si lalake, pero yung guy na kayang magwalk away, that makes the girl question her decision kasi magtataka siya kung siya ba yung nawalan kasi si guy kaya nang wala siya.

[jtansanco]

Ako may QUESTION:

What do men/boys do (or how do you keep yourselves busy) HABANG hindi kayo nag uusap o nagcocommunicate with your GF dahil may tampuhan kayo?


Curious lang ako. Kasi i'm wondering kung anung ginawa ng ex bf ko for a week na hindi kami nag uusap. Or everytime hindi kami nag uusap.

That's easy...
- Surf the web
- Watch TV or online series
- Play a video game
- Go to the gym
- Play basketball or any sports
- Go drink with the bros
- Go to "X-rated" places.... Haha kidding... or maybe not..?

[insanelypurpleprincess]

^ Kaya it's time for you to date more so you find the one? Kasi the question I have is about a man named jtansanco - bakit kaya wala pa rin diba?

[little_princess]

^^ I thought you are too busy touring JP and the different States? Hahaha kasi naman, you had to unceremoniously move back to the US :p Yan tuloy, no ice ceam buddy for me!!

^ He's way too picky for his own good. And he like my shobe's friend but jail bait pa that time.. But now she isn't anymore! Too bad they live in 2 different countries.

^^ BTW, she's back in Manila for the summer. Shobe says she has a twang and still single hahahaha

[nixiquita]

@sacred cow: srsly? you just walk away? just like that? wow.

Kunwari sa rel, it gets really complicated, tas on the verge of break up na talaga. tas the girl initiates it, ofcourse halfheartedly (yes, some girls talaga stupid at impulsive. truth is, napapalambing lang at nagjijinarts). you just walk away just like that? i believe kasi, if the gf is just so-so, talagang wala lang sa guy. kayang kaya talaga iwan at kalimutan. but what if mahal mo talaga and you think (eto corny) shes the one, titiisin niyo parin to save your egos and pride.. still walk away to avoid the mala john lloyd drama? seryoso talaga? ganun?

one more thing, medyo prevalent kasi yung ganyang attitude sa boys, that girls never unberstand.. you think may instances din na when theyre finally alone, nagreregret ang boys sa pagwwalk away nila at nalet go nila yung girl (assuming na talaga namang mahal niya at importante sa kanya). kasi kahit andami daming girls diyan sa paligid, naniniwala naman akong hindi lahat parepareho, may times din bang maiiyak yun or mababaliw (hehe) sa pagkamiss sa babae o mabobother if nakamove on na ba si girl or may iba na or kung depressed na at ano na ginagawa. may mga instances bang ganyan sa buhay ng isang lalake?

or masyado ako nagpapaniwala sa mga novels at movies? Haha

[Miss.Pancake]

^Sis, Dapat yata matutunan natin yang skill na yan ng mga boys. hehe

[sacred cow]

^ yup, it sounds counter intuitive but it has the better chance na magkabalikan kayo kesa sa gagayahin mo si john lloyd at magdradrama ka. (john lloyd moves are hard to pull off but does work in some cases)
It serves two purpose e, a) keeps your pride and her respect for you kesa gayahin mo yung batang nagpost sa youtube nung nakipagbreak sakanya gf nya
b) siya maghahabol sayo kung talagang mahal ka niya (the girl) otherwise mas madali na para sa'yo mag move on.

in my experience begging/pleading when a girl calls for a breakup isn't effective. but when a girl knows na hindi ka takot umalis kapag nag inarte sya, she wouldn't dare inititiate a faux breakup just to test you kasi alam niya magbabackfire yun. it's a guy's most powerful asset.

here's a more detailed explanation by the guy who advocated this theory:

www.seductionbase.com/seduction/cat/In_the_Middle/pap/477.html

[sacred cow]

^ to answer your follow up question, yes guys also undergo those things..we just know how to manage it better.

[Miss.Pancake]

@sacred cow - Same rule applies sa girls? Kung kami naman ang mag walk away?