mooncake and leaves, I admire you for giving out a very womanly view about relationships and cheating.
but this I tell you, if you could look through a man's eye you would find his view of a woman is very different from your own. men do not see and think as a woman same as a woman can never walk in a man's shoe. it may seem like I'm defending men but for me, I'm just being open-minded.
with all the rant we give out everyday about men, because we think they don't understand us, isn't it maybe we women are the ones who don't understand men? men are the simplest creatures here on earth and yet they are the most misunderstood.
siguro nga, babae talaga ang nagdadala ng isang relasyon. not all things are created equal in this world and we have to accept that.
only the husband can tell if the woman he married is a good wife; not the in-laws, not the kids, not the neighbors and certainly not their friends. so we are actually not in the position to say "sh1t, kung ako ang napangasawa ng babaeng yan, hindi ako magloloko." you'll never know until you're in the situation.
I don't believe that men are worse than women. because even women are now capable of cheating. there are wives who don't appreciate the hardwork of their husbands, who belittles him in front of his friends and her relatives, who put him down when the woman is earning more than he is, women who talk him down when he's not able to do chores at home, wives who complain about his low salary and shuts his husband out and avoids intimacy because of her husband's shortcomings. where does the husband go from there?
men can come up with so many reasons why they cheat. but most of the time, they cheat because what's happening at home isn't happening like it used to.
men don't cheat because of impulsiveness. anyone can be impulsive, which is why there are too many cases of unplanned pregnancies.
men are not short-range thinkers because if they are, every wife would have known about the cheating after 1 day. they conceptualize, they plan, they think ahead. and this explains why they lie about the whole thing and why some men can get away with cheating.
when a man is trapped in a steamy situation, everything becomes a blur especially if what he's being offered at that moment is not offered at home. you know why? because love and sex are two different things for them. but my dad once told me that if a man is full, he will no longer eat whatever you put on his plate. it doesn't matter if you cooked that food.
I don't blame women for all the times that a man cheats because again, the husband's reason could be something else. but we have to look into that tiny possibility that maybe, just maybe, we did something or there's something we are not doing that pushed him to cheat.
in a man's world, you can be anyone. it don't matter if you're fat or thin, successful and independent or if you're driving the latest bmw car model. he can put up with anything especially when you've been like that since he met you. he will be happy for you, will be proud of you even. how you treated him and how your attitude affects him would be a different story.
your suggestions of how husbands can piss off their wives are really creative but, it's a waste of time and they're not gonna get something out of it. a man is likely to do things if he knows he can get something out it, something that would gratify him. only a gay person (not trying to offend gay people, I love them
) would do those things because those acts are very womanly. and about not doing chores? that's not their priority. so they won't do it unless you tell them to do so. and would take them a day to finally get up and do the chores.
they don't intend to piss their wives off, it's just that men are not programmed to do household chores since boyhood.
so why do men cheat? because they can and they think they can get away with it. most especially, they know that there are women out there who's willing to cheat with them.
a man would use a woman like a toy only if she lets him. men have all the right to be angry if they can't get sex from their wives without a valid reason because they need it. it is how they emotionally connect with the woman they love. who else would they get it from? if you're not gonna give it and you're not sick or pregnant (heck even pregnant couples still make love) , don't be mad if he fvcks someone else because again, sex and love are two different things for them.
men classify women into two categories: the keeper and the throwback because in reality, these women exists. a woman will not be the marrying type unless she shows him that she is.
there is no antidote or cure to stop cheating but we can somehow minimize it. they key is in our hands. sounds like a big responsibility? well, it is what it is and until everyone accepts this fact, I think this is the only time that cheating can be minimized.
