I need advice/opinion from nonjudgmental, open-minded women :( Re: my BF

[candacena]

Nangangalahati pa lang ako sa nabasa ko alam kong pinaglalaruan ka lang ng bf mo. He's obviously playing it safe. Ayaw ka niyang pakawalan para pag naghiwalay sila nung isa may magiging gf pa rin siya. Abay ga** nga! And tama yung friends mo. He an a** makinig ka sa kanila, papiliin mo siya ikaw or yung babae nya!

[kat montecarlo]

7 years?? Of course love mo pa sya. Hindi naman yun mawawala ng ganun lang. But i think this is the perfect time for you para makapagreflect kung ano rin ang gusto mo sa buhay...para makapag focus ka ulit sa sarili mo. Wag mo syang hintayin na magsawa sa mga kaga**han na ginagawa nya. Normal lang na sabihin nya na hahanap sya ng hindi maganda, may bisyo or someone na hindi pangseryosohan, kasi ayaw ka nya masaktan, or gusto nya na may assurance pa sya na may babalikan sya sayo.

Sabi nga nila, kapag masyadong bata pa kayo nung nagsimula yung relationship, chances are, maghihiwalay rin kayo ... kasi iba pa yung meaning nung love sa inyo when you were 18 or 19 years old, compared ngayon na you're 26... although, meron naman iba na kahit bata pa nagsimula, happy ending pa rin sa huli...

Sabi nga : When you give space, someone will replace.

[princeza08]

to TS, tama ang advice ng mga sis natin dito. love yourself first. at hindi assurance na matagal na kayo, eh sa'yo pa din sya hanggang sa huli. use your mind. nabubulagan ka na masyado sa feelings mo for him. kung alam mong mali, wag mo ituloy. gawin mo kung ano ang tama. just focus on your studies. you are still young. enjoy life.


to sis Bonita , hahahahaha, sobra harsh ka talaga, grabe mga banat mo! true enough.

hindi naman siguro ako judgmental kung sasabihin kong para kang basahan. mapagpagan ka man ng dumi anjan ka pa rin sa pwesto.


no man can deeply love a woman who allows him to abuse her and treat her as a door mat.

yan ang lagi mong tatandaan. at may balak pa kayong magpakasal? hahaha! eh ngayon pa nga lang ginagawa na nya yan. marriage is never an assurance that a man will not fool around. papel lang yan. kayang kaya nya ulitin yang ginagawa nya sayo ngayon. ikaw lang ang kini-kiss nya sa lips? seriously? paano mo nalaman? kasama ka ba sa mga lampungan nilang dalawa? c'mon. alam kong matalino ka. law student ka di ba? please use your brain in this situation. wag puro puso ang pinapairal.

[Miss c]

You're basically in an OPEN RELATIONSHIP, sis (caps lock para highlighted talaga lol). Read about it online.It's not something bad actually, and it's something that has a lot of benefits in my point of view. Mahirap mag elaborate dito so just do your research. Pero sis, sorry ha but I agree with your bf's choice. Meet and date other people while you're still young, kasi pag nagpakasal na kayo, you'll be together for at least 30 years. That's a lot of time for the both of you. Kaya enjoy mo muna ang openness ninyo. Do the same thing he's doing, hindi para gumanti pero para mag grow ka pa as a person. And no, you're not immature. Actually, it takes a great deal of maturity to make an open relationship work, much more than what a monogamous relationship requires

[Kauruscope]

 Just bec you have deep feelings for this guy does not mean that you should ignore and settle for a set up you clearly dont understand and are happy with. Would you honestly be happy being forever at his beck and call while he's "exploring" the world and preparing for the "best version of himself"? How about you, are you growing to be the best version if yourself in this kind of set up? And how would it play out if he changes his mind abt all the promises he made you? Would you still be happy? Bec a healthy individual would not base his/her happiness on anyone else but himself.

I understand what it feels to love someone very deeply, esp someone you've been with for a long time. I can tell that you are committed to see this through, and that you love this guy beyond words and impossibilities. However, always remember that you have to look out for your own happiness first. Always. If your ultimate happiness is really to be with this guy, then you need to 'woman up' and talk to him maturely about how you feel. Reason with him why such set up is not working. If he truly loves you, he'd understand what would make you happy and do something about it. If he's still not ready, be brave and keep a matured and positive outlook, which should be the case whether or not he's with you.

Hopefully by this time you're able to find your answers. And i hope you decided on what's best for you

[SarSi_Em]

TS, nasabi na nila lahat, ikaw na lang mag decision na.

para sakin, delubyo lang buhay mo pag nakasal ka sa kanya, natikman na nya sarap maging free at mambabae na walang problem, pag nakasal ka sa kanya, promise, di yan titigil dahil mas ma thrill sya sa gagawin nya dahil bawal na.

nasa look out sya i mean, naghahanap sya ng potential mate, di lang nya sinasabi sayo, pero obviously, yan ang ginagawa nya, if makakita sya ng MAS sayo, definitely iiwanan ka rin nya.

wala ng respeto sayo yun tao, ikaw na lang magbigay ng respeto sa sarili mo, matalino ka, alam mo na yung mali at tama. kaya ka rin andito alam mo may problem na talaga, ayaw mo lang o hindi mo lang ma accept.

kung mahal ka nya, hindi ka nya dapat pakawalan o hayaan mapunta o mag date sa iba, reserba ka nya pag nagkamali sya, at least alam nya may isang babae sasalo pa rin sa kanya.
hindi ka rin nya mahal, para ka lang display, dahil may edge ka sa lahat, problem may saltik ang bf mo.

pag isipan mo na lang sis, kahit anong payo namin dito, kung di mo ma accept na may mali, balewala lahat ng payo mababasa mo.

[khaleesiCersei]

Sabi daw ni mareng oprah
if a man wants you nothing can keep him away and if he doesn't want you nothing can make him stay. Stop trying to make excuses for a man and his behaviour. Allow your intiution to save you from a heartache.

Ang tingin ko sis sa message na pinaparating syo ng bf mo is he wants out.. Pero ayaw nya mangaling sa kanya. He is giving you every reason to walk away.. Pero ayaw nya kasi sa knya mabato yung blame sa huli na kung sino ba yung nag let go. He loves the other girl too maybe even more than he loves you. Yet, he keeps you around just incase it didnt work out between the 2 of them kasi syo wala ng effort.

Pero syempre kaw pa rin naman may say jan..kung gusto mo magpatuloy as being his doormat. Walang benefit ang relationship nyo sa ginagawa nya syo ngayon. Baka nga in the future if ever maging official na kayo ulit eh maging cause pa yan ng mga away nyo kasi mahirap kalimutan ang pain that he causes you now..i dont think you will ever get past that kahit maging kayo ulit. Everytime mag aaway kayo isa yan sa mga mauungkat.

[imyourangel]

This is CRAZY. TS, how are you? Kamusta na ang sitch nyo?

[KrabbyPatty!]

I feel your boyfriend. We think alike.
Men tend to be really selfish at times.
I know it's hard to comprehend. Just dont. Lol.

The thing here is you're overanalyzing things.
He said he'd be back for you. Just pray, trust and hope he keeps his word.

Enjoy! Chillax! Spend time with family and friends!

Life's too short to waste.

Keep it simple. Don't complicate things. Don't overthink.

Peace. 

I go for this advice.
Let him be. Let yourself be.

Sige mahurt ka. Sige mastress ka. Pero dont forget na may sariling buhay ka. This is your chance to make yourself better. Magpaganda ka! Magpasexy ka!

Hindi naman porke pumayag ka na ganyan set up niyo eh "basahan" ka na or "gulong" ka na. What the heck haha.

Tiwala lang yan sis.
Kung feel mo na kaya pa ma-save ang relationship niyo, isave niyo.
Ipagpray mo lang na magkaron na siya ng wisdom

[kvandenhaak]

I was just reading a thread in another forum regarding philandering men in the Philippines. Ang comment ng isang poster na lalaki. Marami daw kasing mga babaeng utu-uto. Stand up for yourselves and stop being treated like piece of garbage.

[althea_ge]

Just wondering what happened to the TS na hehe, di na nagreply or comment