My husband "abandoned" us

[hershey]

nakakalungkot eto, my prayers to you TS

[langley]

Kung older than your daughter yung mga anak niya sa other woman, your daughter is 13 years old, so that means mga teenagers na yung mga anak niya sa kabila, or baka mga young adults na. How old is your husband sis?

Baka naman talagang hiwalay na sila nung nagpakasal kayo at nagsama ng husband mo. Sabi mo nga hindi naman siya nagkulang sa'yo. Ang atensyon niya sa loob ng 13 years ay nasa inyong mag-ina. May be in those 13 years, not in good terms your husband and the other wife. maybe tinatago tago niya mga kids nila sa asawa mo.

Siguro yun mga inlwas mo sinasabihan din asawa mo during those 13 years, eh baka ang sinasabi ng asawa mo, wag sila makialam kaya di rin nasabi sa'yo ng inlaws mo.

Eh now nabuntis niya ulet yung other wife, baka naman may na-rekindle na something sa kanila. After all may three kids sila.

Sis kahit mahirap ang situation mo magpakatatag ka. Get on your knees and pray to God. Cry out everything to God. Sa panahon ngayon siya lang masasandalan mo. Kelangan mo ng strength and peace of mind at si Lord lang makakapagbigay nun. Hayaan mo ang asawa mo. Kung niloko at inabandona ka nya, hayaan mo na si Lord ang gumanti para sa'yo.

[ice_mint]

unfortunately, there are guys like this. happened to my mom

they got married here in the phils and after 2 babies, he went home with my 2 half brothers. teenagers na sila that time and my brother is only a baby then. apparently, may other family siya abroad. he's always on business trips kaya di alam ng mom ko. anyway, my mom still accepted him that time and took care of my 2 older half brothers. after 6 years, my parents separated na kasi my dad went vack to his other family. Sad but true story I can relate to your story sis.. Stay strong. My mom was able to raise us well naman kahit magisa lang siya and im sure kakayanin mo din. Pray to God for strength..

[mooncake and leaves]

i'm really sorry this happened to you. i was backreading your posts and to me, you need all the help you can get. you mentioned you have no helpers and you work and take care of your daughter, on top of being pregnant with twins. rally the support of your family and friends. like what was mentioned, i'm sure someone will come to you and help you out.

you also mentioned that you lived in the US for 10 years. when you were in the US, did your husband travel a lot? that might explain how he was able to pull off leading a double life.

again, i'm really sorry. pero kaya mo yan.it's overwhelming but i would actually talk to a lawyer and trusted advisors asap. you need to get started on rebuilding your life.  you seem to be a loving mom so you're already a warrior by default .

[Cayennepepper2014]

I know how it feels to be abandoned. Masyadong masakit. Lalo na pag accomplice din ang in laws. Feeling mo wala kang kakampi.

Seek your family's help. Seek legal help para maisaayos ang lahat pati na ang finances at conjugal properties nyo and para masecure ang child support para sa anak nyo. Kelangan may support system ka sa mga panahon na ito kasi napakasakit at napakahirap ng pinagdadaanan mo. And do not stop praying for strength. Hugs sis!

[annika]

Sis TS Nanganak kana pala.. Im praying for your little ones.

[whitelady17]

Hi TS, hope you are doing fine na,

Just have few questions lang, do you have a copy na mas nauna siyang nagpakasal doon sa isa? May possibility kasi na hindi niya anak ang mga teenager na anak ng girl. Or anak niya noon sa girl pero hindi sila talaga kasal and lately lang talaga nagpakasal sa US.

Coming from your in-laws na hindi mo kasundo, maybe there is a slight chance na nagsisinungaling sila sa iyo.

Hopefully after few months, maasikaso mo ang dapat na para sa inyo ng mga anak mo. Stay strong!

[ejxtwo]

Off topic muna mommies. I already gave birth to my twin boys last June 8, 2014 and almost 30 weeks pa lang sila nun so premature babies sila. 9 days na sila ngayon. They're still in the NICU and can't breathe on their own because baby Kito has chronic lung disease and si baby Kiel naman possible na may hole yung heart nya but under observation pa rin sila.

We badly need your prayers mommies. I don't know what to do anymore, hinang hina na ako Please include my babies in your prayers, everyone. Thank you very much.

[bonita111809]

Off topic muna mommies. I already gave birth to my twin boys last June 8, 2014 and almost 30 weeks pa lang sila nun so premature babies sila. 9 days na sila ngayon. They're still in the NICU and can't breathe on their own because baby Kito has chronic lung disease and si baby Kiel naman possible na may hole yung heart nya but under observation pa rin sila.

We badly need your prayers mommies. I don't know what to do anymore, hinang hina na ako Please include my babies in your prayers, everyone. Thank you very much.

draw strength from your babies sis. the fact that they are alive is already a good thing. continue praying and always make your babies feel that you're there. bisitahin mo sila lagi, kausapin mo. haplusin mo. a mother's touch can work wonders. I don't know if you've read about the story of a baby clinically pronounced dead pero yung mommy nya kinuha sya at niyakap yung anak nya.premature din yung baby nya and may twin din, 27 weeks lang.for two hours she and her husband were talking to their lifeless baby and then a miracle happened. nabuhay yung baby nila. sana maging inspiration mo yung story na yan.

try mo lang i-suggest sa doctors kung pwede mo silang mayakap skin-to-skin. kahit tig 1 hr each lang everday. it's called kangaroo care. I'll pray for your babies sis and you as well. you'll get through this.

[gharz412]

nlungkot naman ako bigla sis. I hope maging okay sila I will include your angels in my prayers. Be strong sis they need you.

[nixiquita]

Gosh. Ill pray very hard for you and yoir babies!!? Have faith and be strong!!! May god bless you and your kids sis. 

[luckymommy88]

Praying for you and your babies sis...

[lovemeagain30]

^kay TS,, im sorry to read about what happened to your ex husband. for now hindi siya ang importante since you have the twins already. parang kailan lang dun sa last thread we were talking about your babies and now andito na sila. take one day at a time. tama ka sa mga babies muna ang focus ng energy mo. for now lift all your worries to God. balitaan mo kami ah sa mga little milestones ng mga boys mo. they will be included to our prayers.

by the way if I may add, try to give them breast milk I read somewhere it helps to the development of the premature babies. try to search for mothers who can donate or ikaw mismo ang magpasuck sa breasts mo. may gatas man or wala, yung mahawakan mo sila will help the babies develop more. saka relaxing rin yun for you.

[iska-hazel]

Off topic muna mommies. I already gave birth to my twin boys last June 8, 2014 and almost 30 weeks pa lang sila nun so premature babies sila. 9 days na sila ngayon. They're still in the NICU and can't breathe on their own because baby Kito has chronic lung disease and si baby Kiel naman possible na may hole yung heart nya but under observation pa rin sila.

We badly need your prayers mommies. I don't know what to do anymore, hinang hina na ako Please include my babies in your prayers, everyone. Thank you very much.

sis please be strong for you and children, take good care of yourself and get up on your feet, pray always and sis express breastmilk para sa twins para lalo sila lalakas ok... tama advice nila, get all the help you can get, time is crucial,

hugs sis, kaya mo yan, God bless you and your kids....

[Msfi]

I'll also pray for you and your kids, may God give you all the strength that you need to pull you through this hard time. 

[momentum]

Off topic muna mommies. I already gave birth to my twin boys last June 8, 2014 and almost 30 weeks pa lang sila nun so premature babies sila. 9 days na sila ngayon. They're still in the NICU and can't breathe on their own because baby Kito has chronic lung disease and si baby Kiel naman possible na may hole yung heart nya but under observation pa rin sila.

We badly need your prayers mommies. I don't know what to do anymore, hinang hina na ako Please include my babies in your prayers, everyone. Thank you very much.

My prayers go out to you..be strong..

[maiandra]

Sis, I pray this situtation will make you and your twins stronger. God will never leave you nor abandon you, so tiwala ka lang..

[super bratinella]

Be strong for your babies sis!! I pray for you to recover sa labor, emotional and all the pains. God bless sis!

[manangjuday]

hi sis.. here s my advice. first check
with NSO. ilang ang marriage under the name asawa mo.. certificate of marriage/or no marriage (cenomar) for sure may lalabas naman na marriage recorded under the name of your husband, once is yours (i hope registered kasal niyo) and/or the other woman na as you claimed nauna sayo. you just have to supply name of husband, his parents name at date and place of his birth. dyan mo kasi malalaman if you are married and you can file for concubinage. but dapat alam mo saan sila nakatira ng babae niya and they are not also married pasok sa bigamy if that is the case..
nevertheless, we have RA 9262-- violence against women and children.. for the physical, emotional and financial abandonment he did on you and your kid. no worries criminal case yan meaning may kulong.. mataas penalty walang probation.. STILL, You can file a civil case, for support of your kids.. if he has properties obtain during marriage kahit nakapangalan sa kaniya hello thats conjugal.. puede paliquidate yan, file for legal separation para mahati na dapat mahati..
walang pera? go to the nearest PAO office. ask help libre abugado yan. just bring certificate of indigency (kung wala ka work or your income is less that 12t plus i think) basta go ka duon they will entertain you.  HUGS SISSY!! kaya mo yan..! this too will pass.. pray to GOD. may anak ka.. they are your biggest treasure.

[imbisibol_]

^ lots of great advice up there.  take immediate notice especially since the biggest question now is, whose last name will the twins carry?