Things that you don't like about your hubby and what did you do about it

[bonita111809]

May mga bagay o ugali na hindi natin gusto sa mga asawa or partners natin. Paano kayo nag-cope? Let's talk about it here! 

[bonita111809]

halu. Siguro ang nakakainis sa kanya ay mabilis uminit ang ulo nya pero ewan ko di ako takot kasi mabilis ko naman sya malambing at di naman ako nun sinisigawan or something feeling ko kapag uminit ang ulo nya pinipigilan nya talaga pag ako ang dahilan kasi lalayo nlng sya ng paglalakad or hindi iimik. Inis din me kasi mahilig sya sa sports, gusto nya samahan ko syang manood ng tennis pero tinatamad ako, ayun nauuna na ko sa kanya matulog (super gabing gabi na kasi ang tennis). Minsan nakokonsensya ako kasi pag galit ako nilalambing nya ko but pag galit sya hindi ko sya inaamo. Di kami magpapansinan pero pagmatulog na sya hug naman nya ko, tapos I-ask nya if love ko ba daw sya kasi siguro feeling nya di ko sya inaamo. Naiinis din ako kasi madami syang friends, parang gusto nya ma-accommodate lahat pag may mga favor. Ayun inaaway ko sya dun. Siguro maliliit lang na bagay kinaiinis ko sa kanya, tolerable naman. Ang ayaw ko pa pala ay ang pagyosi nya although tumigil na daw sya minsan may time na di nya mapigilan pero once a day [textspeak!] [textspeak!] at super minsan kasi konti konti daw un at hindi biglaan.

Baka may maisip pa ako uli..hehe

hi sis honeybee. sporty pala si hubby. hehe. ako naman mahilig sya sa video games. parang bata. pati online games din. but I leave him be. it's his way of letting off steam from work. tinatabihan ko nalang sya. minsan binibigay nya yung controller saken, naglalaro ako ng konti tas balik ko ulet sa kanya. minsan kasi kelangan ng lalake ng "me time".

mainit din ulo ni mister minsan pero iniintindi ko nalang. may mga stresses kasi sa buhay ng lalaki na minsan hindi natin maintindihan lalo na sa labas ng bahay at pag nasa trabaho na sila. so kelangan talaga ng patience nating mga misis.

[goddessjem]

hi..minsan bugnutin siya, mainitin ang ulo kahit wala naman akong nagawang mali. pero hindi rin ako natatakot..parang kumbaga sa babae, may period ba..sinasabihan ko agad kaya biglang parang natatauhan siya. isa pang ayaw ko, kapag nanonood ng mga tV series, naku walang patid, hindi maistorbo..kainis kausapin minsan..puro download ng series tapos mag mamarathon..

[cutemama]

Si hubby naman sobrang adik sa video games, naiinis na ko minsan, kasi pag restday lagi lang hawak phone niya, online games kasi. Sa umaga pag gising maglalaro na yan, pati sa gabi late na natutulog kakalaro, kaya nahahyblood ako sa kanya minsan. Pag kinakausap mo salita ka ng salita hindi pala naintindihan kinkwento ko kasi nga naglalaro siya papaulit pa sakin hay naku talaga sobrang isip bata.
Iniisip ko na lang atleast yun lang ang hilig niya kaya ok na rin yun kesa babae paglibangan niya hehe

[aquacharly]

I am a person who once believed that hubby & I were 2 imperfect people trying hard to have a perfect relationship.


But 1 day, I faced and expressed The Truth, and it set me free.
So, I no longer let things that I don't like he does slide.   As with kids, I address the issue right there and then.  He has learned to do likewise.
We also communicate better now. Because our past was humongously negatively affected by him -- he bends over backwards to gain my trust & to reciprocate, I do not nag, I do not see mamaws.

Nowadays, a hard look from me stops him from building up his rage or tantrum.
Silence & my not looking at his face makes him stop to ask "what's wrong?"
He has learned to call my attention or to correct me as required in a non-abusive way.  He learned the language of kindness and gentleness. 

Continuing True Remorse & Reform deserves One More Chance nga. Sige.
So we are still 2 imperfect people working towards a perfect relationship. But this time, we both work at it & we are not imperfect in ways that would lead to burning bridges. 

[marose17]

Nothing major naman so I have learned to accept these shortcomings:

1.  Does not have a passion for reading - I just talk about books with my bibliophile girl friends

2.  Hindi gaano cultured - I educate him about art, music (he likes pop and rap music hello!), good films, good food and the finer things in life and I influenced him to love travel so ngayon when we travel, I always squeeze in a bit of culture (be it a visit to a museum or a gallery or the like) in our trips.

3.  Clueless sa gifts -  I tell him what I like and vice versa para peace kami 

4.  Sometimes impatient siya sa kids - I talk to him calmly once the episode is over and I send him articles on parenting, one time I even got a book, "Discipline Without Shouting or Spanking" and made him read, este, browse

5.  His habits that annoy me to death (e.g., not squeezing a tube of toothpaste from the bottom up, his penchant for making singit in traffic, eating chichiria inside our bedroom, etc.) - I just learned to accept for peace in the house hahaha

My husband is a wonderful man, nonetheless, and I guess these quirks and weaknesses make him who he is.  Nobody's perfect.