Okay, try natin i-address isa-isa your concerns:
ano ba dapat gawin pag binabalewala ka ng mister mo?
- let your feelings be known! Let him know na oy, buhay pa ko oh! Oy, gutom ako, lika kain tayo together. Hindi naman sila mind readers and sadly, most of them ata eh mahina sa hints (subtle hints, obvious hints – nothing works!). Pero don’t nag, wag mong awayin. It is never advisable to start a conversation na paaway lagi ang intro. You know him, kelan ba siya calm, at ease, ano mga bagay na gusto muna niya marinig, pag-usapan, etc. Daanin mo sa diplomasya. Remember, adults na kayo, and married na. This is not something na pag ayawan na eh break na. You’re both in this for life (almost!). So, speak up.
pag wala syang pakealam sayo pag [textspeak!] nya tropa nya?
- Nagpapaalam ba siya sayo? If not Then next time, request that he does, para kamo hindi ka na magworry. Say, sayang kamo ulam if dadamihan mo eh kakain na pala sila sa labas. Show interest sa friends niya and sa ginawa nila. Like, if kumain sila sa resto, say you’ve never been there or never tried what they had, so request na sama ka next time. Say kasama ba si so and so? Say matagal na kamo hindi naka hang out and you miss the jokes/chika/kwento so u want to join next time. Do your homework: may fb ba friends niya? May gf? Common friends? If wala ka naman nase-sense na kalokohan silang ginawa eh try to make your hubby understand na u want to be there not only because he is there, but because their company is good. O kaya, suggest na next time BYW/BYGF (bring your wife/bring your gf) day silang magtropa.
pag hindi sya mkatanggi sa tropa nya pero pag ikaw kahit di ka pumayag wafakels sya?
- again, ano ba yon? Lakad? Utang? Gimik? You said hindi ka pumayag, does that mean nagpaalam siya sayo? Ano ba manner ng paalam niya and pag-refuse mo?
yung kahit umiyak ka magmakaawa ka balewala sakanya?
- my husband said my crying [during arguments/discussions] makes him feel like hes an a$$#ole. Baka naman hindi ka niya totally balewala, maybe he just can’t stand your tears.
pag nagsorry sya sa kasalanan nya pero inuulit padin nya?
- then, give “parusa”. Nagsorry naman pala siya, he admitted his mistakes. Say no gimiks for a week. Pero if inulit or hindi sumunod sa usapan niyo, then think if this is something that you can put up with, live with, or worth it to fight for. Like what one of our sissies said, this is something that you must have seen during your bg-gf times. And yet, you still accepted. I am not saying this is all your fault, but only you can say when enough is enough. How’s your [the 2 of you] relationship with God btw? It will really help kasi to make him understand the weight of the words “sorry” and “forgiveness”. Sa sinabi mo, it seems he is just saying “sorry” just for the sake of saying it to you so you will get off his back or snap out of it.
minsan gusto ko magwala at awayin mga tropa nya pero ayoko naman magskandalo pero yung sakit na nararamdaman ko sobra dahil sa mga ginagawa nya...
- correct, never go after the tropa. Kasi kahit anong influence/yaya ng mga yan kung marunong mag say no husband mo, eh it will not come to this naman.
