single : bitter or better?

[sassy_gal18]

Hi, just want to post this topic and ask your opinion about being single. Since hindi ako friendly in person kayo na lang ask ko hehe mas ok pa mga tao dito sa FN kesa sa mga nasa paligid.

Anyways, nakakabitter ba talaga maging single? Or feeling better?

May mga friend kasi ako sa FB na panay puna sa mga couples na naglalambingan over FB as in parinig overload sya. Naiisip ko dahil ba single sya kaya ganun sya?

Ako kasi nun single ako nakakainggit talaga pag nakikita mong may mga couples. Right?

Share kayo ng point of view or experience or feelings nyo about this bitter or better sa pagiging single

[meisaia]

Nung 30% lang ng barkada namin ang in a relationship tapos 70% kaming single, hindi naman kami nabother. pero nung nabaliktad ang sitwasyon, mahirap rin talaga... lalo na kapag yung "di kagandahan" mong kakilala eh nakaka-apat na jowang sabay sabay, nakakainsecure talaga.

pero you'll get over it. tingin ko ang mga single better lang eh yung single by choice. meron kasing single for lack of opportunity eh.

[sassy_gal18]

Yeah sis tama ka dyan

Nahit mo yun tamang term yung lack of opportunity. Siguro nga kasi hindi sya pala ayos kaya hindi sya appealing sa opposite sex tapos mag bibitter bitteran sya sa mga taken na.

[simang]

When i was in a relationship back then, i envy my single friends who can do whatever they want, who can go out whenever, who can boy hunt everytime. Feeling ko namiss ko yan nung college. Pero, inggit din ako sa mga friends ko with partners who see each other everyday, who hold hands, who do things like a normal couple. LDR kase kame noon and he was 9 years older so medyo iba yung setup namin.

When i became single for the first few months inggit ako sa couple friends ko for the same reason. Then i realized wala naman palang pinagiba nung may bf pa ako at nung single na ako. Wala pa din nagtetext saken. Wala pa din ako kaholding hands. Wala pa din ako date sa mga events. So what i did is i focused on my being single. There was a time when most of my friends were single din, so lahat kami pareparehas ng trip. Then may point na ako na lang yung single, feeling ko mas may advantage pa din ako! I was out there living my life without limits. Dun ko natutunan na even without a boyfriend, i can be genuinely happy on my own.

Until i met my current partner. Parehas kaming nagyo-YOLO when we met. Dating and going out here and there. When we started going out i realized that i can like someone pala without losing myself. Na posible pala maenjoy ang pagkakaron ng boyfriend and ang pagiging independent.

I can say my being single made me a better person, for myself and for my partner as well. Dahil dun i can say that i am in the healthiest relationship with my boyfriend.

[amethyst028]

im single by choice. baka nga yung mga bitter single sila kasi lack of choice. hehe!

i fully support my friends who are in a relationship or who are married. nila-like ko ang mga pics nila and nag co-comment minsan pero puro positive sinasabi ko. nakaka inggit siyempre kasi nahanap nila yung talagang para sa kanila. pero kanya kanyang time kasi iyan. i haven't found the right person for me yet and ayokong pilitin. ayoko ng basta basta na guy masabi lang may bf.

and hindi naman porket single ka malungkot na. madami akong nagagawa and natutunan pati nakikilala na hindi pwede kung may bf ako. i am growing as a person and natutupad ko mga pangarap ko and for me yun ang importante. siguro ang mga bitter e yung mga hindi masaya sa current state ng buhay nila. kung happy ka naman at kontento no need to envy others. kung ano meron sayo pag yamanin mo kasi iyan ang binigay sayo ni God.

[mooncake and leaves]

neither. a bitter person is bitter regardless of their status. i have plenty of single friends and not one of them is unhappy or mean.

[sassy_gal18]

Buti pa kayo mga sis happy for those who are taken na.

Tama nga naman we don't need to rush things naman. Yan talaga natutunan ko nun mga panahon na ayokong may idle time sa pagiging single. Nabibitter ako sa mga taken na but im not making parinig to them haha ayun ending palpak lahat.

Ang rurude lang ng mga mega react sa mga tao na nagpapasweet over fb or kahit san.

[saoirseamor]

^ I agree. I think everyone deserves happiness so there's no point on reacting to PDA couples.

I have workmates who are also a couple, working at the same department. Super awkward sila because they are almost always together. Kind of annoying sometimes especially if I want to go out during breaktime with the girl workmate. Kailangan pang magpaalam, or baka isama pa. Oh well. I hope they'd turn out well. Mahirap yung situation if things get worse for them both. Otherwise I'm happy for them.

It's just a matter of time for us to find our own. And I think being single is a good thing especially if early 20s. I have heard this from someone, na if you're in your 20s, it's your selfish years. To explore, to be successful or perhaps do the things you want and to know yourself better. Saka, nakakapanget maging bitter! hahaha!

[sweet_chic]

After the break up, I was bitter. But eventually, I realized that it’s better to leave if it's a one-sided love. Moving on is a process, now I can say I beginning to see my worth as a person. Love yourself first and then love will come in the right time.