BF Suddenly Ignored Me

[jhaney]

My bf of more than 1 year suddenly stopped texting me without any hint kung ano yung reason. Nung last na nagkita kami ok naman kami at walang pinag-awayan. I can still remember na he told me that he misses me kaya pinuntahan niya ko sa bahay. We exchanged text messages pa nga kinagabihan. After 2 days, I texted him asking him bakit wala siyang text but he didn't reply. Akala ko kasi baka busy lang siya pero umabot na ng 1 week wala pa rin siya text so I decided to call him pero to no avail, di niya sinagot. Umabot pa nga ng 20 missed calls eh.

So I texted him asking him kung ano problem niya at bakit umabot ng one week na wala siyang text so I told him na baka di kami para sa isa't isa kasi he's not informing me kung napano ba siya or may sama siya ng loob or may malaki lang siyang problem. But he just replied with a simple sorry now lang ako text, I'm really sorry. Yung lang. Until now wala na siya ulit text. I tried to call him the other day pero di na macontact ang number niya. I also tried to call him kanina pero ganun pa rin.

I'm just clueless bakit ganito bigla kinikilos niya? I don't know kung sa kin siya may problem o baka may third party. His very last text bago siya magkaganito is my i love you at i miss you pa. Kaya hanggang ngayon hindi ko maisip ano ba talaga problem niya.

Nalulungkot lang ako na matatapos lang relationship namin sa ganitong paraan. Ni wala man lang maayos na closure. We had plans pa naman na mag settle down na kami maging stable lang kami pareho. He even told me na he wanted to have a baby na kung hindi lang ako mag-aabroad. We have plans on working abroad na rin. Pinag-usapan na namin ito. That's why I'm in so much pain right now kasi bakit biglang ganito ginawa niya sa kin? Iniisip ko ngayon kung iniisip ba niya na nag aalala ako sa kanya. I just have no idea sa kanya. 

[baliwsayo]

I suggest go visit him in his house. If I were you I'll be dead worried if he suddenly stops texting me. Baka kasi may nangyaring masama sa kanya.

[evilwoman]

Ihanda mo din ang loob mo.nangangamoy third party.

[aquacharly]

Talk to him face to face.

How well do you know him?
You may be in for a very unpleasant surprise. Puedeng ganon.
Be emo prepared. Do not break down in public.

[jhaney]

Thanks sa mga replies niyo sisses. It really helps. I just need someone to talk to. I already cried a lot. Baka nga nakukulitan na friends ko sa kin. I'm planning to go to his workplace after my exam. I have an exam next week kasi. As much as I want to focus on reviewing, nahihirapan ako dahil sa situation ko ngayon.

Actually, I told him before na I consider him as a stranger not until he introduced me to his family, friends and workmates. We have issues on that matter. Never niya naibigay yung hiling ko na yun. But still I gave him a chance. Palagi kami nag aargue kung bakit di niya ko pinapakilala at never din niya ko dinala sa kanila although he promised me na ipapakilala niya ko pagdating ng parents kasi nasa abroad sila.

That's why malakas ang feeling ko na baka may third party pero I still try not to think that way na baka may problem talaga siya. Before I already asked for a space pero di siya pumayag. I already asked for a break up kasi nga di pa rin niya tinupad yung hinihiling ko sa kanya pero he asked me na bigyan siya ng time kasi daw sobrang tight sked niya sa work.

My bestfriend even told na to just let him go. Give him space kasi if he loves me daw, babalik siya at magpapaliwanag pero malakas ang pakiramdam ko ngayon na malabong gawin niya yun kasi bakit kailangan pa niya iturn off or magpalit ng number di ba? I feel so helpless. Even if I tell myself na mag move on na lang at magfocus sa sarili ko.

[cecilydee]

ouch bakit naman umabot sa ganyang sitwasyon.

hula ko lang ito..

baka may pamilya na yang bf mo? di kaya may nabuntis? kasi parang mysterious type pa siya at may tinatago.

go ahead bisitahin mo siya at pray really hard before going there. you might break down and all but remember: grace under pressure. be prepared for the worst. tama sila - mga sis.

[meisaia]

sa pagbabasa ko sa story mo, parang feeling ko binabasa ko yung story ko noon.

eto lang sis payo ko.

hindi ka niya pinapakilala sa friends/family niya. red flag na yan. walang reason para di ka niya ipakilala kahit pa nasa abroad parents niya. may facebook/skype naman eh.

hindi ka niya dinadala sa inyo. another red flag. bakit? anong tinatago niya?

sabi nga nila na ang tanging dahilan kung bakit nanlalamig ang isang tao eh dahil may bago na siyang pinag-iinitan.

[simang]

Whoa, i just heard a kind of similar story -- except they were only dating for 2 weeks. they were supposed to meet up one weekend, guy texted girl he's going to take a shower na and that he'll see her in an hour or so. the girl arrived, after 2 hours still wala pa din si guy. she texted him saying she'll be leaving already and let's stop seeing each other kind of message. the guy never contacted her from then, this happened last march. then last night, the girl found out from a friend that the guy was found unconscious in the bathroom that day they were supposed to meet, was brought to the hospital but was already lifeless. true story (the girl is my friend).

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Back to topic, the disappearing act is not new for guys. a lot of guys do that. unless you have common friends, then most likely he'll have the decency to apologize maybe, pero kung wala, i doubt na magpaparamdam pa sya ulit. as I see it, since he already said he's sorry, his reason for leaving is no longer important. the fact that he left you and ignored you without any explanation is in itself the closure that you need.

Yung pagpapapakilala sa friends, family, officemates, may be connected to this. Baka may iba syang girlfriend that these people know? well we'll never know. again, for me, he's reason is insignificant.

nakikipagbreak ka na pala sa kanya dati eh, so eto na yun. break na kayo. why are you complaining?

[amethyst028]

@TS it's your bf's cowardly way of breaking up with you. may mga guys kasi na hindi nila kaya harapin ang girl to have a proper breakup. maybe he has fallen out of love, maybe he was scared of the future and realized he was not ready, maybe he has fallen for someone else, maybe..... endless maybe's na at this point walang confirmation. it's so hard to be left hanging. masakit yung ganyan pero wala ka magagawa cause it is what it is.

don't ever blame yourself. he did it because of his own issues and it had nothing to do with you. believe in yourself. trust that you are an amazing person and someone better is going to come along. yung taong hindi ka iiwan, yung gagawin lahat makasama ka lang.

this happened to me before. walang explanation. basta nawala na lang. later on i realized na we were never meant for each other. he is too immature and makitid mag isip. goodluck sis. i know it's hard right now but eventually you will be ok just keep moving forward.

[DianeShishio]

My theory is that he was on an out of town trip with the other woman. 

Happened to me, twice. Una ako yung iniwan, panggalawa ako yung kasama nung guy! (Heck, didn't know he was committed at the time)

Every situation may be different but heed the red flags. Let it go.

[cecilydee]

^lol mahirap talagang i close nalang ang book ng ganon ganon nalang. gigising parati yan na "what if pinuntahan ko siya" or "what if i tried hard to contact him" ako, I support her if she wants to see him in his office (so satisfy her curiosity and for once close the book) pero i dont support her going back to this guy.

[MsAphrodite]

Wow. this happened to me narin before, ang pagkakaiba lang is that, we have no commitments at all, parang MU type lang. we were suppose to see each other and watch a movie, the day itself, wala na akong natanggap na text mula sa kanya. Hanngang sa umabot ng weeks and months. then one day, nag text sya, nag explain sya. after a long time, I was still curious kung bakit biglang he left me hanging nalang.. his reason: he got back with his ex. soo ako parang okay?

Anyway.. feeling ko sis, tama yung ibang sinasabi ng sis natin dito..baka meron syang iba, and yung girl na yun yung kilal ng lahat..
masakit, oo. pero pointless na ipagpatuloy mo pa to. i agree na your should talk to him face to face.. ikaw ang makipagbreak..

[iwannabeasupermodel]

aaaw sis this sucks so much. be prepared for the worst. actually kung ako sayo, magkaroon kayo ng formal breakup and closure. wag mo na siya balikan no matter what. haaay. men.

[imyourangel]

The others are right.. just be prepared, kakaiba na nga yun kapag hindi ka na pinapakilala sa family and friends niya (tapos plan niyo pa pala magka-baby..).

[Girltalker2]

Sis jhaney, unang part ng message mo iniisip ko baka pumanaw na BF mo. Yun pala nagtatago lang. Baka nabuking ng wife/gf?

Parang ang weird ng set up ninyo.  More than a year kayo and ni isang kaibigay, officemate or relative di ka nya pinakilala?  Pag lumalabas ba kayo pumupunta ba kayo sa mga mataong lugar, or lagi ka lang niya binibisita sa bahay mo?

Third party could be a reason, pero baka ikaw yung third party sis?

Pag ako nasa lugar mo, mahirap nga matahimik nang ganyan. Pero iready mo na sarili mo na he is not the guy for you. Kahit pa walang third party, bakit naman nya gagawin iyan?  You can try to tell him you are OK if he wants to end the relationship, and you can very well handle it.  But he just needs to tell you the truth, kung bakit.  Yun lang.



 

[crazy_krizsa]

^ I agree. I cannot think of any reason for your BF to act that way. Just prepared yourself for anything if you managed to talk to him. Actually in time, lalabas din ang totoo di man kayo magkausap ngayon.

[janachen]

Alam mo naranasan ko din yan 1 week kinaya din akong iignore ng bf ko. Tapos pag magtetext noon "kumusta", pag nireplyan ko wala ng sagot yun pala may iba ng babae. Sobrang sakit yung iniwan ka sa ere,  tinatanung mo sa sarili mo kung saan ka nagkamali, anung kasalanan mo etc. Kakabaliw.


Tapos after 2 years, nagsorry sa akin then he told me na nagkamali nga daw ng pinili tapos aayusin daw nya yung saamin.  Pumuntang abroad tapos naghiwalay sila ng babaeng pinalit sa akin, tapos nagkaroon kami ng communication pero hindi sya aware na mayroon nakong bf. Tapos sinabi nyang uuwi siya after 3 years para pakasalan ako that was 2012. LOL Eh yun din yung year na nagsettle down ako, sobrang naiyak daw siya sabi ng mga kaibigan ko. Tapos gusto nya akong balikan kahit mayroon na daw akong iba. Last year nabuntis ako, so wala na siyang pag-asa at isa pa wala din naman akong nararamdaman sa kanya. Nakamove on din ako agad agad noon.  It was sweet revenge LOL.. Sobrang pagsisisi daw nya.


Kaya I'm sure sis mayroon na ding iba yan. Follow your instinct

[imyourangel]

^Buti nga sa kanya! Hindi niya pinahalagahan kung anong meron siya before. Ayan, parehas tuloy nawala.

[cecilydee]

^^nakakatuwa naman yan sweet revenge talaga pero 3 years in the making ha. haha sampal sa fes ni guy

[janachen]

Mga sis sobrang sakit yung ginawa nya. Ramdam ko yung pinagdadaanan ni TS. Tsaka kinonfront ko si babae through friendster, na bakit nya tinetext si bf ko gayong alam naman nya na mayroon siyang gf.. Ang sagot ba naman sa akin eh siya daw ang pinili, eh nung time na yun ay kami pa rin.

Halos mabaliw baliw ako, di makakain, makatulog.  Akala ko nga kwentong pagong lang yung ganun kasi hindi naman ako ganun sa mga naging bf ko. Pero pag mahal mo talaga yung tao tapos iniwan ka sa ere ng hindi mo alam kung anong kasalanang nagawa mo eh talagang tuliro ka.. LOL

Kaya nung naghiwalay sila, doon ako pumasok ulit sa buhay nya hahaha para gumanti. Bakit siya lang ba ang may karapatang manakit.