Dating someone more intelligent than you

[sportygurl]

have you dated someone or had a partner who was more intelligent than you? kapag minsan hindi kayo masyado makarelate sa mga kinukwento nya, minamaliit ka ba nya?

[hisana]

Yep, I've dated a few. Can't remember any of them na ever minaliit ako that way, though. Siguro kasi pinipili ko din yung mga nakakadate ko na dapat medyo mabait and gentlemanly, so for sure none of them would be rude enough to do this to me.

Well, may ganyan nga siguro somewhere out there. Madami akong kilalang matatalino -- some of them are considerate and respectful, and some of them can be condescending and have inflated egos. Depende na lang sa makakatapat.

[nixiquita]

Well, not that im nagmamayabang, but i think im a little more book-smart than anyone ive dated.

 Although most of them, if not all, bawi sa pagiging mas maabilidad and street smart.

[tomatostellar]

parang mahirap sabihin, coz diba may iba't ibang uri ng intelligence

[alice_alice]

Di naman minamaliit kaso minsan di ko magets pag nagiging technical na siya haha he's an architect so pag di ko naman magets ineexplain naman niya saken wala pa namang instance na pinaramdam niya saken na he's smarter than me magkaiba kame ng fields of expertise so ayun aminado ako mas matalino talaga siya saken haha.

[vermich]

Kung ganon ang date mo at para kang minamaliit kasi hindi mo alam pinagsasabi nya walang second date yun or kung ako walk- out, nakakakbastos naman kasi. Eh ano ngayon kung hindi mo alam yung pinagsasabi nya eh hindi ka naman doktor/ engineer/ abugado. Although I've dated doctors and lawyers before hindi naman sila ganon, they're more than happy to share what they know and explain in layman terms. yung isa ngah indi marunong pumila sa Meralco para magbayad ng bill eh 

[iwannabeasupermodel]

the one i'm dating now is more intelligent than i am. as in he's like way way up the ladder sa mga matatalino. i'd say i'm pretty smart myself pero he's like genius-level. hindi naman niya ako minamaliit, if i dont understand something he'll explain it to me. our expertise kasi is very different from each other. i'm studying medicine and siya naman nag-phd sa econ. same goes with him, he knows very little about drugs and all, minsan nga i find it unbelievable na he doesn't know a very common drug is used for colds/cough etc. as in one time nairita ako dahil may diarrhea ata siya and he took cough medicine thinking it's for diarrhea. hindi kasi magamot pamilya niya. so ayun, we share what we know with each other. still i dont get the econ stuff, because really. 

he's also older than i and when he knows he's right sobrang hirap na iconvince siya otherwise and ang hirap niyang isway to my opinion. it's frustrating. and mayabang siya when it comes to his intelligence, pero asa kanya naman lahat ng karapatan na magyabang but hindi naman towards sa akin yung kayabangan niya, like "mas magaling/matalino ako sayo" 

[simang]

My ex for 7 years was definitely smarter than I am -- I was a freshman in college, he was a university professor with a masters degree (we're not from the same university though). A lot of times he made me feel so little about myself, as if wala akong alam gawin and he knows what's best for me. In the relationship he never even consented my decisions, laging sya ang may final say sa halos lahat ng bagay and issues namin. At first it worked to my advantage, because he sort of acted like a parent to me (he's 9 years older), and guided me through college. I am a very opinionated woman by nature, sa school I was quiet but my friends would always consider me a 'leader'. But when it comes to our relationship, I was a different person. I was shy and I had low self esteem. Sabi ko nga sa kanya before, everyone appreciates my opinion except him. He seemed to always negate me, kase sabi nya, "bata lang ako".

Of course I wasn't always "bata". I matured and he didn't see it coming. He hated how I would smart mouth him, he didn't like that I already was sticking to my opinions as I grew older. I started working and I learned more, and he blatantly told me he was afraid kase "lumalaki na ang mundo ko". Gusto nya kase sya lang ang mundo ko, it was sort of an ego boost for him. Until eventually, after 7 years of being together, I finally called it quits. Cliche as it may sound, I wanted to find myself outside of the relationship.

With my current relationship, I can say na same wavelength kami ng partner ko. We think so much alike and we have similar opinions on most things. He's a civil engineer, and I teach, and although technically I have higher educational attainment (I finished my masters degree last year), I learn a lot from him everyday -- engineering stuff, and life stuff. I'd say he learns from me too, kase madalas di ko maitago ang pagiging teacher ko ang hilig ko mag explain ng mga bagay bagay (parang ganito, lol).

Sa couples, one will always be smarter than the other. But if the smarter partner makes you feel bad about not knowing some things, that's probably disrespect already. Maybe the smarter partner dates you to make him/herself feel even smarter, which is very selfish in all sense.

[Yula]

Sa una pag tatanungin ako anong type kong lalaki syempre yung usual na gusto ng girls. Maputi,chinito,matangkad etc. Pero ang nakakatuluyan ko talaga eh kung kanino ako madevelop. Ang nagpapaattract talaga sakin yung matatalino na lalaki. Not geek or nerdy.

Basta matalino pero sa huli minsan napapaisip ako na medyo nakakahiya kasama sila kasi naiisip ko na baka nabobobohan sakin minsan or what hehe.Parang intimidating minsan 

[sugardrop]

Intelligent or Knowledgeable? These two are different and we sometimes confuse one with the other. Either way, it shouldn't be that much of a big deal unless you are competing with each other. Intelligence is subjective naman din after all.

[insanelypurpleprincess]

I would have to agree with sugardrop. Intelligence is subjective and broad. Because there are multiple intelligences available, one can be superior to others on certain classifications and not so on the others. Bottom line is, are you happy when you're with the guy? Does he make you smile? Do you feel like you can talk to him and be with him endlessly? Does he make you blush? Does he make you feel special? Does he make you forget that academic achievement is the least of your concerns? If you answered YES to all the items, then you appear to be on the right track and with the right person.

On the point na di ka maka relate, does it mean he bores you? If he does, then why date him again, right? On the point that he seems to make you feel less of yourself, then.. why date him again?

One can be very accomplished academically, but seriously know nothing about life. So, it all boils down to choices. Choose wisely!

[sugardrop]

One can be very accomplished academically, but seriously know nothing about life. So, it all boils down to choices. Choose wisely!

THIS. Between the two of us, I'm the one who is better-schooled but how much do I really know about life? I only had a dose of what life is like outside of the little world I was raised and was accustomed to a couple of years ago and I was already 28 that time. While he, at a very young age of 14 had to work to be able to study and support his family and I can truly say that he knows so much more about life than I do. Yet I find him more intellectually stimulating because I learn from him compared to an ex who has earned his doctorate but isn't even street smart and views the world with rose-colored glasses.

Maybe a better way to look at it (dating someone who you think is more intelligent than you) is to think about how much you can learn from that person's supposed intelligence that is superior than yours and how much he can also learn from you.

[insanelypurpleprincess]

Maybe a better way to look at it (dating someone who you think is more intelligent than you) is to think about how much you can learn from that person's supposed intelligence that is superior than yours and how much he can also learn from you.

^ Very well said, sugardrop. Now that I think about it, the guy I am with knows how to hatch chicken eggs and feed live snakes, while I find that a challenge. So it's really all about finding the dynamics that will make the relationship work, suppose that is the direction you intend to go to.

[cecilydee]

i dated two smart*** guys lol

First one. sobrang daming opinion sa mundo he even opened a blog about his thoughts minsan parang "what did he say?" ang peg ko sa mga sinusulat niya. he would call me everyday and made me his muse to his sketches. he is also a talented artist. but too emo. and kahit muse niya ako never inadmit na gusto ako. feeling ko he's quite confused with his sexuality.

Second one. We hit it off sa phone. we talk about deep intellectual stuffs about life. intelectually compatible kami but when we suddenly decided to make it official biglang nawala. nanlamig. na trauma ako sa guy na ito haha.

bottom line is, ayoko na idate ang mga so called intellectual guys. I think mas pipiliin ko na ang guy na nakaka jive ko sa personality ko kaysa intellectually. at yung mas emotionally intelligent rather than mataas ang IQ pero ubod ng talino sa pagcoconfuse sa aming relationship.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

The bottom line is, if you feel out of place and na-iinsecure ka around that  person, then you should stop wasting time and look for someone you feel comfortable with in all aspects in life. Imagine how you'll feel long term. Gusto mo ba you always feel small and insufficient? I guess no one wants that for the long haul.

[simang]

^ganyang ganyan naramdaman ko with my ex, as if I was never good enough, laging may mali akong ginawa, or sinabi. thinking about it now, nakakatawa kase there were a lot of thoughts that I never shared with him kase I was afraid he'll judge me for it. sobrang nakababa ng self esteem talaga. one time nagkausap kami (hindi na kami nung time na yun), i shared with him an issue i was having with my work then, pinagalitan nya pa din ako, and told me na wala akong alam gawin and that i can't stand on my own.

[amethyst028]

yes na experience ko na 'to. i dated someone who is a doctor. i can't remember what we were talking about kasi so many years ago na ito. basta sinabi niya "mas matalino ako sayo kasi doctor ako ikaw 4year course lang". something like that. aba after that hindi ko na siya kinita. ang yabang niya. kahit siguro mas matalino siya hindi niya dapat pina mumukha yun. i prefer guys who are humble. kahit mas angat sila hindi nila dapat ipa feel sa iyo na hindi kayo magka level.

[simang]

I was watching That 70s Show reruns earlier and there was this episode when Donna got a higher SAT scores than Eric. This was the conversation between Eric and his mom Kitty:

Eric: Donna can't be smarter than me because I'm the man, and that's just the way it is.
Kitty Forman: Well, I do better on tests than your father, but he's the one brave enough to kill spiders. And since we've been married how many tests have I taken? None. How many spiders have your father killed? Hundreds.
Eric: But, Mom... SPIDERS FREAK ME OUT.

Okay that last line from eric was unnecessary but the point is, healthy couples complement each other.

[sweetpot]

I am attracted to someone who knows a lot. Gusto ko kasi may natututunan na something new everyday, and ganon din naman sya sa kin. He's more of the thinking type and I am more of the emotional type.

[baliwsayo]

Naiinlove lang ako sa guy na mas matalino sa akin eh. Hindi naman nila ako pwede maliitin kasi matalino din naman ako. Yun nga lang tamad ako makipag-debate.. I noticed mga matatalino mahilig maki-argue (ayaw patalo).. so what I do, sasabihin ko with mahabang nguso and nakataas ang kilay.. end of discussion. Lol!

Boyfie ko now is a doctor.. grabe dinadale ako sa scientific words.. so sasagot ko na lang, "nosebleed".. tatawa na siya. Useless to argue kako.. kiss me na lang. Lol! Natatawa na din siya.