What / How to react?

[mischa04]

Hi gtalkers.. I just need your opinion..

In our office kasi eh barkada kami, four girls and a guy. Close kami lahat sa isa't isa, we all go out for gimiks, sabay-sabay mag-lunch, mga ganon..

Nagkaron ng prob sa barkada so four of us including our guy friend went out for a gimik, inuman, and pinag-usapan ang prob. Then it's time to go home, kanya-kanyang uwi, me and our guy friend ang nagsabay mag-taxi kasi same way kami.

We're both tipsy while tuloy pa rin ang kwentuhan namin nung prob (involve kasi si guy friend) inside the cab, then in the middle of our conversation he asked for a hi-five so nag hi-five kami sabay kiss sa hand ko, nagulat ako pero deadma, then kwento ulit and this time asked for a hug, nag-hug kami but to my surprise another kiss again on my temple (sa may head) naman, tapos nakaakbay na sya sakin after. Nung umusog ako palayo inalis nya na yung pagkakaakbay sakin. Naghiwalay kami na parang wala lang, ok pa rin naman kami until now.

Nakwento ko yung nangyari sa close friend ko na part nung barkada (my BFF), she was shocked and pinagalitan nya ko na bakit hindi raw ako nag-react sa mga ginawa. Eto naman explanation ko, wala akong violent reaction kasi feeling ko hindi naman OA yung ginawa lalo na alam naman talaga namin na touchy si guy friend, saka dahil nga barkada kami, he calls me sister, ako naman sa kanya brother, so i think friendly gestures lang yun lalo na because he's down that time at tipsy nga. Para sakin kasi wala lang yun pero my BFF thinks na mali pa rin daw yung ginawa at mali raw na hinayaan ko yun.

Kayo what you think? For me kasi no malice naman yung gestures, o may point si BFF ko?

[Red Rack 21]

honestly, i think it's nothing. people behave differently and quite oddly when drunk.  but if i were you bago ko nai chika sa other friend namin yun... si guy muna ang kakausapin ko ng derecho.  i'll make it very casual ..tipong hi bro! alam mo ba pinaggagawa mo nung umuwi na tayo.  ang kulit mo blah blah blah....base on his reply malalaman mo kung may meaning ba yun sa kanya o wala. HTH

[amethyst028]

kung deadma lang yung guy friend mo then deadma na lang. baka nga tipsy lang kasi siya.
if it didn't change the dynamics of your friendship then why make a big deal out if it diba?
and kung ikaw naman walang feelings sa kanya then no need fuzz over what happened.

[ysa.belle]

hi! ask lang ako ng opinion:

ako may question din.

in our department, close close naman kami pero close ako sa 2 superiors ko. we tell each other secrets talaga, or so i thought

full support ako kay superior1 and so far, honest naman siya.

itong si superior2 may pagka sinungaling. sabi niya ganito ganyan then malalaman ko na hindi naman pala totoo... pero she does not know na alam ko. then, half day siya ngayon. tapos napagusapan namin siya ni superior1 and sabi superior1 na "hay nako kung mag-PAPA si superior2 baka naman mainlove siya ng todo. dati irrita siya ka PAPA pero ngayon gusto na niya kausap lagi".

hindi ko gets ang sabi ni superior1, tapos sabi ko nalang, kung saan po siya masaya, then sabi niya uli "oo nga eh, tignan mo tinutulungan pa ni PAPA na makapasok sa work yung sister niya" so confirmed ako kung sino yung "PAPA" pero para makafish pa ng info, sabi ko pa: "eh pano nga po pag nagmessage sa FB ang asawa ni superior2 hindi ko alam ang sasabihin niyan" at ang sagot ni superior1, oo na eh, grabe pamandin magtanong si husband ni superior2, lalo na ngayon dapat andun siya sa event kung nasan si PAPA"

gulat ako, kase all the while honest ako kay superior2 pero wala pala siyang balak sabihin sa akin yung secret niya na iyon. alam naman niya na hindi ko naman pagsasabi. patay mali pa siya sa spare phone niya, though sinabi niya sa akin noon na gamit niya pangtext yun kay PAPA (nung hindi pa niya PAPA). i just felt na bat hindi niya masabi sa akin.

gusto ko lang i-share and parang si superior2, though madaming sinasabi sa akin na negative about kay superior1 eh hindi man lang makwento yung ganun...

[aquacharly]

MISCHA. Don't sweat the small stuff.  You moved away in time;  good girl, since you're really just out for friendship.
May I inquire though why, if it is no big deal to you, you had to mention it to the other BFF? 

YSABELLE.  We all do have different levels of sharing.  It is not an issue of reciprocity, but well, some people really do not feel like sharing all with all.  It's her call, leave it at that.  Perhaps it's better you're clueless about her other "business".  Easier for you to turn prying people away with: " wala akong alam about that".

[chinkywinky]

Baka naman sister talaga ang tingin nya sayo and walang malisya for him? Saka tipsy siya, so don't jump into conclusions.

I am always one of the boys, mas marami akong boy friends kaysa girl friends. Most of the time, they are really caring. Like they would hold my hand pag tumatawid sa kalsada (holding hands talaga ha, hindi sa siko or braso lang nakahawak. Kung ibang tao yun na hindi kami kilala mapagkakamalan kaming lovers  ). Tapos some would akbay pa na para talaga kaming mag-jowa, pero no malice whatsoever. When I was studying lahat ng kaklase kong lalake, barkada ko. Then pag uuwi ako ng Pinas, daming volunteers na susundo sa akin. Kaya masarap maraming kaibigan na boys, well-taken care of ka 

[mischa04]

Hi yeah that's nothing naman talaga, we're okay same as before.. And i'm glad na wala lang yun.. 

I mentioned it to my bff kasi I was asking for her opinion, prior to the incident kasi parang napapansin ko na sinusubukan nya if may possibility na maka-score sya, you know what i mean, lately nalaman nya kasi how i am with guys na very open even about my sexual interactions.. Kaya simula nun pag nagkukwentuhan kami bini-bring up nya lagi yung ganong topic and naging touchy na sya, pero i let it pass kasi nga alam kong ganon lang sya, caring sabi nga ni sis chinkywinky hehe.. Kaya nung nangyari yung sa cab napaisip ako kung ano ba sinusubukan ba nya ko..kasi kung sinusubukan nya ko eh i'm not liking it.. Hindi kasi sya ganyan before..

Oh well, i still believe na malambing at caring lang talaga sya kaya no need talaga to sweat or fuzz over it, deadma nalang, baka nga puro duda lang ako..unless he says something straight to my face then saka nalang ako magrereact..hahaha..

Guys are like that daw and girls tend to overthink naman, kaya hindi na ko overthinker mas ok, save myself from being feelingera pa.. hahaha..

[mooncake and leaves]

the way i see it, you were bothered by his actions, which is probably why you had to ask your bff and you had to post it here. your bff is probably just concerned about you. personally, i don't care if someone's tipsy or that's how they are naturally. if you're not comfortable with someone's behavior towards you, you need to point it out and set boundaries. even if you didn't get to at the time that it happened, it's never too late to correct something. so maybe you can discuss that with your guy friend.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

He's just tipsy sis. If he follows up on it when somber, ayun may something na.

[mischa04]

@mooncake and leaves, may point ka sis, na-bother nga siguro ko..

@iwannabeasupermodel,  oo sis pag sober at inulit baka yun may something haha..pero sana hindi naman nya ulitin..