Pamamanhikan

[sparklingjewel]

I would say we're both coming from pretty modern families. We're college sweethearts and have been a couple for 7 years. My fiance didnt ask my parents' permission to marry me, he kind of just told them his plans before proposing. We're of age after all (both 27). After the engagement, we jumped right into booking suppliers since we wanted to get our preferred ones. We arent expected to have any sort of formal pamamanhikan. We're always at each other's homes although my parents and his have only very rarely spent time together. We don't really think its needed, and we're both very accepting of each others families naman. We have travelled abroad with both families although not altogether.

[blackgreen]

After magpropose ni h2b sister ko pa lang may alam na ikakasal kami. Dipa siya nagsasabi sa parents niya. Gusto namin plantsado na lahat ng details before kami magsabi sa mga soon-to-be in laws. Wala na ako parents so sa tita and sa eldest son ng tita ko siya magsasabi. Since province-based parents ni h2b, sabi ni h2b siya na lang haharap sa tita ko. Magkakasama na lang sila sa day ng kasal. Yun lang pangit sa ganitong set-up wala na time magkakilala parents niya and tita ko. Although nakakasama naman na nila tita ko si h2b and ako nakakasama na rin ng family niya pag umuuwi ng province.


If hindi naman traditional tita ko, okay lang naman siguro na ganito? Ang mahal kasi ng airfare. Hahaha..

[simang]

Sis blackgree , same tayo. Gusto din namin na plantsado nalahat ng details before namin sabihin sa families namin. Una kong sinabihan sister ko about the wedding. The sya sinabi nya sa parents nya. Huling huli sa parents ko since my mom was abroad si inantay namin makauwi sya last yr. wala pang formal na pamamanhikan. Mid next yr pa namin plano hindi pa din nagmeet parents namin ng personal.

[blackgreen]

^so I guess sis simang, okay lang naman siguro noh? Buti pa sa iyo sis medyo matagal na. Sa amin kasi plan namin either March or April magsasabi para matapos na muna namin lahat ng planning.

[simang]

^i guess sis wala namang problema. Formality lang naman yun. Lalo sa inyo na ibabyahe nyo pa parents ng partner mo para makapamanhikan. Medyo hassle and maiintindihan naman nila siguro yun.

Nasa province din family namin ni bf. South ako, north sya. And purpose lang talaga ng pamamanhikan sa amin is magkakilala yung parents namin.

[blackgreen]

^thank you sis

[jheajen]

Hi kabride. .do we need pamamanhikan paba kasi nakaset na lahat about sa kasal namin although next year pa ng december wedding namin and alam naman ng parents namin na ikakasal kame pero yun nga di naman namanhikan si h2b kasi nasa canada din ako, but his in ph.pero gusto ko parin sana may formal na pamamanhikan pero ano paba paguusapan if nakaset ng lahat..☺

[f878]

^it depends din siguro kung gusto ng families nyo na magkaron ng pamamanhikan. sa'min din kase halos naka-set na lahat for our july 2015 wedding pero we're still planning na magkaron ng pamamanhikan to update every one on our wedding preps, give guidelines and set expectations na di naman kailangang sobrang formal. pareho kase kameng unang apo ni h2b at sobrang tagal na nung huling may kinasal on both sides. ang isa pa namang goal ng pamamanhikan is to introduce both families to each other. para bawas ilang din on the day ng wedding kase may familiarity na. i like to think of it as a huge family dinner lang. factor mo na lang din yung comfortability on both sides kase merong mga families na sobrang game sa ganyan meron naman na ayaw ng big gatherings.

[chedz.03]

Samin din ni hubby walang pamamanhikan talaga na ngyari. Kasi a week before my wedding na nakauwi father ko overseas, we were very open especially din sa parents ko even before we planned the wedding so alam nila halos lahat kung saan na papunta relationship namin that time. Both sides knew each other narin. Pero night before the wedding ininvite lang ni father ko yung parents ni hubby to have dinner and small talk then hinatid na nila kami sa hotel.

[jheajen]

Maybe I will ask nalang my mom if she's still want the pamamanhikan..pero matagal tagal narin samin din na wala kinakasal..10years ago so parang mas maganda parin mamanhikan si h2b..Although our families know each other naman na..we are in same place..pero our families are not close and didn't talk..just civil na magkakilala like that..so parang mas ok talaga mamanhikan para makapagusap din sila..

[skela96c]

What we did was not a formal pamamanhikan in the sense na hihingiin pa lang ang kamay at nun pa lang magpaplano kung ano/pano ang kasal.

soon as we got engaged, we planned the wedding by ourselves. we just arranged a dinner (hindi sa bahay namin) just to have a formal meeting of families celebrating the engagement and a bit input on the upcoming wedding.  But both families knew beforehand that we are already planning the wedding.

i actually told the fiance that it's not necessary. but he wants to do it for my mom. Hindi naman super traditional ang nanay ko but i know she appreciated that courtesy.

[blackgreen]

My soon-to-be MIL will be here in Manila for a conference. H2b and I will set a dinner para ma-meet na ng Tita ko mother ni h2b. Yun na gawin namin pamamanhikan. Hahah..

[vitug.annie]

^our pamamanhikan was done 3 yrs ago pa..then we had civil wedding. after 3 years is the church wedding

[f878]

weeee... this sunday na kame.
finally!
sabe ng mga magulang ko ano pa daw ba pag-uusapan eh booked na halos lahat ng suppliers. haha
i'm planning to make it a simple meet-and-greet lang tapos saglit na briefing about our preps then setting of expectations for the wedding.

[juwie]

Yey! Enjoy sis f878, masaya yan na nakaka kaba!

Share ko lang, nakakatuwa pala yung nadudulot ng pamamanhikan. July2014 namanhikan family ni fiance. Dun una nagkakilala ang both sides and it went well naman. tapos last Christmas nag gift yung parents ng fiance ko sa parents ko, tapos si mommy naman nag bake ng cake para sa parents ni fiance. Then nung new year may party sa house nila fiance, andun yung family ko. Tapos bukas 1st birthday ng pamangkin ni fiance iniinvite ulit nila family ko.

Nakakatuwa isipin na may 'bonding' na ang both sides of our families, dahil sa amin ni fiance at dahil sa pamamanhikan so sa wedding day namin wala na dapat magkaka ilangan kasi ilang beses na rin sila nagkita kita.

[f878]

thanks sis juwie!

kaso feeling ko ako lang magsasalita kase si fiancé and his family are very tahimik and shy. hehe
nakakatuwa naman ang families nyo at they get along really well!
malaking plus talaga when both sides are comfortable with each other kase i'm sure marami pang events sa buhay nyo na magkakasama sila.

[yannuh]

Hello, siguro ang pamamanhikan na ang 1 sa mga tradisyon na di natin dapat makalimutan. Ako din halos formality na lang ang pamamanhikan pero ininsist ng Mama at Papa ko na magkaroon ng ganun para mameet nila ng formal yung family ni H2B. Oct 2014 nagpropose si fiance, same night na pinaalam namin sa parents ko tapos nagasikaso na kame agad for our wedding preps tapos yung pamamanhikan naman nila samen is nakaset on 2nd or 3rd weekend of Feb. Hehe😃

[anneshirley]

Hi girls! I'm honestly against the whole pamamanhikan plan but my parents are requiring it. I've pointed out that they don't really know what they're doing/planning but they're really insistent   

Anyways, there was mention of elders being present during pamamanhikan and my parents want ours to have that too.

Problem is this: we're having a small wedding lang and the only elders we're inviting are our grandparents (who are all based abroad and can only fly in for the wedding itself). So the elders my parents are looking to attend pamamanhikan won't even be invited to the wedding.

Is this okay?

[j.adore]

It's really for the parents so if they require it, go. From what I know, di required ang elders but at the very least, parents and parental figures (who helped raised you) from both sides should be there.

[maukris]

Wala pa kami pamamanhikan part,but my mom. Knows naman na before pa we are planning na. Plus facebook friends din sila ni fiance. When fiance proposed prang expected na ng family ko, kasi napag uusapan na din ang wedding
By september pa uuwi si fiance kasi overseas sya,kaya magpapaalm din ulet sya sa family ko sa september thiugh october na wedding.
My lola knows his family na, and my cousins kasi nakapunta na kami sa kanila, tapos fiance naman everytime na umuuwi sya dumadalaw sya sa bahay.
I want sana the traditional way na pamamanhikan muna before planning kaso, the proposal happened a week before na aalis si fiance nung last nya na uwi.