Pamamanhikan

[shygirlme]

^haha ang nanay ko din madaldal kaya nag aalangan si fiance pero nagulat ako nailihim nya sa mga kapatid ko. complete din family ko eh excited din kasi sila, sa part ni fiance dapat isasama pa ng dad nya mga tita ng mom nya (wala na kasi mom nya) tsaka di daw alam ng dad nya gagawin pero di kasi nasabihan ng maaga, kaya wala din nakasama, ayos lang din kami kami lang hehe

[iamashe]

^ plano din ni h2b na isama mga tita nya (kung sino ata gusto sumama) wala na din kasi mom nya..

[junebride]

^ plano din ni h2b na isama mga tita nya (kung sino ata gusto sumama) wala na din kasi mom nya..

Kami naman naisama ni h2b mga kapatid niya and yung partner ng mommy niya kasi separated na parents niya simula nung bata pa siya. so yung kinakasama ng mommy niya ang napasama sa pamamanhikan kasi ang dad niya nasa canada with his own family na rin. no big deal naman sakin kasi nakakasama ko na rin naman yung step dad niya e. plus isa pang mahiyain yun so hindi rin nagcomment at all hahaha ang pinag usapan nila ng tatay ko e ang buhay sa province haha kaloka.. natawa na lang ako dun..

Mga 12 ata kami lahat nung pamamanhikan. nung una medyo nagkakahiyaan pa both sides e.

[LGV]

Yung samin non traditional na talaga. I have a lovechild and it was her birthday, my fiance has the same birthmonth so pinagsabay na lang. What my mom in law did was she sponsored my daughter's birthday party sa isang resto then sinama nya buong side nya, literal ito ha pati mga kapatid nya, pamangkin and mga apo sa pamangkin haha full force sila. Then ofcourse yung family ko. So nakalibre ako ng birthday party. Formality nalang kasi ito dahil before magpropose si hubby personal sya nagpunta sa house habang wala ako then nung mismong nagpropose kasi sya sa hotel it served as engagement party na for me. So walang  mga usap usap ng magulang yung samen, more on kwentuhan at tawanan and since marami silang kids sa side ni MIL eh mas enjoy mga kids

[gemwin21]

^sa amin naman mga sis naplano na namin lahat ni h2b...kami din kasi ang gagastos. so when my mom asked kung hindi daw ba mamamanhikan family ni h2b...sabi ko wala naman na silang pag-uusapan pa about the wedding. so just to introduce them to each other we will just arrange lunch or dinner in a restaurant. para naman hindi sila first time magkita kita sa wedding day. and since me, h2b and my mom is overseas...we will just do it maybe a week before the wedding date.

[fionaapple]

mamamanhikan mamaya yung h2b. nagpropose siya nung april 9. tanong agad mama ko kung kelan mamamanhikan, kaso dahil napagkasunduan namin ni h2b na magprepare na for the church and venue dahil gusto namin december wedding, nagreserve na kami ng church at reception venue.

bale may when and where na.;p kaya lang traditional kasi ang angkan namin kaya nagdemand pa rin ang mama ko na magkaroon ng pamamanhikan. mangyayari mamaya. sabi ko kay h2b, isama ang family niya at magdala ng pagkain. bale ang mangyayari formality na lang kasi bago naman magpropose yung bf ko, nagsabi na siya sa mom ko. siguro bibigyan na lang nila kami ng mga advice kasi lahat ng mga kapatid ng mama ko dadating mamaya.

[lazyoverseasbride]

^hi mga sis, mamamanhikan c h2b sa sunday, sabi ng iba ang aga daw ng pamamanhikan kc dec pa wedding namin. Kaso since parehas kami overseas, limited lang time namin & lahat ng uwi namin sa pinas for wedding preps lang talaga.

Anyways, yung plan namin for sunday is parang formality lang din since magkakilala na both families namin. Nagpa-prepare nalang ako sa mom ko ng ilang dishes then magdadala din cla h2b ng food. Parang lahat ng tito & tita ni h2b sasama. Same thing with me. Present din lahat ng tito & tita ko, pati mga pinsan kaya nagpahanda din ako ng ilang dishes.

Ang di ko alam, sino magsstart ng usapan or kung pano sinisimulan yun. never pa kasi ako nkawitness ng ganong event. everytime kasi na may ganon sa mga pinsan ko, pinapaalis kaming mga extra then yung mga elders lang naiiwan para mag usap.

[simang]

Sa amin sa Batangas, pamamanhikan is called pamumulong or bulungan. Basically parang formally iaannounce sa family members yung wedding, or formally hihingin yung guy yung kamay ni girl (paano sya sasabihin in words, i have no idea). Hindi naman kelangan ng programs or whatever, pero yun nga dapat family ni guy may dalang pagkain. Kadalasan sa amin nung bata ako, kalamay ang kinakain sa bulungan.

^sis i guess kaya feeling nila maaga yung pamamanhikan is kase sa probinsya di naman uso ang long engagement. tipong one month lang pwede na. kaya ang nakasanayan siguro is mamamanhikan, 3 weeks before the wedding.

Yung sa sister ko, one month prep lang sila, after they got engaged namanhikan na agad kase dun na din pinag usapan ang details ng kasal, like sinong sasagot sa ganito, saan church, etc etc. So basically doon nabuo yung wedding plans nila. Kaya din mabilis nila naplano yung wedding kase halos lahat ng family members may gustong iisponsor

I recently got engaged and wala pa kaming pamamanhikan na plans. Gusto ko kase laid out na lahat ng plano namin before yung pamamanhikan -- not just the wedding plans but future plans as well after the wedding.

[charmed30]

hi sisses. my bf just proposed to me last Good friday and we are planning to get married on may 2016. We will book na the church and venue on dec of this year. Kelan ba dapat mamanhikan? before namin i-book yung church and venue? i find it too soon kasi kung mamamanhikan na sila this year eh sa may 2016 pa naman ang wedding.

[whitelady17]

Hehe sis better book na muna ang mga essentials ninyo in that way wala ng pwedeng makialam pa. Sa amin around march sa first marathon namin I encourage hubby to invite his parents para ma Introduce na ang both parties, not knowing na doon rin pala mag propose si hubby. Noong pamanhikan relaxed na since na introduced na sila prior. My dad is super maka luma, he asked kung tanggap daw ba ako ng parents and family ni hubby and so on. Na kapag nag away daw kami ni hubby sana walang kampihan daw na maganap sa family etc. And  I didn't know na need palang ang family ng guy ang mag serve at family ng babae ang unang kakain kasi kami sabay na kumain eh. Kami ang gumastos sa kasal namin, so nag inform lang kami ng mga dapat nilang malaman na details ng event namin

[escobarina420]

@charmed, depende naman yan sa paguusapan nyo, better earlier nga para mas marami kayong time para magnilay-nilay este magisip at maghanap ng mga suppliers sa wedding nyo. This 2014 sobrang dami kong friends na kinasal at ikakasal, ewan ko ba nagkakataon ba or talagang alam ng mga tao na the end is near na kaya nagpapakasal na tayong lahat lol,…,, oh well by the way I just remembered that this was one of the funniest moment during this pamamanhikan moment. Foodtrip plus shopping lang nangyari maghapon, halos simple lang nangyari pero marami agad nagastos.

[charmed30]

Changes of plans! My wedding has been moved to october 2015 and the pamamanhikan will be on june na when i arrive. This is making me so nervous.

[outandaboutph]

Sis outandaboutph, do you have any program or can you give us some ideas kung pano nagstart yung pamamanhikan nyo, like kung anong ginagawa or pinag uusapan.

Formality na lang kasi iyon sis eh, before that nakapag usap usap na kami. Parang nag finalized lang ng mga 'requests' hehe.

[Mr.Punch]

Ako'y medyo nalilito dito sa pamamanhikan at kung kelan dapat ginagawa ito.

Background story: I proposed to my girlfriend earlier this month (she accepted, of course).  I never talked to anyone about my plans of proposing prior to the event.  I wanted my girlfriend to be the first one to know, and not anyone else.  I've heard before that the guy needs to first ask permission from the parents of the girl.  Ang sa akin naman, my gf and I are both in our late 30s already and I've already met her parents naman.  We even talked about our marriage plans with them.  I think they would not mind if I sort of bypassed them before proposing to her.

Now here's the thing, we're now planning for the wedding and we're trying to come up with a guest list.  The gf's Ate asked her kung nakapag-paalam na ba ako formally.  She has a point, kasi it would only be proper to afford them the courtesy of letting them know in person my intentions before finalizing any plans.

My question is: Yun na ba yung pamamanhikan?  Based on what I know, ang pamamanhikan is done near the wedding date na.  If I wait until that time before finalizing wedding plans, it would be too late na.  Is it really all that offensive to finalize plans before holding the pamamanhikan?

The way I see it, magkahiwalay na event yung magpapaalam ako sa parents niya, at yung pamamanhikan itself.  Tama ba ako?

[j.adore]

I think separate siya.. Same din sa amin Fiancé proposed to me first then we both went to my parents for him to formally ask for their blessings.

Pag complete na sa Pinas family members from both sides, that's when we'll have the pamamanhikan.

You don't need to wait for the wedding date to be near to have the pamamanhikan because some use this as venue to discuss the wedding din.

[sweet_cherry]

yung mga traditional at old school na magulang kasi mahhurt if nakapag book na prior to the pamamanhikan kasi ang feeling e di man lang sila naabisuhan or nakapag suggest.

[Mr.Punch]

^Which is really impractical in this day and age, if you want to be able to reserve a church and/or reception venue that you really want.

[lazyoverseasbride]

^hi, kami ni h2b, we getting married on the 27th dec 2014, were both working overseas, so limited lang yung time nang pag uwi namin.

Actually, b4 cya magpropose formally were already planning on our wedding and nag down na din kami for venue and church. pero before lahat yun, tinawagan nya lang yung parents ko pag magpaalam regarding his plans.

last uwi namin, which is last April, nagplan na kami ng pamamanhikan, yung family nya nagdala lang ng food sa house namin then kami nagprepare din ng konting food..nagstart yun as typical salu-salo hanggang nag ask yung tita ni h2b kung kamusta na yung wedding plans namin. then dun na kami nagstart mag discuss kung sino yung mga plan namin ilagay sa entourage, yung mga ninong at ninang, kung anong plan namin sa wedding, kung ilang guests, then dun din namin sinabi kung ano na ang na-book namin and kung ano pang kulang.

Well, we decided to do it in traditional way para ma-feel ng parents ko yung ganong event and for the elders to feel na part sila ng wedding namin. We also ask kung may suggestions or comments sila about our plans. And also para alam nila kung anong eexpect nila sa wedding namin like di sila pwede magbitbit ng additional guests and ng mga kids kya ganun ka-aga yung pamamanhikan namin.
 

[simang]

I think separate siya.. Same din sa amin Fiancé proposed to me first then we both went to my parents for him to formally ask for their blessings.

Pag complete na sa Pinas family members from both sides, that's when we'll have the pamamanhikan.

You don't need to wait for the wedding date to be near to have the pamamanhikan because some use this as venue to discuss the wedding din.

oh wait now i'm confused. sa sister ko kase yung pamamanhikan, dun formally sinabi sa parents ko na they're getting married. that time, kasama na family members ng fiance nya. nagkaron lang ng small salo salo sa bahay namin and they (mainly the elders) discussed  the details of the wedding.

sa amin naman ng partner ko, di pa namin nasasabi (at all) sa side ng family ko about the engagement since my mom is overseas and will be coming home next month with my brother. so next month, pagdating nila, dun namin sasabihin sa family ko, with my bf's family of course. that's the pamamanhikan already, right? so right now my family doesnt have any idea of our plans yet. dun na namin iaannounce lahat pagdating ng mom ko

[j.adore]

Er, are you saying di pa din alam ng family mo na engaged ka na hanggang ngayon?

Basta kasama buong family ng guy tapos going to the girl's family's house (or magkita sa labas), that is pamamanhikan.

Pamama-alam yung magsasabi sa parents separately. As in yung couple lang at walang buong pamilyang dala.

Mas dapat yung magpaalam at ginagawa as soon as ma-engage. In some cases, the guy does this before proposing.
Sa amin kasi disrespect yung di magpaalam ng maayos. Kung yung families niyo ay di traditional or matampuhin, di na ito kailangan.