Why Some Men Cheat on Loyal Women

[graZiousa]

The reason for something happening is why something happens.
The cause for something happening is the factor that results in something happening


Yes boredom is never a reason but in reality it is one of the causes for such reasons.

Tama ka wife is not for entertainment, but you have to maintain the interest of your husband
para hindi sila titingin sa iba, that's why kasama sa counselling sessions before getting married ang
emphasis to never stop courting each other and always keep the fire burning.   This is applicable to both parties.

Don't stop improving yourself or be interesting just because you already won the Trophy.  Make your partners realize EVERYDAY how lucky they are to have you by being your best as much as you can.

super agree!!!

[prettyellowish]

Kase merong willing maging kabit

[vermich]

May pag-asa pa kayang magbago ang mga lalakeng ganito?

meron naman daw pagasa magbago, problem is most guys who cheat cannot acccept the fact what they did is wrong and refuse help from others- unfortunately that is the first step to changing for the better. Kasi if they are aware of their actions, mas magiging conscious na sila sa decisions nila. Most men who cheat, yes its to boost their ego or to check if they are still attractive enough for the rest of the female specie even if they are attached/ committed.

yun lang oo meron payag maging kabit, that is also classified as a mental disorder. Pero factors on how they are raised, their environment and beliefs affect them as well. It's up to people who knows better on how to help them, yun lang if they don't want help, they cannot be helped.

[Cheeken Charli]

"Males are weak.”  No sh*t Shirlock. It isn’t like I or any other woman haven’t heard that enabling yet useless piece of information passed down from our grandmothers, mothers, aunts, older sisters and older cousins before but, what makes a man cheat isn’t only that they’re weak…it’s a combination of things: control issues, mental sensitivity and the big E word…ego.

By cheating on a loyal gf/wife, it makes a weak minded man feel he has power over her. He would even say I only f*** bad bitches and still return home to you. So the loyal one has nothing to do than to accept the situation since she is a good woman, a good example and the one who wont foght back nor revenge to her bf/husband. Poor Maria Clara!!!!

[zeroone]

i mean no disrespect to anyone here, and sorry for stepping in. i guess i have too much free time that i read almost all threads here in FN and this is interesting. anyway..

my 2 cents, since we used the term "loyal" sa title, i assume we refer to martyr wives here. if you take revenge then that makes you loyal no more.. so,

men cheat for a lot of reasons. some men won't call it cheating because they have reasons and will justify the deed until death. couples should resolve issues at first sight. Men "can" cheat whenever there's an opportunity but then so are some women. Goin abroad, bad sex, an ugly fight.

no one should give an opportunity to the next to cheat. It's not just men, talk about woman empowerment right? no fight should take longer than 24 hours or you both risk giving someone a chance to cheat. but hey, that's just me..

and no, I'm no cheater.

[vermich]

^ I agree. Very valid points. If youre the gf/wife, how many chances will you give your partner, assuming he's sincerely trying to change? Up to what point will you walk away?

Kung willing naman yung partner mag change and we see changes sige lang, pero repeatedly saying he will change tapos paulit- ulit pa rin mag cheat, I'd rather walk away. Kasi it shows his insincerity to actually change for the better.

that is the same question that the counselor my sister when her husband cheated on her. She said she is willing to work it out, kasama naman si hubby nya sa counselling. Pero unfortunately naguluhan sya masyado with the situation and yung kabitch wouldn't let go of my borther-in - law. It came to the point na pati pala FB ni sister nagmemessage yung girl telling her stuff about the relaionship with the hubby. Sad to say nasa hospital sister ko now kasi she tried committing suicide last Wednesday.. I'm afraid to leave her alone especially she's pregnant.. 

men cheat for a lot of reasons. some men won't call it cheating because they have reasons and will justify the deed until death. couples should resolve issues at first sight. Men "can" cheat whenever there's an opportunity but then so are some women. Goin abroad, bad sex, an ugly fight.

yes both men and women have the tendency to cheat.. and dapat talaga ang away hindi pinatatagal. Then what happens kung maganda naman ang relationship nila, walang away magkasundo naman then all of a sudden malalaman mo one of them cheated on each other. Minsan din kasi hindi clear sa partner ano talaga yung cheating for them.. texts/ sext, friendly coffee date with a friend, flirting with a co-worker? ANything can lead to cheating depending on the parties involved how they will act on it.

Some will say hindi cheating ang may ka friendly text pero ask their partners, they will say it is emotional cheating. Kasi kung ikaw mismo gagawa, alam mo its just friendly, pero malaman ng partner mo, hindi nila alam kung ano laman ng text- they will percieve it as cheating..

do i make sense?

[vermich]

@jonduh Thanks! Medyo I use these forum as escape and to get insights na rin. Pero ngayon depressed- catatonic state na sister ko, kahit anong iyak ng hubby nya or kausap namin we can't seem to shake her off her depression. I don't care anymore if bil wil lrealize what kind of a dickhead he is, kahit magsisi sya wala na eh, damage has been done.    Si sister na lang inaalala ko saka yung niece ko sa tummy nya.

I just wish sana yung mga magbabalak magcheat can realize the potential harm they can do to people who love and care so much for them. At times I feel that walang konsensya gagawa ng ganun, lalo na kapag nag start mangulo yung kabit nila.. 

[marichel]

This past weeks I've been wondering about this too. Not really cheat but flirt siguro or baka nagcheat na din talaga.

Meron kasing bagong assigned sa office namin na employee. I've been away for a week so wala ako ng dumating siya. Nang pumasok na ako, nagpakilala naman siya sa akin (related kasi nature ng work namin kaya inintroduce nya sarili nya). Taz, ayun na panay flirt. Nasabi naman niyang married siya at may anak. Then suot naman wedding ring but bakit ganun pa rin makaflirt? As in nag ooffer siyang ihatid ako pauwi na lagi kong dinedecline. And he insists na labas daw kaming dalawa lang (refuse syempre). First time ko lang na makaencounter ng ganito. Kinikilabutan ako tuwing mag ooffer siya hatid or kain sa labas. Lagi kong naiisip yung asawa at anak niya. Di ko lang matake bakit umaact pa siya ng ganun eh family man na nga di ba?

[zeroone]

yes both men and women have the tendency to cheat.. and dapat talaga ang away hindi pinatatagal. Then what happens kung maganda naman ang relationship nila, walang away magkasundo naman then all of a sudden malalaman mo one of them cheated on each other. Minsan din kasi hindi clear sa partner ano talaga yung cheating for them.. texts/ sext, friendly coffee date with a friend, flirting with a co-worker? ANything can lead to cheating depending on the parties involved how they will act on it.

Some will say hindi cheating ang may ka friendly text pero ask their partners, they will say it is emotional cheating. Kasi kung ikaw mismo gagawa, alam mo its just friendly, pero malaman ng partner mo, hindi nila alam kung ano laman ng text- they will percieve it as cheating..

do i make sense?

this certainly can happen. so that entirely depends on the aggravated party. he'she can hold on to the relationship or forgive and endure the pain. revenge will lead to more problems. simple lang ang relationship but the choices are hard. it's black and white. you either stay or leave.

if you prolong the fight, the cheater will have more chance to cheat and the other party might take revenge. kahit magkaayos pa, mas magiging masakit. so if someone cheats, it's either stay or leave as soon as you find out. because if someone cannot forgive, it'll will hunt you both until you're married. sumbatan pa mangyayari. i've seen these things happen with a friend.

[meisaia]

Once someone starts to take for granted the things they love about someone and start noticing little things someone else is has or is doing for them, they start to compare. Then they start to ask "why can't he/she be like this instead of that?" Then we start focusing on all the things our other half lacks instead on focusing on the things he/she has. An opportunity rises, and cheating begins.

BTW, men and women cheat. Cheating is not a gender-specific action.

[sassy_gal18]

Sa office talamak mga ganitomg eksena.

Sayang yung mga asawa or girlfriend na super loyal kung titigna mo minsan nga parang ang perfect perfect na nila pero nagagawa pang magcheat ng mga asawa or bf nila.

Yung mga pumapayag maging kabit naman napaka desperada. Alam na nilang taken na hala sige payag naman sila.

Sa mga lalake naman ewan ko sa trip nila. Nakakaasar sila panuorin.

[diann28]

siguro di lang sila para sa isa't isa. at di pa siguro sya yun tao para sakanya

[mooncake and leaves]

^^^ you need to report him to your supervisor. wag kang matakot to be rude or piss him off. i don't call that flirting. it's more of a sexual intimidation.

[bonita111809]

I can't help but comment here as I see other comments that are full of resentment towards men. I am a woman, contented and happily married for 2 years now. We dated for 3 years, two years of it we lived in together to know each other better. So in total, we've been together for 5 years now.


A woman can be loyal but this doesn't mean she is already a good wife or a partner.


Men can come up with so many reason why they cheat and it varies from man to man. I have already stated the primary reasons why a man cheats in other threads but I'm gonna post it here anyway for everybody's benefit.


1. they can.
2. they think they can get away with it.
3. they have not become who he truly wants or has already found who and what he wants to be/to be with
4. what's happening at home isn't "happening" like it used to
5. (the biggest reason of all) there's always a woman out there willing to cheat with him.


in instances where the couple married because they truly love each other, reason number 4 is the most probable reason why a man cheats.


over time, a woman becomes confident about the marriage that she forgets how she has treated her husband during the early stages of their relationship. she becomes disrespectful, always complaining, unsatisfied, moody, and nagging which also result to resentment by the husband.


the husband now becomes aloof and builds a wall to protect him from all these undesirable traits his wife has acquired over time. and so the nagging continues. when the wife constantly nags, the husband will respond by either talking back or walking out. when he's out, it doesn't mean he will cheat right away. often times, cheating isn't planned.


he wants to lash out but he still has reservations because he doesn't want to hurt you. so he can either drink it off or talk to someone to ease the burden. men don't usually confide with each other because men are not good communicators. so often times, the confidant is another woman. drinking and confiding to another woman can bring out unfavorable results because when a man drinks, his inhibitions are stripped off which will make him do things and confiding to another woman, especially when she shows understanding, will ignite attraction.


the first thing a woman should ask when her husband cheats is "what have I done/what did I lack?"

I know some women would raise their eyebrows. I'm not saying it's your fault that your husband cheated, but in some cases, the wife did something that gave him the reason to cheat. this is one of the facts women refuse to accept.


the woman is the key to happiness in marriage/relationship. it may seem a hardwork but if you love your man, wouldn't you do anything to make him happy?


All I'm trying to say is, don't blame it all on men. they have feelings, too. Let us be open-minded and accept that men and women are different and that women can make or break a man.


I believe in the saying "behind a great man is a great woman."

[langley]

^I totally agree with you bonita111809

treat your husband like a king and he will treat you like a queen

[bonita111809]

^I totally agree with you bonita111809

treat your husband like a king and he will treat you like a queen

secrets of fascinating womanhood. ^_^

[mooncake and leaves]

The reason for something happening is why something happens.
The cause for something happening is the factor that results in something happening


Yes boredom is never a reason but in reality it is one of the causes for such reasons.

Tama ka wife is not for entertainment, but you have to maintain the interest of your husband
para hindi sila titingin sa iba, that's why kasama sa counselling sessions before getting married ang
emphasis to never stop courting each other and always keep the fire burning.   This is applicable to both parties.

Don't stop improving yourself or be interesting just because you already won the Trophy.  Make your partners realize EVERYDAY how lucky they are to have you by being your best as much as you can.

I think this is just an exhausting way to live life and an even more exhausting view of marriage. Imagine all that work on top of raising children, providing for your family--that's just a lot of work just to keep someone interested. I'm not saying people should be slobs or they should let themselves go. But people change. People gain weight, they lose hair, they age, they get old and the looks go down. But that's life. That's what happens. So much of our modern thinking has passed the burden of correcting infidelity to the person who was cheated on, as if infidelity is something the partner can prevent her/his spouse from committing. It's not.

Anyway, this is the closest to what I can agree on:

By cheating on a loyal gf/wife, it makes a weak minded man feel he has power over her. He would even say I only f*** bad bitches and still return home to you.

If there's one thing that I think cheating men have in common, it's anger. The need to subjugate women and make them feel like toys. The wives are commodities they bought, long-term investments that better have good return or else. The mistresses are objects they need to punish for enjoying sex (because women aren't supposed to enjoy sex).

[Corbun]

I think men cheat because they want to feel special and good about themselves if someone still likes them. Yes i agree that this boosts their ego if they feel that someone still likes them.

But they still don't have a reason why they should do that. I mean most of us women don't cheat on our husbands. What would they feel if we start cheating on them? I hope they realize that.

[cessy_may08]

http://www.theminorityeye.com/why-all-men-cheat-on-loyal-women/

[bonita111809]

to be honest, I don't entirely agree with the author of that link. IMO, Steve Harvey still has the best explanation why a man cheats. Ebrahim Aseem is self-proclaimed while Steve Harvey is a legend.