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will you accept?
« on: March 15, 2014, 10:50:13 am »
will you accept if your employee (secretary, driver, delivery boy, katiwala, etc..) asks you to be the ninong/ninang of their kids?

my husband and i have different views on this. any thoughts?  :)
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« Reply #1 on: March 15, 2014, 05:31:41 pm »
I did. One of our helpers asked me and two other cousins of mine to be the godparents of her baby. We didn't treat her differently from us and she was like family na rin. I think it depends on the kind of relationship you have with your employees.
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« Reply #2 on: March 17, 2014, 01:18:08 pm »
it depends din for me. but husband ko says that we should not. yung katiwala kasi namin bininyagan yung apo niya. kinuha akong ninang nung anak niya. i accepted because of the grandparents and not because of the parents. matagal na namin kakilala yung grandparents. sabi ng husband ko para lang din  hindi lumaki ulo ng parents (employee din namin sila) kasi nga mabrand na "ninang/ninong" so in short "kumare/kumpare" and kapag nagloko sa work mas mahirap reprimand/tanggalin kasi nga "kumpare". but for me hindi pwedeng ganon. work is work, walang kinalaman yung pagiging ninang ko sa anak niya sa performance niya sa trabaho.

may kilala din kasi kami na hindi niya tinatanggap kapag kinuha siyang ninong ng employee niya mapa binyag o kasal. same reasons as to what my husband said.

OT: minsan kasi napansin ko nawawala na yung true reason sa pagpili ng godparents. and may experience nga husband ko na nakilala lang niya yung guy kasi pareho silang invited sa isang gathering na tapos nagkita sila ulit sa isa pang gathering tapos kinuha na siyang ninong. pinaabot lang yung invitation with "Ninong (husband's name)" and hindi manlang nagsabi na kukunin siyang ninong in person o kahit tawagan siya. he did not attend and sinasabi niya na hindi naman niya tinanggap yung pagiging ninong sa bata.
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« Reply #3 on: March 18, 2014, 10:28:38 am »
sabi nila masamang tumanggi sa pagiging ninong/ninang lalo na sa binyag.
pero tama si sis seven82 kase there are others na kinukuha na ninong or ninang ang isang tao dahil sa status or sa pera. yung iba pa nga ginagawang business ang binyag or kasal di ba? pag close lang talaga ako sa tao, dun lang ako papayag.
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« Reply #4 on: March 18, 2014, 11:02:22 am »
Sa employees - we stopped that a long time ago. Yung inaanak sa kasal na employees - yun pa mga kina suhan namin ng qualified theft.  Lol. So yon naging reason namin for refusing: naku baka malas in tayo pareho. Hahaha
Pati sa binyag - we don't accept.  Parang alam na rin ng mga employees, we don't like - so wala ng nagka lakas loob to request.  Our secretaries are told to say na we don't like, but if invited - we will go. 

We prefer it this way, Pinoys generally cannot separate work from personal lives. 

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« Reply #5 on: March 18, 2014, 11:16:23 am »
^true. and madaming umaabuso.
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« Reply #6 on: March 18, 2014, 11:27:45 am »
We prefer it this way, Pinoys generally cannot separate work from personal lives. 

This is so true. Minsan, kahit kamag-anak mo pa, dinadaan sa pagiging relative at nagtatampo pag napagsabihan.

Isa lang naman yung helper namin na nag-ask. Pinag-aral din kasi namin sya and basically, samin na sya tumanda. Parang adopted na sya. Walang naging problem with her at all and she knows her role dito sa bahay. Hindi nya ginamit yung pagiging "kumare" nya to be abusive. Yung naging husband nya ang naging abusado and we haven't heard from them since they left for the husband's province.

I guess depende talaga sa tao. Meron mga akala mo kung sino na and there are those who remain "professional".
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« Reply #7 on: March 18, 2014, 05:42:50 pm »
so how do you say "no" para hindi ma offend?  :)

i have a friend who works in a bank and she asked her branch manager to be their ninang sa kasal. tumanggi si branch manager and the excuse was ayaw niya kasing magformal attire! for me, that was a very lame excuse hehe pero syempre hindi ko na sinabi sa friend ko yun

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We prefer it this way, Pinoys generally cannot separate work from personal lives.

hay, so true!
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« Reply #8 on: March 18, 2014, 05:58:03 pm »
^hirap noh? ako kase sasabihin ko directly na ayaw ko. pero in a nice way.

way back, an aunt of mine (dad's youngest sister) told my dad to inform me daw na ninang  ako ng anak niya and yung binyag is sa ganitong date and place. i told my dad na ayaw ko and hindi na nagtanong si dad.

nung nalaman ni mama, sabi niya medyo panget daw kase auntie ko siya then kukunin niya akong ninang tapos hindi ko pa siya close. as in ayaw ko sa kanya. hindi kami nagpunta sa binyag and never kong inacknowledge na inaanak ko yung anak niya. nung nagkita kami mga 7 or 8 months after, sinabi niya sa akin:

"ysa, di ka nagpunta sa binyag ng inaanak mo" i just stared at her. deadma.
take note, matanda pa ang anak ko sa anak niya.

medyo rude kaya lang kase yung iba kase kinukuha kang godparents hindi dahil close kayo eh, kase parang may hidden agenda sila.
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« Reply #9 on: March 20, 2014, 03:34:16 pm »
^so does that make you still a ninang even if di ka pumunta sa binyag? Sorry clueless

Sa office namin 2 of my colleagues who got married, ninang nila sa kasal yung boss namin. Never saw any difference in the workplace though. So i guess depende talaga sa tao.
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« Reply #10 on: March 21, 2014, 10:03:45 am »
^meron ibang mga parents na kahit hindi na nagpunta ang godparent eh coconsider parin niya. pero in my case, never ko inacknowledge na inaanak ko yung bata kaya hindi na naopen ulit yun kahit kelan.

unless kase sabihin ng godparent na ayaw niya maging ninong or ninang, baka considered parin sila eh.
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« Reply #11 on: March 22, 2014, 10:43:50 am »
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^so does that make you still a ninang even if di ka pumunta sa binyag? Sorry clueless

sa point of view ng husband ko, once hindi siya pumunta hindi niya yun tinanggap. unless nalang e malinaw na pumayag siya pero hindi lang siya makapunta that day.

may friend kami na kinuha ako as ninang ng baby nila. but i was sick that day and i asked my husband to attend nalang for us. he was willing even if ako ang kinuhang ninang. so i guess it depends talaga kung accepted o "mutual" yung idea ng both parties sa pagiging "ninong/ninang" walang magiging problema.

we have a ninong sa kasal na may way siya on how to turn down someone na kinukuha siyang ninong pero hindi niya tanggap. (kinuwento niya ito openly sa amin) kapag hindi niya type, he would ask yung ikakasal kung anong animal sign nila, then he would say na "oh kontra yung sign natin, it would be best that i decline para we can maintain a harmonious relationship" and true enough sumasakto nga na kontra signs nila nung hindi niya type. hindi ko alam pano niya ito ginagawa. but i guess for his age and sa narating niya nahasa na niya kung pano bumasa ng tao and kung pano niya ito gagawin. 

question: automatic ba na sa magasawa na kapag kinuhang ninong/ninang yung isa e ninong/ninang na din yung spouse?
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« Reply #12 on: March 22, 2014, 10:58:55 am »
^nope sis. if si husband ang kinuhang ninong, siya lang talaga, hindi naman automatic na si wife ninang rin.

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