How I wish it was that way. If I I want for him to initiate things it's gonna take him weeks to do that. We used to make love everyday or every other day. Hangang naging madalang nalang. When I try to touch him he would say no, bukas nalang. Pag bukas na wala naman. Of course sumasama loob ko. I just keep keep quiet and pretend nothings wrong. I try again after a day, pero wala. I try being gentle while touching him nakikikiti naman. Don't know na nga what to do eh. Kiss him wala din. Pagod sya, plenty excuses like Daming problems. Sometimes maririnig mo yun nalang ba important sa iyo? After not making love for almost a week syempre how does he expect me to react? I try to make my move pero wala. Masakit. So am I doing something wrong? Do I need to try harder?
you didn't answer yung question sa iyo. mag-asawa ba kayo? ano po ang status nyo? are you married or not? is he married to another woman or not?
additional question, do you have kids na?
you need to ask him what is his problem. kung ayaw nyang sabihin, then there might be something wrong na involved ka.
i would be straight forward. i am into this situation. mahirap. pero medyo over naman ata yung sa iyo. hindi naman ganyan kagrabe ang husband ko. yes we both make guys turn heads. i even got s*x proposals from friends and buyers (i am an online seller). and dahil sa open-minded ako, and tinatanggihan ako ng asawa ko kapag gusto ko, and dahil masakit sa babae ang matanggihan sa kama, and dahil nagbago body system ko after ligate, hindi na ako yung gaya dati na okay lang matanggihan.
i tried to change the way i dress. at age 35 years old, pinalitan ko lahat ng clothes ko, as in lahat. pati inner clothings. i wear clothes that would make me look sexy and kaakit akit sa lalaki. para pansinin nya ako (and may mga mommies kasi na hot na kakilala ng husband ko who are my friends na ren, and same building pa kung saan kami nakatira)
i told my husband na may mga nanliligaw sa akin na ibang guys, and that hindi ko sila pinapansin. sinabi ko ren ang pakay nung mga guys which is s*x. i told him how many they are, their age and race, and how i met them. i was expecting him na matamaan and matauhan na nagpapaganda ang asawa nya para sa kanya, which i told him na ren naman, always.
until nainis na ako ng todo dahil sinasabi nyang antok na sya, and lagi nya sinasabing ang taba taba ko, etc. i told him, "please naman, tulungan mo akong hindi makagawa ng kasalanan sa iyo. kasi natutukso na ako makipagsex sa iba. kasi lagi mo pinamumukha na pangit and mataba ako, and need pa kitang hintaying yayain ako for the s*x. kahit babae ako, naghahanap ren ako ng s*x."
it took me two times to tell him that then ayun. medyo natauhan. we have s*x naman at least once a week. pero yung matanggihan ang ako as wife sa kama ng husband ko, masakit sa akin, and masakit sa lahat ng babae. yun ang hindi ko na matanggap. i tried another technique that i saw here on girltalk (thanks to this forum!) minsan afternoon pa lang "nagpaparamdam" na ako. and okay naman. gumagawa na ren sya ng paraan. then medyo nageexperiment na ren kami ng iba't ibang position.
in short, need nyang matauhan. me and my husband is married since 2006 with two kids. this year month of january lang sya "natauhan".
if you did everything na, like niseduce mo na, ask him what the problem is, or even u tried my technique above (which is hindi yun white lie kasi natutukso na talaga ako as in tuksong tukso), and nothing happened. baka naman...
- may iba sya.
- naaaddict sya sa strip clubs and he prefers that kahit manuod lang sya.
- he is not that masculine. baka medyo natatauhan sya at hindi pala babae ang gusto nya.
- nag sasawa na sya sa s*x. maybe you can ask him kung nagsasawa sya.
- he got a problem na hindi nya alam kung paano nya sasabihin sa iyo. kaya pag nakikita ka nya, naaalala lang nya yung problem.
- or baka he got a problem with his tool and ayaw nyang malaman mo. check if his tool still stands up during madaling araw kapag tulog sya.
yan ang mga naiisip kong possible problem. sorry for being too straight forward
