^ I feel so sad about your situation sis. ako rin verbally (and so many others) abused before by my (ex) husband
the only way to get out of that situation sis is to get out from that relationship and person. napaka toxic niyang tao, my psychological issues siya. you cannot help her solve her mental issues, the only thing you can do is to save yourself! wala ka ng aasahan kundi sarili mo sis kaya magpaka tatag ka. nasayo nakasalalay ang freedom mo, so better start somewhere and make the first step. the rest of the steps, may makakatulong na sayo.
I think it would be best to file for resignation and work somewhere else. and before ka kumawala sa kanya, better go to the baranggay and file a blotter. kelangan mo ng tulong sis para matapos na ang pananakot at pagbabanta niya sayo, kasi kung ikaw lang nako alam na niya paano ka patitiklupin at kita naman na tumagal ka parin sa kanya kasi hindi mo nga kaya mag-isa na kumawala.
Before you do anything, pray and ask for guidance and protection. malinaw na sayo, based sa sinabi mo, na ayaw mo na yung ngyayari, at mukang nawawala narin love mo sa kanya at takot na ngayon ang nararamdaman mo. start looking for other jobs na sis, it is not good to stay in the same job where she knows how to locate you or what. pero if hindi mo kayang umalis sa trabaho mo then there is another solution para hindi na siya makalapit at magambala ka, and this is called: Protection Order. baranggay nagbibigay nito. Sa first filing nito, it is called Temporary protection order. Papapirmahan sa kanya ito, at hindi siya pwedeng pumalag. You don't have to be present when this happens, sila nalang ng mga taga baranggay. Anyway, This means that 15 days hindi ka niya puwede lapitan, kausapin, itxt lahat lahat..no communication at all..at kapag hindi siya sumunod dito ay you can just call a police and instant kulong siya. After 15 days, this can be renewed and can even be converted into a Permanent protection order. Ang kelangan kasi sa kanya is takutin narin and gisingin siya sa pagiging control freak at pagka psychotic niya
so here are your options na naisip ko:
option 1
-find another job. start looking na while you are still employed
- resign and start anew
- if live-in kayo, pack your bags and leave while she is not at home
- get the help of the baranggay and get a protection order
- ipa-blotter mo siya
- get a medico legal if you have bruises, etc from her hurting you. this will further strengthen your evidence at case
option 2
- stay in your current job
- get a protection order
- ipa-blotter mo siya
- if live-in kayo, pack your bags and leave while she is not at home
-get a medico legal if you have bruises, etc from her hurting you. this will further strengthen your evidence at case
then you'll be able to gain back your control sa life mo.
little by little start going out with your team, colleagues, etc. wala ka ng dapat ikatakot pa.
Good luck sis and hope maka alis ka na sa situation mo