sinabihan ka ni mr "muka ka naman katulong" in a joking way

[simple_G]

hi GT peeps,
ano reaction/gagawin nyo pag sinabihan kayo ng mr. nyo na "...mukha ka naman katulong eh" in a joking way naman...

ako kasi nagalit! natural sobrang sorry sya after pero di ko kinibo ng 2 days.

[gen211]

My replies would probably be...

"Edi bagay tayo... kasi ikaw mukang boy..."

Or.... "ganon? wag po kuya....." hehe (tapos haplos kay ser ng may malisya)

[DianeShishio]

I would be upset! Hahaha! Jokes are half-meant kasi.

Sinabihan na ako na "Mukha kang maglalaba" because of what I wore, hindi man "mukha kang labandera" pero nagtampo ako for a bit... 

But don't take it too personally, baka kulang ka lang sa ayos nung sinabi niya yun, must have been unusual for him to see you like that :3

[sugardrop]

Hindi pa naman ako nasabihan ng ganto but the thing is most men are aware of female insecurities based on the overwhelming amount of beauty products out there in the market alone (pa lang and much more) and how women put a lot of effort to look presentable at the very least. Either he is unaware of such or is just insensitive. Not all jokes are amusing.

But sakyan mo na lang minsan para hindi affected that much. Or surprise him one night and get all glammed up and if he asks, ask him back "eto ba ang mukhang katulong?"

[justin3]

ok na yon kesa naging mukhang aswang o bakla ka. sagad to the bones talaga ang sakit nun 

eh, how much do you know your hubby ba? ikaw lang makakasagot nun.
in a joking manner naman kamo.
sadyang palabiro ba sya? mahilig mang-asar?

what about you? iyakin ka ba? balat sibuyas? maarte? pikon? OA?
anong klaseng personality meron ka?
paano naman humantong sa ganun ang biruan? ano nasabi/ginawa mo para sabihin nya yon?

[GMGravity]

If noon niya sinabi ang ganon, baka maoffend pa ako. Hubby ko kasi hindi marunong magtimpla ng sasabihin niya, if he finds me pretty, tititigan talaga ako niyan and sasabihin ang ganda ganda ng asawa ko with matching papisil pisil pa. Pero kapag ginagawa ko iyong facial expression na nakagawian ko na yata na ayaw na ayaw niya kasi ang pangit ko daw, sasabihin niya talaga ayusin mo ngang mukha mo at seryoso pa siya niyan ha. Noon na-ooffend ako pero ngayon tinatawanan ko na lang kasi kilala ko na siya at alam ko narin anong isasagot ko sa kaniya.

[simple_G]

hehe...ayos reply mo ah gen211

sis justin3..oo palabiro sya. mahilig mang asar! pati parents nya inaasar nya. sabi ng tatay nya wag daw ako maasar kasi lalong maeenganyo. yung pinto nga ng room nya sa pinas panay butas kasi nanay nya hinahabol sya ng pamalo. panay hampas yung door. ehhehe.

pero nag super sorry na sya...ndi nya daw meant yun. nang aasar lang talaga. balat sibuyas lang talaga ko.

thank you all sa replies

[jhaz]

Nasabihan na ako ni hubby ng ganito dati but alam ko naman na mukhang dugyot ako that time kasi busy sa bahay at hindi talaga ako nakapag ayos.sinagot ko nalang sya nun na "mukhang katulong nga pero patay na patay ka naman"..

[aquacharly]

That's what our Lola used to say we shouldn't let happen to us: sa ka busy or pagod  mukhang maid na

Now, SIMPLE G: if you were looking kinda run-down when he said that --  take it constructively, always fix yourself up before he returns at day's end.
Eh sabi nya: biro?  Maybe it's time to tell him na hindi ok ang humor na nakaka sakit sa feelings ng iba.

Ano reaction ko pagsinabihan akong ganon?
I don't think masabihan ako ng ganon ever, I am always dressed to reflect what I am:  a businesswoman, a self-empowered woman.  I love myself to never ever allow myself to go looking run-down. I can afford not to ever look run-down too.  (Just saying, no bragging.)

If by some freak of event eh ma biro ako ng ganon --  I will think it over very well how he can say such a lie. What's his motive? What kind of a person is he now? How does that statement reflect the state of our relationship?  Something must be going sour or really bad, for him to make such a weird statement. 

[simang]

When your partner tells you that (whether he's a natural alaskador or not) believe him, but don't take it personally. Of all people, your partner should be the one appreciating your beauty, and if he tells you you don't look pretty, that means he thinks you're not attractive at that point in time which means he wants you to be a little conscious of how you look because he knows you are beautiful. So dont be overly sensitive when he tells you these things. But trust me, he's telling you the truth.

[Girltalker2]

Sis Simple G, my take on this issue is - kelangan mo ng self reflection.  Hindi dahil sa joke ni hubby, pero dahil sa reaction mo.  The fact na nagalit ka, ibig sabihin, there is some truth to it?  And you kinda agree with it? 

Kung hindi ka natamaan, you would just brush it aside.  Mukhang you took the joke seriously.  And mukhang naiinsecure ka nga ba sa itsura mo and nagalit ka rin kasi you felt your hubby thought of you that way (jokingly)? Then if yes, probably it's time to make a change. Magpaganda ka, palagi.  Never mo maririnig iyan kanino man.

Sometimes these jokes are an eye opener.  When I just gave birth to my second child, I was still turning 30 then, natawag akong ale.  For me that term connotes someone in their 50s and up.  So I was really depressed, kakaanak ko lang, feeling bloated and all. But I took it as a challenge.  I went to the gym, played badminton, I even enrolled myself to John Robert Powers for dressing up and make up, naging suki din ako ng Facial Care Center. Started going to the derma, started using all the lotions, body butter, moisturizers and sunblock.  Also went to the dentist for teeth whitening and was thinking of having braces done.  Nagulat nga friends ko kasi tinatanong nila kung balak ko ba daw mag artista.  So, in summary, that was the time I discovered a whole new world - the World of Beauty.     Though kinda late in my life (as a latebloomer), I never regretted it and never looked back.

TS simple_G, I am not saying na pangit ka, kelangan ka magpaganda.  But see why ka nainis when your hubby said that. 

[dimplesgon]

he is your husband, so no other person will know him better than you.

So maybe kaya ka nagalit is you believe na he meant what he said , if that's the case, just take it constructively then start taking care of yourself to look nice and all.

Look beautiful, feel beautiful and be beautiful. Go Girl! prove to hubby that you are beautiful inside out.

[princessrio]

just shrug it off. joke nga di ba? pero if affected ka, then I guess you need to stand in front of the mirror and look at yourself. sipat sipat din ng sarili pag may time.

sahm ako pero i make sure na nag-aayos ako kahit sa bahay lang. at mas nag-aayos ako pag lumalabas kami ni hubby. why? kasi baka may makasalubong kami na kakilala ni husband at sabihin e pangit ako haha.. shempre magrereflect yun kay husband di ba?

[morrigan-erinyes]

He said it jokingly. I don't see the reason why you should get mad. With how you reacted, it's likely that your husband won't joke around anymore.

[nicoletta]

Just try to avoid looking haggard so your husband doesn't call you that ever again.  So far, my husband has never joked about anything like that even though sometimes I look haggard myself as I clean the house, after that I make sure I shower right away.

[glamorosa_09]

It could mean, "honey, mag-ayos ka naman... kung hindi para saken, kahit para sayo."

There is a survey (made into a book) in US that most men care about their wife's appearance. You need not look like a model or a star, what matter is you take care of yourself. The survey/book said that when you take care of yourself, it sends the meaning to your man that you care for them too.

[Janelc]

Thank God hindi pa naman ako nasasabihan ng ganyang joke ni hubby and I don't think he will ever.   I try to always look nice when he is around lalo na pag lumalabas kami you never know who you're gonna bump into.  Kaya sis mag ayos ka lagi yung mukhang ikaw yung employer at hindi nanny hehe.

[caterpillar-girl]

First of all, the joke is mean in itself. Porket katulong panget na kagad? Losyang na kagad?

BUT, sige, let's not pretend here and be all righteous. I will get pissed off too, kahit alam kong hindi totoo. There are jokes that are just annoying and obnoxious, no matter how untrue. Siguro I'll be like, o e di sige pengeng pang shopping ngayon na! Para makabili ako ng lahat ng gusto kong magandang damit at make up.

[baliwsayo]

I'm sure may parang kurot sa puso ko pero for sure din gagawa ako ng mga hakbang para di niya na ako mabiro ulit ng ganun. Get even in a positive way ika nga. Magpapaganda ako, etc.. basta pag magkasama kami I'll make sure pagkakamalan siyang driver ko lang dahil sa ganda ko. Lol!

[Nhetskii]

ok na yon kesa naging mukhang aswang o bakla ka. sagad to the bones talaga ang sakit nun 

natawa naman ako don!!

kung ako sabihan... in a joking manner din sasabihin ko sa kanya "tadyak gusto mo?" pero titingin din ako sa salamin at medyo mag aayos...

hahaha... one time kasi kakaligo ko lang, sabi ba naman... love maligo ka na! grabe! basa basa pa yata buhok ko... Sinigawan ko nga sabay sabi! Hoy kakaligo ko lang.. sumisid ka dito sa kilikili ko nang malaman mo...! mukha ba kong mabaho?!

itong mga asawa natin.. nakakaloka minsan!