Failed marriage. I need advice.

[Cheesecak3]

Wag mo ng pahabain pa ang paghihirap mo sa kanya, end your marriage na. Hindi ka worth sa ganyan klaseng tao.

[roxykarlo]

To TS, sis move on, get a life. It's hard but would you rather want to become miserable throughout that ordeal? Pray. If nothing happens, pray harder. And live according to what you are supposed to do. You are still young, there's so much to life ahead of you. Kung kasing guwapo ni Jerry Yan ang hubby mo, I can understand, and Kung kasing yaman ni Daoming Feng ang biyenan mo, you can by means sacrifice. Joke. But hello, it's the 21st century. Go on with your life, you are better off without him.

[crzysxycl]

^haha, kaaliw ka sis. Kahit sa advice mo, kasama pa rin si JY. hehe.

Tama TS, ganyan yung tipo ng lalakeng iniiwan. Wag ka manghinayang kasi marami ka pang pwedeng gawin at marating, ang bata bata mo pa. Will pray for you sis. Take care.

[aquacharly]

madali lang ba talaga sa mga lalake magmove on kahit sabihing pamilyado na? madali ba sa kanilang  kalimutan lahat ng magandang memories

IMO, the issue is not que madali ba mag move-on or not BUT that ang mga guys -- mas madali nila ma Accept circumstances na hindi ok. Parang, o sige, di ganyan.  Ok, accept.  Not like us -- bugbugin natin isip natin how to change what we do not like.  Bugbugin natin ourselves at mga santo we pray to for help -- to change what makes us unhappy.

DAINEJEN, sa gets ko sa cuento mo. -- if you were a BFF/beloved  sister, Eto say ko:

1.  Hindi mo dapat insult ever ang  family & friends ng husband mo.  Even if sila eh Bad Influence, hindi dapat isama sa away.  Do not judge them, wala kang karapatan. Kung ano gawa nila pick-up ng hubby mo eh choice ng hubby mo at kasalanan nya lang. He is an adult with free will.

2.  Yang smoking addiction, IMO, is the hardest addiction to break.  Oo, may sakit na Nga sya, tigas pa ulo.   Pero he cannot stop it kasi  chemically dependent yan. Sabi nga ng doctor BFF ko: pero titigil yan cold turkey pang malaman may lung cancer sya.  Such is human nature. No amount of nagging and away away will make your hubby stop.   .  Convince him intelligently & let him decide.  Tell him, he will be the one to suffer, so it's his choice. Leave it at that.

3.  You have to learn to communicate better. Yung maayos na paguusap kahit ang topic eh hindi maganda.  Yang lapastanganin mo sya, is not okay.  Yang  lapastanganin mo sa parinig ng iba --  ano ka, palengkera?   Have style and breeding, lalo na pag galit ka.

4.  Do not expect perfection from anyone. Ikaw nga eh far from perfect. 
Focus on the good points & show appreciation for such.  Hahanap yan ng more ways to make you happy or give you what you want na ugali. Peksman

5.  You want him back? Throw your a Pride away & go talk to him kung saan man sya.  Hwag mo na isipin kung ano say ng ibang tao. focus: he makes you happy, not other people

6.  If after you go and talk to him eh ayaw na talaga bumalik sa yo:
         Pray hard. Tell God you want him back; but His Will be done
         Set a Deadline -- whatever you decide on. 1 day? 1 year? 1 hour?  50 years?   Yung period na you are willing to  pray hard & wait for him to come back.   After the deadline, move on; really move-on.

7.  Whether he comes back or not --  fix your ugali. Anger Management.  Do it to make yourself a better person. Do it because you want to have a good relationship with your growing child.

Tip:  when your anger boils...STOP  & breathe deeply  for just 2 seconds.  It takes just 2 seconds daw kasi to turn into a  virago or palengkerang bungagera.