How many months/years before marriage proposal?

[akosila]

 

[aquacharly]

Is it Lust or Love?
Lust is fun. Love is complicated.
Anything complicated, you'd best be able to step back from now and then to assess.
Marry for Love, & Lust. Marry for Lust?  - uh uh, no.

Don't make Life-Changing Decisions based on Emotions.
Wait. Wait for over a year. If you're both enjoying - what's a year, or more, or more more years before getting married?

That  all above are just "IMO".  What do I know of other people?

[justin3]

bro, i just came from this thread:

http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/topic,280341.0.html

MATURITY ng both parties ang mahalaga sa lagay na yan.
isama mo na kung stable na ba kayo sa buhay.
hindi naman parehong irresponsible
wala bang mga kontrabida sa inyong relasyon?

teens?... mag-aral muna kayo kids. wag yung paggawa ng kids ang inaatupag nyo

kung early 20s, kaka-graduate lang, wala pang trabaho, tatapos pagpapakasal na nasa isip nyo... dagdag problema lang kayo sa Pinas lalo na pag nagparami pa kayo ng lahi.

mid-late-30s na kayo, with stable jobs, hindi naman nagsawa sa kalalaro ng PSP, ma-barkada, mabisyo... tapos pag-aasawa ang papasukin mo? sauce!

merong kaka-graduate nga lang ng highschool, nag-asawa agad... matiwasay naman ang buhay
merong mag-lima-sampong taong nang mag-jowa/buhay mag-asawa... hindi pa humahantong sa kasalan
merong nagpa-anak para pakasalan... ayon, sila lang ng anak nya naiwan
merong ikinadena na ang lalaki para di makawala... ayon, masakit ulo nya
merong nagpakasal para masolo na... ayon, babaero pa rin ang lalaki
 

lahat ng sinabi kong ehemplo, hindi hango sa personal na buhay ko yan.
mga tunay na kwento DITO lahat yan sa Barangay GT. 

kaya, wala sa tagal yan ng ligawan at digahan.
que isang linggo o abutin man ng isang dekada.
basta ba pareho kayong MATURE na para pasukin habangbuhay ang magulong mundo bilang mag-asawa eh. eh di, GO! GO! GO!


(bro, mag accumulate ka muna ng 10-20 posts sa ibang threads para maka pag reply ka dito sa thread mo)



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[LGV]

Depends, if you or he thinks na talagang love nila isat isa and not just love, no one is perfect so dapat lang eh kung ano mang flaws ng bawat isa eh kaya talaga nilang tagalan for ever.

I just got married last Dec, my husband proposed exactly 2 mos of being BF/GF. Our relationship is not perfect pero yun nga ang alam namin pareho is that kahit anong topak ng isa eh kaya mong dalhin at hindi ka magsasawa. Thats just us, depends parin sa inyo. So it doesnt matter kung gaano katagal kahit pa last month lang yan.

[sarah29]

It's different for everyone. Kung pareho naman sila financially stable, and kung kilala nila ang isa't isa, I mean yung character ng isa't isa pati each others' family and how they act towards their family, then backet hinde?

My boyfriend proposed to me 1 year and 4 months kame.. I know it would have been earlier kung hinde kame LDR. 5 months palang kame nagsasama ng magkasama talaga. But we're getting married na in 2 months.. and both of us are very sure about our decision. So it depends talaga.

[amethyst028]

Wala naman talagang general time frame. Pero mas realistic kung mag wait ng 1yr. Kasi sa early stage/ honeymoon stage ng relationship best foot forward pa kayo pareho. You try to please each other all the time. Sabi nga pwede mo daw ma hide yung tunay na pagkatao mo for 1-2yrs. After that lalabas na yung totoo.

But everyone is different. Some couples who had a whirlwind romance stayed happy and in love through out their marriage. But they are the exception not the rule.

[teal_rayy]

It took my then bf a year to finally propose to me.  I was 30 to 31 back then, and he was younger than me.  1 year is enough to learn more about each other, quirks, outbursts, family background to make an informed lifetime decision 

Given our level of maturity, hindi pa nga perfect ang relationship namin now that we are married. 

[gwendy730]

I used to think there was no exact timeframe. I mean, as someone who was in an LDR, my hubby was quick to propose (actually he proposed marriage a week after we met online LOL) but it didn't become official until after a year and two months. Then we went through a 2 year engagement and now we're getting closer to our first year of marriage.

Like I said, I used to think no need ang exact time frame, but I met this couple, 6 months pa lang sila magkakilala, pakasal na. Mutual decision. 2 years into the marriage, parang world war III palagi because apparently in those 6 months, both were putting their best feet forward. There was love for better, but wala for worst.

Hindi talaga lumalabas ang totoong ugali ng SO niyo until after you've known him/her for a time. So yeah, to me, importante na masmalaki time spent kasi you'll be able to gauge if you'll be able to deal with him/her forever. There are a few lucky ones, but majority of quick engagements like that don't equate to a happy marriage.

[simang]

I know a couple who got engaged 2 months after being bf-gf, tapos they had a one year engagement before nagpakasal. So far, okay naman sila and i'm guessing hindi sila nawala sa honeymoon stage. Mag one year pa lang silang married.

Another friend of mine 10 years silang bf gf before the guy proposed. Yung sister ko naman 9 years sila ng partner nya, mag 3 yrs na silang married.

I guess depende din talaga sa couple, some guys tend to rush into marrying their partner especially after a failed previous relationship. I think on average, 1-2 yrs before engagement. It's the right amount of time to really know the person fully, pero not to much time naman na naging kampante na kayo masyado sa being bf gfz

[katrinac]

No exact time frame, i suppose.
In our case, yung husband ko proposed to me nung mag 2 years na kami bf and gf. Then after nun, nag plan na kami. yung plan ng wedding namin 1 year.

My friend first day palang magkakilala nila ng bf, naging sila na. (parang set up ata yun) Then napagusapan na yung wedding preps kaagad. And they are happily married naman ngayon. 

Maganda rin na mas matagal din makilala yung guy/girl before ikasal, pero di naman lahat ng matatagal na relationship eh nauuwi sa kasalan. Yung kapatid ko, may 7years na gf dati, pero yung nameet nya yung girl na bago (asawa na ni kuya), naging sila na. So wala padin assurance yung long term na relationship. Though nakakatuwa din yung mga couple na naging matagal mag bf-gf, then ending sila din makakatuluyan.

[amethyst028]

Paano kung ganito situation. Guy and girl are both mid 30's, both well off ang family, both are doing great financially, both has a house and a car already (nabili nila even before they met). Magkasundo sa lahat ng bagay, parehong negosyante, parehong simple lang and down to earth. Parehong mature and hindi nag aaway.

Dapat ba patagalin pa? since both mid 30's and established na ok na ba kung mga 6months since naging sila ma engage na? And maybe 1yr wedding prep? Is that still too soon given na pareho sila healthy mentally, emotionally and spiritually? Pag medyo may edad na factor pa din kaya ang bilis ng pace ng relationship or tama lang since pareho naman mature na?

[simang]

^depende sa personal goals nyo. Some people at that age, priority na nila talaga ang magpakapamilya. Some naman, is gusto pa ng further personal advancement.

My sister is 32, her bf is 33, both have high paying jobs, both have their own cars, my sister is currently investing on her own house. They don't have plans of getting married yet, i asked my sister why -- the money she's earning now is enough for all her own needs and luho and savings. She wants her future kids to go to Ateneo (specific talaga haha) and in a few years hindi nya pa daw yun kaya since she's paying for her house now. Her main point is, at this age she wants to be stable (yung tipong anytime mawalan sya ng trabaho, hindi sya magpapanic). The marriage and kids will eventually come, but nor anytime soon.

[LGV]

Yes possible. 2 mos palang kame ni hubby na officially bf/gf nung nagpropose sya and we both felt na kame na talaga. Actually kahit nung bago pa man din sya magpropose ganun na talaga ang feeling namin.

[lirpa]

6 months and nagsisisi ako. I should have waited pa na sure na sure ako bago nagpakasal.

[simang]

Kung may magtatanong sa akin kung gaano kami matagal before kami magdecide na magpakasal, wala akong isasagot kase wala kaming official date kung kelan naging kame. We don't celebrate monthsaries/ anniversaries. Nagkakilala kame feb 2013 and the decision to get married became official Aprl 2014. Even before that, we've been very open about our future plans and that includes building a family together.

[redsh0es]

3 weeks! Bilis?

[romantico]

I know a guy who courted a girl for a month then told her they should move it to the next level already and since the girl is kinda desperate due to her age plus siya nalang ang hindi pa nag aasawa sa family nila pumayag siya. Tapos after a month of being in a relationship she proposed to the girl na. The girl said yes and was very happy. Even the girl's dad kept saying ang swerte daw ng anak niya. Kaya lang nagkagulo during the planning of the wedding to the point na nilusob ni guy yung tatay ng girl kaya the wedding was called off. Until now, hindi nila alam ano background ni guy pati ng family niya at kung bakit nagmamadali magpakasal kay girl. Duda nila habol ni guy pera ni girl since yung family ni girl very uber rich. I guess wala talagang time frame and it all depends on the couple. As long as the love is there and emotionally stable parehas then go.

[bonita111809]

second month namin as bf/gf, during my father's wake. sabi daw sa kanya ng dad ko alagaan nya daw ako. parang premonition daw ni dad. I told him not to make promises on my father's grave. hindi ko inintindi yung proposal na yun kasi sobrang early pa talaga and I was mourning. he proposed again before our third year anniv, I said yes. got married on the day of our third year anniv. been together now for five years, happy and contented. 

[MissJoMarch]

My boyfriend proposed to me last May. It was the month we celebrated our 7th year anniversary.