Happy Marriages

[rhamneroj16]

^ Awww... Thanks so much sissy! We're still praying parin naman. And you're right. Whether may baby kami or wala, it doesn't change the fact that we got married because we love each other. Kung bigyan ng baby, salamat ng madami kay God. Kung hindi, ok lang din kasi we have each other. Happy na ako na may partner ako in life, that I have someone to grow old with.

Very inspiring talaga. Dahil yang mga bagay nayan napag uusapan namin ni hubby:) marami pala talaga ganyan ang situation. Madami nagsasabi na paglaki ng mga magiging anak natin darating ang araw na iiwan din nila tayo dahil bubuo na rin sila ng sariling pamilya. Pero it doesnt mean na against ako sa pagkakaroon ng babies. Having baby is such a best gift ever. But having partner in your life is such a blessings from God dahil di nya tayo pababayaan na tumanda mag isa

[nicoletta]

Another positive story here! 

It takes two to tango talaga.  I noticed that most relationships that work, give and take.  And most people tell me super mahal ako ng husband ko, patay na patay yata, joke!  Even though we can afford to have a maid or eat out from time to time, I try to to cook him dinner parin which he appreciates.

May moments that we have mga disagreements, but we always figure something out.  One more thing pa is that I am independent.  I help him out not only with maintenance of the house, but with finances din.  We enjoy the same things, like travel and simple things like watching movies.  From the start kasi ok naman siya sa family ko, and I'm ok sa family niya.  And now, I'm pregnant na!  So happy to have a new addition in our family!

[ri-anne]

just want to share this mga sis:
 7Things I Know For Sure About Happy Marriages
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/fawn-weaver/7-things-i-know-for-sure-_b_4591187.html

[rhamneroj16]

Another positive story here! 

It takes two to tango talaga.  I noticed that most relationships that work, give and take.  And most people tell me super mahal ako ng husband ko, patay na patay yata, joke!  Even though we can afford to have a maid or eat out from time to time, I try to to cook him dinner parin which he appreciates.

May moments that we have mga disagreements, but we always figure something out.  One more thing pa is that I am independent.  I help him out not only with maintenance of the house, but with finances din.  We enjoy the same things, like travel and simple things like watching movies.  From the start kasi ok naman siya sa family ko, and I'm ok sa family niya.  And now, I'm pregnant na!  So happy to have a new addition in our family!

Love it na patay na patay! haha. kasi ganun din yata kami patay na patay kami sa isa't isa which is very helpful para tumagal at maging masaya yung marriage namin. dapat talaga super sweet at walang magbabago. Congrats sa inyo!

@ri-anne thank you sis!

[Ms.Cacao70%]

marriage becomes more meaningful when you both learned to overcome every obstacle that comes your way. you become stronger, you learn to appreciate each other even more and the relationship becomes more rewarding. couples who decide to stay married even after 10 years are happier stronger couples in my opinion. well of course, it doesn't apply to all. usually kase ang pinakamahirap ay ang first five to seven years kase dyan lalabas lahat ng problema, lahat ng personality clashes, lahat ng issues na tinatago ninyo sa isat-isa, issues sa family, yan din ang pinakamalakas ang tukso.

[rhamneroj16]

marriage becomes more meaningful when you both learned to overcome every obstacle that comes your way. you become stronger, you learn to appreciate each other even more and the relationship becomes more rewarding. couples who decide to stay married even after 10 years are happier stronger couples in my opinion. well of course, it doesn't apply to all. usually kase ang pinakamahirap ay ang first five to seven years kase dyan lalabas lahat ng problema, lahat ng personality clashes, lahat ng issues na tinatago ninyo sa isat-isa, issues sa family, yan din ang pinakamalakas ang tukso.

hala. kinakabahan ako LOL but for sure malalapagsan din yan kapag mahal nyo at tanggap ang isa't - isa

[yuri715]

nakaka inspire yung mga stories niyo 
kami naman ng hubby ko mahigit one year na din kasal. friends na kami before and nag move siya sa states thanks sa hi tech na panahon ngayon at consistent yung pag uusap namin hanggang pumasok siya sa militay then pinetition niya ko. super happy naman at mag kasama na kami ngayon. wala akong masabi sa ka sweetan ng asawa ko, at super thankful ako kasi hindi siya gaya nung ibang guys na medyo mahiyain pag dating sa mga feelings or sa pagiging sweet in public. madalas nga tinatanong ng mga friends namin kung nag aaway ba daw kami kasi parang hindi eh,haha! sabi nila nasa honeymoon stage pa lang daw kami and im praying na sana tuloy tuloy lang though minsan di naman maiiwasan yung mga tampuhan. as of now wala pa kami plano mag ka baby. pero tanong ko lang sis, minsan kasi medyo naiirita ako kapag natatanong yung iba kung kailan namin plano mag ka baby. hindi naman sa ayaw ko pero wala pa talaga sa plano namin. hindi naman kasi porket nag asawa ka na eh automatic gagawa na agad ng baby diba? syempre lalu na ako kadadating ko lang dito ibang lugar, walang kamag anak kaya mahirap talaga.

[Ms.Cacao70%]

hala. kinakabahan ako LOL but for sure malalapagsan din yan kapag mahal nyo at tanggap ang isa't - isa

actually it's easier said than done  marriage is a lot work. but i want you to hold on to that thought dahil yan ang isa sa mga alas mo when the problem starts coming. i dont want to sugarcoat things to you, ive been married for 12 years, been through so many ups and downs but im still here and i can say im glad that im still with the man i chose to marry 12 years ago . i dont have everything i want, but i have all that i need and im thankful for that. just dont expect too much, enjoy the ride, appreciate every little things, dont forget to say sorry, choose your battles wisely, be open and honest. huwag mong i set aside ang issues na mahalaga sa yo kahit hindi sa kanya dahil takot ka na mag-away kayo. kasi baka yan ang maging mitsa ng paghihiwalay ninyo later on. 

[Ms.Cacao70%]

^^don't give in to pressure. ganyan din kami ni hubby 12 years ago, pareho kaming bagong dating sa bansang ito. bagong kasal at napakadaming adjustments. on top of that, people around us were pressuring us to have kids na. nakakapikon at nakakainis minsan pero after 3 years at hindi pa rin ako mabuntis,  i discovered na may problem ako sa ovary ko. i had surgery to fix it. now i have 2 kids. but i can so relate to you. pero huwag mo ding patagalin, siguro 1-2 years, kase baka kung gusto mo na, mahirapan ka naman masaya din ang may baby lalo na kung kayong dalawa lang sa isang foreign land.   

[rhamneroj16]

Ms.Cacao70%
- Thank you for sharing you thoughts and experienced kasi ako kapag alam ko magaaway na kami binaba ko yung pride ko. Takot kasi ako kapag nagagalit sya. Okay lang ba kapag ganon? lagi ako nagsosorry kahit alam ko na wala naman ako ginagawang mali. Kasi bata pa lang kami im only 23 years old and hubby ko naman 22 yrs old. Wala pa plan magbaby after 3 years till makuha nya ako dito sa pinas. Naisip ko lang na masyado pa kami bata.

[sarah29]

Thanks sisses sa mga kwento nyo. It's nice to hear happy marriages once in a while. Pansin ko puro bad marriages din kase ang laging stories nailalabas.

Anyway, I am two months away from my wedding, and I can say things are better for the both of us. Nawala na din anxiety, and more, and more ko na-ttrust yung fiance ko that he will take of me at di sya mangangaliwa someday.. haha! Nagpapacounsel na din sya sa Pastor namen ngayon for marriage, and pag uwi ko sa Pinas, syempre counseling agad ako.

All I can say right now na I'm very thankful for my fiance. Lahat ata ng friends and family ko gustong gusto sya, at isa lang din sinasabi.. that he's a good man. And totoo naman talaga yun. Wala akong problema sa kanya. Hinde mabarkada, hinde maluho, walang bisyo at higit sa lahat may takot sa Diyos at may desire na mas mapalapit sya sa Diyos. Although he's not perfect, far from it.. pero he's the perfect fit for me. Parang puzzle nga. hehe.

Siguro nga, I just have to trust nalang, and syempre ako din, as a wife-to-be dapat try to make myself better din for him.

[rhamneroj16]

Si hubby din almost perfect for me. very responsible, hardworking, super sweet, lovable, may takot din sa diyos.. gustong gusto sya ng family ko ,friends , relatives, and mga ka officemate ko. Easy to be with and marunong talaga makisama. One thing i know about him ay love na love nya ako. lol

Ayoko nga basahin yung iba topic dito about bad marriages and sad wives. Nakakastress:D

[bluegintonic]

Agree with Aquacharly!

Kabi-kabila ang stories ng failed marriages and dapat siguro, mas dumami naman din stories ng happy marriages. Personally speaking, I agree with the sisses here, it takes a lot of work and effort to stay married and happily at that.

I learned-
 
1- To forgive is the best way to get along.Hindi dapat nagkikimkim ng sama ng loob.Kung may nagkamali, matutong magpatawad/humingi ng tawad.At kung nagkamali, wag na ulitin.Sa Nagpatawad, wag na ibalik ng ibalik yung issue kasi walang peace sa ganun.

2-To work as a team.There is no I in team,Wala ding ME lang-dapat laging US,OURS ang paiiralin.Kung ano pagkukulang ng isa, matutong magpuno yung may sobra.Not only financially but with time,effort,caring etc.

3- To always respect the " quirks" of your partner, kasi aminin natin lahat naman tayo meron nun.

4- To never speak ill of your spouse to other people, not even your family.

5- To try your best to live as a new family away from his/hers family. The worst kind of marital conflicts arise from the INLAWS. Not saying don't ever visit them, but minimize.The more you let other people know about your lives, mas maraming makikisawsaw, mas magulo.

6- Have a more realistic picture of your spouse and your self. It does not take perfect persons to make a happy marriage but two people who continuously strive to put efforts for the other's happiness.

[rhamneroj16]

Agree with Aquacharly!

Kabi-kabila ang stories ng failed marriages and dapat siguro, mas dumami naman din stories ng happy marriages. Personally speaking, I agree with the sisses here, it takes a lot of work and effort to stay married and happily at that.

I learned-
 
1- To forgive is the best way to get along.Hindi dapat nagkikimkim ng sama ng loob.Kung may nagkamali, matutong magpatawad/humingi ng tawad.At kung nagkamali, wag na ulitin.Sa Nagpatawad, wag na ibalik ng ibalik yung issue kasi walang peace sa ganun.

2-To work as a team.There is no I in team,Wala ding ME lang-dapat laging US,OURS ang paiiralin.Kung ano pagkukulang ng isa, matutong magpuno yung may sobra.Not only financially but with time,effort,caring etc.

3- To always respect the " quirks" of your partner, kasi aminin natin lahat naman tayo meron nun.

4- To never speak ill of your spouse to other people, not even your family.

5- To try your best to live as a new family away from his/hers family. The worst kind of marital conflicts arise from the INLAWS. Not saying don't ever visit them, but minimize.The more you let other people know about your lives, mas maraming makikisawsaw, mas magulo.

6- Have a more realistic picture of your spouse and your self. It does not take perfect persons to make a happy marriage but two people who continuously strive to put efforts for the other's happiness.

I really love it! Thanks for sharing na stress ako dun sa mga nababasa ko para tuloy ako napaparanoid haha

[ri-anne]

having a happy marriage is a choice by both the husband and the wife. Both should be willing to work together. mahirap magkaron ng happy marriage kung isa lang ang nag-eeffort.

things i've learned over the 9 years as a wife...

- don't nag.

- give him space, his own me-time.

- don't sweat the small stuff

- have your own me-time, go to the gym, learn new hobbies, etc

- have fun together. kulitan.

- if disagreement arises, learn to communicate effectively.

- Open and Honest and Constant communication sa isat isa is IMPT!

- don't neglect S3xY time with hubby.

- appreciate him. as a person, a husband, a father and a lover. even tge small things he does

- eto favorite ko: If you want to be treated like a Queen, treat him like a King. 

[cosmeticsurgerygirl]

Pray and make God the center of your marriage.  Be your husband's lover, best friend, cheerleader, confidante, etc.  Do not expect but be grateful for the unexpected extras or surprises.  Be your own woman.  Never nag.

I 100% agree. If God is the center of any relationship, then it will be strong as oak.

[frappysabz]

marriage becomes more meaningful when you both learned to overcome every obstacle that comes your way. you become stronger, you learn to appreciate each other even more and the relationship becomes more rewarding. couples who decide to stay married even after 10 years are happier stronger couples in my opinion. well of course, it doesn't apply to all. usually kase ang pinakamahirap ay ang first five to seven years kase dyan lalabas lahat ng problema, lahat ng personality clashes, lahat ng issues na tinatago ninyo sa isat-isa, issues sa family, yan din ang pinakamalakas ang tukso.

super agree. we are 5 years of being married this march 20. dami nga namin pinag daanan, and tingin ko mas madami pa dadating sana malagpasan namin lahat yun

[kikaygimikera]

Hi all, I am celebrating our 1st Anniversary as husband & wife this month of March and still nasa 'Honeymoon Stage' pa lang kami although naka encounter na kami ng mga ilan-ilang pagsubok like disagreements and stuff.

Overall, masasabi ko na Happy ang marriage ko. Tama ang ibang sisses natin, hindi palaging masaya. May times na pareho kayong may topak ni mister pero ang masasabi ko eh yun yung mga instances na makikilala niyo ang isa't--isa. Lagi lang tatandaan ang gift of marriage na binigay ni Lord, na iisang tao na lang kayo, dapat partner kayo sa lahat ng ginagawa niyo.

This is my second marriage. I don't want to compare it with my first one pero ang masasabi ko lang eh, it's really up to you two if you want it to work out. Also naniniwala ako na both ready dapat kayong dalawa sa mga pagsubok.

Sobrang happy ako sa asawa ko, kahit  may disagreements kami -- nagpapause kami to say na happy kaming dalawa na kami ang magkasama sa mga ganitong sitwasyon - tapos kiss and okay na kaming dalawa.

Thankful and will be forever grateful for my husband.

[itsnikimendoza]

Hi everyone! I am new to this thread, I just got married last January, and syempre nasa honeymoon stage pa kami ni hubby. I love reading posts here, I am a hopeless believer of happily ever after.

I don't want to sound idealistic, bago pa lang kami, pero since day 1 of courtship, my husband loved me more and more. I've been through failed relationships before, and I must say that my husband is really God's gift to me. Sobrang sweet at maalaga. Everytime stressed ako sa work, lagi nia pinapaalala na andon sya lagi for me. May misunderstandings din along the way pero sobrang understanding nya na lagi nia akong pinapakinggan.

Just sharing my thoughts, keep your inspiring stories coming.

[jeune]

Marriage is really a work in progress and ours is far from perfect but we work together to have a happy and harmonious union putting God in the center of it all. It requires a lot of faith, hope, love, patience, understanding, respect and so on.

We compliment each other, we talk our differences and opinions, we laugh together, share house chores, we travel, we try different food, we let ourselves get cray cray sometimes, we go on dates, i let him watch his anime he let me watch my korean drama . I love being married, it gives me great accomplishment as a wife knowing that my man is well taken care of and that he's happy and loved.