how to be an honor student

[joevicko]

hi mga ka GT: any idea, suggestions, opinions? para maging masipag sa pag aaral ang toddler ninyo.. better is magiging honor pa sila.. panong pag momotivate gagawin ninyo? TIA

[sugardrop]

Ang ginawa sakin dati ng daddy ko, tinutukan nya talaga ako sa studies. And may reward system. For every exam na ma-100 ko, I get 100 bucks as well. Eventually, tinanggal din yung reward system nung ako na mismo, on my own, wanted to get perfect, or at least high grades. And super patience talaga is needed like if hindi maintindihan the first time, explain lang nag explain in ways that the kid will understand. Don't show na medyo naf-frustrate if the kid didn't get it the first time.

[anslim]

hi mga ka GT: any idea, suggestions, opinions? para maging masipag sa pag aaral ang toddler ninyo.. better is magiging honor pa sila.. panong pag momotivate gagawin ninyo? TIA

Let your toddler feel that learning is fun, let him/her learn something new each day and make them apply it. I would use the reward system but only for a short time. It would  be a big help if the parents will be hands-on with their learning.

[chicafabulosa]

What my parents and also hubby's parents used reward system for me and him. Right now my son excels in school too. We are using same technique. He knows if no star (for normal days lang) he cant have mcdo or sbarro (fave snack nya kasi). So he strives hard talaga. Plus if its quarterly, we give him certain amount for the award he will get (1st it will this xx amount) (2nd this amount) hanggang 3rd. Pag fourth na, wala ng price.

Then we are teaching him rin to save his awards. Bata pa lang kasi sya like 1 yr old lagi ko na sya kasama sa bank. So pagbigay ng monetary award, he will give it to me and he will ask me to put it in his bank account. If he likes buying something he will ask me to buy it for him then save the rest to his bank.

[sugardrop]

Reward system is effective if guided by the parents. It should be used as a motivation and not as a form of bribery. The parents should be able to explain it to the kids in such a manner that they would easily understand and "tumatak sa mind nila" why it is being done.

Naalala ko lang what my dad did. Since he saw that I love reading Archie comics, what he did was read through the new ones and if he knew there are terms or words I do not know, he will put the definitions somewhere on that page so that I would know what those words mean. It's not exactly spoon feeding but it is his way to add learning to something I enjoy doing. Plus it also helps enhance the vocabulary because not all kids would ask their parents what a certain word means.

However, I agree that it is equally  important to allow the kids to learn on their own as it will teach them how to be resourceful, independent, and self-sufficient. I believe that the reward system should be used only to jump start their motivation to excel and has to end at some point. Otherwise, it might give the kids the wrong impression that they have to do well only because there is a reward in store for them and that's it. Parang classical conditioning lang.

[Irtwisted]

I don't think it's good to pressure kids (however indirectly) to be an honour student. Young children should be encouraged to enjoy school and learning first. When my son was still studying in a traditional school as a nursery student, one mother was so keen to push her child to the top 10, reviewing reading skills even on weekends. the kid was 4. that was just too much in my opinion.

[KVsWahmmy]

Depende siguro kung ilang taon na. Sa preschool, I think I think what's essentially more important is to establish good study habits. Yung alam nila na pag study time, study time talaga. Yes you can also make learning fun para mas ma-enjoy nila yung study session, pero you still have to make it clear to them na there's a time for free play, and a time for fun studying - na magkaiba yon. With my nursery student, ganun kami everyday, 15-20 minutes study time sa bahay, except for weekends. After that, she can play na. Every once in a while, like when we're on the road, I 'quiz' her. Like now they're doing subtraction, out of the blue tatanungin ko sya, and we make it like a game to pass time habang nagbibiyahe. Or I point out objects and we practice spelling naman or alphabet sounds. Stuff like that. Enjoy naman sya, naprapractice pa.

As a parent, tutok din talaga. Mageffort ka to sit down with them and review schoolwork, or assist them with homework. Pero NEVER do their homework ha. May nakita ko sa school ng anak ko last time, nakalimutan gawin ng anak nya yung homework, ayun, sya ang gumawa! Nakakaloka lang. Assist them lang with homework ha, let them answer on their own, guide ka lang with instructions ganyan, so they learn how to do it.

IMO naman, it's normal for parents to feel the desire na gawing honor student yung anak nila - even in a stage as early as preschool, especially if you see their potential, na alam mong kaya nila. Pero, based on my experience, what you have to control is how you motivate them to excel, minus the pressure.  It's challenging to do that actually, pero dapat ganun talaga - para they know na hindi kailangan perfect, but they should always do their best. You can take cues from your kid, for example pag nagrereview kayo tapos after some time nakikita mo na pagod na, stop ka muna. In my daughter's school, there's also a mom like that in Irtwisted's situation, na alam kong gustong-gusto din pumasok sa top 10 yung anak nya, ngayon nakikita ko sila reviewing lessons sa play area/waiting area before the kids go into the classroom. I was thinking perhaps wala sila time to do that at home, pero naisip ko lang kawawa naman yung bata kasi nasa play area sila, lahat ng classmate nya naglalaro, tapos ayun yung bata, nagrereview na parang may exam lang.

[DianeShishio]

I've always enjoyed learning and had a penchant for reading when I was younger. But when they started to "train" me, my grades spiraled downwards.

Wag na lang pwersahin ang bata, kahit anong age pa. Instead, instill the habit of reading and a set time for studying. Take the time to teach them and explain, however, just as what other Gtalkers have advised, NEVER DO THEIR HOMEWORK.

Our family has had a good experience with Kumon, although I don't suggest any kind of tutoring on a regular basis. Try Kumon/tutoring pag nahihirapan na talagang mag catch-up ang anak mo. I've seen a lot of children who are tutored through and through na sobrang hirap na mag-study ng lessons on their own. :/

[peewee]

a lot has to do with developing the right study habits from the time the child goes to school. for example, you can set aside 1 hour a day for pre-schoolers, gradually increasing as they progress into elementary, hs and college. it is also in how the child is disciplined as well. during the hour set aside for studying, they have to do just that. no distractions (tv, mobile phone, computer games, etc).

make learning fun and creative as well, and not the traditional read all these books. interactive learning is good especially for children. come up with activities to stimulate imagination. eg when counting, use colored popsicle sticks, cut-out pictures, etc.

develop a love for reading. it will be very helpful in the future.

parents should be there to guide, not to do the homework per se.

my daughter has been a consistent honor student from pre-school until now (college).

[stormy]

Walang honor system sa school ng anak ko. Napaka nga lang na ang hirap magkamali sa mga tests dahil zero-based grading sila. Kapag kaunti lang test items mamali ka lang ng 2 e 80 na.

Gusto ko madevelop study habits ng anak ko kaya napadpad ako dito sa thread sana may magshare. Iwas rin ako sa tutor dahil gusto ko sana masanay sya na walang sinasandalan kaso ang hirap pala.

[marose17]

In the school of my sons, may Honors system but no ranking.  I do not pressure my kids too much on getting the right grades.  What I do stress is striving for excellence in what they do.     Ang puwede na ay hindi puwede para sa akin.   One made it to First Honors and the other one missed it by decimal points.  That's okay for me because the latter one's grades really improved during the third and fourth quarters. 

I don't really use the reward system for my children.  However, on the occasions when I feel they deserve a treat, I usually spend time with them and go to their favorite bookstore to buy books they have chosen.

I hope it's true what others have posted here regarding reading.  My sons love to read and being read to and I hope this will lead them to the path of learning.

Regarding tutors, since I am a working mom, I have no choice but to send my sons to a tutor so they can manage their schoolwork.  My sons are playful kasi and need guidance pa.  I'm fortunate because the tutor and I see eye to eye when it comes to training the boys.  She does not spoon feed my boys.   Instead, she lets them do their work first and just supplements what they have learned in school.  It also helps that their sessions are in a small group setting with their friends.  They enjoy doing their homework together at the tutor's place.

[gannderos]

Hey, company. There are several ideas. First, you need to constantly, learn everything, not think about entertainment and recreation, and then you will be able to be just such a student. And the second way is to use services that write essays for students for money. For example, this DoMyEssay service. When I have a question about who can write an essay for me, I immediately remember this service. I don?t know how to become an honor student in another way.