To guys, ever had a gf na hindi ka ganun ka nagagandahan?

[andi16]

Youthful beauty fades with time, but, with cultivation, inner beauty grows richer.

[Katcatz]

on my case, the my ex-girlfriends are not that 'kagandahan' types. mapuputi lang at charming 

there are still men like me, who looks at character more rather than looks. i get attracted to beautiful/pretty girls like all other men do. but the beauty outside, may not be the same as someone's inside, and that facade does not last as much someone's inner beauty.

my wife, i can say she's pretty and cute and ofcourse charming din, pero hindi sobrang kagandahan. and the best part is, she has a golden heart. she's the most honest, kind and caring person that i have met in my entire life she's a blessing. and i always tell her that she's the most beautiful girl in my world and that no one will ever surpass her beauty inside and out 

i love this post

[hisana]

^ Maybe she knows how to make him feel good?

What my guy friend said also!

my wife, i can say she's pretty and cute

Can I just clarify, hindi ba "pretty and cute" means maganda na rin? Sorry, napaisip lang ako bigla when I read it. So "maganda" in this topic refers to the gorgeous artistahin/model types only?

[Prunella]

^ My husband said the same.

Men are visual creatures in general, but for long term partners they tend to look beyond appearances na.

Anyway, back to the topic,  maybe the Guytalkers  are pertaining to drop dead gorgeous girls (guys, correct me if I'm wrong)? For me, cuteness is a completely different ballgame eh. To each his/her own, though.

[sacred cow]

as the OP, when I said hindi ganun kagandahan...I'm referring to average looking girls to below average. hindi rin yung drop dead gorgeous ang tinutukoy namin tulad ng victoria secret models when we say maganda, cute or pretty, as long as maraming mag-aagree that she looks good/pleasing to the eyes.

to be blunt, I'm asking fellow guytalkers if they experienced having a gf wherein personally para sa kanila, they believe that they can do better when it comes to their gf's looks but settled because of her other attributes

[Girltalker2]

It happens. Napapatingin ngako minsan sa mga couples na ganyan, kasi di sya conventional.  The guy is average looking pero the girl is really swangit (sorry to be mean pero totoo talaga).  I don't see this often in Manila bec women in generally put on make up and has good hygiene. 

Yesterday lang I was at Mcdo nakakita ako ng very sweet na couple. and my BF is laughing and laughing, I said you are mean. Wala naman syang sinabi but I know what's going on in his mind. He said they are really in love.  The girl does not have makeup, has glasses, mataba na naka Tshirt and pants, labas 3 layers of bilbil.  She is running through her fingers on his lips/in his mouth.  Ayoko na tingnan.  And it just amazes me how love can really be the main reason for these types of occurences.  It happens.  Love is Blind.

[baliwsayo]

hahaha...oo nga! tapos women usually get less attractive as they age while men get yummier

Excuse me, I don't agree with this. Sa mga reunion namin, mga guy classmates namin puro wrinkles at tanders looking na.. kaming mga girls ang yummy pa din (mga boys mismo namin aminado diyan)

[sacred cow]

Excuse me, I don't agree with this. Sa mga reunion namin, mga guy classmates namin puro wrinkles at tanders looking na.. kaming mga girls ang yummy pa din (mga boys mismo namin aminado diyan)

good for you and your friends then if you're still attractive/yummy as compared to your male peers. I assume you guys are between 25-30. however you and your batchmates are just a small sample size or "exceptions'' and could not be used to represent the rest of society. I believe women enjoy the peak of their attractiveness from 18 up to their 20s and then reach a steady decline once they reach their 30's, coupled with sagging skin and the improbability of childbirth. on the other hand, men don't get to reach their peak until they are in their 30's since by that time, he’s young enough to retain his physique in better part, but old enough to have attained social and professional maturity, and the decline in attractiveness for males is not as fast as the drop experienced by females of the same age.

Which is why more women prefer to get married earlier than men since they know they have more options in men while they are still enjoying their high sexual market value and know that as they get older their options would decrease since they wouldn't be as attractive and they would get competition from younger females while men don't have the same conundrum, since older men (30's -40's) could still be appealing to women of all ages.

If you're wondering if I just pulled this from my a**, here are other sources that would support what I just said

http://www.justfourguys.com/quantifying-sexual-market-value/

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-case-for-an-older-woman/

http://therationalmale.com/2013/06/20/smv-ratios-attachment/

[Prunella]

I know a lot of women who are ageing gracefully.

Actually, I know more women who look good for their age than men.

[little_princess]

^ Maybe she knows how to make him feel good?

Maybe but then I dont think it compensates on how she treats him.

[Girltalker2]

Excuse me, I don't agree with this. Sa mga reunion namin, mga guy classmates namin puro wrinkles at tanders looking na.. kaming mga girls ang yummy pa din (mga boys mismo namin aminado diyan)

This is because of the "maintenance" the girls have to do these days to maintain themselves.

I think it is proven na for both men and women, take away all the cosmetics, lotions and what have yous, men just age better.  Wala nga silang nilalagay sa mukha nila, and yet di ganun ka tanda ang itsura nila. Of course, not all din. Yung mga nakakalbo mas mabilis tumanda tingnan.   

For women, again, in general, kapag walang beauty regimen, walang lotions, body butter, moisturizers, sunblock, not much exercise, their wrinkles just form earlier naturally.  They gain weight naturally.  They also tend to age faster.

[krnmprl]

i have a good looking guy friend who will never even go out pag hindi pasado yung girl sa looks department. he has a ton of girls because he's a really nice guy. plus gwapo din. minsan i admire him for this, because sadly, i would sometimes judge guys by their choice of a spouse/girlfriend. i would wonder what's wrong with him if i see a a picture of his girl na hindi maganda un girl. i saw this in a movie, how it's an indication that a guy's got low self confidence if he's dating someone that's not as good looking as he is.

i never feel this way about my female friends though. i would always just assume, maybe he's smart or he's rich, kaya she settled.

personally, being a girl, most of my exes are not very good looking, since i really value other aspects. like, last year i dated someone who was just so hot, pero jerk, but i kept telling myself na minsan okey lang ma short circuit ang brain because of hotness, but in the end i regretted it and felt it was such a waste of time, miski pag tinignan mo ang pictures sa facebook very understandable naman my mistake. but i think dating someone that was that good looking made me more discerning with regards to more important qualities like intelligence and kindness and smartness.

right now im considering someone average/below average looking. pero maayos naman manamit, and neat and presentable. i think un ang mas importante. how people present themselves, that they care about being well groomed and being fit. not necessarily just the good looks.

but i admit i really really like it when someone very hot is trying to overcome his hotness and become something more than just a pretty boy.

[sacred cow]

because sadly, i would sometimes judge guys by their choice of a spouse/girlfriend. i would wonder what's wrong with him if i see a a picture of his girl na hindi maganda un girl. i saw this in a movie, how it's an indication that a guy's got low self confidence if he's dating someone that's not as good looking as he is.

Unfortunately I also think this way (which gusto ko na talaga baguhin especially ngayon 2014), masyado din ako judgmental sa friends kong hindi ganun kagaganda ang mga gf and hindi level sa itsura ng friend ko. Iniisip ko na siguro nagsettle na lang siya sa babaeng 'to kasi walang magkagusto sakanyang maganda.

however, upon reading this article:

http://www.girlschase.com/content/lower-your-standards-and-date-hotter-girls

may findings that

"on average men actually prefer more attractive short-term mates than they do long-term mates. Put another way, a man may be willing to settle for a less attractive longer term mate who has more of the other qualities the study's found men searching for something serious are looking for (that she's desirous of commitment, not sexually experienced, not promiscuous, etc.)."

"Beauty is more important to most men for hooking up than it is for getting a girlfriend."

regarding self confidence or self-esteem, may nakalagay din sa article na yan that studies show

"men with high self-esteem have lower standards for short-term partners (while maintaining higher standards for longer-term ones)."

medyo mahaba yung article but a good read nonetheless and backed by empirical data/research

[minatay91]

I digress the part na "men get yummier" LOL just saw it now. I just mean mas malaki chances na lumaki societal value. but again, not all.

anyways, its in their biological makeup naman talaga na better talaga ang skin composition, elasticity and most importantly mas kapal ang skin (no wonder ) and generally less sensitive to the sun. If guys did have a skin regimen, they're going to age better. The only reason why women are aging gracefully nowadays is because of modern, AFFORDABLE science.

natuwa ako sa comment na gwapong lalake pangit girlfriend maliit self esteem AHAHAHA so using this logic, pangit na mga lalake na maganda jowa mga conceited??

"yung pagiging pa.astig-astig para lang sa mga lalakeng kulang sa gwapo" bwahaha

[zarazan]

Sa mga guys na di kagandahan ang girlfriend, alam niyo bang di kagandahan girlfriends niyo or parang nalalaman niyo lang dahil sa mga comment ng tao? HAHAHA!

[ForeverDreamer]

meron naman talaga gwapo yung guy pero di kagandahan si girl
pano yun ganun,napapansin nyo ba yun?
Siguro naman kahit pano may isa sa barkada nyo,nakakapansin ...
ano naman feeling kapag napapag usapan? Hehe

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Nakakaloka naman dito.ang Harsh,Big time!!!!LOL
pano naman kung baliktad yung lalaki
Naman ang di gwapo,madalas talaga may ganito,kahit saan
Ano tawag dun...?yun ba yung sinasabi nilang nasa "diskarte " lang yan,hehe

[Prunella]

Guys have a harder time, I believe. Most people try to be tactful kapag si girl ang hindi kagandahan. Pero when it comes to guys, let's just say a lot of people can be quite straightforward. Most of the time, they'd hear:

"Pare, bigyan mo ng helmet. Baka mauntog."

"Galing dumiskarte. Ang ganda ng gf."

etc...

[zarazan]

Ang babae daw swerte sa lalaki pag mabait, loyal, di nanakit. Plus nalang pag gwapo!

Ang lalaki swerte sa babae pag maganda. Plus nalang kung mabait, loyal, di malandi sa iba.

[berryblitz]

yesterday i went to glorietta for buyer meet-ups.  i always wear clothes na hindi angkop sa edad ko (i guess).  i try to look good kasi mga kapit-bahay naming mommies magaganda.  syempre ayaw ko mapahiya ang mister ko sa iba at masabing losyang ang asawa nya.

nung naglalakad ako, there's this couple na mukhang magboyfriend.  nakatayo lang sila, nag-uusap, holding hands.  i wasn't looking at them but yung guy napatitig sa akin.  ako naman syempre napatingin kasi syempre instant yun, pag may nakatitig sa iyo na nasa harap mo ganun man sya kalayo, mapapatingin ka ren, right?  pero pag tingin ko sa kanya, then napatingin ako sa kaholding hands nya, then sabay tingin ako diretso sa dinadaanan ko.  nalagpasan ko na sila ng i guess 15 to 20 feet, pag lingon ko to see them because nagtaka lang ako sa kanila, nakatitig pa ren si lalaki sa akin.

yung lalaki, medyo maporma, hindi over pero marunong manamit, not too guwapo pero may itsura naman.  si babae, hindi kagandahan, may pagkachubby, naka t-shirt and maong pants sya.  although may mga ladies na tshirt and maong pants eh mukhang ang ganda and maporma sila, this girl isn't one of them.

parang naguilty ako kasi nakita ko yung mukha ng babae, parang hinihintay nya yung bf nya na huminto sa kakatitig sa akin.  naging plain face si babae, not smiling. 

sana ang lalaki kapag nanligaw and nagka gf na hindi kagandahan and/or hindi marunong manamit, huwag naman tumitig sa ibang babae, lalo na at valentines day.  i went through this kind before, and masakit ang feeling.

[jtansanco]

I tried this before although she didn't become my formal gf. I really liked her for her personality but then, it didn't work out after 5 months of being together. Honestly, it's still the physical beauty that counts for me. And that's the reason why I have been single for the longest time because I told myself never to love someone who is not beautiful in my eyes since I "might" eventually cheat one day.