why women settle for second best?

[lesters_gal]

Bakit pumapayag yung mga girls na mag settle sa isang guy kahit na alam nilang wala sila mapapadala dun sa guy in the end. Why do they still continue kahit sinabi na ng guy na wala talaga pag asa para sa inyong dalawa.  Sa mga guys what can you say about women na pumapayag sa ganun klaseng set up? Iniisip ninyo ba na desperate yung girl kasi pumapayag siya na ganun lang ang kaya ibigay nung guy, yet she still stick on the situation

[sacred cow]

Women would rather share a high value Man than be saddled by a faithful loser.

this blog post would be more helpful:

http://therationalmale.com/2011/11/02/plate-theory-ii-non-exclusivity/

[minatay91]

The way you script the situation makes it sound a bit negative for the girl who's hanging on but based on your post:

Pathetic, desperate or delusional. hehe. Smells like a lack of self respect. Medyo kulang sa comprehension kapag binabasted na, go parin ng go. hehe

Either too attached or just needs more self control over emotions. (: Stubborn.


Sadista by prolonging her agony.

But let me give that hardworking girl the benefit of the doubt.
 Positively scripted, "blindly in love". Selfless. Persistent with the patience of a saint.

That's what I think lang ha. Hopefully the others dont think like me. 

[imyourangel]

Late reply, but my opinion on this: baka naffeel nung babae, wala nang dadating pa. So instead of patiently waiting, they would just settle. I felt this way before naging kami ni bf, nung MU stage pa lang namin. Medyo hindi maganda ugali niya noon, but since heto ako, NBSB, sabi ko sa sarili ko hayaan ko na muna. Pag hindi ko na kinaya saka na ko maggive up dito. But thankfully, he changed. A lot.

So yeah to answer your question, I believe it's more of fear.

[aquacharly]

Bakit pumapayag???  As in, yung woman ang spare tire or consuelo de bobo ng guy?  As in, the guy says:  hwag ka umasa ng kahit ano, but be there for me?

In addition to what the others cited: low self worth, lack of better prospects,  too emotional (na in-love, sumemplang big time),  may I add, MAY BE:

   OVER CONFIDENT:   She believes that  given enough time with & exposure to her -- he will be hit by an epiphany 1 day & put her on his #1 pedestal.
   FOREVER HOPEFUL:   Umaasa  na 1 day, after giving it her all and praying hard, he realizes Boink!  she is the Princess to his Frog (sorry, but IMO, guys who string along a woman,  even if the woman is an eager victim -- is a Frog, never a prince.). 
   USER FRIENDLY:   Some ha, some in this situation think --  oo, wala tayo future, may asawa/gf/ fiancée ka -- but you can give me some good time, some comfy living --  ok, kasi mataba wallet mo.   Hahahahaha

Oh, but what do I know, really?
 I never settled for someone who did not give me top priority nor put me in his best dreams (yang mahal na mahal na nga ako eh, may heartbreak din.). 
 

[sacred cow]

I think what OP means is that nagtitiyaga na lang yung girl sa next best thing, na kahit hindi talaga pasado si guy sa standards niya, eh keri na lang kasi nandiyan na e

[sugardrop]

Maybe what we deem as second best for others may already be what they think as "the best" for them.

[sacred cow]

^ could also be the case. we are not in their shoes din naman

[p0isonIvy]

women settle for lack of a better option. parang cellphones lang yan, until the next big thing comes out, they will stick with what they have because that is already familiar, useful and convenient.

[simang]

Bakit pumapayag yung mga girls na mag settle sa isang guy kahit na alam nilang wala sila mapapadala dun sa guy in the end. Why do they still continue kahit sinabi na ng guy na wala talaga pag asa para sa inyong dalawa.  Sa mga guys what can you say about women na pumapayag sa ganun klaseng set up? Iniisip ninyo ba na desperate yung girl kasi pumapayag siya na ganun lang ang kaya ibigay nung guy, yet she still stick on the situation

i don't know about others but i never settle for what i don't deserve. and i don't deserve second best.

[det060403]

Maybe some women just got tired of waiting. they opted to settle with whoever is available for them and just try to accept someone they could learn to love in the process.

[TysLolakins]

my reply to the original poster:  I won't and I don't.  kasi i have too much pride and self-respect to accept that kinda term/condition from the guy.   i think the guy is the one stringing the girl along until he finally finds the one he'll take seriously.  parang pathetic loser na lang ang dating nung girl.

[pret_ty68]

There are some women who are not used to being alone kaya kahit hindi nila gusto basta may makasama lang carry na naalala ko yung isang kakilala ko dati pinipintasan bf nya sabi ko bakit mo sinagot tapos pinipintasan mo sagot sa akin kesa daw wala syang bf 

[outandaboutph]

not sure if saan ko nabasa or narinig pero those people daw na pumapayag to deal with less than what they truly deserve are those na mababa ang self esteem...

[Angelite]

Takot na baka wala ng maayos pa na darating so might as well stay with the current relationship kesa naman sa totally mawalan ng love life.

[amethyst028]

women like that have low self esteem. they are afraid of the unknown so they would rather stick to the familiar kahit nasasaktan sila. i think even the best of us have experienced this at one time or another. until we gained enough self confidence to know na hindi healthy ang ganitong relationship and finally walk away.

[ikaela]

This reads like something a rejected guy would say.

"Hindi ako sinagot nung liniligawan ko. Pumatol siya dun sa 'second best'."

If this came from a guy, tanggapin mo na dude, hindi ikaw ang type. Hindi sa dahil nag-settle lang si girl or second best lang si guy -- hindi talaga ikaw ang gusto niya.

If this is a girl's observation of a girlfriend, OMG, ano pa hinihintay mo, smack your friend in the head para matauhan na! Drag her out of that toxic relationship!

[sugardrop]

^
This reminded me of the guy from last year who told me he's the better choice between him and my current boyfriend.

[t_r_i_s_h]

This reads like something a rejected guy would say.

"Hindi ako sinagot nung liniligawan ko. Pumatol siya dun sa 'second best'."

If this came from a guy, tanggapin mo na dude, hindi ikaw ang type. Hindi sa dahil nag-settle lang si girl or second best lang si guy -- hindi talaga ikaw ang gusto niya.

hahaha daming ganyan na lalaki no?

[Red Rack 21]

the topic  is yung girl ang pinagpipilitan ang sarili kay guy and not the other way around.

lesters_gal ikaw ba ito? you must be a headturner kung ganun. IMO  mga nagpipilit lang sa ganyan usually sa mga gwapo eh.