BEING A "MISTRESS"

[babythug28]

^ ayaw mo maging si matet sis?

[bluish_mommy]

^^reminds of one scenario I know.

i have a girl friend, yung husband nya nagloko, may kinalantare sa office, nagkataon yung babae may asawa (this makes the situation worst)... then one day nabalitaan namin si husband nabaril... naglalakad lang daw pauwi, may biglang bumaril sa ulo... ayun nalaman lang ng friend ko na may kinakalantare pala yung asawa nya sa office... ang pinalabas nila, nanakawan yung husband nung bumaril (one reason din para sagutin ng company lahat ng expenses nya sa hospital)... pero ang totoo, pinatira sya nung husband nung babaeng kalantari nya sa office. good thing the husband survived, di pa nya oras. ayun nagdala ang g@go.

kaya yung mga friends ng kabit, wag kayo magdididikit sa mga kabit, baka madamay kayo "physically".

[Girltalker2]

good thing the husband survived, di pa nya oras. ayun nagdala ang g@go.

sayang. sorry, the evil side of me sana natuluyan nalang sya para mas naging masaya asawa nya with the insurance money and  start life all over again.
 
There were really times na winish ko mamatay nalang ang asawa ko (natural means syempre kasi hindi ko kaya pumatay), para mawala na yung sakit at problema na paulit ulit. Kasi kung pumanaw sya, isang iyak lang. Pero habang nabubuhay sya, gabi gabi ang iyak ko. Those were the days. Pero may kasabihan nga, masamang damo mahirap mamatay. Which is so true, hanggang ngayon, buhay pa kahit na kaliwa't kanan ang mga anak nya sa labas.

[bluish_mommy]

^actually I learned that the initial reaction of the wife upon learning that was super galit na galit. may ilang araw ata na di nya pinuntahan sa hospital yung asawa dahil sa galit.

[janachen]

sayang. sorry, the evil side of me sana natuluyan nalang sya para mas naging masaya asawa nya with the insurance money and  start life all over again.
 
There were really times na winish ko mamatay nalang ang asawa ko (natural means syempre kasi hindi ko kaya pumatay), para mawala na yung sakit at problema na paulit ulit. Kasi kung pumanaw sya, isang iyak lang. Pero habang nabubuhay sya, gabi gabi ang iyak ko. Those were the days. Pero may kasabihan nga, masamang damo mahirap mamatay. Which is so true, hanggang ngayon, buhay pa kahit na kaliwa't kanan ang mga anak nya sa labas.

ouch too bad sis.. hanggang ngayun ba nagloloko pa rin?

[bluish_mommy]

I hope it doesn't reach to a point na magkagulo bago pa siya matauhan.

i just wish hindi makahanap ng katapat nyang friend mo. she may not know what kind of wife the guy has. magpasalamat sya kung susugurin lang sya sa isang lugar at sasabunutan, eh kung worst pa dyan ang mangyari... oh well.. good luck sa friend mo.

at may isa pa akong alam na kwento.

may isang guy na may kalantari din sa office nila, when the wife knew about it. she went to her husband's office at naglakad ng hubo daw.. i don't know how "hubo" she was, kung may pambaba or what, basta ipinahiya yung asawa nya sa mga kaopisina nya at inilantad na may relasyon yung asawa nya at yung babae nga. wala sa kanya kung mapahiya sya, pero basta ang concern lang nya ipahiya yung guy.

[ilovejdy]

^ oo nga sis. bata pa kasi isip ng friend ko
it seems like hindi nagsisink in sa isip niya
na hindi girlfriend lang meron yung guy, but legal wife na
talaga. 

good thing lang yung guy mukhang mapapalipat
ng work assignment somewhere na malayo.
hopefully the distance will break them apart.


but yung wife nung kakilala mo guy..OMG
pang telenovela talaga. grabe naglakad ng hubo?
i wonder what happened to them (the guy and mistress)
na suspend or na fire?

[Girltalker2]

ouch too bad sis.. hanggang ngayun ba nagloloko pa rin?

We're not together anymore, more than 5 yrs na.  Last I heard may anak na ulit sa labas from a different girl, not from the official mistress I know.

[bonita111809]

these kinds of scenarios never gets old. maraming rason kung baket nangangaliwa ang isang lalake. pero nasa babae lahat ng control. pag ayaw ng babae, walang magagawa ang lalake. hindi na naten mababago ang mga lalakeng cheaters but we can change our ways. sana lang lahat ng babae marunong mag-isip at gumamit ng utak. hindi puro puso ang pinapairal. 

[janachen]

We're not together anymore, more than 5 yrs na.  Last I heard may anak na ulit sa labas from a different girl, not from the official mistress I know.

too bad sa naging kabit nya... Anyway, buti nalang at hindi ka nagtiis sa kanya.. Dapat lang na hiniwalayan mo.

[bonita111809]

Is it the wife's fault that she can't keep her man?

I wouldn't say it's the wife's fault, but sometimes her attitude towards the relationshio becomes the husband's reason why he cheats. One of the reasons why a man cheats is because what's happening at home isn't "happening" like it used to and most women don't want to accept this.

[sugardrop]

I remember what my mom once told me, "babae ang nagdadala ng relasyon". So it could be possible that there are some women who refuse to believe or even open their eyes to the possibility that they are the very reason - be it their attitude and how they handle their relationship - why their men cheated on them. But as always, it boils down to choices - sa lalake naman to.

[ginger01]

if a man is already separated to his wife, is the new girlfriend considered as a mistress?

[bluish_mommy]

^my personal opinion.. i think Yes, for as long as the man is married, the girl is still a mistress.

[det060403]

^^ i think so too. Kahit na sabihing legally separated pa yan... it means they're still married pero hindi lang sila nagsasama and parang settlement lang yung sa paghati ng ari-arian nila. So, pakikiapid pa din pag nag gf yung lalaki.

[bluish_mommy]

^by the way, when a couple is legally separated, nawawala ang bisa ng conjugality. mawawalan ng karapatan ang offending spouse sa lahat ng ari-arian nilang mag-asawa. so walang hatian na mangyayari kapag legal separation.

[ginger01]

so mistress pala ako..    he's separated for 3 yrs na.
should i continue the blossoming relationship or not? i'm confused.

[simang]

^may plans ba sya of getting annulled? if he's serious about you, i think at some point he has to have his previous marriage invalidated or something

[bluish_mommy]

^a friend of mine got her 1st marriage annulled w/o any court appearance ng 1st husband, di ko alam kung papaano nangyari yun.  and the annulment, I think gumastos sya ng almost P150k - P200k for that.

[janachen]

pwede yun as long as pabor silang dalawa. Mayroon din akong kaibigan na ganyan. Sandali lang din, mga 2 years ata inabot. Abogado na nila ang nag usap.