BEING A "MISTRESS"

[ysa.belle]

I am just sharing, hindi lang pang pleasure or sexual fantasy, satisfaction or what  ang pagiging kabit. May ibang tao, na even they are already commited, they fall out of love sa original at nagiging masaya sa mistress.

may kilala akong ganito. hindi niya maiwan asawa niya kahit na hindi na niya mahal kase may anak sila. BF niya si binata, edukado, gwapo at tanggap ng kabit siya ng friend ko.

[nathanielle]

Girltalker 2: It's like an addiction: you take it one day at a time. Breaking up with him was the easier part. The more difficult part was staying away. The beginning of the end came when I had to go abroad, which I didn't want to at first. Being away made me realize the life I'd been leading and the life I'd been missing. When I got back, I broke it off with him, which was difficult, but easier than staying away. I had to resign from my job, a job I truly liked, and I had to move out of my condo unit. (We weren't officemates, but our companies worked on the same projects). I dated other men, slept around, drank. Whatever I needed to distract myself, I did. Except drugs. To this day I don't know how I got out of it. I don't mean to be religious, but I do credit some form of divine intervention because there were times I felt truly hopeless and helpless and something or someone would rescue me. My friends, a trip, a new activity. Whatever. But I also realized, one has to forgive oneself. You have to forgive yourself or you're bound to make the same awful mistakes. So I left those meaningless relationships, cut back on the drinking, found a new job, and I don't know, for some reason I found a good guy, who's now my husband. Overall, I can say life has been kind to me

Jan888: I did, but like what CITIgirl said, hindi mo na iisipin yun. I really was auto block mode and I willingly refused to act on it.

[Girltalker2]

^ thanks for sharing.

I just want to know kasi paano mo ma-rehabilitate ang mistress especially if she is someone na kakilala mo or friend mo. Both kayo alam nyong mali, pero pagsabihan mo man, ayaw makinig kasi hindi nya alam saan mag uumpisa. 

How to become an ex-mistress. 
Essentially, hindi ba parang how a wife would go through din if she is undergoing a divorce? Picking up the pieces?  Pero kapag mistress, mas mahirap kasi ang mga lalapitan mong friends and relatives - would always tell you - sinabi ko nanga sayo.  Pero kapag wife, ang lalapitan nyang friends and relatives most likely eh may sympathy nya. Ganun ba iyon?

[nathanielle]

Girltalker2: Yes a mistress can't expect tea and sympathy from others, even friends. But the thing is, no matter how good a friend you are, the mistress has to want to let go herself. She has to want to turn things around badly enough herself. It WILL get worse before it gets better, but please let her know she CAN get out. 

A good place to start is by saying good bye, which is of course a very difficult thing. She can say good bye and ask the man that if he cares for her at all, he will leave her alone. He probably won't though, he'll cry and beg her to stay. It's up to her to do what she must to STAY away. If she needs to leave her job, then so be it. If she needs to change numbers, then she must change numbers. As I said I left my job, I left my condo unit and went back to my parent's house. I dated other men and drank and almost lost myself again in the process. It was just a dark, dark time in my life. 

Basically your friend will have all these leftover emotions and energies that she needs to channel PRODUCTIVELY. One big part of my "recovery" if you can call it that, is that I started running. I literally did not know what to do with myself so I started running as a release. I was trying to outrun my sadness, and in a way it worked, slowly, almost unnoticeably, but now that I think about it, it did help. I'm not saying she has to run, but she has to lose herself again in something and that's one way you can help your friend. Help her find something that will occupy her imagination again. Of course she'll probably refuse it at first. There will be days she won't want to get out of bed or do anything.

You're a good friend for caring, but there's only so much you can do. You might watch her break up with him, watch her in her saddest, most gut wretching state, then watch her as she goes back to him again. You will be frustrated and angry and you might want to give up. I can't tell you to stay or go. Maybe she needs to lose all her friends first before she realizes what she needs to do. But you can tell her, if you haven't yet, that it has to start from her and no one else. She has to help herself, because nobody can go through the pain for her. The good news is that the pain DOES subside. As someone who's been there, I can honestly say, there IS an end to the pain. If she can hold on to that thought, if she can find comfort in that thought, she'll get through it.

To that person who messaged me: Sorry I wasn't able to reply, I'm new at Girltalk forum and I can't seem to reply to your post or send private messages. Please message me your email ad and I'll email you.

[lovemeagain30]

to Sis nathanielle,, thanks for answering my questions. it was indeed an honest answer from you. 

yung pagkakaron n Mistress, I don't think its applicable only to married men,, even married women have third parties as well, here in abroad rampant ang situation wherein married men and married women ay nagiging couple and their own respective partners ay parehong nasa pinas. sobrang kabit-kabit talaga eto! 

well here in overseas, pansin ko lang din na  ang mga lalaking pumapayag kumabit sa babaeng may asawa ay sila mismo ay may asawa din. aba kung single ka ditto,, lam mo from the start eh walang future sa ganyang relasyon. so pumapatol sakanila ay kapreho lang din nila. I believe its all pure sex and company. pag uwi nila sa pinas,, balik ulit sa original na asawa.

I had a lady colleague who had this relationship,, asawa niya at mga anak niya before ay kasama namin ditto sa bansa tapos pinauwi niya nung nagsisimula na siya magloko. para nga naman libre na siya ditto. to be honest, nawala respeto ko sakanya kasi naging ate-ate ko siya ditto nung bago lang ako. totoo yung clouded ang reasoning mo kapag pinasok mo yung ganyang relasyon.

[X_03]

sis ^ same here sa bansang pinagwoworkan ko. kabit kabit nadin. nakakabother noh? may colleague din ako na ganyan ang disturbing pa don she's very young and yung gusto niyang guy na may family na is ibang lahi na ka-officemate din namin. hindi niya alam na alam ko pero pag naguusap kami kasi nga bata pinariringgan ko at sinasabihan ko, kasi may ibang lahing nanliligaw sa kanya na binbigay sa kanyang lahat na I think single din naman at mabait sana yun na seryosohin niya. sakit sa ulo... minsan
sa overseas mga ganyang klaseng nangangabit usually ginagamit ang dahilan na malungkot or nabobored sila and last but not the least eh kapit sa patalim para dumami ang salaping ipon!

[mynameisxtine]

justin3 alam ko yang news na yan. malapit lang samin yan. mali naman kasi yang babae, tama bang maguwi ng sabon galing sa motmot? at sa totoo lang hindi kami nagtetext. magkatext man kami, work related at kami lang ang nagkakaintindihan. t**** ako pero hindi ganyan kaliteral.

[Girltalker2]

CITIgirl_04… no, no, no,no. you got me wrong sis
guytalker here.
alam ko na actually lahat yan (lalo na sa part ng guy).
   
iba-ibang tao, kaya iba-ibang pamamaraan rin.
(wifeys, if you want me na i-detalye ko isa-isa, base sa aking karanasan mismo… ok lang)

Sige idetalye mo ang alam mo. Why are you curious then?  Are you planning to have mistresses too?

sa tagal ko na dito sa GT lalo na dito sa Sex & Relationships thread, yung post mo pa lang ang makatotohanang naglahad ng "side" ng mistress. (hindi kasi maka-porma ang mga self-confessed mistresses pag lumantad eh, KINUKUYOG agad. nawawala na lang bigla sa GT)

Nakakatawa nga ang term mo na kuyog.  Pero pag-iisipin mo nga naman, kahit sinong wife (kahit mistress pa sya dati) eh oras na mahawakan nya ang mistress, pihadong patay si mistress nyan.

Ano na nga ba nangyari sa society natin ngayon?  Maybe before, meron nang mga ganito, pero people are very discrete.  Yung mistress at si nangangaliwang lalaki, mas discrete sila.  Pero ngayon, wala na kasing natitirang kahihiyan basta mahal mo ang tao - iyan ang peg nila.

Tsaka sino ba naman hindi magagalit - kung nasira ang pamilya mo at nasira ang buhay mo dahil sa isang mistress?  Nananahimik ka lang na gusto mo magkaron ng isang masayang pamilya - just like any other woman, pero ikaw, never mo makakamit iyan dahil sa isang tarantadong lalaki at isang mistress?

At kaya  naglipana ang mga ganyang threads/topics, kasi nga, hindi alam kung ano ang dapat gagawin ng karamihang mga wifeys dito.
Hindi alam mga precautionary measures.
harapan nang niloloko ng mga esposo nila clueless pa rin. nakalatag na nga ang mga indications, traces, ebidensya, ayaw pang maniwala. gusto pa atang makitang/mahuling nakapatong mismo ang mga asawa nila sa ibang kandungan... pathetic kung iisipin pero nakakaawa pa rin.

Something na ayaw ko rin mangyari sa mga kababaihan sa pamilya ko.

Ano nga ba ang dapat gawin?  Una una, sobrang hirap ibalik ang trust sa pagsasama nila kung nalaman nilang may kabit ang asawa nila. And to be honest, yung mga nagp post na napatch up na nila ang differences nila after discovering that their hubbies had affairs at nagsorry naman daw si hubby - HINDI AKO NANINIWALA.    Pero puede naman nila lokohin ang sarili nila, it is a free country.  Pero impossible na mangyari ito. May lamat na eh.

Worse kung maanakan pa, never na magiging at peace yung wife for life.  Pero all she has to do is magtiis but the good thing is intact family nya, but it can never be perfectly happy, or puede pala maging happy lahat, except sya.

Ngayon, kung hindi pa sila maniniwalang naglalaro na ng apoy ang mga esposo nila. Ay, bahala sila!... alam na kung bakit HINDI UMAASENSO ANG PINAS… ang DAMING "T" eh. ang daling utuhin.

Well, totoo iyan. Ang daming nagpapaloko - si wifey at si mistress.  Pero at the same time, ang dami ding sinungaling at cheaters. Puro mandaraya - iyan ang typical Pinoy.  Sorry for stereotyping, but talaga, sinusumpa ko sa sarili ko, never, never, never ever have a Filipino bf. mga babaero no good cheaters and liars. Tapos ang yayabang kung makainom or mga feelingero, akala mo kung sinong may ibubuga.  Iharap mo naman sa puti, di maka imik.  Of course there are exceptions.  Perhaps 5%. 

Ang hilig gumawa ng mga kalokohan behind people's backs.  Laging nasa loob ang kulo.  Pero pag kinonfront mo, kala mo kung sinong anghel.


Ang hindi ko maintindihan --- if the love between the mistress and the tarantadong lalaki is so great, bakit hindi maiwan ang asawa.  Just come clean with it. End your marriage. Start a new life that you will be happy with. What is the point of sticking with the marriage kung hindi ka na masaya and yet wala ka naman action to make it happier?  It is like living in hell forever. 
Dahil ba walang divorce sa Pinas? 
Dahil ba nakakahiya coming from a broken marriage?  Eh di ka nga nahihiya mangabit, ano pang kahihiyan ang natitira?
Dahil ba sa mga bata?  Na gusto mo kalakihan makita ang manlolokong tatay? At matutunan din magpaloko sa mga future husbands nila (in case babae sila)?

[CITIgirl_04]

^ nakalulungkot mang isipin tama lahat ang sinabi mo sis..

ako sa lahat ng ito iisa lang ang natutunan ko. CONTENTMENT IS THE KEY.
we need to be and feel contented sa ating mga kinakasama.. kasi yung mga nagkakaron ng kabit or affair partners.. hindi naman lahat eh pangit ang simula nila eh(i mean yung mag-asawa). Nagsimula rin ang karamihan sa ligawan, lambingan, bigayan ng regalo.. Yung mga nagsasabi na kaya lang pinakasalan dahil may anak or nabuntis or magpapakamatay si boy or girl kaya di maiwanan.. Ok fine kahit na hindi ako naniniwalang di nila kayang  kumawala or harapin ang mga ganung sitwasyon eh hindi rin naman sila karamihan sa populasyon ng ating bansa na nasa 100 milyon na. Siguro mga 30% or yet even 20% lang... bakit nga ba nagkakaron ng third party? dahil paglipas ng ilang taon na magkasama, pag nagkaron na ng anak, at mga obligasyon sa pamilya.. nakakalimutan na ng asawa ang isa't isa.
nakakalimutan na nilang maglambingan at magligawan.. nakakalimutan na nilang mag-date.. yung mga usual things na ginagawa nila noong sila'y mag-bf/gf pa lang...hindi raw dapat nawawala yun sabi ng mga marriage counselors...
minsan sa hirap ng realidad ng buhay nakakalimutan na ng mag-asawang ayusin ang mga sarili nila with thinking.. "ok na ito, siya lang naman lagi kong kasama eh.." or di kaya "pwede na 'to, dito lang naman ako sa loob ng bahay eh"
dapat daw, tayong mga asawa, we should NEVER stop making ourselves beautiful and presentable to our husbands and sa mga husbands naman.. you should be open to your wives kung ano yung pangangailangan ninyo...
kung may problema ang mag-asawa hindi dapat sinasabi sa iba kundi dapat kayong dalawa muna ang umayos ng relasyon ninyo...
and wag kalilimutang lumabas pa rin from time to time para maiwasan ang pagkabagot sa bahay...
Always make surprises... konting effort lang nakakapagpa-kumpleto na  ng araw...
yan ang hirap sa karamihan ngayon..
twisted na ang mundong ito..
pag ikaw ang tama, ikaw ang ginagawang mali.. at ang mali ang siyang nagiging tama..
maaaring may sariling hinaing at rason ang mga mistresses.. maaaring mabubuti rin silang tao...
maaaring wala rin silang intensyong manakit ng iba at mang-agaw ng pamilya...
ngunit base sa aking karanasan, mistress is still a mistress.
kabit pa rin ako kahit ano pa man ang estado ng lalaking kinakasama ko sa asawa niya.
at the end of the day, uuwi at uuwi pa rin siya dun.
and based on my experience para mapatunayan ko kung mahal talaga ako, i asked him to leave..
BUT HE DID NOT.
ouch.
o akala ko ba panget na pagsasama nyo? bakit dimo pa rin maiwanan?
kesyo ganito kesyo ganyan...
in short... NGANGA.
masakit at nakalulungkot mang isipin, talo talaga ang babae sa ganyang uri ng relasyon. habang tumatagal, bumababa ng bumababa ang kanyang dignidad habang paulit ulit na ginagamit ang kanyang katawan kapag siya'y kailangan ng kinakabitan niyang lalaki.
sabi ko nga sa previous post ko..
worse than a prosti diba?
kasi si mistress, binibigay niya ng libre ang sarili niya ng walang kapalit.. eh ang mga prosti napili nila itong propesyon at kaya nilang ibigay ang katawan nila ng wala silang nararamdaman, kumbaga eh manhid na.
eh si mistress/otherwoman/thirdparty/affairpartner? wala... lagi lang umaasa.. naghihintay.. hindi makaalis ng bahay kasi baka bigla siyang dumating.. malungkot pag holidays esp. valentine/christmas/new year.. I'm not saying 'all' mistresses but I'm sure 80%-90% ay ganun ang sitwasyon. they can always deny na kaya nila.. pero im more than sure na pag mag-isa nalang sila sa mga bahay at kuwarto nila.. ay lumuluha rin ang kanilang mga mata, if not, puso dahil MAS lamang ang lungkot sa uri ng buhay na pinili nila...

ang hindi kasi naiisip ng karamihan sa mga kababaihan ay para sa karamihan sa mga lalaki (tama si sis Girltalker2 siguro mga 5% lang ang hindi) hindi lang sa Pilipinas kundi Man in general are very proud to have numbers of woman in their lives. It's like a trophy for them.
The more, the better.
So some chose to try having mistress for experience, for kiss-and-tell purposes, to enhance their masculinity.. minsan kasi naiisip nila(lalo na yung may mga asawa) kung may pwede pa bang magkagusto sa kanila despite of them being taken so they try... pero karamihan sa mga may asawa na yun eh at the end of the day... kung papipiliin kung asawa o si other woman, eh si wife ang sagot.
pano, takot nang makasuhan, takot pang masira ang reputasyon...

leaving everything in blame to the poor mistress.

At sa mga mag-asawa...
One thing is very, very important. ALWAYS MAKE GOD IN THE CENTER OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
Yan ang hirap sa ating lahat, nakakalimutan na nating may Diyos. Ako man noon, nakalimot din.
We should repent for all of our sins and accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior and I can assure you, your life WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AGAIN.

Always ask Him for guidance and protection in every temptation. Only God alone can control everything because He is the Creator of everything. So we should always entrust everything to Him because He is THE ONLY ONE who can help us... with God in the center of your relationship, no work of the enemy can penetrate in your lives and God will even bless you with the abundance of love, happiness, peace, contentment, kids, and even in material things...
It's important to acknowledge and accept Jesus Christ the Son of God as our Lord and Savior since He is the only one who can save us from this kind of sin... And I'm thankful to God for because of Him, I am now a changed woman.
He used this forum for me to share my experience and so that many eyes will be opened to the reality and to what God really wants us to do...
He wants us to do what's right..
No matter what the situation is, we should always choose what is right and good...

To God be the glory.

[Girltalker2]

and based on my experience para mapatunayan ko kung mahal talaga ako, i asked him to leave..
BUT HE DID NOT.
ouch.

Ito nga.  If he truly loves you, either iiwan nya ang wife nya or ikaw ang iiwan niya.  But the truth of the matter is, he only loves himself.

I was a wife once. Nag antay ako magbago sya ng isang dekada.  Pero hindi sya nagbago. Iniwan ko.  Ayun sumama sa mistress.  Pero wala pang isang taon may number three na sya.  Sa nakikita ko kasi, ang mahal nung kumag na lalaki ay sarili lang nya, hindi nya ako mahal, hindi rin nya mahal si mistress.  Kahit pa man sabihin nya he cares, maybe he does, pero he only loves himself.

masakit at nakalulungkot mang isipin, talo talaga ang babae sa ganyang uri ng relasyon. habang tumatagal, bumababa ng bumababa ang kanyang dignidad habang paulit ulit na ginagamit ang kanyang katawan kapag siya'y kailangan ng kinakabitan niyang lalaki.

sabi ko nga sa previous post ko..
worse than a prosti diba?
kasi si mistress, binibigay niya ng libre ang sarili niya ng walang kapalit.. eh ang mga prosti napili nila itong propesyon at kaya nilang ibigay ang katawan nila ng wala silang nararamdaman, kumbaga eh manhid na.
eh si mistress/otherwoman/thirdparty/affairpartner? wala... lagi lang umaasa.. naghihintay.. hindi makaalis ng bahay kasi baka bigla siyang dumating.. malungkot pag holidays esp. valentine/christmas/new year..

But this description of yours sis, is not any different from a desperate wife trying to win her hubby back. 
Exactly the same - nakakababa ng dignidad.  Lululunin mo ang pride para buo ang pamilya, para sa mga bata.  Kahit niloloko ka na ng lantaran at harapan, kahit alam na ng buong madlang people na manloloko asawa mo at ikaw naman dikit ng dikit parin sa asawa mo. Kahit katawa tawa na ang situation ninyo pilit mo parin, bilang wife, na maniwala na mahal ka ng demonyo mong asawa.

And it is also worse than a prosti, because not only you sold your dignity, but likewise you have given everything and more, and yet lalo kang nasisira sa every single day na alam mo walang hiya ang asawa mo. Your mind, soul, yung peace of mind at saloobin mo, unti unti ka rin nyang kino-consume. Hanggang sa masira ulo mo, mag give up ka or umalis ka.

[ysa.belle]

But this description of yours sis, is not any different from a desperate wife trying to win her hubby back. 
Exactly the same - nakakababa ng dignidad.  Lululunin mo ang pride para buo ang pamilya, para sa mga bata.  Kahit niloloko ka na ng lantaran at harapan, kahit alam na ng buong madlang people na manloloko asawa mo at ikaw naman dikit ng dikit parin sa asawa mo. Kahit katawa tawa na ang situation ninyo pilit mo parin, bilang wife, na maniwala na mahal ka ng demonyo mong asawa.

And it is also worse than a prosti, because not only you sold your dignity, but likewise you have given everything and more, and yet lalo kang nasisira sa every single day na alam mo walang hiya ang asawa mo. Your mind, soul, yung peace of mind at saloobin mo, unti unti ka rin nyang kino-consume. Hanggang sa masira ulo mo, mag give up ka or umalis ka.

in the end, lagi ang babae ang kawawa sa mga ganitong situation... ke mistress or legal wife. magkaibang level lang nga ng pagka-kawawa ang asawa sa kabit.

[lovemeagain30]

yung mga artista at politico na all out ang pagiging babaero, for example si Erap or yung tatay ni Bong Revilla, pano kaya nasisikmura ng wife nila na ang mga kabit ng asawa nila ay more than 1 na anak sa labas?? at hindi lang iisa ang kabit nila.

I always wonder how they live that kind of life and how they explained their situation to their children.. nakikita mong may family pictures pa with the kabit with your husband and their children.. hindi ka ba mababaliw dun? worst is, alam mo yun and still choose to stick with your philandering husband.

[CITIgirl_04]

^ para sakin reason behind that is they tend to forget themselves, their emotions, their feelings of pride and dignity in exchange for one thing which is what they say is 'the root of all evil' - MONEY. Maybe not entirely money too, but see, they're in an elite society where this family is a friend of that family so the 'wife' who acts as an accessory to her husband's fame and glory was left with no choice but 'to stick' with her husband no matter how many his mistresses are... Sa halip na hindi kinakailangang ipaglaban ni misis ang asawa niya, nagiging competition na because of the mistress... And the essence and real meaning of the word 'wife' itself gets lost. That's the reality. Siyempre kahiyaan nalang din kung makikipaghiwalay pa sila after all the mistresses in their husbands' lives diba??? Gaya niyan, one example is si Mrs. Enrile, matagal na naman niya palang alam na kabit ni Sen. Enrile si Sec. Gigi Reyes, eh bakit ngayon lang siya nagsalita, kung kelan malapit na silang kunin ni Lord??? Unless she's trying to get an attention and wants to be the talk of the town too, right? Kuing ako si Mrs. Enrile, di na ako lalantad, mag-aalsa balutan nalang ako at aalis ng tahimik at walang nakakaalam kasi it might backfire on me din eh, knowing na ang tanda-tanda ko na...


^^^ sis Girltalker2 naiintindihan ko yung nararamdaman mo as a wife pero you shouldn't feel that way kasi ikaw nga yung wife. You should have 'every' right to your husband, lalo na kung kasal kayo. Nasa bible yan... Yan yung sinasabi ko kay sis lovemeagain30 sa taas na nawawala na yung 'essence' ng pagiging wife because of the third parties/affairs... which is hindi dapat talaga.
Nakakalungkot pero ano nang nangyayari sa moralidad ng mga tao ngayon??? Ang mga bakla, tomboy ay ikinakasal na rin??? At maging ang mga kabit ay tinatanggap na rin???
Baka mamaya may kasalan na rin for kabit and the legal wife??? tsk. tsk. tsk. 

Look at those telenovelas... what are they promoting??? Nakakalungkot diba? Sa panahon ngayon, baligtad na.. pag ikaw ang tama, ikaw na ang magiging mali at pag mali ka naman, ikaw na ang magiging tama.

Same with genuine/original brand of anything. Itabi mo lang yan sa 5 peke eh yung sayo pa na totoo ang magiging peke at sila ang original...

Mamaya time will come that mistresses ULTIMATELY won't feel guilty anymore dahil sa sobrang lakas na ng loob nila... nakakalungkot talaga...



Ako, right now with all honesty, I'm entrusting everything to God. My life changed nang magbalik-loob ako sa Diyos... Siya lang ang makapagbibigay satin ng kapahingahan at kapayapaan ng kalooban...

[younis]

^true! yan din ang sagot ko, dahil sa MONEY din. for as long as napapaliguan sila ng pera, que se hodang ilan ang kabit ng asawa nila, go lang sila sa life nila. But I am sure, walang happiness sa mga puso ng mga yan, they will always feel incomplete and messed up in their lives.

[nathanielle]

Ang hindi ko maintindihan --- if the love between the mistress and the tarantadong lalaki is so great, bakit hindi maiwan ang asawa.  Just come clean with it. End your marriage. Start a new life that you will be happy with. What is the point of sticking with the marriage kung hindi ka na masaya and yet wala ka naman action to make it happier?  It is like living in hell forever. 
Dahil ba walang divorce sa Pinas? 
Dahil ba nakakahiya coming from a broken marriage?  Eh di ka nga nahihiya mangabit, ano pang kahihiyan ang natitira?
Dahil ba sa mga bata?  Na gusto mo kalakihan makita ang manlolokong tatay? At matutunan din magpaloko sa mga future husbands nila (in case babae sila)?

I think mahirap iwan because one, it's so complicated. Imagine all the confronting, the confessing, the crying, the looking for lawyers. Imagine the fees, the kids, the legal complications. Really it's so much work. MORE work than keeping the affair a secret. Kumbaga you can't bring yourself to think of long term happiness because the short term effects are so hellish.

Secondly, and I think this weighs more heavily, the mistress and the husband will always have the thought in the back of their heads that they wrecked a home and family. Alam rin nila, or namin, na di kami magiging masaya. So the thought process is - let's just see where this ends up, bahala na for now. It's a ridiculous thought process, if you could even use the word "thought" because obviously hindi lang talaga pinagisipan, or AYAW lang talaga pagisipan. Lalo na kapag hindi pa nalalaman ng asawa ang nangyayari. The mistress and husband can have their cake and eat it too. It all works until such time when it just doesn't anymore.

Dati iniisip ko, if the wife ever asks me if anything happened between me and her husband, ano kaya sasabihin ko? Do I tell the truth? Do I deny and just leave her to her illusions of a happy family and a loyal husband? I don't know. I hope to God that opportunity never comes because I seriously wouldn't know what to say.

To the one who messaged me, the one who went abroad to get out of the affair only to go back home back to the married man: please send me your email. I can't reply yet to messages nor send private messages.

[justin3]

Mga Sinuggaling!

Lahat ng babaero/lalakero! Lahat ng mga hubbys/wifeys na may (o nagkaroon ng) extra-marital affairs ay “mga sinuggaling”.  
Kahit na ONS lang yan, along the way nag/mag-sinunggaling ang mga yan. Tandaan nyo yan.
Ang masama nun, kadalasan ginagawang sangkalan pa ang mga esposo’t esposas nila. Kung anik-anik na panglalait sinasabi about their spouses just to please their kalaguyos. At ang mga kalaguyo naman, feel na feel ang papuri, kaya sige, todo-bigay. Mula sa petty things hanggang sa “sex’ itself… ilahad ko na para masaya. Sampol!

          Yummm! Sarap ng monay burger mo hon ah, samantala si misis magsaing lang, sunog pa.
          Mmm babe, ang bango-bango mo. Pwamis! di katulad ng asawa ko na amoy suka.
          Ohhsyeeet hon! Ikaw pa lang ang sumipsip nyan, si misis nandidiri gawin yan, ang arte ng bruha.
          Wag mong tigilan labs. Ahhh! Si mister, ang liit na nga, di pa marunong sumisid ng tilapia. Ahh!

Sige idetalye mo ang alam mo. Why are you curious then?  Are you planning to have mistresses too?

Girltalker2 - mmm… feeling ko lang... di na ba kita kakampi?

kasi naman kasi…ni-quote ako, pinutol naman. Eh, ang LAHAT ng posts ko kaya dito walang [textspeak!]. At kahit kelan hindi rin ako nag edit o nag delete ng post ko. (yung Mods maraming dinelete). Once lang ako nag modify ng post ko (sa Shocking News…) kasi walang in-between poster.

Pero nahihiya naman ako sa yo sis, talagang binasa mo post ko ha?
(dapat may “LIKE” features ang GT ala Fezbuk ano?)

Now, am I curious? NOoooo! Para que? Mistresses? Why? I don’t even entertain nor have thoughts of getting married. Pano mangyari yon?
Mistresses para makarami ako? Why? Hindi ko ba nakukuha ngayon yan?
Sa uulitin ko, (medyo OT na to. Para magkaliwanagan lang.)… que babaeng bayaran man o hindi, basta! It doesn’t matter... Ang totoo nyan, sa sobrang dami, pag beinte y singco anyos pataas, nasusuka na ako tikman… kaya nga may nagde-debut taon-taon eh.

Actually, kung ilatag man ng mga mistresses (o former mistresses dito ang mga “generic” details na sinasabi ko, ang mas makinabang ay ang mga MARRIED sissies dito. Sa ganun, as I have said, kung wala man sila kamuwang-muwang, at least may INDICATORS na sila na pagtuunan ng pansin kung nagloloko nga ba ang mga esposo nila.

Mmm, How about you Girltaker2? Why not share your experience(s) instead with that manloloko…  sinunggaling, philandering, babaero, hayok sa laman, no-good, Pinoy, EX-husband of yours? …(itinodo ko na ha? bitter ka naman sa kanya based on your previous posts eh).
What were the INDICATORS nung una mong naramdaman/pinaghinalaan na may kinalolokohan na sya?
You bet, malaking tulong sa mga wifeys dito ang i-share mong pointers.
(yan kung ok lang sa yo bilang nakakatandang, well-experienced, open-minded sister sa nakararami dito... dare? )

Oist! I was expecting your reply sa thread na to:
http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/topic,279625.0.html



pansin nyo? Wala nang masyadong kontrabida posts dito?
Aminin mga wifeys. You learned something, somehow. Ayt?
Kasi naman mga sissies, bago nyo batuhin ang lahat ng mga kalaguyo, o paghingaan ng sama ng loob ang mga kapatid natin dito na umaming mistress o naging mistress… bakit hindi muna kayo magmuni-muni at tanungin ang mga sarili nyo? (tatlo lang yan)
    Hinayaan ko ba mangabit ang asawa ko?
   Alam ba ng asawa ko kung ano ang mawawala sa kanya pag niloko nya ako?
   May kinikilalang Panginoon pa ba kami na namamagitan sa buhay namin bilang mag-asawa?

Ngayon, kung may nakaligtaan kayong isa sa tatlo at ngaw-ngaw pa rin kayo ng ngaw-ngaw. Eh, Ibang tao naman ang gusto nyong ipako sa krus… heh! Tumigil ka nga! Ikaw ang latigohin ko eh.



babalik ako sa thread na to. Masaya na eh. Average 1000 views per page na.

[miss_isla]

Is it the wife's fault that she can't keep her man?

[DianeShishio]

So, ano pong ipinaglalaban natin?     

How hard is it to understand na ang manloloko ay manloloko at ang kabit ay kabit baligtarin mo man ang mundo? Na kasali pa rin sa wedding vows and "...or for worse" part?

[vainmom]

Dapat sana prior sa wedding day mo,my 1 to 2 years seminars trainings para sure na sure na emotionally at mentally physically sure ka sa lifetime affair mo sa chosen partner mo..

[sugardrop]

Is it the wife's fault that she can't keep her man?

It takes two to tango.