^AGREE
Ako din, I wanna see what lessons can be picked up from mistresses. IMO, everyone, regardless of position in life -- has a lesson to share.
The hurdle to sharing appears to be the boastful stance of mistresses/3rd parties -- parang ok lang maka isa sa pagsira ng buhay ng iba. So, that gets the fences up.
Well, there's a lesson therein too for wives.
Ok, let's see, share ko what I learned from mistresses/3rd parties.
The common denominator is sex. Sabi nga ng Lolo namin: Ang bago/ bawal eh Masarap.
So, wives should really have new tricks or keep up a running show of fantasies.
Corollary to the Masarap eh kasi these women may be amenable to doing certain things a husband will not even dare ask his wife to do. Like suck his toes? Hahaha. S&M? Lol
1 thing I gathered too was that a Husband/BF has a certain image of strength or superiority -- so in his times of self doubt/decline/failure -- he finds solace in someone who will take him, no questions, no expectations, no judgment, no fears.
So, wives should handle their husbands' vulnerability with empathy. Do not add to his stress, to his self doubt, waning confidence etc.
As a man's career/business progresses -- he needs to level up his image, his lifestyle, his skills & capabilities. The higher up the man is, the more proficient and presentable & sociable his woman must be. The higher up he goes, the more he needs a Total Performing Wife/ Partner.
So, wives should keep up & level-up too. Not just physically, but also intellectually. For as a man moves up, his crowd becomes better -- wealthier and brainier. Kelangan the wife feels comfy with the crowd they leveled up to.
Men are such ego-centric creatures generally. They want to be "appreciated" Pag taken for granted, or he feels the wife is better than him -- ayan na. He may look for someone who acts as if everything he says is brilliant, who never contradicts/challenges him. Someone who is very grateful with the few thousands or gifts he gives her -- tuwang tuwa as his wife when he gave her a new car.
So, wives should not win battles to lose the war. (And, lol, sa umpisa lang ok sa mistress to be happy with konti, later on -- level up to or even surpass the wife's demands yan. Lol. I bet my 2 ears). ..... (& some husbands, di nila ma gets that "appreciation" is in our taking care of their children, their home, their hard-earned money. Hay buhay )
So there. That's all I know from mistresses.
I hope mistresses or third parties share -- not their disregard for morality or human-ness; or as a Sis said well: nagka kalyo na ang konsensya -- but the essence of their relationship (that they too know is improper but they insist on rationalizing).
No judgment! Peace.
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