Mid 30's makakapag asawa pa kaya?

[summerster]

Isa ako sa worried about this, i'm currently 33 and been single for the past 2 years. tama mga sis I need to start going out again. masyado naging busy sa work puro trabaho at bahay na lang wala iba circle of friends.

Thanks sa mga post dito nakakaremind lang.

[kirsten10]

Kung gusto magkababy pa, double time!
Medyo madami din kase mid 30s na babae na searching. Mga naging busy sa career ngayon naghahabol. Sometimes may mga long time boyfriend tapos magbreak or mangangaliwa si bf, sayang oras. Tapos single na sila ulit, hirap na mag hanap pag mid 30s na. Time is of the essence kung gusto magbaby.

[langley]

^Exactly.

Ang daming babae ngayon ang sinasayang ang child-bearing years nila either sa career or sa long-time relationship sa boyfriend na hindi sila pakakasalan.

I wonder why our society is so backward?

And why so many career women are unhappy?

[nathanielle]

^Bakit sayang mag career?

You could also ask why are there so many housewives who are so bored and unhappy. Because they didn't give themselves the chance to reach their fullest potential. A woman is not born just to be a wife or a mother. Walang masama kung may mga babaeng gusto mag housewife. It may be your choice, but it wasn't mine and I have absolutely no regrets. Kanya kanya yan. Kung hindi masama gustuhin mag housewife, hindi rin dapat masama unahin ang career. We have skills and talents, and may pangarap din naman tayo para sa mga sarili natin na gusto nating matupad. At masasabi ko, kapag may nangyari man sa pagsasama namin ng asawa ko, hindi ako pupulutin kung saan saan lang.

To the threadstarter, yes makakapagasawa ka pa. I have friends who got married at 40. Hindi na nagkaanak though, pero masayang masaya sila. They travel the world, have great businesses, have nice houses, etc. Kanya kanyang trade off din. 

[Girltalker2]

To the threadstarter, yes makakapagasawa ka pa. I have friends who got married at 40. Hindi na nagkaanak though, pero masayang masaya sila. They travel the world, have great businesses, have nice houses, etc. Kanya kanyang trade off din.

May kakilala ngako 42yo na nag asawa. Nagkaron pa sila ng 2 kids.  I guess mas alam na nila ang gusto nila when they marry late. Kaya success rate for marriages kapag mas late nag asawa is much better, mas alam narin nila i-handle, kesa sa mga nag aasawa nang mas bata.   Kaya kay TS, be patient. May advantage din kung mag asawa ka nang mas late.

[pret_ty68]

^^
Oo nga naman. Not every woman is meant to be a wife and/or mother. It is our society who thinks backwards by suggesting that a woman's role is confined to being a wife/mother. It is wrong to judge a person's happiness based on his/her married status because being married is not an indicator of happiness, while it is true that marriage can make a person happy it is not true to all, because happiness is relative. You can be a happy single or married but miserable.

Sure if goal talaga nang isang tao to get married he/she can get married kahit ano pang edad but the question is "Do you want to get married just for the sake of getting married?"

^
Ako rin may mga kakilala who got married in their 40s nagkaroon pa naman nang kids. Yung isa nga 43 na nagasawa buntis sa first baby nila ngayon at 45.

[10tequilashots]

^Exactly.

Ang daming babae ngayon ang sinasayang ang child-bearing years nila either sa career or sa long-time relationship sa boyfriend na hindi sila pakakasalan.

I wonder why our society is so backward?

And why so many career women are unhappy?

Panong nasayang?

And don't generalize. I have a great career and I'm perfectly happy. I know a lot of people who are as well.

Let's not set back decades of hard-fought equality and the right to choose by such sweeping statements.

[alexandrea]

Not every woman wants kids. Please let us stop trivializing women into nothing more than breeders.

[simang]

I'd like to quote MTV's Girl Code:

"There's a million possibilities for your life. Having a baby is just one of the possibilities. You could become a pirate."

I'd love to be married and have babies, but becoming a pirate is probably fun too. I mean, let's not judge women who choose to prioritize their careers over their lovelives. Not all women are meant to be wives and mothers, and some just simply choose to not be one.

[Girltalker2]

^ Ang mas astig pa eh what if you are a pirate mom?  haha

Point is you can do more than 1 role, whatever you want and be HAPPY too. 

[aquacharly]

TS:  YES.  YES.  YES. 

At whatever age, one can marry.   

[caterpillar-girl]

Meron talagang mga babae na ang tanging ambisyon sa buhay ay magkaanak at sundin ang asawa. I imagine it's hard for them to even conceive that other women might have other dreams and desires in life. Let us let them be.

To TS, oo naman you still have a chance. Why not. Siguro your best bet is to look for men who are also in the same stage as you.  Or even older. Hindi na yung mejo mas bata na gusto pang magdate date lang or magexperiment. Go for guys who are more mature and more experienced. Marami pa sila. Be prepared to compromise lang. Baka iba sa kanila may anak na, or focused talaga sa career. But I think makakahanap ka pa.

[lady gwenhwyfar]

Slow clap to sis alexandrea ... I dislike when women judge other women because they don't have children.

To be honest, a lot of my single friends are a lot happier than married ones. don't get me wrong, I also want to be married and have children but if that doesn't happen, I know i'll still be happy. I do not think of myself as less of a person just because of my relationship status.

If people judge me because of that, then i know that i am happier than they are. Because happy people spread happiness and not pre-judge other people.

[amethyst028]

sa mga mid 30's ladies, would you go out with guys who are annulled/divorced? para kasing kung ang hahanapin natin ay older or same age may probability na ganito situation ng ibang guys. although may binata and madami pa rin but most of them are looking for someone younger late 20's to early 30's ang peg nila for child bearing reasons. not to offend anyone pero pinoy kasi ganon mag isip e.

personally mas prefer ko foreigner (western) for the simple reason na mas malawak sila mag isip. i've talk to a lot them and mid 30's is still very young for them unlike sa mga pinoy na tingin sa ganong age matanda na. and ang unang sasabihin pa mahihirapan ka na magkaanak. as if yun lang talaga ang purpose mo sa buhay.

im also ok with men who are annulled/divorced kasi mas realistic sila. they've been married before so mas domesticated na rin sila. mas ok sakin kung may kids na and since i have a kid na rin we won't feel pressured to have our own kid if that didn't happen.

these are my personal preference. some might not agree but for me i am just being practical. and i won't settle down for the sake of it. one last thing pala pansin ko lang i'm meeting more quality men now than i did when i was in my 20's. it's really worth waiting for someone na para sayo talaga.

[alexandrea]

^ I don't mind annulled/divorced men. You don't get to your mid-30s without some baggage.

[purple.strawberry]

I agree, iba kasi ang perception natin ng age dito. Sa ibang bansa pag 20s ka you're considered really young, and yes 30s is not late pa naman. Dito kasi ang expectation is you're gonna get married na during mid-20s to early 30s. Lalo na sa babae, pag nasa 30s ka na and still single panic stage na.

Yes makakapag-asawa pa naman, madami namang ganyan. Yung iba nga marry at a later age pa. Sometimes talaga late mo na mamimeet yung good life-long partner for you. There's nothing abnormal about that, it's just life.

[jarjarbinks]

i am 34 and turning 35 come december. I am single for more than 4years na. sa office merong sobrang sweet sa akin but he is not saying that he is courting me. ayoko mag assume. he is only 27.

since i am an only child, pinipressure na ako ng parents ko to marry. as if naman i can pay a guy to marry me no?

to the TS, yes of course (if that is God's will)

[Girltalker2]

Yes makakapag-asawa pa naman, madami namang ganyan. Yung iba nga marry at a later age pa. Sometimes talaga late mo na mamimeet yung good life-long partner for you. There's nothing abnormal about that, it's just life.

Kahit late ka man ikasal basta you married the right guy, tapos happy naman and fulfilling ang married life mo - mas mabuti na iyan kesa 20s ka nga kinasal kaso lifetime na sakit naman ng ulo ang nadatnan mo.

Basta marry right.

[amethyst028]

share ko lang ha. i attended a short course and may naging classmate ako she is in her late 40's to early 50's and still single. i found out na she is engaged to a german businessman. o diba? may asim pa ang lola. so may pag asa pa talaga. hehe!

ang importante happy ka with your disposition in life whether with a partner or without. if you are the right girl you will attract the right guy kaya continue to evolve to be the best you you can be.- eto ang mantra ko lately.

sa akin so far i am enjoying my single life, ang dami ko kasing na di-discover about myself lalo na these past few months. and sabi nga it's not the destination, it's the journey. kaya i am exploring the possibilities and trying to stretch my limits (what i am capable of). i have faith that if the person for me is out there we will find each other.

[sparkymeme]

My friend and I share the same sentiment. Dito kasi sa atin, when girls are in their 30s laging tinatanong when ikakasal at tumatanda na mahihirapan magkaanak etc. Laging prinepressure lalo na if your siblings are married na. I am so not looking forward to another dose of questions like that come january kapag nagpakasal na un bunso kong kapatid. But it's true na mas open-minded ang foreigners when it comes to women's age. I don't think it's really an issue for them. They don't really consider a 30-something woman old.

Even though I'm quite wanting to start my own family, since single ako, that's impossible haha pero sa panahon ngayon, hindi naman impossible for 30-something women like us to get married. It is better than getting stuck in a bad marriage. Hindi mura ang annulment sa pilipinas at wala pang divorce dito. pero syempre we need to make sure na presentable naman tayo especially kapag umaalis tayo ng house kasi we'll never know if we'll cross paths with mr. right