Fact or Fiction: once a cheater, always a cheater???

[ankyneMD]

My husband cheated me na once pa lang naman. Nahuli ko siya katextmate yung flirt nyang officemate. Pero pinagtripan niya lang daw yun. And "for now" good boy siya. He tells me everything, kung san pupunta, sinong kasama, at pag sinasabi kong sama ako, sinasama niya naman ako. Ok kami "sa ngayon". Pero ayoko pa din maging kampante.
Kayo mga sis?? Naniniwala ba kayo sa kasabihang once a cheater, always a cheater? Post away your thoughts and experiences 

[khrysiesomuch]

hindi naman po siguro. Yung uncle ko kasi nagcheat noong kabataan nila. Nahuli ni auntie. Nagkapatawaran sila. Nahuli pa ni auntie kasi sumakay sa trunk si auntie tapos sinundo ni uncle yung girl galing office tapos tuloy hotel. nung nagstop na yung car at narinig na ni auntie yung uncle ko na nag che check in ayun kinalampag na niya yung sasakyan para mapansin siya. Muntik na silang maghiwalay noon pero buti na save ang relasyon nila para sa dalawa nilang mga anak. sa ngayon po 30 years na silang kasal ni auntie and still counting. No more incident of cheating na and lagi silang magkasama kahit saan magpunta

[aquacharly]

^hahaha, what chutzpah!  Ang galing, no room for denials.



What I know about cheaters (but what do I know, really?): 

Once a cheater, LIKELY to cheat  again --  UNTIL he decides to stop, not a second sooner -- no matter what resources/reasons/arguments/threats you martial.  He will stop cheating when he decides to stop. Even if he still itches to cheat, but he has decided to stop -- there's the answer to your prayers.


Most cheaters stop cheating, for SOME TIME, then resume their cheating -- for reasons/rationalizations only they know.

Some cheaters sooner or later (mostly: later) STOP as in almost or completely cease & desist.
Miracles do happen. But I do not advise holding your breath waiting for a miracle.




May I also share that:

IMO, there is nothing we can do that will guarantee a man will not cheat. A man who decides to cheat, will find the ways & means to do so. 

BUT we can try to minimize a man's giving in to temptation.  How? Be sensitive to what he says & does not say, but communicates to you he yearns for.  Most men give out signals when they feel  susceptible to giving in to temptation.  Listen to such, do not dismiss it --  then act on it. 

[tey_roch19]

i agree! 

[Girltalker2]

No more incident of cheating na and lagi silang magkasama kahit saan magpunta

Lagi silang magkasama kasi gusto nila or lagi silang magkasama para nakabantay lagi yung aunt mo at walang mga masasamang loob na magtatangkang lumapit sa uncle mo?

[ankyneMD]

and lagi silang magkasama kahit saan magpunta

E kasi wala na trust kaya lagi na nakabantay si auntie mo. Pero once na makahanap lang ng chance uncle mo, para nanaman malayang ibon yan.

[khrysiesomuch]

Siguro nga sis baka pili lang yung kwento nung pinsan ko sa akin hehe.

[irish_pearl]

I think hindi naman, may mga times talaga na naliligaw sila pero it really depends on the guy if he is not contented sa partner nila..

[justin3]

TS, ikaw kasi eh, sa text pa lang kumakarengkeng, sinemplang mo na agad. pano mo na lang malaman kung talagang chumu-churva sya? sa ginawa mo, kung talagang nagloloko sya, mag-iingat na yon.

kaninang tanghali, i was traveling with friends from San Juan to Manila. napadaan kami sa mot-mot avenue ng Sta Mesa. no less than 5 tinted cars ang nakita naming pumasok sa mga mot-mot. tawanan kami. alam na. "LUNCH BREAK" with "raw meat" as extra viand.

what i'm trying to say is... tandaan nyo... "gurls cheat if there's something wrong with the relationship, guys cheat if there's an OPPORTUNITY"

during lunch breaks, 1-1.5hrs, marami nang pwedeng mangyari/magawa ng mga nasasadlak sa  "bawal na pag-ibig". at napakagandang "excuse" pa sa workplace o kay misis. oha?

eh, if you have read my posts about "walk sites", dun lang eh, ang dami nakakasingit ng "extra curricular activities" dun dahil sa "opportunity" na yan.

maidagdag ko lang mga sis, kahit na maraming opportunities pa yan... tatlong bagay lang yan (cosistent ako dito, kahit na halungkatin nyo pa mga previous posts ko), para hindi gawin ng lalaki ang magloko:
     you won't allow it
     alam nya kung ano ang mawawala sa kanya
     God still exists in your marriage

need i clarify/elaborate? 

pero teka muna, "cheating" na ba talaga yung nakipagharutan lang sa text? hindi ba "emotional cheating" lang yon?  na pwede ihahintulad sa panonood ng porn, o paglingon pag may sexing dumaan, pagnanasa sa alindog ni kumare, o pagpila para magpa-autograph ng FHM December issue kay Alice Dixon sa Galeria last December 14?

so, "Fact or Fiction: once a cheater, always a cheater?"... based sa mga nasaksihan ko, partly a fact, hindi naman fiction. eh, may mga colleagues/friends/relatives ako na dating likas na babaero at nagbago, at hanggang sa namatay, i could attest na hindi na talaga nagloko. meron namang kung kelang tumanda na at amoy lupa na, saka nagloko ulit. ika nga, walang tutang na-uulol.