Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)

[mischa04]

Ako ba sis jonduh? Hehe.. May work naman sya, head na nga sya sa call center na pinagtatrabahuhan nya, he was a former teacher, aspiring lawyer rin.. Kung sa babaero, yun di ko masagot, all i know is yung last relationship nya ay 2 years ago and it lasted for 4 years..

[mischa04]

Oh yes sis jonduh, you're right! Taking advantage as much as he can...tsk..tsk.. na-feel ko na yun before pero di ko pinansin..haay.. I think totoo naman yung mga sinabi nya, based sa posts sa fb nya, may mga students na kinakamusta sya, friends asking kung lawyer na sya, workmates who calls him sir, ini-stalk ko kasi for awhile sa fb kasi duda nga ko sa pagkatao..hahaha..

[argento]

Nagsabay kaming kumuha ng passport then nun kumain kami ng lunch sa KFC sabi nya kanya2 daw kmi dahil wala syang pera.

KKB naman pala Tsaka nagkasabay lang naman kayo di naman date yun. nagpalibre ba siya sa yo? Siguro nagexpect ka na ililibre ka dahil may gusto ka. Tsaka bakit ka nagvolunteer na ikaw na magbayad eh KKB nga. Hindi ka lang nalibre na turn off ka na.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^^ well maybe you two are going at as friends and not really as dates/potential partner thing

[latte]

I know that it was not fair pero i was just honest to what i felt. Nawala ang paghanga ko sa tao na yun. Iniwasan ko sya which is wala naman masama kasi kung hindi nya naman talaga ako gusto. Pero he asked me more than once if galit ako sa kanya he he he! Syempre sabi ko hindi. Tapos yun after thrice yata of calling and texting di na sya nagtanong ulit.

I just remember now na may isa pa palang nangyari on that day kasi may problema yun birth certificate nya kaya di sya nakakuha ng passport. Galit sya and parang nag swear sya yun pala kaya din ako na turn off.

[louise1]

yeah medyo makapal nga ang mukha, i gave the benefit of the doubt na baka nga naman babawi, pero di pa rin eh, and worse nangutang pa, toinks! Hahaha.. He's a good man (i think), intelligent, may looks, kaso nakakapagduda ang intention diba? Hehe..

I've met a guy who's like this too. at first we go dutch. Then yung mga sumunod, ako na yung nagbayad. I gave him a parker fountain pen pa nga. hahaha.. After I gave him that pen naging cold na sya. But I didnt waste my time on him. I dont text him na unless he texted me.

Oh well. i guess may mga ganun talagang lalaki na JERK and user type.
If you felt that you're being used, then stop and set boundaries and limitations.

 

[slickchick]

Question...

Normal ba na a guy would ask you to go out with him for the first time tapos nung magkasama na kayo biglang sasabihin na sagot mo muna ha, i don't have cash naiwan ko pa atm? Then second time, ganon ulit sagot mo muna ha di pa kasi sahod? Third time, bago pa magkita the girl said dutch tayo ha, he said yes pero nung magkasama na ganon ulit sagot mo muna ha, dami lang prob bawi ako next time? Hahaha..

sis, buti pumayag ka pa on a 3rd date with him. bilib din ako sa tiwala mo sa kanya ah. hahaha! 

question lang din. if the guy is a freeloader or user-friendly and you noticed it while you are still in the dating stage (not yet officially "on"), is there a nice or not-so-mean way of ditching him on the grounds na freeloader or user-friendly sya? he can easily say kasi na maisip ka lang without him realizing na makapal na talaga mukha nya.. just curious. 

[sugardrop]

^
When I dated this guy years ago na literally freeloader, dinirecho ko sya. Kasi umuutang pambayad daw ng kuryente nila. I told him straight na maghanap sya ng trabaho at ang bata and lakas pa niya. A couple of months after, he told me may work na sya and wanted to go out again. Di na ako nag-reply. Hehe.

[jtansanco]

^^ Freeloaders don't deserve a "nice" ditching. Just tell him na nakakahiya siya. Or, he's being user-friendly to enjoy the free things he can get from you since he thinks na patay na patay ka sa kanya. In my case, I always treat the girl if I like her. If not, KKB. Haha

[slickchick]

^ thanks sa replies sis sugardrop and bro jtansanco! may point kayo. baka nga sa kapal ng face hindi makahalata unless derechahan sasabihin. 

[mischa04]

@louise, ako rin sis di ko sya tinetext, unless sya unang magtext.. kaya nga sya lagi nagyayaya..

@slickchick, hahaha..pumayag ako sis for the 3rd time kasi finally nasabi ko na we go dutch kung lalabas kami tapos sabi nya ok daw.. so all along alam ko ganon na, kaso di pa rin pala.. ang mahirap pa pag bayaran time na dun nya sasabihin na sagot ko muna kaya syempre naman pano pa ko tatanggi eh pag di ko pa binayaran eh mapapahiya rin ako let's say sa waiter ganon..buti kung pwede ibalik eh nakain na nya hahaha..  Nice question din sis ha, napaisip din ako na pano nga ba i-ditch ang mga ganon..in a nice way din sana, ayoko naman kasi na sabihin or isipin nya na mukang pera ko dahil lang hindi nya ko mailibre.. i don't need money dahil meron din ako nun haha..ang ayaw ko sayo eh mapagsamantala ka..yun gusto ko sabihin haha..

Tama naman kasi si @sacred cow, na kung walang panggastos eh di umisip nalang ng date na wala masyado gagastusin..

At umpisa pa lang sabihin na walang budget, hindi yung nilalagay ako sa on the spot at no choice situation..

@sugardrop, yung sayo sis walang work, eh ito may work kaya nakakapagtaka na walang pera.. makapal lang yata talaga mukha.. haha..

@jtansanco, kahit di nya deserve ang nice ditching eh ok pa rin siguro to be nice, atleast naging mabait at mabuti pa rin sa kanya, kunsensya na nya yun.. haha..

Kung patay na patay naman siguro ang isang girl sa isang guy na freeloader eh balewala sa girl kahit sya gumastos, no reklamo, at malamang sya pa magyaya lagi to go out..hehe..

[slickchick]

^ my gulay sis! nakakainis naman yang ka-date mo na yan... nalagay ka pa on-the-spot. buti na lang may dala kang extra money. eh what if kulang yung dala mo, willing ba sya maghugas ng plato? hahaha! napapaisip nga ako sis ng magandang ditching dialogue na magandang sabihin sa guy na freeloader eh... baka nga kasi sa kapal ng mukha nya, ibalik pa nya sa atin na tayo lang yung mukhang pera or sobrang maisip... hahaha!

[argento]

So women becomes freeloaders sa mga dates?

[sugardrop]

^
Just like men, there are also women who are freeloaders. Not to be generalized, though.

[mischa04]

@slickchick, ang matindi sis yung iwan bigla at mag-isang maghugas ng pinggan hahaha! Kalurkey! Good thing I always bring extra.. Tama baka hindi tablan sa kapal at ibalik lang diba..

@argento, no naman..depende rin kasi sa arrangement..nakasanayan lang talaga na guys pay on dates specially pag guy ang nag-ask for a date, pero ngayon naman uso na rin ang dutch dating.. Ako naman kahit guy ang nag-ask I always offer to share, if tanggapin eh ok lang kung hindi naman eh ok lang din. Parang di lang talaga ok na girl lang ang gagastos unless yung girl ang nag-volunteer na sagot nya yun date..

[argento]

^usually men pays for the dates bihira yung hindi magbabayad. Because for us once lang di mabayaran ang date for some reason eh freeloader agad ang tawag. So the freeloader term more applies to women than men.

[simang]

it's more of whoever had the idea of going out, in my opinion, should pay, unless he/she made it clear na you go dutch in the first place.

[insanelypurpleprincess]

My personal take on this matter, even if it's the guy who invites me out, I would always offer to pay my share or split the bill, luckily though... I have never chanced upon a guy who would accept the offer. So, it's always the guy who pays. The only exception would be if I set ahead of time and say... let's watch this cheesy movie and I know it's not your thing, but for as long as you cooperate and watch, it's my treat.. I'll even buy you popcorn and drinks

[mischa04]

Yes @argento, thrice kasi..may point si sis @jonduh, he is considered a freeloader na..

'Freeloader' applies more to women.. hindi naman siguro.. unless the girl is really taking advantage like bilmoko girl na, eh pano kung choice lang talaga ng guy na sya lagi magbayad or ayaw tumanggap ng share..

[slickchick]

 

^usually men pays for the dates bihira yung hindi magbabayad. Because for us once lang di mabayaran ang date for some reason eh freeloader agad ang tawag. So the freeloader term more applies to women than men.

this is the reason why i prefer to go dutch especially on the first few dates. para walang masabi si guy... hahaha! sorry, may pride din ako... hahaha!   

it's more of whoever had the idea of going out, in my opinion, should pay, unless he/she made it clear na you go dutch in the first place.

i agree with sis simang on this, especially if the couple is on a going-steady stage. another option would be to split the bill.