Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)

[jtansanco]

^^ Never assume. Let the guy say it to you directly if he likes you. Just shrug it off because he's just flirting. I feel like I can relate because I've done something like this before. Haha

[baliwsayo]

Guys, if you already have everything, what else would your gf can give you that will make your birthday special?

[fleur_de_liz]

guys question.. do usually etxt your gf's ba like kung san kayo pupunta, if nakauwi na kayo, if nasa office na or anything na mga agagwin or pupuntahan nyo. is it possible ba sa mga guys na hindi man lang pinapaalam sa gf kung nasaan na sya. like magtetext lang if nakauwi an then matutulog na.

[Girltalker2]

^ Sis, hindi ako guy. pero I have been looking at your love story. Parang diskumpyado ako sa guy mo, given the limited posts you have provided.  But maybe may ibang side sya na hindi namin nababasa here.

To answer your question, generally ang guys hindi ma text. pero If they are into you, they would worry if you look for them or they would think of you kaya kahit papano ipapaalam nila.

[argento]

guys question.. do usually etxt your gf's ba like kung san kayo pupunta, if nakauwi na kayo, if nasa office na or anything na mga agagwin or pupuntahan nyo. is it possible ba sa mga guys na hindi man lang pinapaalam sa gf kung nasaan na sya. like magtetext lang if nakauwi an then matutulog na.

Gf dapat ang nagpapaalam hindi bf.

[simang]

guys question.. do usually etxt your gf's ba like kung san kayo pupunta, if nakauwi na kayo, if nasa office na or anything na mga agagwin or pupuntahan nyo. is it possible ba sa mga guys na hindi man lang pinapaalam sa gf kung nasaan na sya. like magtetext lang if nakauwi an then matutulog na.

I guess depende sa tao, ako for example i dont live with my parents since i was 15, so di ako nasanay masyado na 'nagrereport' even sa partner ko, so i dont really expect him to report to me his whereabouts. if i ask, he tells me naman, and vice versa. so i guess it all depends on the person. my POV there is that texting is never a sign of loyalty/love etc etc. as long as your guy treats you right, you're probably good

[Girltalker2]

Gf dapat ang nagpapaalam hindi bf.

Bakit obligation ng GF ipaalam pero not the guy?

if i ask, he tells me naman, and vice versa. so i guess it all depends on the person. my POV there is that texting is never a sign of loyalty/love etc etc. as long as your guy treats you right, you're probably good

But really, does one really need to ask?  Hindi naman siguro na di ba? 
Kung say may trips abroad, from when to when para maka arrange kayo ng lakad kapag nakabalik na agad ang isa.

But I do agree, sometimes it depends nga din siguro. But most importantly, either one of you should not be uneasy or hinahanap na yung partner tapos the other party naman eh dedma.

[ann08]

For me, kung minsan lang naman nakaka miss mag text yung guy okay lang kasi nature talaga nila
hindi mag report unless super nice at behave nila. Pero kung nadadalas yung hindi pag tetext kahit alam nyang nag woworry ka for him maybe that's the time na confront him or just tell him what you feel when he's like that.

Question, would you date or like a girl who has a low self esteem because of her imperfections?

[fleur_de_liz]

in my case kasi hindi pala-text si bf eversince.kahti nun nanliligaw pa sya. nasanay kasi ako na 8am he'll text me na kaso yesterday 10am na di pa din nag-tetext then nalaman ko he went to the gym pala so pinagalitan ko kasi di nag-paalam sa'kin na pupunta ng gym then my reason is nasanay kasi ko na nagettext sya ng around 8am na sana naman bago sya pumunta ng gym eh nagtext muna sya sa akin na pupunta nga sya dun. then sabi nya sa'kin medyo unreasonable naman daw na dahil lang dun eh galit na galit na ko.nataon lang daw na wala syang load nun at nasa gym na sya and naisip nya na after the gym tsaka na lang sya papa-load to text me. so ako naman parang, hala, ganun ba yun? hindi man lang inisip na baka nag-aalala rin ako sa kanya..

[zarazan]

It depends kung pano kayo nagsimula. Kung sa start palang, medyo hindi na talaga matext si guy, then baka ganun lang talaga siya.  Pero pag yung habang tumatagal, dun na nagsstop yung texting, I think you can confront him about it?

Kami kasi, medyo 24/7 kami magtext eh. Ewan, siguro kasi parang bestfriend lang yung dating. I tend to text my friends the whole day too, so hindi lang siya.  Pero yung isa kong kakilala, bago lang sila matulog naguusap. Pero they seem fine naman.


I HAVE A QUESTION.

Do you guys get what ifs sa mga nambasted sa inyo? Example, nagka-gf na kayo, do you still think pano kung sinagot ka ni ganito/ganyan?

[sugardrop]

^^
Sorry sis, but I find that kinda unreasonable din para mapagalitan like hindi lang naka-text agad. Pero like you said, nasanay ka nga na 8am eh may text ka na from him.


In our case, hindi kami pala-text like almost the whole day. May times na oo, halos buong araw kami mag-text pero may times na we'll just catch up in the evening and that's it. Hindi sya nagpapaalam like asking for permission to go but he lets me know where he's going or where he has been if he failed to let me know beforehand. And I don't confront him and I do not especially nag him kung na-late sya ng text or sabi kasi I don't want to sound too controlling, clingy, and needy. Baka masabihan pa ako na talo ko pa nanay or ex-wife nya. It's the same for me, I text just to let him know but not to ask permission.

[Girltalker2]

^^ Sis sugardrop, ito nga yung sinasabi ko regarding sa story ni sis fleur. Sis fleur, correct me if I am wrong.  You met your guy in the gym, dun kayo nag uusap at nagkakilala.  While he is making passes at you, he had a GF at that time.  Hindi kaya nag-w-worry ka now na umiikot na naman mga mata nya while he is with you?

[sugardrop]

^
I get your point, sis. Lemme know if I misunderstood. Possible na unconsciously or subconsciously, sis fleur is worried that he might be doing the very same thing he did with her and might be hitting on some other girl at the gym kasi that's exactly what he did sa kanya.

Possible but what happened to trust? Why not give the fellow the benefit of the doubt muna na baka nga talagang walang load and plans to text her once he's done sa gym. Like what another sis pointed out, if may sudden change after the same pattern for a long time eh maybe that's the time to ask. Nasa beginning stage pa lang sila ng relationship nila, more time to observe pa and see that pattern. Baka lang masakal kasi agad na kailangan muna mag-paalam sa lahat and baka lalong maghanap ng iba knowing na sa gym, there are lots of fish in the sea.

Edit: I have a question to sis fleur_de_liz : does he make you feel assured in your relationship? Assured in a sense na it's just you and there's no one else? Ewan ko lang pero kasi if he makes you feel assured, minsan kahit wala nang report ng whereabouts eh okay lang kasi aside sa may tiwala ka, alam mo na walang iba kahit nasaan mang lupalop sya ng Pilipinas.

[fleur_de_liz]

our relationship naman is ok, ewan ko ba bakit ako sinumpong yesterday. actually anrealize ko rin nga na hidni ko pala dapat ginawa yun eh. pero tama si girltalker isa rin sa iniisp ko is baka history repeats itself ang magign drama. hindi maaalis sa akin yun since nangyari na dati. so i guess kaya rin nag-emote ako is because of that certian reason na rin..

[mischa04]

Question...

Normal ba na a guy would ask you to go out with him for the first time tapos nung magkasama na kayo biglang sasabihin na sagot mo muna ha, i don't have cash naiwan ko pa atm? Then second time, ganon ulit sagot mo muna ha di pa kasi sahod? Third time, bago pa magkita the girl said dutch tayo ha, he said yes pero nung magkasama na ganon ulit sagot mo muna ha, dami lang prob bawi ako next time? Hahaha..

[VainDoll]

^ once is enough, twice is too much hehe parang off naman sis.. Pero baka nga walang pera, pero sana wag na lang magpalibre..

[sacred cow]

Question...

Normal ba na a guy would ask you to go out with him for the first time tapos nung magkasama na kayo biglang sasabihin na sagot mo muna ha, i don't have cash naiwan ko pa atm? Then second time, ganon ulit sagot mo muna ha di pa kasi sahod? Third time, bago pa magkita the girl said dutch tayo ha, he said yes pero nung magkasama na ganon ulit sagot mo muna ha, dami lang prob bawi ako next time? Hahaha..

nope it's not normal. makapal lang mukha nung guy na makipagdate kung wala pala siyang pera. sana magisip na lang siya ng date na 'di kelangan gumastos

[latte]

^^^grabe! May ganyan palang lalake! Kung sa akin yan once is enough.  I had a guy friend dati na medyo crush ko hindi naman talaga kami close pero we know each other for long na at that time, this is way back late '90's yata. Nagsabay kaming kumuha ng passport then nun kumain kami ng lunch sa KFC sabi nya kanya2 daw kmi dahil wala syang pera. Parang ako ang nahiya sa sarili ko sabi ko sa kanya ako na lang ang magbabayad, that time KFC eh 100 plus lang yata ang bill namin dalawa. Beginning then iniwasan ko na sya to the max he he he! Off talaga sa akin yung mga ganyang lalake.

[sacred cow]

^^^grabe! May ganyan palang lalake! Kung sa akin yan once is enough.  I had a guy friend dati na medyo crush ko hindi naman talaga kami close pero we know each other for long na at that time, this is way back late '90's yata. Nagsabay kaming kumuha ng passport then nun kumain kami ng lunch sa KFC sabi nya kanya2 daw kmi dahil wala syang pera. Parang ako ang nahiya sa sarili ko sabi ko sa kanya ako na lang ang magbabayad, that time KFC eh 100 plus lang yata ang bill namin dalawa. Beginning then iniwasan ko na sya to the max he he he! Off talaga sa akin yung mga ganyang lalake.

^ was the kfc lunch a date?

[mischa04]

yeah medyo makapal nga ang mukha, i gave the benefit of the doubt na baka nga naman babawi, pero di pa rin eh, and worse nangutang pa, toinks! Hahaha.. He's a good man (i think), intelligent, may looks, kaso nakakapagduda ang intention diba? Hehe..