Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)

[berryblitz]

Normal ba sa guy na punan ang di nagagawa ng isang guy sa partner nila?  I got different offers like guys na willing maging tagabitbit ng stocks ko, guys na gusto ako idate as in date lang, guys na ihahatid ako from one place to another, etc

kasi even my husband, even sa harap ko, nag ooffer sya ng service sa neighbor namin na babae like, "sana sinabi mong pupunta kabg trinoma.  Kung hindi ka ihahatid ng husband mo, ako na lang ihahatid kita."  And last valentines day,  "hindi ka naman bibigyan ng rose ng asawa mo, ako na lang magbibigay ng rose." Sabay abot ng rose dun sa same neighbor, sa harap ko ah.  Kung tatanungin nyo kung may rose ako, ako po ang bumili ng rose.  Pinabili sa akin ng husband ko, 2 pcs roses.  Then di ko alam kung kanino nya ibibigay.  I thought sa relatives nya.  The 2nd rose, well siguro wala syang ibang mapagbigyan, so binigay nya sa akin.  And i didn't accept.  I just told him na aanhin ko yun.  Pero sa totoo, ang weird ng feeling kasi ako bumili then para sa akin?

I talked to my husband about the rose that he gave to our neighbor.  Hindi dahil sa nagselos ako (weird hindi ako nagselos).  Pero natakot ako baka masira yung relationship namin with the husband of that woman.  Baka nakakalalaki yung husband ko.  Pero sabi ng husband ko, masaya pa raw yung husband ng lalaki.

is this a joke?  Medyo nalilito ako.  Eh kung normal lang pala ang ganun sa guy, mageentertain na ako ng tagabitbit ng stocks.  Sa liit kong ito, ang bigay ng 10 kilogram na stocks. Even if gawin ko pang tig 5kg of package.  Nakakapagod ren dahil sa situation ko.  kasi those guys na nag ooffer ng service na tagabitbit ng stocks ko, they promised they just want to be with me and are willing to be my personal kargador with no extra charge.

[jtansanco]

^ I'm answering this with the lack of sleep so I might misinterpret the question but if you're good friends with those guys, it's normal for the guys to offer help to women especially if they see that they're having a hard time. Some do it out of being a gentleman and some do it because they're trying to impress you but not to the point that they want to court you especially if they know you're married. It really depends on the guy. Since I can't see them personal, this is what I can say so far.

[sacred cow]

it's normal for guys to offer help to women (especially if they find the girl attractive). ang hindi normal yung punan yung 'di nagagawa ng partner ng babae like maghatid or magbigay ng flower tapos sasabihin niya pang  "hindi ka naman bibigyan ng rose ng asawa mo, ako na lang magbibigay ng rose." that's kinda disrespectful to you, lalo na't sa harap mo pa ginawa IMO. it's not his place to say that, lalo na't may asawa na rin siya.

[berryblitz]

^^ those guys offering help, they are not my close/good friends.  Some of them are my buyers (or anak or pamangkin ng buyer ko) and had saw me na may bibit na mabigat na load after out meet up.  They are asking bakit di ko kasama bf or husband ko.  So nangungulit sila to be my kargador.  I told them i don't need them.  Pero they said they like me as a friend and would like to know me better. 

^ hindi ko lang maintindihan if it's because we and that neighbor of ours are tulungan.  Sometimes the woman's husband ask/nakikisuyo sa husband ko na ihatid wife nya to buy fresh fishes. So yung guy may trust sa husband ko.   So nalilito ako sa situation.  May pagkamanhid ata ang asawa ko, or hindi lang nya naisip.  Yung situation kasi na nangyari, mild lang yan.  Hindi nga ako nagselos or nasaktan regarding him giving our neighbor a rose kasi close naman kami.  There's a more hurtful one, jokes na hindi katanggap tanggap kapag buntis ang wife/partner. 


hindi ko mawari if my husband gives me his trust that i won't fool around like being with another guy in a bed.  I am not sure if it would be okay with him if i would accept a kargador.  after all, those applying to be my kargador wants to see (not meet) my husband.  Kahit na nasa bahay raw husband ko, then ihahatid sundo nila ako from and to my house, no problem. 

Pero based on experience, i had learned that ang lalaki, hindi mag aaksaya ng panahon sa isang babae kung walang motibo kahit [textspeak!] pa iyon. Parang nag iipon sila ng plus points sa girl.   Pero with those guys not caring kung makita sila ng husband ko, medyo nalito ako.  So mali ang paniniwala ko. 

Ako lang ba ang nalilito?

By the way, my husband is not the romantic type. 

[tamera_lorraine]

^ may mga guys lang talaga na gentleman.

tinutulungan ka nila not because he's interested on you romantically but because mabait lang talaga sila..

[berryblitz]

^ before nung bata bata pa ako, i was tagged by guys as manhid.  Akala ko kasi guys are just that friendly and helpful to all girls.  So nung huli, kapag may nangangamusta lagi or offering help, since i am married na, dinederetsa ko and ask them their motive.

so for those na piniga ko, and talagang wala raw silang motive, so i guess mali yung paniniwala ko.  So if there are help offered to me, just like my husband offered help to our lady neighbor, then i guess it is okay to accept such help. 

Siguro kung talagang mabigat and yung tipong mahihirapan ako bitbitin, i would consider a guy's help na. 

Thanks

[simang]

^if a guy offers help, accept it and say thank you.

And i dont know about the motive of the other guys wanting to help you, but your husband is a d [textspeak!] k. A disrespectful one at that

[berryblitz]

^ hindi alam kung manhid sya. There are worse scenarios.  So kakaadjust ko sa ugali nya, i kind of felt like maybe i am in an open relationship with my husband excluding the bed scenes with other guys.  My husband is a chinese from china.  I am a chinese na taga pilipinas.  Tsinay na ata tawag sa akin.  Unlike pinoys, hindi ko totally alam paano mag isip ang mga galing china.  So hindi ko alam kung normal ba sa kanila ang ganun.  Or ano ba talaga.  Kasi mga from china na nakipagsapalaran sa pilipinas go to divisoria to see those kibds of chinese), hindi talaga sila romantic. 

Thanks pala.   Medyo nalilinawan ako.  Hindi ko maintindihan kung bakit ganito situation ko.  Marami pa akong mga situatiins wherein matatawag akong malandi ng friends ko.  Lalo na at i am a chinese.  Kaya di ko alam saan ako puede magtanong.  Buti na lang dito sa forum may mga makakasagot ng questions ko.

Etong huli kasi, para naquequeation ko na sarili ko if i did something wrong kung bakit naging lapitin ng guys.  Well i change yung pananamit ko, for my husband.  I try to look good for him because of some issues i am trying to solve.  But even nung hindi pa ako nagchachange ng pananamit, may mga help and other offers na ako narereceive.  So i am sorting out the things i did while talking with the guys.

Kung mag accept ako ng taga bitbit, if magiging taga bitbit ko sya once or twice a month, hindi ba magiging abuso sa part ko? Or hindi kaya bad tignan sa mata ng iba?  taga bitbit lang naman, right?  Mangmang ako pagdating sa ganito.

[ChocoCat]

Why do guys like inserting green jokes during conversations?
Some guys, even after trying to change the topic, they will go back to making the conversation turn green.

[sacred cow]

a) enjoy lang talaga lalake sa usapang green

b) gustong nya mag-escalate kaya sinasaksakan ng sexual innuendo convo niya with you, baka daw makalusot and he'd get to see you nekkid

judging by your question, it seems hindi mo siya type kaya hindi gumana or you're just acting naive considering na 20+ ka na

[simang]

^haha naalala ko tuloy sabi ng isang taxi driver dati, ang babae kapag type ang lalaki kahit sunggaban mo hindi papalag; pero pag di nya type, hawakan mo lan buhok irereklamo ka na sa barangay.

[chichi143]

^ and i couldn't agree more on this. hahaha

[px17]

@berryblitz. If a guy offers you help..hayaan mo lang mag thank you ka nalang. Anyway kung may motive man siya at hindi ka interested eh siya naman yung napagod! hahaha

Most of my guy friends are maasikaso. Kapag nakikita nila kong nahihirapan sa bitbit ko kinukuwa na nila agad. Tingin ko naman kahit di mo close ang guy nasa nature na nila tumulong so minsan wag na magpakapagod mag-isip na baka may ibang motibo. and one more thing.. if you're good looking wag na magtaka.         

[berryblitz]

ah sige.  papayag na ako ng personal kargador    thanks sa inputs. 

bigla nagliwanag pag iisip ko 

[chichi143]

ako may tanong!

ahm. ganito kasi.
medyo stalkerish ba if imessage ko yong dentista kong crush sa fb? hahaha!

siyempre siya yong gumawa ng med cert ko sa andon full name niya... at ayon di ko natiis na tignan if may fb siya. he looks young and wala namang gf or asawa don sa timeline niya na naka-public.

though..  i have to ask pa. to be sure. lol
pero isn't that stalkerish? would that be ok?

haha gosh antagal ko na kasing single haha

[ChocoCat]

a) enjoy lang talaga lalake sa usapang green

b) gustong nya mag-escalate kaya sinasaksakan ng sexual innuendo convo niya with you, baka daw makalusot and he'd get to see you nekkid

judging by your question, it seems hindi mo siya type kaya hindi gumana or you're just acting naive considering na 20+ ka na

No. I'm not acting naive. Minsan kasi alam mo yung ang sarap na ng kwentuhan nyo about wholesome things then biglang magpapasok ng green joke. I feel awkward. And not all guys do that to me. So minsan akala ko gentleman si guy tapos magjojoke about s3x, parang napapaisip tuloy ako kung yun lang ba habol nya kaya super effort sya makipagusap sakin. 

[px17]

^kung for serious relationship habol mo sis then I think iwasan mo nalang yung guy na nagpapasok ng green joke sa usapan niyo. or just be transparent sabihin mo na agad na di ka komportable sa ganong usapan, kung iwasan ka ni guy after edi yun nga habol niya.

[ChocoCat]

^mukhang ganun na nga sis. nakaka disappoint lang...

[jonielle]

No. I'm not acting naive. Minsan kasi alam mo yung ang sarap na ng kwentuhan nyo about wholesome things then biglang magpapasok ng green joke. I feel awkward. And not all guys do that to me. So minsan akala ko gentleman si guy tapos magjojoke about s3x, parang napapaisip tuloy ako kung yun lang ba habol nya kaya super effort sya makipagusap sakin. 

hindi naman porke nag green jokes si guy ayun na agad ang habol sayo, masyadong ka lang paranoid  madaam. take it as a joke. kung habol mo guy na hindi nag green joke mukang mahihirapan ka kung meron man sa panaginip lang meron nun.

[simang]

You girls are overanalyzing things! Green jokes are green jokes. Yun lang yun.