Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)

[argento]

Para sa akin kasi I always at least give a chance to prove himself first.

prove himself, you mean yung lagi ka nalilibre nung guy who likes you, chasing you 

[sacred cow]

prove himself, you mean yung lagi ka nalilibre nung guy who likes you, chasing you 

lol, or siguro yung ibig sabihin niya yung naghahabol, nagmemega EFFORT kasi ego boost yun at feeling niya ang ganda ganda niya kapag may lalakeng nagpapakatanga sa kanya kahit siya mismo hindi pa alam ang gagawin dun sa guy. it's ok, kelangan talaga dumaan ng guys dito...at least they'll know better next time not to waste their time kapag low ang interest level ng babae.

[anon]

Ano yung pinakagusto nyong baguhin saming mga babae?

Blindly believing that Prince Charming exists.

[simang]

Sa thread na to navavalidate ang "think like a man" mantra ko. Agree ako sa lahat ng sinabi ng mga guys :-) If only women think like men... Life would be wayyy less complicated

[sacred cow]

Sa thread na to navavalidate ang "think like a man" mantra ko. Agree ako sa lahat ng sinabi ng mga guys :-) If only women think like men... Life would be wayyy less complicated

hahaha...true, pero it would be less exciting

ok na rin na may mind games and sh*t tests, ika nga ng quote "don't wish it was easier, wish you were better" us guys should just step up our game, to get the girls we want and avoid getting played

[sugardrop]

^ Stop playing hard to get if you like theguy and be direct in rejecting your suitor if you don't like the guy. 

I super agree on this one. I guess some girls just really like being showered with such attention and love being chased too. If you like him, go! If you don't, then tell him straight. Save his ego from more pain. Parang it'll be easier to be rejected right away and hindi na pinaasa than be rejected after giving it so much effort.

[chichi143]

lol. natawa ko dun sa pa-chase na part.

i have to agree it's ego-boosting. naalala ko dati lage akong may food na libre lol.

anyways, i agree with simang. mas ok nga yun. less complicated. if we don't hit it off early, walang chemistry, ayaw ko na. also, nakakaturn off yong gustong gusto kang ligawan but doesn't even try to get to know u more.
 am i just closing the doors for this guys early? or im doing the right thing? haha

[sacred cow]

 am i just closing the doors for this guys early? or im doing the right thing? haha

you're doing the right thing, attraction is not a choice...d mo kailangang pilitin kung wala talga

[sugardrop]

Blindly believing that Prince Charming exists.

I blame Disney for this. I believed Prince Charming exists when I was a kid until I got my first heart break.

[anon]

I blame Disney for this. I believed Prince Charming exists when I was a kid until I got my first heart break.

The old Disney sold the fantasy that women are damsels in distress who need men to save them. What a sexist BS. What's ironical is there is no story character exactly named Prince Charming!

This is why I like Pocahontas more

[sugardrop]

^
So true!

I liked Belle among all the Disney Princesses simply because she fell not for a handsome Prince Charming who came to her rescue unlike the others but she fell in love with the Beast. Added bonus na lang that the spell was broken.

[simang]

^and in Frozen when Elsa told Anna "You can't marry a man you just met". Finally something more realistic

[argento]

lol. natawa ko dun sa pa-chase na part.

i have to agree it's ego-boosting. naalala ko dati lage akong may food na libre lol.

di ba masarap ang libre 

[VainDoll]

lol, or siguro yung ibig sabihin niya yung naghahabol, nagmemega EFFORT kasi ego boost yun at feeling niya ang ganda ganda niya kapag may lalakeng nagpapakatanga sa kanya kahit siya mismo hindi pa alam ang gagawin dun sa guy. it's ok, kelangan talaga dumaan ng guys dito...at least they'll know better next time not to waste their time kapag low ang interest level ng babae.

Sorry, I didn't mean this way. I guess I'm not good in explaining my side. Hindi ego boost or feeling ang ganda ganda ko. If for you guys masama magbigay ng chance then I respect you. For the record, I didn't mean that when proving yourself eh papaasahin ka ni girl/boy.

[tamera_lorraine]

^^ yup tama si Simang.. magandang linya nga yung sa Frozen..

and yes masarap ang lagi libre kaso nakakahiya naman if di mo pala sasagutin si guy hehe!

[tamera_lorraine]

bakit ang guy bigla na lang naglalaho?

anong reason

[entwife]

Sacred Cow, your logic about men dating multiple women so he can check sino yung worth it is a good one. I just don't think I could agree with that 100%, (maybe because the system, culture or norm dictates otherwise). Or if the two people started as friends, malalaman mo na if she is worth pursuing or not.

If you are asking for equality, what do you think of women who would do the first move. Or if babae ang manliligaw sa lalake? Would men think less of her?

[chichi143]

naalala ko tuloy tong article na nabasa ko sa Thought Catalog...
http://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2013/11/i-date-men-for-the-free-dinners-and-i-dont-feel-bad-about-it/

"There are other men who are clearly looking for something, who are interested and assume that by buying me dinner, they are making some future investment in my time and my body. They are deceived, but only in the way we all are when we date someone who doesn’t return our affections. They’ll get on with their lives, and find a girl who wants them for more than their ability to pay for a five-course meal at a Michelin-starred restaurant. I bid the both of them good luck."

just thought of sharing it...

[sacred cow]

Sacred Cow, your logic about men dating multiple women so he can check sino yung worth it is a good one. I just don't think I could agree with that 100%, (maybe because the system, culture or norm dictates otherwise). Or if the two people started as friends, malalaman mo na if she is worth pursuing or not.

agree, we men are also victims of our society's double standards. minsan din kasi total strangers nagkakilala ang tao especially ngayon na may internet and other forms of communication. hindi naman talaga malalaman ng guy din if the girl is worth pursuing unless they meet in person and go out on dates a few times or even for a few months.

If you are asking for equality, what do you think of women who would do the first move. Or if babae ang manliligaw sa lalake? Would men think less of her?

I think women who make the first move are brave, commendable and empowered. Pero kung titingnan naman kasi, gumagawa naman talaga ang girls ng first move (albeit subtle) kaya may lumalapit na lalake...sometimes a smile can do a lot na.

Una din kasi hindi ako naniniwala sa concept ng ligaw, kasi from the word itself...nililigaw mo yung tao or you are convincing someone na magustuhan ka/piliin ka..which is why I prefer casual dating para no expectations and mas honest ang interaction. pero balik tayo sa tanong mo, if babae ang manliligaw sa lalake...ok lang naman pero siyempre hindi niya naman kelangan gawin yung mga ginagawa ng lalake sa babae, just asking him out for coffee or lunch would do just fine and they could take it from there. Depende naman sa lalake yun, if the guy would think less of the girl...then dun pa lang alam na ni girl that the guy is not worth her time, diba?

[sacred cow]

naalala ko tuloy tong article na nabasa ko sa Thought Catalog...
http://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2013/11/i-date-men-for-the-free-dinners-and-i-dont-feel-bad-about-it/

"There are other men who are clearly looking for something, who are interested and assume that by buying me dinner, they are making some future investment in my time and my body. They are deceived, but only in the way we all are when we date someone who doesn’t return our affections. They’ll get on with their lives, and find a girl who wants them for more than their ability to pay for a five-course meal at a Michelin-starred restaurant. I bid the both of them good luck."

just thought of sharing it...

that's why it's really stupid for men to spend a lot na kaagad on a woman without her showing the slightest amount of interest in him. gastusan mo yung girl as a reward for being intimate with you instead of using your money to get her to sleep with you, unless you want gold diggers or to get played. I'm not saying guys shouldn't spend for the girl, but he should know that sa simula "low investment" lang muna dapat para hindi rin isipin ni girl na sinusubukan siyang suhulan nung guy to sleep with him