Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)

[ijj2k]

Sa mga guy talkers dito, (everyone's advice will be highly appreciated though gusto ko malaman ang mga side ng guys din)

Can you pls give me an advice (or maybe morekung paano i-aaproach yung isang lalaki na pagusapan ang isang bagay seriously without that guy feeling na para syang nako-corner? Sorry hindi ko alam paano iexplain e lol.

Kasi simula nung umuwi partner ko (he's working abroad) parang "cold" treatment sya madalas saka kung hindi ko sya kakausapin hindi rin kumikibo. Mejo ganyan nya siya dati pero parang iba talaga ngayon. I'm feeling something is not right or something is going on behind my back tapos wala akong kaalam alam. So I was thinking bago pa siya umalis ulit at bumalik sa work kakausapin ko sya or maguusap kami ng maayos about how I feel na ganyan sya towards me. Pero ayoko rin mafeel nya na parang nate-threaten siya. Yung ganun ba. Ang hirap eh kasi lalo na may anak kami. Tapos nararamdamn ko din naman na para siyang nagpipigil ng emotions na ewan.

Paano ko kaya siya mapapa-open up kung ano yung totoong nararamdaman nya sa relasyon namin? or if he has something to say tapos mas pinipili nalang niya sarilinin? He's not really vocal so hindi ko rin alam paano uumpisahan yung paguusap namin. hay gulo. hehe.

Advice naman po pls ... thank you!

[iamlili]

^ I know a LOT of guys who doesn't wear their ring, even their wife. Minsan depende din sa religion eh.

Sent you a PM sis. Baka makatulong. 

[kaiz]

^^ pwede kasing masikip na sa kanya hehe.
ang totoo, depende talaga yan sa relationship ng mag asawa.

pero may officemate ako na pagkasama niya wife niya, suot niya. kapag kasama ibang girls, tinatanggal niya. one time nga galing sa date, nagka car accident si officemate, yung ring nawala! pakawawa pa siya nung nag explain sa wife paano natanggal sa finger niya yung ring. naniwala naman si wife, pero ang totoo kasi hinubad niya yun at nilagay lang sa box..

[toinks.toinks]

Btw, may nalaman akong news that, may 3rd party involve sakanila ng wife niya I think yung wife niya is may something pa with ex. at natatakot siya na pag nag pa annul sila mahahati lahat ng pundar niya plus sustento ng anak pa.
I don't know yet if it's true pa.

kung reliable yung source mo baka pwede totoo, pero mostly part na lang ng drama nya yan, para lang may reason sya na kesyo patas lang sila kuno. and if something na meron nga na ganun si wife, hindi na siguro uuwi si guy dun sa kanila.

[toinks.toinks]

Hindi sakaniya galing yung drama, secret akong nangangalap ng balita para malaman estado nila ng wife niya.
Imagine kasi, kahit mag damag kaming magkasama hindi siya hinahanap eh.
Hindi ko sure kung nag sasama sila, pero I doubt talaga.

IMHO, not right sis. ask yourself kung ok lang ba talaga sayo ang ganyan sitwasyon, it's not about singsing or whatsoever since alam mo naman na may asawa na so what's the point of not wearing, pero obviously ineentertain mo pa din. not fair para sa wife nya yan.

[hisana]

^
I totally agree.

Medyo confused ako sa situation. Are you trying to be more than friends with him? Or are you just amazed by the amount of time and attention he's giving you? (Sorry, medyo mababa ang reading comprehension ko today.) If you're hoping for a more special relationship, then I'm sure you already realize, as clear as day, na mistress ang ending mo dito. If you're just wondering about his behavior towards you, then my 2 cents is that may mga guys talaga na ganyan, mahilig magpa-impress or magpasweet sa mga babae. I've encountered lots. What their real intentions are, we do not know. Though to add, a guy friend said that for a married man na mag-effort na ganyan, means he feels he has a chance. Hindi sya mag-aaksaya ng pera at panahon, sa dami nyang other obligations sa buhay like anak nya and bills and all that, over something (or someone) he thinks na wala naman syang makukuha; baka maka-score daw (his words, not mine!). Madali lang naman umiwas sa ganito. Be careful. Good luck.

[sugardrop]

I agree with everyone here. I read your posts and it seems that you are already so into him. The thing here is no matter what we all say, at the end of the day, it is still up to you if you're going to heed our advice or not.

Kasi napansin ko na may reason ka lagi agad pag hindi ganun ka-positive yung reply sayo about your "relationship" with this man. You're young, you can easily get overwhelmed with all the attention he's giving you and all the fancy dates and sweet talk. Wala ka plan ma-in love? You cannot plan being or not being in love.

You are setting yourself to becoming a mistress, dyan nagsisimula yan. If you have to learn the hard way, go ahead and be blinded by all these romantic gestures. But I hope that when reality finally hits you, you know how to pick up the pieces of your life. Hindi ko sinabing maging kabit ka, what I'm saying here is kung hindi ka papipigil, just be ready for whatever emotional turbulence you might end up having because of this thing. Ang bata mo pa eh.

[missybee]

Salamat sa lahat ng nag advice mga sissies.
I made a decision na to leave him and let go :-)
Haha life goes on, too young for this.
Thanks again! :-)

[xxcheiyexx]

How does a girl know that she's more than just a rebound?

[marbleslice]

Girl is in a relationship (bf is working abroad)
Girl has a close guy officemate- kwentuhan over lunch/snacks sometimes (once a month or kung kelan magkayayaan) they haven't seen each other in months so decided to have dinner and coffee after work. Informed bf about this and was ok with it daw.

Close guy officemate has broken up with his gf last year.

Was thinking, possible ba na mag hang out kami together without having or developing romantic feelings for each other? Parang close buddies. Definition ko of hang out: kwentuhan, kain, coffee. Ayaw ko ma-misled ang bagay bagay. Naeenjoy ko lang his company. Not trying to be his rebound here.

Ayaw ko lang na cheater ang dating ko sa bf ko kaya ininform ko siya.

[argento]

^Close buddies then f---k buddies na susunod diyan 

[toinks.toinks]

Was thinking, possible ba na mag hang out kami together without having or developing romantic feelings for each other? Parang close buddies. Definition ko of hang out: kwentuhan, kain, coffee. Ayaw ko ma-misled ang bagay bagay. Naeenjoy ko lang his company. Not trying to be his rebound here.

dun naman talaga mauuwi yan. so kung lalabas kayo, then go out with the others.

[sacred cow]

Girl is in a relationship (bf is working abroad)
Girl has a close guy officemate- kwentuhan over lunch/snacks sometimes (once a month or kung kelan magkayayaan) they haven't seen each other in months so decided to have dinner and coffee after work. Informed bf about this and was ok with it daw.

Close guy officemate has broken up with his gf last year.

Was thinking, possible ba na mag hang out kami together without having or developing romantic feelings for each other? Parang close buddies. Definition ko of hang out: kwentuhan, kain, coffee. Ayaw ko ma-misled ang bagay bagay. Naeenjoy ko lang his company. Not trying to be his rebound here.

Ayaw ko lang na cheater ang dating ko sa bf ko kaya ininform ko siya.

If you could honestly say that neither of you finds the other attractive then it could work, kung meron mang attracted better not do it kasi naghahanap ka lang ng sakit ng ulo

isipin mo 'to:

a) if he likes you and you don't like him - he'd be in the friendzone and you'd be the only one benefiting from the relationship since you get all the benefits of having a bf/male companion minus sex while he would would be robbed of the opportunity to meet a girl who actually likes him since he would be spending that time "hanging out" with you

b) you like him and he doesn't like you - not only would you be emotionally cheating on your bf since you're technically going on dates with him, but there might come a time wherein you'd want more from him (guy friend) and one drinking session might end up with you telling him you like him, which could result to sex if he's horny. strict friendship is still possible with this setup since it's easier for girls to handle being in the friendzone than guys and besides may bf ka naman.

as for your guy giving you his approval to go hang out with a close guy friend, 2 lang yan:

a) he trusts you and he's confident enough that he's the best guy for you and if ever you cheat on him, he could dump your sorry ***   in an instant because he knows that he's the prize and can get a new girl to replace you

b) he's naive enough to think that a guy and girl that hangs out a lot can just be friends, and he basically absolved you of the guilt of cheating on him since pumayag siya and ikaw na rin nagsabi,

Ayaw ko lang na cheater ang dating ko sa bf ko kaya ininform ko siya.

which translates to:

kung may mangyari man...hindi ko na kasalanan kasi nagsabi ako - chick logic at work, women don't want to accept blame and would rather blame it on somebody else if possible

[budzwhiz]

I agree with the others, marbleslice. And if you really didn't think of anything sa relationship nyo, you wouldn't be asking questions in the first place.

[argento]

type din kasi si male office mate kaya ganun.

[annacutie.banana]

sorry, this is a bit off-topic but somehow related to our guytalkers.

i was thinking of creating a new topic "Guytalker appreciation thread" pero it seems I don't have enough posts to start a new thread. I just wanted to commend and thank some of our resident guytalkers for their POV and advices. Sisters, sana someone can help me and create the guytalker appreciation thread. 

Thank you!

[junepets]

Agreed mga bro and sis... I have a guy close friend din... Hubby knows him...
Minsan pag ot si hubby.. Nag one/two for the road kami while waitingfor hubby..

Sabi nga ni bro sacred cow... Kung di naman attracted sa isa't isa... No harm done...

[FrogPrince]

Girl is in a relationship (bf is working abroad)
Girl has a close guy officemate- kwentuhan over lunch/snacks sometimes (once a month or kung kelan magkayayaan) they haven't seen each other in months so decided to have dinner and coffee after work. Informed bf about this and was ok with it daw.

Close guy officemate has broken up with his gf last year.

Was thinking, possible ba na mag hang out kami together without having or developing romantic feelings for each other? Parang close buddies. Definition ko of hang out: kwentuhan, kain, coffee. Ayaw ko ma-misled ang bagay bagay. Naeenjoy ko lang his company. Not trying to be his rebound here.

Ayaw ko lang na cheater ang dating ko sa bf ko kaya ininform ko siya.

It's highly possible that one or both of you two could develop romantic feelings for each other lalo na kung kayo lagi ang magkasama. You could be his rebound while he could give you the companionship you're not getting from your bf.

I've been in the same situation a few years ago. The girl was already engaged pero nagka-develop-an pa din kami since kami lagi ang magkasama.

[sacred cow]

sorry, this is a bit off-topic but somehow related to our guytalkers.

i was thinking of creating a new topic "Guytalker appreciation thread" pero it seems I don't have enough posts to start a new thread. I just wanted to commend and thank some of our resident guytalkers for their POV and advices. Sisters, sana someone can help me and create the guytalker appreciation thread. 

Thank you!

this sounds nice, would've created a thread already kaso mas appropriate na female member ang magstart

[ohcmon]

I'm semi-dating this guy who's in an LDR. Yes, we've slept together. Will I burn in hell?