Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)

[ayami]

On hurting women physically, I have questions:

Assuming that the dude is: not on drugs, not drunk, but (perhaps) lacks sleep and is stressed, what other reasons would make you "snap" or lose your control (then resorting to physical violence)?

Is it okay to hurt your gf/wife if you find her very mean (to teach her a lesson, maybe)? I haven't seen my dad hit my mom and she was a nasty nagger (not really sure though may times na wala pala ako sa house). Just wondering if stress is enough reason for hurting. Or case to case ba ito.

And also, is a guy hurting a girl physically gay? Haha. Lagi kasing sinasabi, pag pumatol sa babae, bading.

[sacred cow]

I don't think there's ever a reason to justify a man resorting to physical violence to his wife/gf. Kahit sabihin pang stress/galit yan dapat hindi pinapatulan ng lalake ang babae, mas mabuti pang i-withhold na lang ni lalake ang attention niya at iignore si babae...

hindi bading as in gay ang guys na nananakit ng babae, bading as in duwag ang ibig sabihin nun kasi hindi naman makakalaban ang babae ng patas sa lalake (unless she's into boxing or MMA) pero hindi pa rin dapat saktan ng lalake ang babae

[xxcheiyexx]

Why do guys suddenly stop texting? This guy and I went out a few times last month but he eventually moved back to his hometown (davao) last December 1. I'm from Manila. Since then we've been texting everyday and sometimes he would call. Not a day would pass without a good morning text from him, until yesterday.. and today, he hasn't texted at all. of course di ko rin sya tinetext. I'm just bothered by what's happening..

[Girltalker2]

I don't think there's ever a reason to justify a man resorting to physical violence to his wife/gf. Kahit sabihin pang stress/galit yan dapat hindi pinapatulan ng lalake ang babae, mas mabuti pang i-withhold na lang ni lalake ang attention niya at iignore si babae...

hindi bading as in gay ang guys na nananakit ng babae, bading as in duwag ang ibig sabihin nun kasi hindi naman makakalaban ang babae ng patas sa lalake (unless she's into boxing or MMA) pero hindi pa rin dapat saktan ng lalake ang babae

what if babae na nambubugbog?  should the guy fight back?

Why do guys suddenly stop texting? This guy and I went out a few times last month but he eventually moved back to his hometown (davao) last December 1. I'm from Manila. Since then we've been texting everyday and sometimes he would call. Not a day would pass without a good morning text from him, until yesterday.. and today, he hasn't texted at all. of course di ko rin sya tinetext. I'm just bothered by what's happening..

Wala lang, maraming possible reasons:
1.  naubusan ng load
2.  nawala ang phone kaya nawala lahat ng contacts nya
3.  (huwag naman sana) natigok?
4.  may nakita na syang ibang mas interesting na text mate
5.  narealize nya na wala kayong future together kasi you are in Manila at sya ay nasa Davao

[tamera_lorraine]

bakit naiintimidate ang isang lalaki sa isang babae?

[sacred cow]

what if babae na nambubugbog?  should the guy fight back?

just defend himself and not strike back, he can easily overpower the girl and make her stop unless mas malaki yung girl sakanya at sobrang payat niya....hahaha

[sugardrop]

Why do guys suddenly stop texting? This guy and I went out a few times last month but he eventually moved back to his hometown (davao) last December 1. I'm from Manila. Since then we've been texting everyday and sometimes he would call. Not a day would pass without a good morning text from him, until yesterday.. and today, he hasn't texted at all. of course di ko rin sya tinetext. I'm just bothered by what's happening..

I had an ex na ganyan from years ago. Bigla nag-disappear ng walang hi, hello, babay, goodbye. It went on for a month and a half til naging "wala lang" na sa akin. Then bigla nag-text after going mia, nangangamusta, apologizing for his going houdini on me. I listened to the explanation na he was searching for himself muna kaya he went *poof* and wanted to become a better man then asked if we can get back together. Since I've moved on, I no longer bothered getting back together with him. Prior to that, may lapses talaga sa text which never bothered me at that time.

But madami din possible reasons like what one sis here has stated:

- Nawalan ng load
- Nagkasakit
- Super busy lang with something
- Emergency na nakakataranta na hindi mo na maiisip mag-text ng mga taong hindi talaga concerned sa emergency
- Nag-"sleeping beauty" mode and tulog for a whole day
- Out of town and walang dalang charger
- Nawala yung phone
- Not sure about you and busy with other options
- Or simply wants "space"

Tama din yung isang sis na wag atat mag-reply pag nag-text na. Make him wonder too like he made you.

[sugardrop]

On hurting women physically, I have questions:

Assuming that the dude is: not on drugs, not drunk, but (perhaps) lacks sleep and is stressed, what other reasons would make you "snap" or lose your control (then resorting to physical violence)?

Is it okay to hurt your gf/wife if you find her very mean (to teach her a lesson, maybe)? I haven't seen my dad hit my mom and she was a nasty nagger (not really sure though may times na wala pala ako sa house). Just wondering if stress is enough reason for hurting. Or case to case ba ito.

And also, is a guy hurting a girl physically gay? Haha. Lagi kasing sinasabi, pag pumatol sa babae, bading.

I'll be talking from experience here. Some factors can be the guy having a really bad temper, too controlling, too obsessive, too possessive, too seloso. But neither of these can justify hitting a woman. Kahit na the girl is strong enough to do boxing and mma, iba pa din ang strength ng man over a woman unless ikaw ay movie and tv character na super kick @ss.

There are other ways to teach a woman a lesson, hitting isn't one of those unless they are into "domestic discipline".

Bakla kasi sa hindi kasing level ng lakas nya ang pinapatulan. Kung gusto ng suntukan, sa lalake din sya makipagsuntukan, hindi sa babae na mas mahina. I'm not saying women are the weaker sex, though, it's just that physically, men are generally stronger.

[sacred cow]

Why do guys suddenly stop texting? This guy and I went out a few times last month but he eventually moved back to his hometown (davao) last December 1. I'm from Manila. Since then we've been texting everyday and sometimes he would call. Not a day would pass without a good morning text from him, until yesterday.. and today, he hasn't texted at all. of course di ko rin sya tinetext. I'm just bothered by what's happening..

possible reasons:

a) he wants to give you the gift of missing him
b) wants to see if you would text him first
c) tinamad na itext ka kasi inisip niyang wala naman siyang mapapala

So instead of not texting him and wondering what happened, just text him a "hey [textspeak!]'s up?" or a "happy new year" and see what happens, kapag hindi nagreply...then delete his number, easy diba? you obviously like him anyway, why act pakipot...kapag nagtext, magreply ka din at huwag na maginarte

[sugardrop]

^
Tama.

Naalala ko nga si boyps before we started dating, he purposely doesn't text me on some days kasi nagpapa-miss daw sya. Di raw effective kaya nagtext na din.

[xxcheiyexx]

He texted me last night, "Musta? Busy? " I replied this morning kasi tulog na ako when he texted. Just told him good morning and that i slept early last night, di rin sya nagreply. I reply to him naman when he texts and I think he feels na I like him too since i tell him i miss him naman. I understand if he's busy, I dont expect na we text all day long. nakakapanibago lang suddenly I dont wake up with a good morning text from him (which i reply to naman 90% of the time) and he stopped reminding me to eat on time tuwing lunch and dinner.

[tamera_lorraine]

^ sis relax.

baka busy lang siya antayin mo lang huwag masyadong ipakita sa guy na super gusto mo siya...

hindi pa naman kayo di ba? just enjoy the flow muna..

[argento]

bakit naiintimidate ang isang lalaki sa isang babae?

madami reason, pag mukhang hi maintenance intimidating yan

[sacred cow]

bakit naiintimidate ang isang lalaki sa isang babae?

here's my opinion

a) guy finds girl too pretty, masyado nag-aanalyze ng gagawin/sasabihin at ayaw mareject

b) guy places girl on a pedestal and thinks that she's too good for him (e.g. higher income, comes from a higher social class, girl is smarter or better at something). naiinsecure si guy kasi iniisip niya na higher value sa kanya si girl

c) guniguni lang ni girl na naiintimidate si guy, pero sa totoo guy doesn't even find the girl attractive. jina justify na lang ni girl (usually swangit or fat) na intimidated ang guys sa kanya kaya hindi sakanya makalapit. pero yung girl pala etong may gusto kay guy, eh since guy doesn't want anything to do with girl...iniiwasan niya na lang ito or hindi titingnan sa mata

usually it's either A or C kadalasan, however when I hear a girl who complains na intimidated sakanya ang guys, iniisip ko na kaagad na it's C until proven otherwise

[xxcheiyexx]

^ sis relax.

baka busy lang siya antayin mo lang huwag masyadong ipakita sa guy na super gusto mo siya...

hindi pa naman kayo di ba? just enjoy the flow muna..

Well sis, i don't think he's busy. Haha he was on facebook eh. Nanibago lang siguro ako talaga from his daily texts to nothing. I guess nasanay lang ako.. Anyway, he'll be back in Manila for a week a few days from now and he can't avoid me kasi we have to work together. Haha

[sacred cow]

^ plain and simple, he wants to get laid

[sugardrop]

^
Men can sweet talk sh*t and do things that are sweet just to get laid, sis. And okay lang with his wife? Are they in an open marriage?

[VainDoll]

Tama sis sugar.

^^ sis di ka ba nabobother na may wife yun tao?

[pret_ty68]

@missybee. He likes you and since you are entertaining him nawiwili sya tapos ikaw naman unti unti nang nahuhulog ang loob mo sa kanya. To say it bluntly "he wants you to become his mistress" if kakagat ka. Imposible naman na payag ang wife nya sa ganitong pinaggagagawa nya di ba sa umpisa pa lang nagsinungaling na sya sayo nung sinabi nya na committed lang sya then later on you learned that he is married. If I were you sis I will steer clear of himm before it's too late.

[kaiz]

^me sis, ok lang sakin na hindi sinusuot ang ring