Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)

[jonielle]

mahirap sa guy magpangap umiyak pwera na lang kung artista sya.

[lesters_gal]

^Baka nga artista sha. Ang galing umiyak nung boylet ko kahapon. Lol! Naawa ako sa kanya pero mas naawa ako sa sarili ko.

[ijj2k]

gano na katagal yung 'lately' na hindi niya pagpaparamdan? baka he is going through something. since in a relationship naman kayo, pwede mo naman siya kumustahin and ask what's going on with him. ask him if he is going through something and offer him help. we guys have a tendency kasi na solohin ang problema. don't over think and conclude na may something fishy siyang ginagawa. for now, the best thing you can do is kausapin mo siya. pag sinabi niyang he is well and wala namang problem, saka mo siya tanungin kung anong plano niya or plano niyo, tell him how you feel. be honest
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Thank you ... nalinawan po ng konti. Sana lang he'll open up para at least hindi naman ako nangangapa ang hindi naman kami parehong nanghuhula sa nararamdaman ng isa't isa.

[oshiawase]

Question, what could be reasons behind a guy's "sudden" treatment of a girl?

I know this guy at work and we are not really close friends. He has a girlfriend. He is also not the type who approaches me and all. And recently, whenever he sees me, he makes it a point to say hi or ask something (not personal). One time, he even sat next to me to ask a question and when his GF arrived, he left.

AND I DON'T THINK HE "LIKES" ME BECAUSE MAN, HIS GF IS PRETTY AND I AM NOT.

So I am just curious what could be going on in this guy's mind or guys' minds in general.

thanks!

[Naughty^GuRu]

Thank you ... nalinawan po ng konti. Sana lang he'll open up para at least hindi naman ako nangangapa ang hindi naman kami parehong nanghuhula sa nararamdaman ng isa't isa.

yung mga unlabelled relationship works in guys favor, kasi parang kayo pero hindi. which means, para siyang may GF pero walang responsibility. he can go out and meet other girls without feeling guilty, and he can dump you any time makahanap siya ng someone more interesting. i suggest you go out with other guys din, para hindi ka naka focus sa kanya.

Question, what could be reasons behind a guy's "sudden" treatment of a girl?

I know this guy at work and we are not really close friends. He has a girlfriend. He is also not the type who approaches me and all. And recently, whenever he sees me, he makes it a point to say hi or ask something (not personal). One time, he even sat next to me to ask a question and when his GF arrived, he left.

AND I DON'T THINK HE "LIKES" ME BECAUSE MAN, HIS GF IS PRETTY AND I AM NOT.

So I am just curious what could be going on in this guy's mind or guys' minds in general.

thanks!

why are you bothered sa kung anong iniisip niya? do you like the guy? Again girls, bakit kayo nagfofocus or bakit niyo iniisip yung things na wala kayong control, i mean why do you have to analyze yung actions ng guy and ano yung iniisip niya? maybe he is just trying to be friendly or sige you could say maybe he likes you, and so what? gusto ka man niya or not, does it matter?

what does it mean when a guy said gusto nya anakan ang isang babae? kamanyakan lang ba yun?

i guess nijojoke ka ni guy nung sinabi niya ito? eto yung mga jokes to see kung kakagat yung girl eh, may mga girls kasi na sumasakay sa ganitong jokes that lead to another things. yes, manyak joke ito.

[lawrencelourdes]

just wanted to ask your opinion about this. hoping that someone can enlighten me on this matter...

for about three months, i had a difficult time adjusting and moving on from a break-up. just last week, the guy you've been with for almost 5 years asked you back. i know i've prayed for this moment...for us to be together again. i even dreamt of him every night during those three months that's why tis was so hard for me to forget him. we've been together again for a week but i know deep inside, i'm not happy. i know i waited for this but now there's doubt. i'm the one in doubt if i really would like to go one with this relationship as i no longer know how to talk to him without him thinking that tis an argument. How can I encourage him to have a talk? we got back together but he didn't want to talk about what happened during the past. he said that things will be different this time but how will you know it if you guys didn't get to talk about your differences? another problem is, he does not know how to handle his finances properly. he will ask me to purchase things through the use of my credit card and pay on installment basis. if he doesn't get to pay because of other financial obligations for the certain month, i have do so. i'm afraid that we will just be going back to where we started then drift off again. 

[insanelypurpleprincess]

just wanted to ask your opinion about this. hoping that someone can enlighten me on this matter...

for about three months, i had a difficult time adjusting and moving on from a break-up. just last week, the guy you've been with for almost 5 years asked you back. i know i've prayed for this moment...for us to be together again. i even dreamt of him every night during those three months that's why tis was so hard for me to forget him. we've been together again for a week but i know deep inside, i'm not happy. i know i waited for this but now there's doubt. i'm the one in doubt if i really would like to go one with this relationship as i no longer know how to talk to him without him thinking that tis an argument. How can I encourage him to have a talk? we got back together but he didn't want to talk about what happened during the past. he said that things will be different this time but how will you know it if you guys didn't get to talk about your differences? another problem is, he does not know how to handle his finances properly. he will ask me to purchase things through the use of my credit card and pay on installment basis. if he doesn't get to pay because of other financial obligations for the certain month, i have do so. i'm afraid that we will just be going back to where we started then drift off again. 

^ My oh my! I kind of stopped focusing on what else you wrote after you said that 'deep inside, I'm not happy'... People go into relationships to have someone to share happiness with (in general). Of course, there will be bad times, but if you just got back together and sakit na sa ulo again, time to re-think your latest decision. Even if it was something you supposedly dreamed and prayed for.. it's not a guarantee na yun yung for you. Perhaps, you are simply given a choice to take it or refuse it. Refusal to talk about the past - If this matters to you; meaning you want to talk about it and he doesn't, then looks like you are not in the same page. Bottom line is, if di ka happy, not worth being with that guy.

Think of this scenario.. there are men in your life that you have such huge crushes on and you think, if ito naging BF ko, magigiging perfect ang life ko.. Pero in reality, well, it's not as exciting as you think it would be. I am not saying that this is always the case, but when it does end up like this, kind of sad huh? Best of luck!!!

[ijj2k]

yung mga unlabelled relationship works in guys favor, kasi parang kayo pero hindi. which means, para siyang may GF pero walang responsibility. he can go out and meet other girls without feeling guilty, and he can dump you any time makahanap siya ng someone more interesting. i suggest you go out with other guys din, para hindi ka naka focus sa kanya.

... I am not too sure if I should be doing this ... May anak kaming 1 year old e... and that makes it all the more difficult for me, I guess.

[Girltalker2]

... I am not too sure if I should be doing this ... May anak kaming 1 year old e... and that makes it all the more difficult for me, I guess.

What makes it difficult to go out kung may anak ka na?  walang mag-aalaga ng anak mo? 
Most likely you still feel obligated to him samantalang sya eh walang pakialam. That's not fair to you. Pero kung hahayaan mo ang situation to reign over what you/your baby needs (love and attention), you will definitely be trapped in misery.  Trapped = walang katakasan.

This is the problem with most guys. They don't talk, they are immature beings who cannot even verbalize on what they want. Aanak anak or mag-g-gf tapos ni hindi maka kumpleto ng sentence kung ano ang gusto nya mangyari.

Biglang maglalaho or magiging distant pero walang sasabihin. Parang mga ewan.

Kung bigla lang syang bumitiw or nanlamig, before you talk to him, know your position.  Kung sinabi nyang ayaw na nya, alamin mo ang reaction mo at propose mo pag-agreehan ninyo kasi may anak na kayo.  Pag sinabi nya gusto pa nya, alamin mo rin ano ang dapat mo sabihin o i-demand kung magiging kayo at kung hindi nya ito kaya, be ready rin to plan B. However, if you have tried to talk to him kaso he is evading. Aba, itext mo nalang, sabihin mo, ayaw ko na sa relationship natin, if that is what you call it.  Gusto mo muna makapag isa but you are keeping your doors open para sa anak mo, pero never na magiging kayo.

 

[Berynice]

Hi guys, was thinking if you guys found out that the girl you like has a family history of like autism, allergies, skin asthma? OR will you ever like girls kung may ganun man sila?

[sacred cow]

Hi guys, was thinking if you guys found out that the girl you like has a family history of like autism, allergies, skin asthma? OR will you ever like girls kung may ganun man sila?

bakit naman hindi? it's not like we're gonna marry her na kaagad...like pa lang naman diba?
as long as she's not the one with autism or weird allergies, then it's all good

[minatay91]

Hi guys, was thinking if you guys found out that the girl you like has a family history of like autism, allergies, skin asthma? OR will you ever like girls kung may ganun man sila?

as someone with allergies and skin asthma., I find your question amusing. lolz

[sugardrop]

How do you guys get the assurance that it's just you and nobody else?

[minatay91]

^ secondeddd guys please answer

[sacred cow]

How do you guys get the assurance that it's just you and nobody else?

trust and gut feel din lang, and siguro the way she interacts with you...I mean kapag alam mong nasa 'yo full attention niya when you're together at hindi kung sino sino kausap/katext sa phone

[sugardrop]

^
Aray. Kaya naman pala nag-tantrums. Thanks for answering.

Also, would it be alright to show him the text messages received when you're together or would it be too much? Or only when he asks?

[sacred cow]

^
Aray. Kaya naman pala nag-tantrums. Thanks for answering.

Also, would it be alright to show him the text messages received when you're together or would it be too much? Or only when he asks?

I think it would be too much to show him the texts, siguro better if refrain from checking your phone too much na lang or check it when he's busy doing something else or kapag nag-cr. basta huwag yung habang naguusap kayo tapos maya't maya nagtetext ka. it's just rude and show low interest level

[sugardrop]

^
Hindi naman maya't maya ako nagtetext. I usually ignore them when we're together. Magkasunod lang na call and text with a bad move on my part when I switched my phone off. Thanks for answering.

[VainDoll]

Ilan months na kayo dating/ officially together bago niyo pinakilala si serious gf/ex gf/ wife?

[no736]

Ilan months na kayo dating/ officially together bago niyo pinakilala si serious gf/ex gf/ wife?

ako mga 5 months official kame ng now wife ko, then pinakilala ko na siya sa family. but that was years ago hehe.. not sure how kids do it these days