The guy I'm dating hides my posts from his FB timeline

[purple_md]

I'm dating this guy and months ago I posted  a picture of us on FB. He hid it from his timeline because he said he looks pangit in the picture. He even told me no offense meant. So ako okay lang baka nga napapangaitan siya sa picture. Recently I posted something again on FB na tinag ko siya. When I looked at his timeline just now, wala nanaman dun tinanggal nanaman niya. Nakaka ooffend... parang feeling ko tuloy kinakahiya niya ako. Okay lang bang i confront ko siya?

[graezieylicious]

@purple_md, do you like each other ba? baka ikaw lang may gusto sa kanya or options ka lang niya. If hindi pa kayo or malayo ang chance na maging kayo wag todo post sis, awkward din yun kasi for me.

Alam mo dapat maging proud sayo ang guy at hindi ka ikahiya.

[purple_md]

oo we like each other and parang kami. Di nga lang namin pinagusapan na were bf gf. hehe! Half pinoy siya so medyo iba ang kultura. He's not here right now. Naku hindi naman ako todo post and yun pinost ko di naman tungkol sa love. ang akin lang may mga friends siya na nagpopost di niya inaalis. Ako hinahide niya kaya i feel very offended sis. Gusto ko siya tanungin tungkol dun kaso baka sabihin pa bakit ko ginagawang big deal yun

Iba na nga ang naiisip ko tuloy... baka he's not taking me seriously and may iba na andun kaya ganun. Sis he's not here pala sa philippines ngayon

[graezieylicious]

Ignore the guy and treat him like a friend lang, an ordinary friend lang. Have you had intimate moments na ba together?

[purple_md]

Yes we had kaya ang hirap iignore

[graezieylicious]

^I see kaya pala..do you mind asking if matagal na kayo may intimate moment? Parang attached ka na kasi. Better to detached yourself or control your emotions. If ayaw niya sayo, e di wag, he doesnt know what he's missing. Baka kasi you are just one of the girls he rotate with.

[purple_md]

Oo sis medyo matagal na. Ma aattach talaga ako kasi everyday we text and we talk naman kahit wala siya dito sa pinas. Pero lately medyo nababawasan na medyo busy kasi sa work. Di ko alam ano ba dapat ang gawin

[graezieylicious]

^Then be busy too.

[simang]

Ay sows pseudo-relationships.. Well obviously he doesnt want to publicly acknowledge you. Baka may iba syang dinedate?

So if he's not treating you romantically, just do the same. Ganun lang siguro

[purple_md]

^ganun na nga pseudo relationship no labels... Yun nga ang kutob ko merong iba. Makapaghanap na nga rin iba. hehe

Tama sis grazieylicious i'll just keep myself busy

[simang]

Pero at the end of the day facebook is just facebook. Depende sayo if you're going to think of fb as something more.

Basta if he's not your boyfriend, he's not your boyfriend. You're single, so act like one. You'll be fine

May i ask how old you are?

[spacemonkey]

don't take it personally ---- a lot of people just don't like sharing stuff on Facebook

i've been in a relationship for 4, almost 5 years, and my boyfriend's relationship request from years ago? its still there, waiting to be accepted.

two weeks ago, my boyfriend tagged me on a status update, and i asked him to remove it ASAP. i wasn't being a bitch, he didn't find it offensive either.

we've had several photos uploaded by friends, but i've yet to accept them, and a lot, i've untagged, because i hate how Facebook has become a source of gossip, so what i'm putting out there is very limited.

same thing with my best friends -- i don't need stupid posts about what we ate for dinner, i don't need to be frickin' tagged on where i'm at, i don't need to brag that im here or there or im with this person.


what you should also learn, is how to respect people's privacy. ayaw pala magpa-tag sa photos, ginawa mo pa rin.

and if you're going to let a stupid, insignificant Facebook post bring you down, offend and hurt whatever 'relationship' you think you have with that guy, then dear, you need to grow up, because you're not ready to have a relationship.

[amethyst028]

@TS if it's really bothering you then ask him nicely kung bakit niya hide. if he told you his answer accept it and talk about something else. if believable naman then ok. kung hindi and you think he is lying then nasa iyo na iyon kung ano gagawin mo.

para sa akin kasi i will ask for my peace of mind. i mean after all you are dating him and being intimate. hindi ka nahihiya to get naked with this guy pero nahihiya ka magtanong tungkol sa fb?

don't be afraid to rock the boat. better you know now if he is seeing other women or kinakahiya ka niya than find out later kung kelan super inlove ka na.

[alice_alice]

privacy reasons siguro yan kasi ako inauntag ko talaga pag may posts or pics na magkasama kame ni bf pero okay naman kame, its just that ayoko kasi nakikita ng ibang tao what we're up to kahit na magbf/gf na kame, it is not because i'm not proud of him but ayoko lang no other reasons. may albums na kasama ko si bf pero close friends ko lang pinapaaccess, ayoko pagpiyestahan ako ng mga tsismosong kamag anak eh.

[bagaholic_chewy]

Me mga tao talagang ayaw tina-tag ng iba sa pics/status or ayaw na may ibang nagpopost sa wall nila. They prefer that all posts on their timeline e sila mismo ang nag-post (or their families and close friends lang). It's a matter of preference. And since hindi naman talaga kayo, hindi pa malinaw ang status nyo, baka din ayaw nya lang mag-wonder yung ibang friends nya kung sino yung nagpopost/nagta-tag sa kanya. Ayaw ng tsismis, kumbaga. And I believe that's perfectly fine.

For your peace of mind, you can ask for his reasons. If acceptable for you ang reason nya, then good. If di naman acceptable for you ang reason nya, perhaps you should try thinking about where you really stand in your "pseudo-relationship" and if gusto mo pa ng ganyang status. If you think you deserve better, baka kelangan I-define nyo na kung ano talaga kayo, para magkalinawan na.

[Girltalker2]

Oo sis medyo matagal na. Ma aattach talaga ako kasi everyday we text and we talk naman kahit wala siya dito sa pinas. Pero lately medyo nababawasan na medyo busy kasi sa work. Di ko alam ano ba dapat ang gawin

Are you sure you are the only one he is dating?  why have intimate moments with someone na hindi ka sure ang status?  Kasi the problem is mukhang ikaw lang ang may gusto sa kanya.  I do not see any reason why a guy should hide pics of the 2 of you, maliban nalang kung may asawa sya, may gf or may ibang dinedate or ayaw ka pa nya i-acknowledge as his GF.

I agree with simang and other posts, just detach yourself muna.  I always believe on not attaching myself emotionally or intimately with a guy that does not want me as his ONLY partner.  Since ang gusto ko, syang lang ang partner ko, patas lang naman din dapat make sure ko ako lang ang gusto nyang maging partner.

 

[akthung]

males and females are just two sides of the same coin.

some times you can get an idea if you put yourself in the same situation.

if you post a picture with a guy you don't like, what will be the effect?

what if people started accepting that he's your bf when you don't really like him at it was only a friendly picture?

and so on.

i agree din. for your peace of mind, ask him, that is, if he'll tell the truth naman.

oo we like each other and parang kami. Di nga lang namin pinagusapan na were bf gf. hehe! Half pinoy siya so medyo iba ang kultura. He's not here right now. Naku hindi naman ako todo post and yun pinost ko di naman tungkol sa love. ang akin lang may mga friends siya na nagpopost di niya inaalis. Ako hinahide niya kaya i feel very offended sis. Gusto ko siya tanungin tungkol dun kaso baka sabihin pa bakit ko ginagawang big deal yun

Iba na nga ang naiisip ko tuloy... baka he's not taking me seriously and may iba na andun kaya ganun. Sis he's not here pala sa philippines ngayon

nako sis, half pinoy, ano ang mentality niya? ikaw din ba half pinoy? lumaki ba sa ibang bansa?

hindi mo din alam ano nasa luob niya. alam mo ba, may close friend ako, sa ibang bansa lumaki. dami experience niya sa pinay when he spent some time in pinas, mabilis daw mag isip na mag on na. worst experience he had was when he was introduced to the parents as a bf pero hindi naman.
"mas uso" din sa ibang bansa ang open relationships. as in open talaga.

so not unless he acknowledges  you or you both have come to a clear understanding with each other that you are indeed together, don't lose sleep over it. 

[graezieylicious]

^Agree. Don't let your emotions control you. Just enjoy the friendship and being single. Treat him as a friend, an ordinary guy friend, be busy with your own life and meet new people. 

[Filipinasadhart]

^Agree. Don't let your emotions control you. Just enjoy the friendship and being single. Treat him as a friend, an ordinary guy friend, be busy with your own life and meet new people. 

agree

[purple_md]

^^Thanks guys for all your advice. Yun nga feeling ko i let my emotions control me or i overthink stuff. From now on no more tagging him on FB and i won't look at his timeline anymore. I don't wanna ask him na lang. Pagka may pinapakilala sakin ayoko dahil sa kanya pero now siguro its time to meet new people.

@akthung yup laki sa ibang bansa madalas lang umuuwi dito. ako I'm 75% pinoy. haha! he's a relationship kind of guy daw thats what he told me before and he won't date others daw. In fairness mabait naman siya. Yun nga lang hirap i've never dated anyone na foreigner or half pinoy, ibang iba sa pinoy men. Wala ng paligoy ligoy kung like... like. hehe! Naku ayoko mangyari yun sakin ang ganun i won't let him meet my parents unless may label na kami