Dapat ba mahiya ka sa husband mo na wala ka trabaho???

[angeleigh]

in my opinion, mahiya ka kung hindi ka nakakatulong in any way. kung naaalagaan mo namang mabuti ang anak ninyo, at pag uwi niya eh may pagkain na nakahanda para sa kanya. ok lang yun. well, that is given if you staying home is your mutual decision.

i recently talked to my ex who is now married (we remained friends) eto ang dilemma niya. They wife is a stay at home mom. Okay naman kasi nakikita ko naman na naaalagaan yung baby nila, ang sipag nga e, nagpopost lagi sa fb yun ng mga montesory-way of training. and nakikita ko rin na nagpopost ng mga niluluto niya. so for me, as a wife and mom, okay na okay siya. kaya lang ang problema is ang decision nilang dalawa even before they got married was for the wife to work after 1-2years.
si guy kasi ang issue niya is mahirap na ang buhay ngayon. Well provided for etong couple na to kasi mayaman ang family ni wife. Binigyan sila ng house and lot and a car ni father ng wife. So talagang everyday expense na lang ang problema. Siguro natural lang sa lalaki na magalala sa future ng family niya. But sabi naman ni guy, positive effect naman sa kanya kasi he is really trying his best right now to provide for his family. Kaya sabi ko, huwag na niya pilitin si wife na magtrabaho, baka naman kasi hindi pang corporate kaya ayaw magwork.

[zandystar]

no, housewife ang pinakamahirap na job sa lahat.

[princessrio]

being SAHM is not for all women/wife/mothers. and being SAHM is not a reason dahil tamad magtrabaho. there are tons of work also at home.

what worked for others might not work for you. if you really decide to be sahm, you have to consider your husband's income, savings, bills, lifestyle, etc. etc. at least, you were given two different pictures in this thread.

and oh, i don't believe that you have to be losyang when you are sahm. you also have to take care of yourself. hindi mo rin naman gugustuhin na losyang ang uuwian ng asawa mo di ba?

[BDJ]

Why don't you try online jobs? Yun ang ginagawa ko right now and yet I must say na mas malaki pa ang take home ko compare to hubby na mas malaki ang sahod niya. Siempre alam mo na yung taxes at all tapos nagbabayad siya sa bahay niya. Preggy pa lang ako ngayon pero malalaman ko kung ano ang mangyayari kapag nagwowork ako kasabay ng pag alaga sa bata. Ang worry ko lang since graphic artist ako may mga urgent jobs so siempre kapag umiyak yung bata siya talaga uunahin ko. Yan ang ididiscuss ko sa boss ko.

Pero sa tanong itself kung mahihiya ako, HINDI NOH!  I even told my hubby pa nga na dapat kapag preggy ako o kung may pangalawa na tayo eh hindi na ako magwowork. I want to rest all the time and focus sa kid. Siempre gusto ko rin maging reyna pero sa lifestyle naman na we have then of course need ko rin magwork. I am sure hindi naman manunumbat ang hubby ko dahil alam kong matino at mabuti siyang tao, he is understanding enough kung wala akong work then for him fulfillment sa kanya na housewife ako tapos naaalagaan ko yung kid. Siya pa itong encouraging sa mga decisions ko.

[BWL Plum Angel]

kahit na pareho kami may work ng hubby ko, which is home-based, i think na hindi dapat mahiya ang babae kung wala man syang trabaho, esp kung hindi ka naman tamad sa bahay...

hindi lahat ng asawang walang trabaho ay masasabing tamad dahil napakahirap maging ina at ilaw ng tahanan...as long as nagagawa mo ang obligasyon mo bilang asawa at ina sa mga naak nyo, lalo kung physically fit ka naman, hindi ka dapat mahiya..

you should be proud dahil focus ka sa pag-aalaga sa pamilya mo at gusto mong maging hands on sa pagaalaga ng mga pinakaimportanteng tao sa buhay mo, which is ma-appreciate ng husband mo at ng mga taong alam ang ginagawa mong alaga sa family mo

[megansmomma]

To Sis AnkyneMD,

Push mo yun plan mo sis, pero talk to him 1st. am sure naman yun worries mo will never happen.. shempre ang mga boys sa output naman din yan after, if what will be the best etc... but i guess, you should not be ashamed on it.. no reason at all! sorry no time for backread

As for me? sabi nga nila diba sa hirap at ginhawa so kung wala kang work at sya meron.. isipin mo, sino ba ang mas mabigat ang trabaho diba tayong mga nanay? diba? so theres nothing to be ashame, nothing to feel sorry for. Its your man's responsibility to give you a good life..

Happy Mothers Day pala mga Sissies..

[aquacharly]

Sure, nobody looks down on SAHMs.   BUT... There  can be a big gap between reality and appreciation.
A homemaker/SAHM requires a lot of work, etc .    Great if such is appreciated: the just rewards will automatically come your way.
But though a whole Barangay may appreciate & applaud a SAHM,  that is not what's critical,
What is critical to a SAHM is if her husband & her children appreciate & greatly value her being one. 

BUT consider too what will not replay:  your youth, your opportunities in the outside world.
AND that the ONLY sure thing in life is Change.  People change, circumstances change - for good/bad.

So, assess yourself, your hubby, your life realistically.  Factor in your risk profile. Therein all that lies your answer. 

Happy Mother's Day to all.

[ankyneMD]

hi sisses... happy mothers day to all of us.. ngayon lang ako sinipag mag reply pero nababasa ko lahat ng post niyo. thanks sis aquacharly and sis megansmomma.
a little update: 2nd honor na ang anak ko last recognition day. tama kayo na pwede ko naman pala talaga pagsabayin ang pagiging wife and mother nang hindi sinasakripisyo ang trabaho. its not just about the money but the feeling of fullfilment na hindi ka lang pang bahay. masarap din yung feeling na sinasabihan ako na ang galing mo naman at paano ko daw namamanage lahat. thanks sa mga advices niyo sis.

[Kady_14]

Siguro Oo lalo na if struggling kayo sa finances and hirap talaga kahit anung budget. Pero kung hindi naman, OK lang kasi ang hirap din naman mag HW. Unending tasks.

[googoo]

@ankyneMD  I'm glad you made that decision    There is a fulfilment that you won't feel if you just stay home.