Friend/s at work

[miss resilient]

I heard stories of some colleagues at work..that they have friends but when trouble came in (work related) tipong iniwan na sila sa ere?

Sabi ng nagkwento sa akin, hinayaan na lang daw niya and inintindi yung taong yun. Kasi shempre nga naman baka yung friend niya ang mapag initan pag dumikit pa sa kanya.

Diyan na tetest and friendship..when troubles came in. Pero shempre, we are also in dilemma na huwag maging selfish..any input?

[graZiousa]

May mga ganyan naman talagang kaibigan kuno. MAy limitasyon ang pakikipagkaibigan. Share ko lang to: sister ko kasama nya sa work ngayon yong kaibigan nya since highschool, mas naging close sila during college days. and fortunately naging magkasama sila sa work. pero ang nangyayari merong rivalry, merong competition ( im not sure if competition ba ang tamang itawag dito since sabi ni sister wala naman daw syang ginagawang pakikipagpaligsahan) ok sa harapan si friend, by the way nasasaksihan ko kasi im also connected where they are both connected too. pag wala si sister, ang daming issue lumalabas. mahirap kasi super close na tapos meron palang galit or sama lang ng loob. medyo magulo.

[ysa.belle]

may ganyan talaga...

example ang 2 friends but workmates ko din.

MD is a good friend pero as per S there are times na nang-iiwan siya sa ere. nakikita ko naman yun and ako ang nag-aadjust kay MD kase mas mataas siya sa akin. Pero she is soooooo nice. S naman okay talaga sa work pero malihim at may pagkasinungaling.

[aquacharly]

Friendship, and Professionalism, each have their own place kasi. It's a balancing act.

Friendship should not blind one to another's incompetence/inefficiency, lack of professional ethics, malice, etc in the workplace.  Friendship does not mean Blind Loyalty. 
Hindi como friends eh -- the guilty one should expect may Forever Seasonal  Pass sya from the friend. Na como friends sila eh -- tolerate the inefficiency, negative work habit/attitude, etc etc.  or,  turn a blind eye.
That's not Friendship.

But Friends help each other improve, or Warn! each other.

[airish_2]

mahirap pag kasama mo friends mo sa work, yes nagiiwan sa ere at dahil como friends nag tetake advantage i have this friends/co worker but rather choose na friend nalang sya kesa maging ka workmates tamad kasi.

[chubbycheeks]

I've made lots of close friends at work but we do keep it professional when in the workplace. After all, we became friends through work so dapat work ang priority. So we don't cover up for each other or side with them in conflicts if we don't believe in what they stand for.  Instead, we encourage and sometimes reprimand them for irresponsible behavior.

[saberjade]

I make friends at work, but I keep a certain distance from them. I don't open up to my work friends as much as I open up to my high school or college friends.

My friendship with my high school and college friends have been strengthened through time and experience, so I know they won't leave me in times of need.

As for work friends, I feel like you should keep a level of professionalism between you, so your personal lives don't affect your work environment. But that doesn't mean you can't be friends with them at all. There should be balance.

[juni]

There are friends that you can trust and count on, people who really want what is best for you and will help you improve.  Then there are "friends" who are there only when there's no risk involved or when they need something from you, but when push comes to shove e malalaman mo na lang na iniwan ka na pala sa ere.  It's bad enough pag ganito sa personal life, pero it's tricky pag sa work kasi hindi lang feelings mo yung at stake, sometimes pati career and income mo e affected.

I've met some great people at work, and I've also met bad ones.  Yung iba ang plastic and inggitera, yung iba naman user.  Just be careful kasi there are people who would resort to dirty tactics just to get ahead, and some of them will pretend to be friends with their officemates even as they stab them in the back.  It's sad that there are people like this, pampadagdag sa stress sa work.

[miss_isla]

i really don't have a lot of friends from work too. Ayoko din kase na nahahaluan ng personal relationships ang trabaho, especially if there's competition.

Usually, I became friends with these people when i'm no longer working with them para wala na maging conflict.

[baliwsayo]

I won't recommend making friends at work. Trabaho lang dapat walang personalan. Friendship is something personal kasi. Sa work dapat walang emotional attachment cause it may cloud your sound decision making process.

Learned this the hard way though. So you want to make friends at work? Bad idea.

[kukii]

I don't have friends at work, for some reasons aloof sila sakin kasi artist ako? They think I'm weird based on my fashion sense. They always question my clothes and hair color. Grrr lang

[sugardrop]

So far, okay yung work buddies ko. I went through something really troubling recently and they never left. Na-feel ko na there is really friendship there. Kahit malakas ang asaran, walang napipikon (or baka hindi lang namin alam na nagkakapikunan). And yung damayan when someone's really down, walang iwanan so far.

I've made friends on my previous jobs pero yung tipong until now eh we hang out and keep each other updated about our lives, meron pa din. We're like magkukumares. Easy kasi we live a few minutes from each other lang. We make it a point to get together whenever we can. The friendship was never gone.

[artegirl]

I think friends at work are important.  They'll keep you from getting crazy over work.  It's always good to have somebody there for a good "bashing" when the going gets tough. 
Pero there are also times when it can be a pain.  Pag work na involved, ang hirap na.  Lalo na sa culture natin, masyado madamdamin!

[simang]

Yung mga naging friends ko at work halos wala na sila ngayon sa same company. Kami talaga yung very much updated pa din sa isat isa, kahit both of them are abroad na. Pag umuuwi sila we still meet. Hmm, karamihan ng colleagues ko ngayon are younger than me, most of them naging student ko pa. Not naman na aloof ako sa kanila, but i'm much reserved when i'm with them. Kumbaga i still maintain some level of authority maybe kase i used to be their teacher. Lumalabas kami and naghaharutan sure, pero di pa din ako maka-allout hirit sa kanila. Hahaha.

[baliwsayo]

Okey naman talaga pag may friends ka sa work lalo kung halos magkakapantay kayo, yun walang competition. Problem arises pag nagkakaron na ng conflict of interest, power struggle and promotion.

May bff kasi ako dati sa work, nang magkaron ng conflict, lumabas na tutuong kulay.. nilaglag niya ako ng bongga. Kaya I've learned my lesson na. Lalo pag magaling ka at nakakaangat.. hirap magkaron ng true friends sa work. Sigh.

[TysLolakins]

i'm friendly with my co-workers kasi important yon esp if assigned on the same projects.  but i'm not friends with anyone in particular,  like i don't go out to lunch or activities outside of work. 
there's a lot of pinoys here in the company pero they are from other departments.  long long time ago,  i used to attend yung pinoy gatherings or yung monthly lunch for the bday celebrants.  but it got boring and tiring for me after a while.  now i just smile at them when we pass each other on the hallways or stairs but that's it.


i heard nasabihan yata ako na suplada daw.  oh well.

[purple.strawberry]

I always have friends at work, but ang natutunan ko is sometimes the only thing that pulls you together is convenience. Kumbaga sila yung nakikita mo everyday, nakakalunch mo everyday, etc.

In a previous work, madami kaming magkakabarkada from different projects. But nung nagkakaissue na sa group, dun mo makikita sino bang totoong friend mo. A girl whom I thought is kaclose ko na told me, "We're not friends, we're just officemates having lunch together." Well haha.

Dun naman sa mga friends ko in the same project I'm careful na pag work, work talaga. Kumbaga professional ang approach.

[crzysxycl]

Currently, wala akong as in close friend sa office. Work from home kasi ako and we don't get to bond always. Maituturing kong friend siguro yung kahit umalis na ako sa company eh constant pa rin ang communication. I have quite a few. Friendly ako, marami rin ako naging kaclose (akala ko close kami haha) pero madalas pag lumabas na ako or sila ng company, nakakalimot na rin yung iba.

[trizh]

Sa work, much better kung wag na lang masyadong close. Kasi I know dadating yung time na sarili nila yung uunahin nila before you. Yung sobrang kaclose ko lang sa work ay yung mga friends ko na even before pa kami naging officemates. Pero yung mga bago lang, I make sure na may boundaries.

[miss resilient]

sabi ng manager namen you dont go to work to make friends.... kung magkakaroon man ng kaibigan..bonus na lang yon.

i was transferred to another team within LOB. ok naman mga kasama ko pero ingat ako. ayoko kasing sa bandang huli umasa ako na friends kami tapos maglalaglagan lang pala....