I can't seem to find love

[oshiawase]

Okay so I've realized I have a big problem: I can't seem to find love.

I mean, I have crushes. But the thing is, the people I have crush on are like celebrities, strangers to me. If I do have crush on someone I personally know, nothing happens, the feeling is never mutual.

I keep on having the illusion of a "coincidental/accidental/movie-like" meetings and I keep convincing myself that's only for the movies and they never come true.

I find it hard really. I am already in my 20s. People in my batch are either pregnant, have their own babies, or are married.

I keep praying but nothing happens. I fear that something is wrong with me?

[kittypaw]

Oh youre a girl its more easy for a girl to find someone, siguro you need to be more out there and meet more new people. And also consider your looks take care of your self and be presentable.

[chinablue]

Hi sis. I can so relate with you. My last real relationship was 6 years ago, college days pa. Sure, I met lots of people after that but none led to something serious. What kept me happy and inspired during those 6 years and until now is the thought of living my life to the fullest and being the best version of myself. Siyempre, at times, di mo maiiwasan mainggit, but just ask yourself: do I really want to be in a relationship just for the sake of having one? Most of my friends also have their own families or are committed na, sila pa nga etong kumukulit sa akin na maghanap na. Tinatawanan ko lang sila. Bakit ba kailangan magmadali? Wala naman tayo sa race. Just enjoy life. Ibibigay yan ni Lord sa time na sa tingin Niya ay handa ka na. Kaya don't be pressured sis. Stay cool, pretty, and confident. :-)

[simang]

Sis TS, you're young! I guess kulang ka lang sa exposure sa tamang crowd. go out more, meet new people, be out there. And most of all be confident and appealing. Be your best self and love will find you.

[chichi143]

alam mo pag bored ako ganyan din naiisip ko. I'm 23 pero yong huli ko namang bf was last May 2012.

there's nothing wrong with you sis, everybody experiences that. i had batchmates too na pregnant na! some have 3kids already! kaloka. pero wag tayo magmadali. maybe it's not yet our time. so spend time making yourself better for that future boyfriend. ~(≧v≦)~

[oshiawase]

thank you sa advices so far.

Siguro problem ko din is hindi ako outgoing.

Also, I need to rid myself of this "fantasies" I have of the future.

But I dunno how to start.

I can't seem to like someone "real" right now..

I feel like I'm a hopeless case

[chichi143]

wow! pareho tayo as in! i mean, hindi rin ako palasama sometimes sa barkada. minsan pag trip ko sumama, sama ako.

ayoko rin ako ang unang magaapproach kasi takot ako sa rejection. pero i'm working on that already.

saka ok lang yan sis! wag ka mabahala na walang kang tipo pa sa ngaun. i think that's ok. or maybe u need to be exposed more? kaya ka walang type ngaun kasi nga maliit lang circle of friends mo?

and sometimes, it always boils down on how you perceive things. think on the brighter side of things. ako lagi ko naiisip na baka kaya hindi pa siya pinapapunta ni Lord is because i need to work on myself pa. or that i stil need to complete my goals in life. na baka after all this waiting and thinking, my price will be in the end.


if u think u can't, then u already lose.

so don't lose hope. (^_-)-☆

[amethyst028]

@TS baka masyado kasi mataas standards mo. stop watching too much tv and movies because
those are not real. gawa gawa lang yung and it will raise your expectation about love and romance
too much.

try to go out more and do the things that you love. also learn to love yourself more. you cannot give what you don't have. improve mo yung sarili mo and the right man will find you. baka may area in your life that needs more attention, focus on that for the meantime.

sabi nga nila diba? ang love hindi hinahanap kusang dumarating. don't put your life on hold while waiting
for love. create the life you want and love will come.

[zarazan]

Nothing is wrong about "fantasizing". Ako nga nung bata pa, may script pa ako sa utak ko kung ano sasabihin ko sa guy ko if ever. HAHAHA! Parang may own movie pa ako on how I want my lovelife to be like.

Sis, don't lose hope. Super the same lang tayo dati. Hindi rin ako mapalabas or kung lumabas man dati madalas all girls pa. Tas hindi rin ako friendly. Tas nagdodownload pa ako ng tips on how to be approachable. Alam mo number one tip? SMILE. Just smile. Pag lagi naka-smile biglaan nalang may kakausap sayo niyan.

When my now boyfriend starting to be in contact with me. Ayan, inapply ko lahat ng finantasize ko. HAHAHA! As in sinisingit ko yung 'script ko". Syempre hindi sumasakto pero katawa kasi nagkatotoo in a way. Ibang version lang.

[justin3]

TS, you're only 21, ayt?
considered as "big problem" na ba ngayon nyan ng mga twenteeners pag walang BF/NBSB?

so ano, maki-uso ka na rin sa mga ka-batch mo na mga baby-makers?... lahat ba sila married?

may plano ka pang mag take ng Law, ayt? tapusin mo kaya muna.
isantabi mo muna ang matters of the heart na yan.

take it from me... NAPAKASARAP maging single.

[oshiawase]

^some are married, some not (but with babies). I still don't know if I want to take up law...I prefer studying abroad really and feel independent.

thanks for the advice!

[elfie]

Ako naman, late na nagka-BF.  Hindi na nga ako nag-eexpect or naghahanap, tsaka naman dumating.
Just enjoy your life, work on loving and improving yourself, and darating na lang when you least expect it.

[awesomemaia]

Sana active pa ting thread na to. TS di ka nag iisa! Ang saya malaman na me kasama ka kahit sa forum na ito lang. ganyan din feeling ko i can't seem to find love kasi most of the time hindi mutual. nanghihinayang nga ako dun sa isa na na turned down ko mga 2 years ago na. alam mo yung after namin mag date simply put after ko yung girl na nadate niya until now sila pa mag 2 years na sila naisip ko lang siguro ako yun kung binigyan ko lang ng chance maging kami. pero that time kasi wala as in pinilit ko naman may maramdaman pero wala talaga eh. siguro naiinggit lang ako hehe.

@ sis chichi same tayo sis 23 hehe turning 24 na lapit na din. we still have time and I pray talaga na 2014 na yun!!!

Most of them bumalik at nagparamdam pero for second chance wala pa din...i wonder bakit sila bumabalik eh i seldom keep in touch naman... hindi rin ako flirt type dahil kung ganun lang edi madami nang dumaan saken. well madami na sila daan lang sandali hehe.. di ko rin kasi ma express eh.  parang for me kahit naka first move na ayaw ko pa din gumalaw hahaha..hindi na ko happy. well steady lang sa life i have work and life with or without special someone. mas happy lang kung meron diba.? hehe

[miyay]

sis, allow me to say you're too young to worry about it. ito nalang perks ko for being 30s. lol. seriously though, i met my 1st and last bf in when i turned 30. i even resisted coz i was set in my ways and a relationship was not in my plans. but love has its ways ika nga kung para sa yo, sayo. he's my hubby now and the father of my baby girl. love will really find you in the road you've taken to avoid it. char!

[romantico]

sabi nila darating nalang yan. try to enjoy your youth by going out with friends and just enjoy life. malay mo may mapakilala friends mo sayo. don't worry you're not alone. meron nga jan nasa 30s na pero wala pang asawa and some end up not marrying at all. bata ka pa so have fun muna.

[awesomemaia]

^ Sis Miyay wow more details pa please para mainsipred kami.. matagal ba ang pursuing stage. Im so happy for you sis happy and contented ka na..congratulations sa baby girl din Oh yeah maybe I can't seem to find love kasi atlis alam ko hindi pa talaga siya dumadating I really hope di ko siya napalagpas hehe..like what I said steady naman ako. lahat naman may problema baka super bored lang ako. Its been a year na din pala since I last entertain and dated..ang alam ko lang mahirap ako mahalin ehem..yehey good too know buhay pa ang thread na to.

[princessrio]

TS, enjoy life. bata ka pa. marami ka pa makikilala.

also, wag masyado magfantasize. make your own love story. goodluck!

[Girltalker2]

Why hurry?

sabi nila darating nalang yan. try to enjoy your youth by going out with friends and just enjoy life. malay mo may mapakilala friends mo sayo. don't worry you're not alone. meron nga jan nasa 30s na pero wala pang asawa and some end up not marrying at all. bata ka pa so have fun muna.

nasa 40s or 50s pa.  When you are 20s, you have all the time in the world. But admittedly kasi pag nasa Pinas ka, feeling ko mas limited ang choices mo. Pare parehong breed at culture lang hehe.

Meet people (not through the net ha), mingle.  Travel.  Explore more about life.

[cecilydee]

lol nakakatuwa may thread nga na 30's na nagaalala if makakapangasawa pa, ngyon naman 20's and yet nag aalala na rin...wag masyado manood ng mga unrealistic romantic movies

[lonelymiss28]

i guess a lot of people can't find love because they are so choosy. example na lang yung brother ko, he just settle with his gf kasi sabi nya di na sya makakahanap ng kasing ganda ng gf nya so kahit na nagche-cheat yung gf nya sa kanya ok na lang din dhail ang onbly reason nya ay di na sya makakahanap ng kasing ganda ng gf nya.