No Social Life

[freelancer_babe]

Pasok rin ako dito. Wala akong social life for around two years na.

Still, I do hope I get out of this situation, as having not much people to talk to gets me to my nerves. Nakakabaliw!

If not a social life, then at least travel to places na lang.

[FayeP]

may mga friends na din akong nabibilang sa no social life zone kun meron man nito...

may isa dito sa office as in bahay-work, work-bahay lang cya....di din cya nagkukwento ng mga tungkol sa friends nya or mga former officemates...when I asked her about her former friends sa dati nya office, sabi niya wala na sila contact...

minsan naawa ako sa kanya kasi nga wala cya iba magawa sa life nya, kaya pag may lakad dito sa office pinapasama talaga namin cya...

may isa din akong friend noon, before cya pumasok sa choir namin very introverted talaga cya, super mahiyain...eh ang nanay nya member ng Mother Butler sa church namin...kaya pinasali cya ng nanay nya sa choir namin, kahit di kagandahan voice keri na din at least perfect attendance cya sa misa at sa practice....

unti unti, nawala un pagiging mahiyain nya, kasi siguro mas madami na cyang taong nakakasalamuha, and madaming naging friends....

so un, pede siguro, un mga waley social life, join muna either sa mga choir or mga civic groups...kahit mga membership ng book club pede na un...ang mahalaga magkaron ng ibang people na pwede mo makausap at makahalubilo

[geraldita03]

i am a difficult person. hirap din ako mag stay sa friendship. i dont know why. magaling lang ako sa simula. kasi pag i get to know the person na well, nag wi-withdraw na ako from them. minsan nman i get easily hurt kaya dahil madali ako masaktan lumalayo nalang ako. siguro mas pinipili ko no social life. as in kuntento na ako mapag-isa. movies at books lang. hirap din kasi makisabay sa tao.

[mebpa]

me too, but i prefer it this way. i had friends in college but we very seldom get in touch. i don't have any friend in my office. it's not that i'm a snob; it's just that i think i don't have time for socializing (and money, sayang!). haha. i don't want to discuss other people's lives over coffee. i just have this feeling that like now people will only be friendly with you if they can get something from you, or maybe i'm just unlucky with the people i encounter with. i envy those who have long-time friends where they really know each other. but i don't really want to have friends just for the sake of socializing. for me, it's better this way than be a backstabber or be backstabbed.

[geraldita03]

kaya pala walang nagtatagal sa akin kasi i am a toxic person. i need to change. mag eeffort na ako sa friends ko before it's too late.

[nicoletta]

I'm starting to think I always nag at my husband because I have no social life.  Right after work, I pick up my baby from my parent's house and go straight home.  As in this is my daily routine.

I rarely go out with my own friends, when I do, my husband will make me feel bad in a way kasi hindi siya kasama.  He doesn't get angry when I tend to nag, may point naman ako, hindi nga lang healthy for us kasi stress na din ako parati. I don't want it to come to a point that he will look for another girl na mas sweet and maalaga kasi hindi naman hirap sa work unlike me.

[loveleah]

Count me in mga sisssies! I used to be very outgoing and very friendly. Had different peer groups during college years. Naguguluhan nga ako minsan kung saan sasama during weekends. But now that I'm married, bigla na lang nag iba, first mas binibigyan ko time ang family ko, I forgot to keep in touch with my friends. I also became picky, suddenly I realize na I don't enjoy hanging out with people who back stabs your other friends, eh kung ako ang wala, I would be the one na i ba back stab nila hehe.. I also realized I cannot connect with my friends who are super into inuman anymore. Minsan naman pag mag kukuwentuhan hindi na talaga ako nakaka relate .hahay. So if I get bored, I just connect with a friend or two, they've been my constant companion for almost 5 yrs now, [textspeak!] na yung daming daming friends. Nakakalungkot din minsan and it made me ask if I have changed into somebody with low self esteem na hindi na kayang makipag kaibigan. So now, I got into real estate kaya na bu busy and nakaka pag meet ng ibang tao, ang iba naman naging friends ko although not really deep, but at least may ka hi hello pag may mga meetings at nakaka pagkwentuhan ako.

[loveleah]

I rarely go out with my own friends, when I do, my husband will make me feel bad in a way kasi hindi siya kasama.  He doesn't get angry when I tend to nag, may point naman ako, hindi nga lang healthy for us kasi stress na din ako parati. I don't want it to come to a point that he will look for another girl na mas sweet and maalaga kasi hindi naman hirap sa work unlike me.

Maganda din yung may time ka with friends na hindi kasama si hubby. Yung life na hindi umiikot around our husbands. Mas nakakatulong yun sis kesa yung si hubby nalang talaga kasama sa lahat lahat. Magiging dependent tayo minsan

[pumpkin13]

I was an introvert, too. Well, I am pa din naman, pero unlike before na mas naeenjoy ko pag mag isa lang ako. Mas free ang pakiramdam ko, mas magaan sa loob. Usually kasi it would take me so much effort to mingle and talk to people so mas gusto ko ako na lang. Especially nun college (in high school I was a geek), wala ako halos naging friends nun college. I didn't join any organization. As in mag isa lang ako. After class, tambay ako sa likod ng library namin may dalang paper and pen and sulat lang ng sulat ng kung ano. Minsan malungkot din, pero dinadaan ko sa sulat. Sometimes, I'd earn a friend in one sem then the following sem, wala na ulit. Wala akong constant friend or companion.

When I started working, I gained a few friends pero pili lang. Every time I resign from a company, pati sa friendship nagreresign ako. And I knew then that there must be something wrong with me. Takot din kasi ako sa attachment.

At present, I have a few chosen friends I am doing my best to keep. Yun kokonting friends ko nung high school na di ko na kinausap since college hanggang magwork ako, kinocontact ko na ngayon. Nasabihan kasi ako na ako daw yun taong walang friends. Medyo malungkot pala pakinggan. Palagi na din ako nagsmile sa mga tao. So I was happy when one day someone told me na Ms. Congeniality daw ako. Masarap din pala sa pakiramdam yung pag naglalakad ka bigla na lang may tatawag sa name mo, kakawayan ka or ngingitian ka, or yung parang excited na nakita ka. And having friends is one of the best perks of life pala.

[heartfortress]

Pasok din ako dito. I am an introvert too. Since bata ako mahiyain at tahimik na talaga ako, di rin ako friendly like ako yung unang mag approach sa ibang tao to make friends. ang mga nagiging friends ko lang sa school/university ay yung mga nagiging katabi ko o groupmates o kaya pag may ibang gustong makipagfriend saken. Para saken ok na yung ganun kasi dumating naman sa point na super close talaga pero sa school lang yun at paminsanang malling.  but i don't have any communication with them anymore except for my bff who is my highschool classmate but she's not in Pinas now. We hang out sometimes nung andito pa sya pero ngayong malayo na sya lalo ko nawalan social life lol. wala naman ako workmates para maging friend. Friends ko din naman ang ibang kachurchmates ko pero di naman close. Kaya ang buhay ko ngayon bahay-work lang, syempre minsan date with bf. He is my closest friend. pero ok lang saken na walang social life di naman malaking bagay para isipin. Masaya naman ako sa kung anong meron ako ngayon. Kung may dadating na ibang friends na makakasama para lumabas labas syempre magiging masaya din ako.

[Dacian]

i'm shy din in person kaya ang friends ko lang yung dati kong friends.  hindi rin kami nagkikita kasi busy sa work.

[sweet angel]

Pasali...wala din akong social life, masyafong nagfocus sa family at gawaing bahay tapos yung mga friends ko nung college mga nasa ibang bansa na. Minsan nakakalungkot tuloy.

[momentum]

tayo tayo nalang kaya ang maging mga friends  ang mga walang social life mag gather together haha! makaka relate tayong lahat sa isat isa 

[pumpkin13]

^Gusto ko yan. Tapos eto na yun social life nayin. Haha!

[Girltalker2]

Kailangan ba mga kakilala mo yung ka- social life mo? Kasi if you have activities naman, at sa traffic plus errands, di ba puno narin oras mo. Where will you have time to go out partying every Friday or Saturday night?

Wala din ako kasi masyado social life at wala akong time. Then when my marriage was in trouble, I also shied away from people. I only started going out again after 4 years separated. Pero it doesn't mean lahat ng activities ko kakilala ko kasama ko. Usually kapag may gathering sa office, may wedding, birthday, houseblessing. Kahit mag isa lang ako, go ako.

May kakilala kasi ako ito rin ang reklamo, pero pag inaya mo, ayaw lumabas, dami dahilan or wala daw masuot sa party etc.

Pero come to think of it, magastos gumimik, tapos Kung late pa uwi mo, your following day is also wasted sa hangover. That's not fun right?

[momentum]

Ang mahirap rin sa no social life is kapag anjan ka na with other people
socializing, nakakapagod siya.. Especially kapag pinilit mo lang sarili mo na maki socialize (ex. sa work kapag may activities) para lang masabi na "i tried" :p syempre iba naman ang case kapag gusto mo talaga mga kasama mo. Kaya hindi ko na pinipilit sarili ko sa mga team outings kasi I don't have fun with my officemates at all lol magkaiba hilig at trip nila.. Mostly kc about tsismis, paninira etc

[17glut]

i'd rather choose solitude than force myself roll with the wrong crowd. 

[pumpkin13]

^yes, because it's really exhausting being with people you're not comfortable with. Whenever I get to that situation, bigla na lang ako nawawala. Usually I'd hide in a room, breather lang. Napapagod din kasi ako pag madami sabay sabay nagsasalita like in a party. Gusto ko pag nagsocialize, yun chill lang, hindi crowded. Being alone is ideal for me. Having one company is okay, 2 is okay, 3 is tolerable but 4 or more is too much of a crowd already.

[momentum]

Yeah.. I prefer a small crowd as well..Mas intimate yung bonding

[etxetera]

me too, but i prefer it this way. i had friends in college but we very seldom get in touch. i don't have any friend in my office. it's not that i'm a snob; it's just that i think i don't have time for socializing (and money, sayang!). haha. i don't want to discuss other people's lives over coffee. i just have this feeling that like now people will only be friendly with you if they can get something from you, or maybe i'm just unlucky with the people i encounter with. i envy those who have long-time friends where they really know each other. but i don't really want to have friends just for the sake of socializing. for me, it's better this way than be a backstabber or be backstabbed.

Exactly 99% same di ko feel pinag-uusapan ang buhay ng may buhay  

tayo tayo nalang kaya ang maging mga friends  ang mga walang social life mag gather together haha! makaka relate tayong lahat sa isat isa 

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