stay or goodbye?? feeling confused :(

[bwiset12]

what would you do if feeling nyo hindi na kayo mahal ni partner? 
parang yung kanta sa My Husband's Lover, should you stay or should you say goodbye?

[ForeverDreamer]

^parang ako lang ah!hehe...sinabi ko sa kanya yung mga nasa isip kung ano pakiramdam ko,lahat lahat!lastweek lang, tagal ko din pinag isipan kung pano, pero nung kinulit nya ako
lastweek gusto makipagLove,tumanggi ako at dun sa wakas nasabi ko din.
sabi ko sa kanya mangyayari lang yung gusto nya kung maibalik nya na yung dati.kasi kung di mo sasabihin bigat sa dibdib eh,kaya ngayon alam nya na...
alam nya na mawawala ako pagwala pa din sya pakialam.kasi alam nya aalis talaga ako,iwan ko talaga sya!ngayon mas gumawa na ng paraan para bumawi,pero sabi ko wag muna ngayon...
bigyan muna nya ako ng time makapagpahinga,kasi napagod din ako.titignan ko kung  hanggang saan effort na kaya/gagawin nya!sa totoo lang nawalan na rin talaga ako ng gana eh!haiisst....
sabi nya,di nya hahayaan masira lahat ng naumpisahan namin,basta daw babawi sya
wag lang daw kami maghiwalay...di daw nya kaya,etc.etc.sa ngayon mas excited ako umuwe ng pinas kaming 2 baby lang,wala sya...yeeyy 

[aquacharly]

I didn't watch the teleserye, but I will try to answer your query.

what would you do if feeling nyo hindi na kayo mahal ni partner? 
..... should you stay or should you say goodbye?

I wouldn't  decide based on just feelings.  I will assess objectively the case facts.
See,  I consciously make an effort to avoid making life-changing decisions based on emotions.

If there is still Kindness and Respect in a relationship, it is still worth saving.

[quinone]

i think ha, isa sa qualification na masasabi ng magbf/gf kung compatible sila: if your partner can love you the way you want them to.

minsan kasi may mga cases, mahal naman tayo pero feeling natin hindi talaga or kulang. halimbawa yung isa romatic yung isa hindi, either they compromise or find someone new na mas compatible.

[winkypops]

what would you do if feeling nyo hindi na kayo mahal ni partner? 
parang yung kanta sa My Husband's Lover, should you stay or should you say goodbye?

you need to talk about it para ma settle and para masagot na rin kung ano man ang gumugulo sa isip or yung mga doubts mo. If feeling mo worth it pang ipaglaban ang relationship...go for it.

[donzski_doinks]

ito naman ang opinyon ko sis.
do not base your decision dyan sa "feeling" mo. kasi, it's just your thinking e di ba? hindi porke yun ang nararamdaman mo, e yun na ang totoo. puwedeng mali yung feeling mo. so for me, the best thing to do is to ask him yourself. parang heart to heart talk. don't nag. hope for the best answer you could get from him but prepare yourself for the worst also.
if he says "i still love you" and you felt his sincerity, then tell him the reason why you felt otherwise. dapat din naman nya malaman yung mga shortcomings nya para mabago. ask mo din sya kung ano ba yung sa tingin nya e shortcomings mo para mabago mo din.
pag ang sagot naman nya e "i don't love you anymore", ask him kung ano gusto nya mangyari. pag sinabi nya na let him go, then set him free. be fair to him and also to yourself.  kaya mo ba mag stay sa isang relationship na alam mong ikaw nalang ang magmamahal.. you deserve to be loved the way you wanted and needed to be..  now, if ang gusto naman nya mangyari e subukan ayusin ang relationship, ask yourself if the relationship is worth saving. if it is, then go. if it's not, quit. do not waste time and effort. life is too short to be unhappy dear.

[bwiset12]

thanks mga sis. LDR kasi kami ngayon, so hindi ko alam kung paano iapproach. mas maganda siguro personal. actually before this madaming nangyari samin. 3rd party on his side, he got that girl pregnant pa. tapos biglang 1 day parang wala lang. bigla syang nakipag communicate uli samin, ang sabi lang nya aayusin nya daw ang lahat pag uwi nya. may mga plano pa sya for us. pero di ko lang sure if sincere sya. as of now, we communicate everyday. di ko na inoopen sa kanya yung tungkol sa 3rd party issue. nalulungkot lang ako kasi di nya na ko sinasabihan ng i love you pero pag yung anak naman namin ang kachat nya sinasabihan naman nya ng i love you.

[donzski_doinks]

ay may baby pala kayo sis..

[aquacharly]

You cannot force Love.
And...
You cannot force someone to love you the way you want to be loved.
So... 
To be happy, expect Nothing. 
If he comes back, then he is back.
But don't hold your breathe waiting for him.

If he comes back, LISTEN well to what he says.
You don't have to decide right away.
Listen well to what is left unsaid --  oftentimes, what is left unsaid is what's important.

Do not be afraid to decide for yourself.

Pray for Divine Guidance & Courage.

Take care of yourself. 

[bwiset12]

 ^ thank you sis

[justin3]

^naka 42 posts ka pa lang kaya ang dali basahin ng previous posts mo. 3/4 ng post mo nasa KABIT thread pa.

enumerate natin ha?

PROs:
   may 2 anak kayo
   may pinagsamahan kayo
   may feelings ka pa sa kanya
   good provider
   ano pa?

CONs:
   PARTNER pa rin? ohmaygaaawd! 12 long years at di ka man lang inalok ng kasal?
   LDR pa since 2011? what do you expect, mag "self-service" lang sya dun?
   may 3rd party... malay natin, baka may 4th, 5th, nth party pa yan hindi mo lang alam
   nagkalat pa ng lahi nya... at least sa abroad.
   duda sa sincerity... talagang hindi na dapat paniwalaan/pagkatiwalaan
   hindi expressive sa feelings - hindi ka naman nagpapaka-martyr sa lagay na to sis? bakit, "love" ka pa ba nun sa lagay na yan? ano ba? para mag feel-good ka lang, gusto mo lang marinig ang "i luv u"? grrrr!

so, ano ang mas matimbang? ipagpilitan mo pa yang "feelings" mo?

so, stay or goodbye?

LEAVE! but don't say goodbye. aba, may dalawang supling kayo na dapat nyang sustentuhan no? may sariling income ka ba? kung may Pork Barrel o PDAF  ka, okay, say "adieu" to him.
ang malungkot nyan kung ikaw mismo "dependent" rin sa kanya. malamang abutin ka ng another 12yrs nyan.

by the way, ang layo ng kwento ng buhay mo sa kanta ni Kuh ha? mas bagay yung "Superwoman" ni Karyn White.

goodluck sis!
sana, hindi na kita makita sa Kabit Thread... sama lang ng loob makuha mo dun.