Gusto kitang pakasalan pero gusto ko munang magexplore

[budzwhiz]

Let him explore. But make sure na pagbalik nya, wala na syang mababalikan. awts lang hahaha. Bakit naman gugustuhin kong maghintay sa lalaki, at sumama sa kanya matapos syang magsawa sa iba.

[purple.strawberry]

I think this happens when la pa gano experience si guy, like kung ikaw ang first gf or, kung di naman, konti pa lang nadadate niya. Kasi andun pa yung curiosity tsaka yung thinking na there maybe someone better than you.

Ganito nangyari sa friend kong guy so he broke up with his gf. He dated other girls (the girl eventually moved on din and had another bf), pero after two years he realized na yung girl pa din na yun talaga. So they talked about it. Ang maganda dun they both re-discovered themselves, matured a lot, and realized what they mean to each other. Kasal na sila ngayon.

Take note sa kwento ko. Nobody was asked to wait and nobody waited.

[anon]

@purple-- i think that's another story. In this thread, marriage was dangled into the equation, and the girl is asked to wait while prince charming goes to explore the forest more

[purple.strawberry]

^Yeah. Kinwento ko lang kasi the guy genuinely loved the girl pero yun nga, he couldn't shake the feeling of wanting to explore. Kaya ko din sinabi yung nobody was asked to wait bla bla is to show na unfair na paghintayin yung isang party and stupid na maghintay. :p

[anon]

^kasi nga he didnt loved her enough back then to commit to marriage pa. Good na di niya pinaasa yung babae. Their story belongs to the "if-you-love-someone-set-him/her-free" category

[miss_isla]

Love and commitment are two very different things. One can love you but not ready to commit to you. There are also instances that one can commit himself to you (for several reasons), but not love you that much.

The question is, are you willing to wait?

[jojo2978]

It may be true, he may really be willing to marry the girl.  Explore is a relative word.   It may mean that he still have many priorities at the moment but it may mean also that he is still curious to lots of things about women. 

Just be fair na lang siguro.  Don't ask her to wait indefinitely.  Time frame? 

[inluvewithmikewesten]

Pag sinabihan ako ng ganyan, I'd ask the guy If I could 'explore' too. If he says no, then mag explore ka na paalis ng buhay ko!

But kidding aside, wala naman sigurong babae papayag na  mag explore explore ang lalaki before they get married. Kalokohan yan. Kung meron man, she should be brought to Rizal Park para ma firing squad.

[engr_neechee]

Men won't forget how much they like you. 

Nothing can stop a man in love from marrying you.

[akthung]

sometimes insults can be good.

why?

1. its a good way to push off clingy men / women.
2. you know where you stand. better nainsulto kesa napaasa ng husto tapos wala pala.

[eleine26]

It may be true, he may really be willing to marry the girl.  Explore is a relative word.   It may mean that he still have many priorities at the moment but it may mean also that he is still curious to lots of things about women.

mas okay ba na mag explore na ang guys before marriage? pag ganun ba mas less ang chance na magloko once married na?

kasi may mga kilala ako na super bait nung bf-gf pa lang eh. nung nag asawa na sila, hala super babaero naman talaga.

and yung iba naman na super babaero nung single, ideal husband na talaga after marriage.

[akthung]

mas okay ba na mag explore na ang guys before marriage? pag ganun ba mas less ang chance na magloko once married na?

kasi may mga kilala ako na super bait nung bf-gf pa lang eh. nung nag asawa na sila, hala super babaero naman talaga.

and yung iba naman na super babaero nung single, ideal husband na talaga after marriage.

na repressed kasi ang mga yun. not necessarily kailangan mag explore dahil kanya kanyang kulo yan. parang init ng uno lang yan, hindi lahat cool headed, hindi lahat hot headed, pero parehong galit. ang galit, kailangan ma transmute.  so ganun din dito.

yung iba kasi, ayun nga, repressed, not necessarily na mabait. minsan, bantay ng magulang or they have to live under the standards of their parents, and when they finally get married, doon lang sila nakakakatikim ng freedom. so yung naipon noon, ayun, pumuputok.

but you know, all these things, they're not 100% indicators. reality is, people change...

[cinnamoroll]

Eh pano kung sinabi nya nga na gusto nya munang magexplore tapos wala pang 1 month may gf na syang iba?

[Observer54]

Eh pano kung sinabi nya nga na gusto nya munang magexplore tapos wala pang 1 month may gf na syang iba?

ahhh well planned ang exploration hehe. gasgas na yang style na ganyan.

[msbhelz]

Hindi naman contradicting yung sinabi nya sis. Paanong explore ba ang gusto nya? Inaya ba sya ni Diego na mag explore? Kidding. Might as well push the guy off. Hindi rin sya serious sa sinabi nya and there may be a chance na masaktan ka lang sis. If he's serious he will never tend to say such things at the first place. Para kasing nangako sya sa wala.

Pero, as i believe lang po. Kahit mag bf-gf palang po kayo o kahit pag asawa na nasa tao yan kung magloloko sila o hindi. Meron din akong kilala simula nung binata hanggang mag asawa at magkaapo maloko parin e. Paano naman un? Haha. Ang haba ng Exploration Stage nya! Haha. So depends sa tao talaga. Haha.

[akthung]

Eh pano kung sinabi nya nga na gusto nya munang magexplore tapos wala pang 1 month may gf na syang iba?

Ibig sabihin nun ay you were born yesterday.

[pret_ty68]

mas okay ba na mag explore na ang guys before marriage? pag ganun ba mas less ang chance na magloko once married na?

kasi may mga kilala ako na super bait nung bf-gf pa lang eh. nung nag asawa na sila, hala super babaero naman talaga.

and yung iba naman na super babaero nung single, ideal husband na talaga after marriage.

Yes,  because they are already in the "been there,done that stage" so sawa na sila sa pagiging binata. They already tamed their curiosity so they already have this emotional stability when they married. By exploring they should have at least dated a lot of women in that way they would already understand women better and knows what they want in a partner.

Based on my observation most guys who were able to explore are generally better husbands than those who do not. Those who were not able to explore usually have too much expectation and fond of complaining about their partners, maybe it is because they do not really know what they want when they got married. That's why all things being equal, I'll chose a reformed playboy over an NGSB.  But this is just my general observation on most people I know, it is still a case to case basis.

But in exploring it is unfair to make a person wait just like in the case of the threadstarter. It is just like saying I'm willing to marry you, if someone better does not come along.

[Girltalker2]

^ sa pagiging babaero ng lalaki, it is not always best for them to explore before or after marriage.  it is in the maturity of the guy eh. minsan single explore na ng explore, pag nag asawa na, ganun parin kasi nasa dugo na nya.  May iba naman never nag explore, pero once nag asawa, matino naman.

so it does not necessarily na nagsawa na sa pagkabinata eh hindi na maghahanap ng iba pag nag asawa na. nasa maturity at pagiging responsible ng lalaki iyon.

sis pretty68, reformed playboy scares me! baliktad naman tayo. ako I would stay away from them as much as I could. Simply because I don't trust them and naniniwala ako, once manloloko, laging manloloko at nasa dugo na nila yun.

Regarding sa pag explore naman ng bf ni TS, wala naman sinabi yung guy na mag antay si babae.  So prerogative ng babae magpakatanga waiting or move on.

[Girltalker2]

Parang iba din ang dating ng "gusto kita pakasalan but...." kesa sa "gusto ko ikaw ang maging asawa ko but...".

iba din ang dating ng "gusto ko maging asawa mo but.... "

yung first statement kasi ang dating parang you owe it to the guy pa na papakasalan ka. bwiset.

[pret_ty68]

^ sa pagiging babaero ng lalaki, it is not always best for them to explore before or after marriage.  it is in the maturity of the guy eh. minsan single explore na ng explore, pag nag asawa na, ganun parin kasi nasa dugo na nya.  May iba naman never nag explore, pero once nag asawa, matino naman.

so it does not necessarily na nagsawa na sa pagkabinata eh hindi na maghahanap ng iba pag nag asawa na. nasa maturity at pagiging responsible ng lalaki iyon.

sis pretty68, reformed playboy scares me! baliktad naman tayo. ako I would stay away from them as much as I could. Simply because I don't trust them and naniniwala ako, once manloloko, laging manloloko at nasa dugo na nila yun.

Regarding sa pag explore naman ng bf ni TS, wala naman sinabi yung guy na mag antay si babae.  So prerogative ng babae magpakatanga waiting or move on.

There is really no hard and fast rule regarding this. As I've said in my previous post, it is a case to case basis and my previous post was based on my general observation of people I know. You may have a different observation. Of course emotional maturity plays a big factor. What I mean by exploring is that they should have at least dated a lot of women so that they would understand women better and knows what they want in a partner, it does not mean that they should be a playboy/heartbreaker.


Regarding the reformed playboy, I'm not really into them. What I mean is that all things being equal and having to choose between two extremes one is a reformed playboy and another one an NGSB, i'll chose the former over the latter. I always believe that people changes. Sometimes it only takes one person or one event to change a person.

Regarding sa pag wait ni TS, wala ngang sinabi na mag wait si TS pero parang implied kasi yung pagsabi nya  na gusto kitang pakasalan merong paasa factor at parang wala namang sinabi na naki pag break sya kay TS o baka way nya lang yun para si TS na mismo makipag break.