Kailangan ko ng advice :(

[concon1088]

I'm 25y/o college undergrad,1st year lang natapos ko,tumigil ako before due to financial problem, nag enrol uli ako nung june para sana ideretso studies ko  kaya lang nahirapan ako because of my age parang feeling ko lagi out of place ako,plus feeling ko nag shrink yung utak ko ang bagal ko makagets pag may new lesson, siguro dahil for the past years na tumigil ako sa pag aaral nag stay lang ako sa bahay, lumalabas minsan, hindi ako nag effort maghanap ng work nung nag stop ako kasi feeling ko wala naman tatanggap sakin  dahil wala akong natapos, wala din akong kaibigan na pwede makasama man lang mag apply masama pala yung naisolate mo ng matagal ang sarili mo parang hirap na ko mag adapt pag may mga ibang tao. Bumaba rin ang self confidence ko feeling ko napaka hopeless ko na worthless, ngayon lagi lang ako nasa bahay uli madalas naiyak ako nagkukulong sa loob ng kwarto. Saan kaya ako pwede magtrabaho kung ganito na college undergrd ako tapos mababa pa self confidence. hay Parang minsan naiisip ko never na uli ako magiging masaya. ((((

[Noylabmay]

Sis Try mo kaya mag abroad at least bagong lugar that you can start your life, new can make friends

[anne08]

Sis concon1088 ... you shouldn't feel hopeless sa situation mo.  Some people are able to recover from their situations with much less resources.  You can start by writing your resume, kahit na 1st year pa lang ang natatapos mo, at least nakatapos ka pa din ng high school, highlight the skills that you have, mukhang computer literate ka naman kasi nakakapag-post ka dito sa girltalk ... after you write your resume sign up sa jobstreet and other similar sites, even if karamihan ng hinahanap nila eh college grads, hindi mo alam baka may isa or 2 na companies na naghahanap ng hindi naman kailangan na college grad. Sa pag-apply ng jobs through these websites hindi mo kailangan ng kasama.  Isa pa na pwede mo gawin is contact through email or kahit through text lang wedding and party coordinators, kahit na per project basis lang pwede mo i-offer yung services mo.  Kahit na wala ka pang experience basta nandyan yung willingness mo to learn, these employers will look pass through your being an undergrad.  Basta honest and trustworthy, masipag and willing to learn, may mararating ka  

Baka naman may special skill ka like sa pag layout or pag edit ng kung ano-ano, or baka naman artistic ka, or baka naman magaling kang magbenta ... market your skills ... hindi mo alam baka nasa ganyan ang swerte mo

[chihirosen]

sis hindi rin ako nakatapos pero IT manager na ko ngayon. Nag start ako sa call center as agent tapos unti unti napopromote. kelangan talaga is masipag ka at kelangan mo lakasan ang loob mo. pag inisip mo ang shortcomings mo palagi wala kang mararating. I read a lot din so that helped. sa call center sis di sila masyadong maarte sa college degree so you can start there and gain experience. ok din ang call center na mag build ng self confidence, kakapal talaga mukha mo hehe. stay positive lang lagi, good luck sis

[naiveartist]

Hi! I don't know kung matino advise ko pero built up your confidence ng todo todo and try to apply abroad. Kasi yung mga katrabaho ko sa Dubai TRIPLE sahod nila undergrad samantalang ako Licenced Professional parehas [textspeak!] naman trabaho namin. Yung mga iba naman grad ng technical course. Dinadala lang sa porma at dating sa interview. Point is sa ibang bansa hindi masyado importante ang educational attainment dapat [textspeak!] alam mo yung trabaho and confident ka. So maybe after mo magwork or after mo kumuha ng short course try building up that confidence and apply abroad.

[aquacharly]

Kapalan lang ng mukha ang mundo.  Go study, and do part time work para bumalik confidence mo dealing with people.
Just focus on being the good person you are, hwag ka padadala sa ibang may kalokohan or hindi ok ugali, and look at everything as a learning experience.
Having an open mind is also a big help.

Dump your self defeating thoughts --  na who will hire you if you have not finished your college degree.       

Smile at people -- it's a good handy skill.  Hwag ka matakot.  Lahat ng tao may obstacles, may problems, may insecurities. 

Pray. 

[Perfume_Lover]

dumaan din ako sa ganyang pagsubok pero iba nga lang kasi medyo palalabas at medyo friendly ng konti, I have friends naman kahit paano, sabi nga nila lahat ng negative, it's all in the mind, kung iniisip mo na ganyan, ganyan ang mangyayari talaga, magbusiness ka sis like me ganun ginagawa ko eh, blogging na din, and sis, you don't need other people to be with you when you are going to apply a job, bakit? eh tumanda naman tayo na hindi kasama ang kung sino diyan diba? that means kaya mo basta wag mo siya isipin yung mga negative thoughts na yan.

Mukha nga sis literate ka sa computer, may malaking points ka na pag nag apply ka, usually kasi yan talaga minsan qualifications, dapat computer literate ka(nagsalita ang expert lolz). Ako nga sis, may business at ngayon mag apply ako abroad, never ko pa naexperience ang magwork talaga, me din isa yan sa nag papaintimidate sa akin mag apply but still gusto ko mag try, just wanna share this:

#1 The mind is everything. What you think you become.  –Buddha
#2 The biggest failure you can have in life is making the mistake of never trying at all.” – Unknown

binabasa ko yan pag medyo pinanghihinaan din ako

[rachi_01]

hi sis, don't feel that your a mess kasi magiging ganyan talaga life mo. what you can do, you can study. you can take up vocational course thru TESDA accredited schools. baka may magustuhan ka course dun kasi ako kumuha ako basic culinary and baking dun for free. but if you wanted/badly needed to earn this time, pwede ka mag apply sa jobstreet submit ka lang resume. pwede din sa mga head hunter kasi they can help you kahit wala ka experience. kasi may mga company nowadays na tumatanggap ng fresh grad or undergrad. don't lose hope sis. many times, you'll be rejected but if it's meant for you... sobrang naniniwala ako na darating yan. pray ka lang... yan ang pinaka best mong gawin while doing all these. Good luck and God bless.

[angel_babyteen]

Hi sis, ako undergrad pero andito na sa abroad, dont be scared, just dream, set a goal, think what you wanna do  , think of ways to achieve it, start slowly, from the bottom if you need to and you'll get there, san ka ba naman tutungo kundi dun sa plan mo, goodluck

[burgundy]

Sis Concon, dont be too hard on yourself.  You need to think positive and talk positive things  to yourself. Nasa utak mo lang lahat yan kasi in reality eh your doing fine naman. Buti nga ikaw naka-apak sa College, samantalang karamihan ng Pinoy didnt even finish high school. Isipin mo na some people have it worst than you, napakaswerte mo na. I know A LOT of people na hindi nakatapos ng High School but are successful in their chosen fields.

Everyday, visualize yourself na successful and happy and think positive lang para puro positive dumating sa buhay mo. GOD is always there for you, sabi nga sa Bible "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In every way acknowledge Him and He will direct your path." Sis, pray ka lang lagi kay Lord and Trust Him na he will take care of you. Be happy, be positive, and that positive energy within you will attract positive things and people into you life.

Good Luck, go out there and claim what is yours. Wag magmukmuk sa house. 

[Mama G]

Siguro nga change of environment ang kailangan mo sis para makapag-umpisa ka uli. Malamang nakatanim lang sa isip mo yung mga negative na naiisip mo about sa sarili mo. Kung may means ka naman, pwede ka ngang mag-abroad at dun mo subukan yung luck ko pero di rin ako familiar sa mga trabaho na offered sa undergrad.

[gil12]

there are a lot of job openings for college undergrad, some callcenters nga they hire HS grads. I'm a college undergrad too, biruin mo I only had one year left di ko pa natapos. I felt terrible that time, sobrang bumaba rin self esteem ko cause of that. When I was in college I didn't want to work in a callcenter, I can't imagine myself on the phone for more than 7 hours. Pero working in a callcenter was the BEST choice, take note, it isn't the only job you can apply for pero salary wise ito na pinaka mataas. Kaya go ako, for an undergrad, the pay was okay. Tapos yung college classmate ko when I saw her siya pa nangungutang sa akin samantalang siya tong college grad. Lakasan mo loob mo, magapply ka, the worst thing that could happen is they reject you. You'll never know unless you try dba? Tapos when I started working di na talaga ako sinuportahan ng parents ko samantalang the original plan was just to save up for school. Ang nanagyari kinailangan ko ng suportahan sarili ko. I should have graduated 7 years ago, I'm planning to go back to school next year. I'll be 8-9 years older than my soon to be classmates but I don't mind, why? Kasi what matters to me is to get that diploma. Ano naman kung mas matanda ako sa classmates ko? Sila ba nagpapaaral sakin? Hindi naman dba. Ang nagtataka lang ako, where are your parents? Sakin kasi my parents didn't give me any support when I started working, no financial and emotional support from them.

[Girltalker2]

good luck sayo sis.

minsan nakaka panghina ng loob, pero sa buhay wala kang choice minsan.  importante huwag na huwag ka susuko.  kasi kung sumuko ka, talagang hindi ka magiging masaya panghabang buhay.  tsaka iisa lang naman ang buhay mo, lubos lubusin mo na.

kung feeling mo hindi kaya ng brain powers mo ang mag aral ulit, try mo muna magwork sa church, NGOs, reaching out to people. baka dun makahanap ka ng ibang fulfillment.

pray hard.

[Ma.Jewel_1987]

Chill ka lang sis, maaring gasgas na to but totoo habang may buhay may pag asa 
Life really sucks paminsan minsan, but i guess its worth living pa din, kaya mu yan!

[AVIDGOLFER]

Guytalker here just less post....Kulang sa abilidad si Concon...hindi ka dapat nag kukulong mas lalong walang mangyayari pag sa bahay ka lang...labas ka dapat at makihalubilo at hanap ka ng work pag may pagkakatraon..diskarte lang talaga sa para mabuhay at umasenso.

I my case, I started working and earning my own at age 16 when i runaway from home. Since then until now  I am on my own earning a lot (not to brag here $ pa) because of perseverance and good work ethic plus dedication. Pero sa totoo lang, meron talagang tao na mahina ang loob at walang diskarte like Concon (no offense sa iyo Sis) kaya dapat lakasan lang ng loob minsan kung papano ka makakita ng trabaho. Pag ganyan undergrade ka, don't look for higher pay and good position, look for a paying job without any preconditon on your mind but it should be a decent job.

[jeanette01]

Concon1088 - the only thing that hinders you is "you". marami naman companies who hire undergrads tulad Ng Starbucks, salons... Kaya Lang kailangan mo maging confident and kailangan mong mag effort na madagdagan ang skills mo. When you stayed home Lang, you should have bought books and learned new ways na magagamit mo sa possible work mo

[superjuzh]

naiintindihan kita kasi college undergrad din ako.maarami akong kaibiganpero hindi ko sila sinasama sa pag apply pero minsan nagugulat sila ako may trabaho na sila tong mga college grad hirap makahanap ng trabaho. aang problema ay nasayo lang naman. sa totoo lang mahirap talaga maghanap ng trabaho ang mga undergrad pero dahil medyo makapag ang mukha ko malakas ang loob ko na magtanong tanong kung kanikanino. madalas nga pag nag aapply ako mag isa kung sinong makatabi ko chinichika ko lang tapos kapag hindi naging ok yung inapplyan namin sinusubukan ko sa mga sinasabi nila. atlis sa ganong paraan nakakakuha ako ng tips.

wag ka matako makipag kaibigan sis. wag mo rin ilimit ang sarili mo na porket undergrad ka lang eh hanggan diyan ka na. minsan ko na ring naging problema yan pero hindi ako tumigil sa paghahanap ng solusyon. maraming subcon company ang tumatanggap ng college undergrad, kahit nga highschool grad lang pwede na hanggang 30 years old. go lang, kaya mo yan.

[daveigh]

Dump your self defeating thoughts --  na who will hire you if you have not finished your college degree.       

True. Inuunahan mo kasi ng self doubt kaya ganyan ang nagiging resulta. Learn to acknowledge naman yourself so you attract good vibes.

[x-y]

Sis the first thing you need to do is to boost yourself up. You should read The Secret. Sobrang good vibes talaga siya.

The more you think of it as a problem, maslalong di mo masosolve yan. Don't dwell on the bad vibes. Things happen for a reason. Take it as a challenge and an inspiration to become a better person.

God will not give you problems that you can't solve. Isipin mo na lang yun iba pang taong mas sobra yun problema kaysa sayo.

Kaya mo yan. Wag ka lang panghinaan ng loob.

[rannastillero]

Sis ano ka ba?
hindi naman porket hindi ka nakapagtapos eh panghighinaan ka na ng loob.
tingnan mo nga yung mga ibang successful na ngayon, ang iba dun undergrad din.
tsaka tumingin ka sa paligid mo, lahat ba ng col. graduate eh may trabaho? o kaya naman lahat ba ng undergrad e tambay? diba hindi naman, nasa lakas ng loob at self confidence yan.
Kaya mo yan sis! wag panghinaan ng loob.