Wedding Pamahiins

[meixin]

^ang alam ko sa chinese na belief lang yan

[mloveg]

^yun nga eh nalilito nako which is which to follow. Others say bawal umattend and to be wed, iba naman sabi bawal yung newly wed.  Ano ba talaga yung totoo? Hahaha iba iba din sinasabi sakin ng mga elders.

[meixin]

^Actually both ang alam ko.. Pag nagtinghun ka na bawal ka na umattend ng kasal ng iba. Tapos within 3mos after your wedding, ang alam ko bawal ka din umattend sa iba. E ang tinghun normally a few months before the wedding ginagawa. Try to read this --> http://www.chinese-wedding-guide.com/chinese-wedding-taboos.html
I'm not sure kung saang country yang gumawa ng site, kasi yung iba dyan hindi naman talaga observed dito sa atin

[j.adore]

Chinese belief nga yan Madami nga.. Alin ba yung pareho sa advise ng parents or grandparents mo?

[meixin]

^ Ang alam ko is yung 1, 2, 3, 5, 7, 9. Then yung sa 10 white alam ko for mourning pero yung blue and green parang hinde

[mloveg]

@j.adore both..hehe

@meixin, wow! Super thanks! Very informative yung site 

[chelvin26]

Hello kasama ba ito sa sukob.
Our wedding will be on november and yung sister na h2b will be january.. Thank you. Hehe

[mysterioza_me]

^ang alam ko sis "sukob sa taon" kung ikakasal pareho within the same year. Yung sa inyo hindi na sukob kung Nov 2016 and Jan 2017 respectively ang kasal. Magiging sukob siya if Jan 2017 and Nov 2017 ang kasal since same year sila.

[yn061515]

From Batangas here so expect a long FUNNY list, lol

1. kung 2 o 3 kayo sa family na ikakasal sa sunod-sunod na dates, say Dec 20, Dec 29 and Jan 5, bawal mag-abay ang isa't isa, bawal umattend ng kasal ng isa't isa at bawal tumikim ng handa (miski take home) ng isa't isa. Based on experience itey! 

2. sasalubungin at susubuan ng malagkit na kakanin upon entering the newly wed's house, sabay hagis ng coins at bigas

3. pagkatapos ng reception at kung papunta na sa bridal car, kailangan mauna maglakad ang babae sa lalake para hindi sya ma-under or maapi ng kabilang side.

4. kung uuwi sa partido ng lalake ang bagong kasal after the wedding, nagdala ng kumot mula sa side ng babae para hindi tuluyang magpa ilalim yung girl sa asawa nya.

Hmm ito lang naalala ko today... update ko to soon pag may naalala pa ako. 

[chelvin26]

^ang alam ko sis "sukob sa taon" kung ikakasal pareho within the same year. Yung sa inyo hindi na sukob kung Nov 2016 and Jan 2017 respectively ang kasal. Magiging sukob siya if Jan 2017 and Nov 2017 ang kasal since same year sila.

Ahh buti naman, thanks sis! wala naman masama kung susundin, hehe

[madame_ekis]

Sa mga Chinese brides, ask ko lang if anong pamahiin yung follow nyo pag may death sa immediate family?  1 year lang ba yung wait or 3 years di ko sure kung ano kasi yung inoobserve.  Does it depend on the family?

Tia!

[mrs_mcta]

Hindi din kame super religious or super superstitious but sumunod din kame sa iba to be on the safe side, hehe!

1)   Bawal magkita the day before: same hotel kame pero we requested for different floors, haha! Hindi naman sinabi bawal mag usap or mag text so we just messaged each other pag lalabas ng room.

2)   Bawal bumyahe ng malayo kase lapitin daw sa aksidente (same if birthday mo or may major event like graduation)

3)   Bawal sukatin yung bridal gown: naging technical kame dito, haha, kase sabi bawal isukat yung gown na as in tapos na. So nag iwan yung designer ng isang part ng gown na hindi pa tapos tahiin (very minimal), after ko isukat for the last time, saka niya ?tinapos? yung gown

4)   Not us per se but a good friend of ours hindi nakadalaw sa wake ng dad ko kase they were getting married in a few weeks; hindi sila pinayagan ng parents nila.

[madame_ekis]

Yung H2B ko kasi namatayan recently ng family member.  Di namin alam kung pano namin i-papalan yung wedding since we don't know how long the period of mourning lasts.  Kahit yung relatives nya di din sure, sabi 1 year yung isa naman 2 years daw, magulo.

As much as possible I want to start contacting suppliers and booking na kasi we originally planned the wedding for 2018, and since its a destination wedding the earlier the better yung booking ng suppliers.

[mysterioza_me]

^1yr lang ang mourning period (ito yung babang-luksa right?) and as far as I know this is only applicable sa widow/widower out of respect sa deceased spouse kasi di maganda na pagkamatay ng spouse may kapalit na agad. Para di naman masabi na di pa pala patay may nakareserba na or agad napalitan ang spouse.

For me sis ok lang na mag-plan kayo matagal pa naman ang mismong celebration. They can mourn while you prepare for your wedding. Death of a family member should not stop you from planning your life/future. Siguro kung talagang strict ang relatives ni hubby tungkol sa mourning period try to plan secretly na lang. I mean unahin na pa-book ng photog&video, caterer, wedding gown designer, florists para ma-lock na ang price.

[RealMaria]

Hello girls,

I'm not sure if I'm being paranoid. I don't usually believe in superstitions but this one really makes me feel crazy! We will be getting married this June. As you know the old folks say, "iwasan ang magbyahe ng malayo kasi prone sa aksidente." My fiance loves to ride a motorbike. Nagpaalam sya na magrride sila sa Aurora this March. We are from Bulacan. Ayaw ko sya payagan. Sabi ko after na lang ng kasal sya magride, kasi nga para iwas aksidente. Ayaw nya makinig sakin. Ang sakin, wala naman masam kung ifollow yun. Kaso ayaw nya makinig sakin. Medyo worried lang talaga ko. Hindi naman mauubos ang ride. pwede naman nya gawin yun after ng kasal.

My question is, do you know someone na ikakasal, tapos bumyahe ng for fun lang tapos may nangyari di maganda? Thanks in advance

[RealMaria]

Hello girls,

I'm not sure if I'm being paranoid. I don't usually believe in superstitions but this one really makes me feel crazy! We will be getting married this June. As you know the old folks say, "iwasan ang magbyahe ng malayo kasi prone sa aksidente." My fiance loves to ride a motorbike. Nagpaalam sya na magrride sila sa Aurora this March. We are from Bulacan. Ayaw ko sya payagan. Sabi ko after na lang ng kasal sya magride, kasi nga para iwas aksidente. Ayaw nya makinig sakin. Ang sakin, wala naman masam kung ifollow yun. Kaso ayaw nya makinig sakin. Medyo worried lang talaga ko. Hindi naman mauubos ang ride. pwede naman nya gawin yun after ng kasal.

My question is, do you know someone na ikakasal, tapos bumyahe ng for fun lang tapos may nangyari di maganda? Thanks in advance

[Tincywincy]

well.. I know someone who died in his sleep the night of their wedding. so no matter how safe you try to keep him, madami padin naman things that can happen. masstress ka lang kakaisip ng mga pamahiin na ganyan sis. keep yourself calm nalang siguro and make him promise na whenever he feels unsafe or may doubt syang naffeel to go, sya na mag kusa na wag tumuloy.

siguro if there's one pamahiin na gaawin naming, it's to not see each other the night before our wedding. hindi solely dahil yun ang paniniwala, but for some other personal reasons. like it's the last time i'll be sleeping alone and single, etc etc.

[shygirlme]

^I dont believe in pamahiins pero for extra ingat lang sana makinig fiance mo. mahirap na kamo.

[yn061515]

sis RealMaria, isipin mo nalang na before the wedding hindi na kayo magkasundo sa pagdedecide, paano pa pag kasal na kayo? work this out. upuan nyo to. start from now kasi mas mahirap na magkaintindihan pag kasal na kayo. as in. let him know na gusto mo lang naman masure na safe sya at all times lalo't kakasalin kayo. that pamahiin does not only apply for those na ikakasal actually, para din yun sa mga gagraduate. why? kasi importanteng event ang mga ito sa buhay. completely justifiable naman kung bakit mo sya pinag-iingat diba? he has to understand that. better safe than sorry.

[michie25]

hi sisses! ano yung mga something borrowed, something new, something old and something blue niyo?? pa-share please para magkaron po ako ng idea. thanks!