My EX-BF and my mom?!

[beauregarde]

i never thought i'll share anything personal in this forum... but i don't really have other person to consult to so i really hope to hear any advice from you all...

yung ex-bf ko kinaibigan mommy ko through Facebook anyway since pareho silang asa australia that time, him working in australia while my mom is only there to visit her sister. So nagkita sila dun sa australia i think twice... no big deal baka malungkot lang si ex dahil according to my mom single pa din at wala pa daw sa isip nya magsettle..
So un nung una i don't really care cause i was thinking na baka naman nakikipag kaibigan lang talaga... but after reading some of their conversation (i have an access to my moms FB since im the one who created it) it seems to me that my ex is trying to flirt with my mom and that my mom was trying to pretend she doesnt get it or nag-chachange topic lang everytime me pahaging si ex... saying na di sya papatol sa mas bata or things like anak ang turing nya sa ex bf ko.. okay fine so di ako nakialam... And my mom even told me that she think's my ex has a crush on her... she even shared to two of his close friends na she thinks my ex is trying to flirt with her... i know for a fact that my ex is indeed trying to flirt with her because of some hints and old style nya sa pag-papa haging

now my ex said he'll visit this december and is asking to meet my mom again... so since i dont want things to get out of hand! i sent a message to my ex (we're not friends in FB) and so i said things like wala na syang kahihiyan etc... etc... and make sure that he has clean intentions to my mom and that her mother knows what he is doing and that he's a pathetic loser lolz... baka kasi sakaling tigilan nya mga kagaguhan niya

anyway kala ko titigil na pero hinde... so naguusap pa din sila ng mom ko... ang masakit nito ang mommy ko sided with him... na kesyo malisyosa nga ako na alam naman daw nyang hindi naman daw talaga at friends lang sila...

di ko alam kung nangangailangan ba ko ng advice or kelangan ko lang me mapagsabihan pero kasi nasasaktan ako na my mom is agreeing with my pathetic ex na after i tried to protect her from that jerk she'll be blind sided na ako pa ang malisyosa cause nothing is going on between them! ako pa sinabihang bitter ng ex ko! lolz

i dont know if i should take this matter seriously or just let my mom and ex be?

 

[mary_gee531]

hi sis, i knew a guy like your ex-bf.  his gf had an affair with another guy so he felt like iniputan sya sa ulo nung gf nya.  syempre natapakan ng husto ang pride nya.  as revenge, ganyan din ginawa nya, he flirted with the girl's mom who is separated na din and they had an affair.  but he doesnt really love the girl's mom, gusto nya lang gumanti sa girl.  after getting what he wants, hayun, he dumped her too (the girl's mom).

[beauregarde]

thanks sis for answering the thing is wala ko naging kasalanan sa kanya... in fact he was the one who was cheating on me when we are still in relationship... me karelasyon syang matanda during the last months of our relationship... then he probably decided na iwan na ko for that older woman... that older woman is now dead kaya siguro naghahanap ng kapalit... so i just dont know where he's coming from kung me dapat ngang maghiganti dito ako pa yun

[aquacharly]

Well, keep your cool -- you've said more than enough.

The key to your grrr & anxiety.  --  is  your mom. 
If she isn't -- what's the common sentence?  If hindi nya  isusuko   ang Bataan --  he can go ahead waste his time on her as long as he wants to, as long as your mom finds him entertaining -- and it all stays a harmless friendship. 

So, if you think you know your mom well enough -- relax, ignore him when he's around.

[beauregarde]

thanks sis aquacharly

i see so i guess i'll just let them be... yeah i know my mom though with the way she's acting now na parang di ako magugulat kung one day madevelop sya and all.. Since my ex really has a history with dating older woman so i think alam na nya pano i manipulate mommy ko
ako lang ata ang ka-age nya na naging gf nya. and mejo mahilig sya sa mga older woman na me family na (yep he was a home wrecker twice when we were both in HS)... widowed na din mommy ko... so i guess ok lang since single na mom ko? grabe parang ang hirap ata ng sitwasyon pag nagkaganun

[angeleigh]

Gusto ba ng mom mo?

[beauregarde]

hi sis i think i wont know that... pero i wont be surprised if ever madevelop sya or maging sila...

i guess ill just heed to sis aquacharly's advice... hayaan ko na lang kung friends sila di friends and kung maging lover wag na lang din pansinin... i guess i'll just cross the bridge when i get there.

[mariebiscuit]

sa tingin ko ang hanap ng ex mo e mother like gf,,,hmmmm eto lang masasabi ko,,,love is blind....ano man ang gawin ng taong nakapaligid sa taong inlove, wala itong pakialam,,,,let your mom always feel your prescence ,tingin ko malambing yang ex mo kaya mukhang nagiging malapit sila ni ex,,,sana nga friends lang sila dahil kung magkataon na maging sila,,,,ikaw ang higit na masasaktan,,,hindi dahil kay ex kung hindi dahil kay mommy mo,,,pray to enligthen your mom...

[majoie]

Hi sis, does your mom know the reason why your ex broke up with you?
I think you should inform her or maybe warn her of your ex's tendencies.
Confide with her, na the situation is making you uncomfortable. It's your mom you should reach out to, not your ex (baka binaligtad ka pa ni ex by telling ur mom  na nakikipag-friends lang sya sa mom mo and inaway mo na c ex) maybe that's the reason y she sided with him.
After telling her how you feel and if she still chooses to continue with the friendship, then that's the time nga cgro to leave them be.

[michperez]

sana lang maganda ang intention ng ex mo sa mommy mo...may ganyan talagang klase ng guy.maybe you can talk to your mom and sabihin mo sa kanya kung ano ang ginawa ng ex mo sa yo dati.

[beauregarde]

thank you mga sis... nasabihan ko na mama ko kung ano ugali ni ex nakwento ko na din past nya but that did not stop her from talking to him... sa tingin naman nga kasi niya wala silang ginagawang masama. Pero ok na mga sis after the message I sent to my EX ayun natakot na sya and until now di na nkikipagcommunicate sa mom ko (as far as I know) pati comments or like sa post ng mom ko wala na.  Natakot sa siguro dahil alam niyang madami akong alam na baho niya. So for now ok na ulet kami ng mom ko di na ko naiilang and medyo natigil na din si mama kakakwento dun sa mga exchanges nila ng conversation ni ex hehe. so abangan ang susunod na kabanata ako since uuwi nga si ex ng december at nakikipag meet kay mama.