ex issues

[jellibean]

help... my ex's mother died and i'm torn if i needed / required to go to the wake. ex-bf and i broke up last feb and medyo hindi maganda [textspeak!] breakup.. i haven't spoken to my ex mga 4 months na..
natatakot lang ako na baka i might cause a scene if i appear. at the same time my conscience bugs me if i dont go.

[aquacharly]

natatakot lang ako na baka i might cause a scene if i appear

You said: I MIGHT --  so don't cause a scene.  You do nothing out of the ordinary at  the wake = no scene.
OR, do you mean - if they see you, THEY will cause a scene?  Your presence triggers them to crete a scene?  Ganon assessment mo? - na sobra galit ng family sa yo? 

broke up last feb and medyo hindi maganda [textspeak!] breakup.. i haven't spoken to my ex

Whatever transpired between you and your ex --  there must have been civil, if not amicable, relationships between you & his family members.  Unless,  when you 2 broke up eh --  you bad mouthed, or disrespected his family.  If you maligned his mom during the break-up, oo nga  think out well your attendance at the wake...
     
       As in, timing mo pag punta mo.  Mga dis-oras.
       Early  AM, first  viewing hour -- when few people (even family) are there.  Quietly pay your respects to the departed, & sign the guest book, leave your Mass card.
       

[Girltalker2]

agree ako kay sis aquacharly, pumili ka ng oras kung gusto mo talaga pumunta, yung alam mo kokonti lang ang tao.

Or puede ka rin hindi na pumunta at magpadala ka nalang flowers o mass card or abuloy sa common friend ninyo ng ex to extend your condolences.

[ohcmon]

Close ba kayo ng mom? Baka naman hindi, eh pwede sigurong wag ka na pumunta.

Also try to factor in if your ex is dating someone else. 4 months is a long time.

[jellibean]

Thanks mga Sis for your replies. I think it's best for me not to go na. Mejo close kmi ng mom Nya that's why it also hurts me not to pay my last respects..

[plumpolka]

I think you should go. Kasi you are paying respect to the mom and hindi ka naman pupunta dun para sa ex mo e. like you said, medyo close kayo ng mom nya and i think his family would appreciate kung bibisitahin mo parin yung mom nya kahit hindi na kayo in a relationship nung anak nya and you also treated them as family/friend. Kasi kung ako yun, I would still visit them regardless kung gusto ba ako makita ng ex ko o hindi, e hindi naman siya ang pupuntahan ko din e.

[sassycai]

hi sis, kung close kayo puntahan mo na lang. pili ka na lang ng oras na sa palagay mo eh konti lang yung mga nag bi-vigil. anyway, yung mom naman niya ang pupuntahan mo at di yung ex mo.