one more chance....

[amethyst028]

 

[tellycopter]

Kung may gf na sya, syempre kawawa si girl if ever na iwan nya yun for you.

Pero kapag ako, I'll take the risk. Gagawa ako ng paraan to win him back.

[pret_ty68]

^
Sis fight for it kung talagang mahal mo pa siya. Wala pa namang legal impediment kaya pwede ka pang lumaban. Yung ex bf mo na rin ang nagsabi na hindi nya maramdaman dun sa bagong dine date nya yung naramdaman nya sayo.

Regarding dun sa other girl oo nga nakakaawa pero mas nakakaawa siya kung sila nang ex bf mo pero ikaw pala ang mahal nang ex bf mo. Right nya rin makahanap nang lalaking tunay na mamahalin sya nang hindi nagdadalawang isip. If you and your ex bf truly love each other you are even doing her a favor by saving her from a man who does not truly love her. Besides sa kwento mo hindi pa naman sila kaya kung talagang gusto mo yung ex bf mo kumilos ka na bago pa sya tuluyang mahulog sa bagong di ne date nya. Pag di mo kasi sya pinaglaban ngayon you'll regret this later on palaging meron na "what if' sa isip mo.

[chicafabulosa]

My POV sis, I know not all may agree but this is what I will do:

You mentioned they're just dating so that means they are not yet a couple. Kasi for me if its dating lang unless exclusively dating sila then medyo may commitment na dun. But right now, you just have to make it clear sa kanya if may commitment na sya with the girl. Weigh your feelings sis. Make sure you really want him back and you still love him. If you still love him, by all means win him back. As long as wala kayong matatapakan na tao. I know masasaktan si girl but mas masakit if she continue loving your ex but your ex loves you amd obviously may spark pa rin between you and him. Mas okay na di sya paasahin kasi tumagal sila but in the end hihiwalayan lang sya just simply because di sya magawa na mahalin ni ex mo. I'd rather get hurt by the truth than make me a fool.. Gets?

So go girl. Think hard and ask him if he wants to give it another chance. If he said yes, ask him to tell the girl ma its over na. Di mo na siguro gusto magkaron ng stalker or kaya bigla ka lang magulat may umiskandalo sa into ni ex while nasa date kayo di ba? So tell him to end it up with her if he wants to start it all over again.

Hope it helps

[pret_ty68]

^^
Paano nya naman kasi sis malalaman na magbabago ka na kung hindi mo sasabihin. Unless madalas pa rin kayong magkikita doon pa lang niya ma re realize na nagbago ka na pero di ba sinabi mo sa kanya na ituloy nya lang kung may di ne date sya.

Sa tingin ko sis kung talagang mahal mo pa sya sabihin mo na sa kanya nang diretsahan ang nararamdaman mo at ang balak mo na magbago na. Tama si sis chicafabulusa ask him if he wants to give it another chance and kung yes ang sagot nya putulin nya na rin kung anong relation meron sya dun sa isang girl. Sa ngayon kasi siguro naguguluhan rin ex bf mo kasi hindi nya rin alam kung ano ang gusto mo mangyari pero once na sinabi mo dun na rin sya makakapagdecide on what option to take. Hindi naman siguro manipulation yun kasi sinasabi mo lang naman ang nararamdaman mo at ang balak mong gawin sya pa rin naman mag de decide basta siguraduhin mo lang na totoo talaga yung sinabi mo na magbabago ka na.

[jiji_06]

Hi sis..

Kaya mo yan sis, habang alam mong may nararamdaman pa sayo si ex, do your best to win him back. Kaya siguro hindi pa sya makapag decide sa feelings nya, eh baka natatakot ulit syang mangyari yung nangyari sa inyo dati. Always kang magparamdam sa kanya, wag kang susuko, ipakita mo na iba ka na sa dati. Ganyan din situation ko dati sis, binalewala kong yung bf ko dati hanggang sa mag break kami, at grabeng pag sisisi ko nun. And dun ko narealize na napakahalaga nya talga sakin. Nagkaron sya ng ibang gf, pero sabi nya na iba parin ako sa bago nya nun. Feel nya stranger yung girl sa buhay nya. Pero natatakot sya na baka maramdaman naman nya ulit yung sakit na naramdaman nya sakin pag nagkabalikan ulit kami. Pero ginawa ko parin lahat, bumalik communication namin dalawa. Binago ko din yung sarili ko. Kaya nagdecide sya na di nya talaga mahal yung gf nya, at nakipagbreak na sya. Pero di pa kami nagkabalikan muna, sinettle nya muna lahat. At ayun, ok na kami, at after a year, kinasal na kami.

Pagtayaga lang yan sis, if gusto mo sya at gusto ka parin nya, hindi malabong hindi kayo magkakabalika. Be positive. Show him na nagbago ka na. yun lang sis. Goodluck sis.

[rannastillero]

@amethyst028
Sis If i were you huh (kung ako huh)
I must FIGHT!!! bakit? so simple...
Kung mahal ko yung isang tao ipaglalaban ko,kasi alam kung duon ako sasaya eh diba?
Titigil lang ako sa pakikipaglaban ko KUNG...
sasabihin nyang WALA NG PAGASA, DI NA KITA MAHAL, MAY ASAWA na ako, MAY ANAK NA KAMI..
yun lang yung magpapatigil saken. hahaha
pero feeling ko naman may feelings pa si ex sayo, pero beware rin lang, malay mo gawing kang pang sexcapades huh! wag kang papayag pag ganun. kung magiging kayo ulit make sure no communication na sya with other girls din especially dito sa girl na dine date daw nya ng 3 mos.
goodluck sis!!!

[aquacharly]

ano ba dapat ko gawin ngayon? should i continue seeing him? feeling ko other woman ako pag ganon. kung ako lang i'll try to win him back whatever the cost, kaya lang may konsensya naman akong tao. i respect who and what he has in his life now. ayoko basta dumating na parang walang nangyari. 

IMO, you aren't sure how the  woman he's dating is really positioned in his life.
If you take it at face value: ok, dating --  but no commitment.  But then, WHY did he think he had to mention that to you --  kung dating dating lang di ba?
But you know how men can be --  mailap.

You initiated the re-connection; it's his turn now.
Don't go running after him --  observe what he has become, observe well.
I advise against having that frame of mind:  win him back WHATEVER the cost.  DON'T go there.

See, IF he wants to re-start a relationship with you --  he will do his part... Parang sagutan kayo.
You started it, he responds, you respond to show you're sincere this  time, he reacts, etc etc etc
Hindi ok if it's always you initiating & he just responds, get mo?

[aquacharly]

^tell him you will say this to him only once, so o listen well:   

1.  You know better now.  You have matured.  You are a better person now.
2.  You know he is The Best as far as you are concerned
3.  You regret beyond anything he can imagine, how you hurt him before.
     You ask him now to please forgive you for your immaturity then.
4.  You know better now, you are a better version of what you were before, and you want to love him in the way he deserves to be loved.
5.  BUT if he cannot get beyond his hurt -- you by yourself will fail at keeping this relationship going
6.  IF you 2 will resume your relationship, BUT he will keep on going back to The Past --  like watching a lousy movie over & over again --  it is useless to resume your relationship coz it will just hurt him more often
(Isipin mo: it's gonna be hell if "on" kayo uli tapos grrr pa sya sa pinaggagawa mo, or he can't trust you again. Baka he can't forgive, ikaw naman bigyan  nya ng sama ng loob this time around). 
7. Ask him how much time he needs to settle his ambiguity over the "safe" girl vs "hurtful"  you.
8.  Tell him you will give him the time he needs (yung answer nya to #7) to think it over AND to end his relationship with the girl in an orderly manner (ayaw mo of course! Na papasok ka sa tug-of-war of a triangle).

If his answer to #7 is vague or sa pananaw mo eh too long as in tumanda ka na waiting for him to make up his mind -- eh, darling, let go & move on.  That's his nice way of saying:  NO, never, or he really really doesn't want to do a 2nd round with you.

The above a rough guide, bahala ka na to improve on it.

Good luck!   
     

[princeza08]

i feel for you sis, say sorry sa mga nagawa mo dati and ipakita mo sa kanya na you've changed na. everyone deserves a second chance. there is no perfect relationship nor a perfect person either. just show him & tell him you love him. say to him anything that comes from your heart. if he says, he still loves you, then fight for it. naguguluhan lang siguro sya dahil na trauma sya sa nangyari sa inyo before. but i know there is still a chance for both of you. just make sure na hindi nya talaga gf yun sinasabi nya na girl na dine date nya. give him enough time to heal when you broke his heart. just show to him you are always there, and that you've really changed. let him decide, and whatever and whoever will be his choice & decision, then just respect it. at least you did your best to make him come back to you again. from the first place, you said it is your fault why you ended your relationship with him and you've not been a good gf to him before. so if he chooses the other girl towards you, just be ready & be strong. don't expect anything from him. just do the best that you can to save him and release his fears about your past. good luck. i hope you will make the right move to win him back!

[pret_ty68]

Sis, follow the advice of sis aquacharly. Pray to God  to give him clarity of mind to choose you, if he is really the one for you. Hope for the best but also expect for the worst.

[princeza08]

kaya mo yan sis amethyst028! just pray hard na sana dumating din yun mr. right mo. kung kayo naman talaga ng x bf mo. kahit ano maging hadlang, kayo pa din hanggang sa huli. enjoy your life being single for a moment. good luck!

[Myealexis21]

^^Sis better na yan that you decided to move on.

You made the right decision Sis! base kase sa kwento mo parang si ex-bf di pa nakakamove on sa break-up niyo.. di nakamove on in the sense na hindi pa rin niya malimutan yung pain he felt after the breakup and his hesitation to give you another chance.

And the fact na may gf na sya... wag na talaga. 

At yung sinabi niya na agawin mo sya sa girl that's a sign na you really need to move on.  If he really loves you, he wouldn't ask that from you

[jiji_06]

Go Sis...

Hindi lang naman sya ang lalaki sa mundo. MArami pa dyan sis. Though I know, may feelings ka pa talaga sakanya. I set aside mo nalang muna yan, do some things na gusto mo, hilig mo. Tsaka sis, kung meron pa man nagpaparamdam sayo, wag muna. Ipahinga mo muna yang puso mo. Like, after 1-3 months, i feel mo ulit maging Single. Tsaka malay mo sis, baka magkabalikan kayo. hehe Theres a lot of thing to do sis, than to let someone to love  you again. Baka may masaktan nanaman ulit. You know na. Hayaan nyo muna mag heal mga puso niyo ni ex at sau. Baka nga lumabas na tunay na anyo ni gf, daba? Kung hindi talaga kayo para sa isat isa. Accept it. Then, wait for the right person. Sabi mo nga, you learned a lot, kaya mas magiging better girl ka na ulit sa mga susunod na makakarelasyon mo. Pero wag muna ngaun sis. Para sakin lang ha?
Depends on you. As I said, naranasan ko narin yang ganyan sis. NAgmahal ako ulit, pero hindi talaga yun mahal, parang panakip butas, and then itong aking ex, bumalik kasi nalaman nyan tunay na anyo ng gf nya after months. Kaya nagsisi din ako kasi though masaya ako kasi bumalik na yung ex ko, pero may nasaktan naman akong tao. Hirap ng ganun sis.

KAya mo yan sis. I feel mo muna maging single...
Goodluck sis

[princeza08]

IMO, siguro LET GO & LET GOD. hayaan mo si ex bf ang mag decide sis. give him enough time. if he really loves you, babalik sya sa'yo. & he will end up his relationship sa current gf nya. but if not, then you are not meant from each other. na kay ex bf pa din ang huling alas kung sino ang gusto nyang makasama. for you naman, enjoy ka na lang muna being single. wag mo masyado pakaisipin si ex bf.

[pret_ty68]

Wag ka nang lumayo sis pag ginawa mo kasi yun baka tuluyan nang mag decide ang ex bf mo na piliin yung gf nya ngayon tapos pagsisihan mo na naman. Wag ka ring maging clingy and force him to make a choice agad agad. Yung tamang paramdam lang. Syempre na gui guilty rin sya na iwan yung gf nya ngayon kaya sya nagkakaganyan. Torn sya ngayon sa feeling of love and feeling of guilt. Pero he has to make a choice now habang maaga pa. Yung di mo pagbitaw is a way din para ma test yung love nila sa isat isa dahil hindi rin naman magiging masaya yung new gf nya kung hindi mabibigay nung ex bf mo yung love nya nang buong buo. Pray hard na lang sis na kung para sayo makabalik sayo.