How exactly should i deal with BF adding random girls on FB?

[pepurpink]

my man accepts (or adds) random girls in facebook. nung una, bale wala lang sa ken because i trust him but lately, its been a focus of my attention. dumadami kase sila, hayss... It hurts me and bother me... Should I ignore all this, cause he's just being a guy or should I confront him?

[px17]

^Do you have access on your guy's account? check if he send any pms. If he does then confront him. If he doesn't then maybe he's admiring lang the beauty nung girls.

[tellycopter]

Kapag masyado na syang preoccupied sa FB ask for his login details na. I had an ex like that and ininsist ko talaga na makuha ko yung access sa account nya and I found out na he's a total jerk.

[jiji_06]

Para sakin sis, gawa ka ng new account mo. Then i add mo sya. Then try iflirt mo sya, ask him kung may gf na ba sya, commited na ba sya or something. At kung ano man yung mga sagot nya, at pumatol man sya sa mga sinabi mo. Then ask him na sa personla kungnakikipag flirt ba sya sa mga FB friends nya or may karelasyon ba syang iba. At ano man ang malaman mo, nasasayo na kung ano magiging desisyon mo sa relationship nyo.

Hehe, para sakin lang yun. Nasasayo na kung gagawin mo yun ah...

[roxy14]

Ask him why he randomly accept/add girls from facebook na hindi naman niya talaga kilala. Tapos kapag sinabi niya na "wala lang." Sabihin mo na it hurts and bothers you

[cynthric08]

It's not invading his privacy but i think you should know his login password and check on him from time to time. I actually do that sa BF ko kapag may recent add sya i ask him at dapat may valid reason siya if sya ba nag add or yung girl nag add. In the first place kung ang bf walang ginagawang kalokohan hindi yan magdalawang isip ibigay ang login password nya.

[quinone]

pepurpink, huwag ka magalit sa akin ha..pero alam mo tingin ko sa mga lalake na naga-add ng random pretty/cute girls na hindi naman nila personally (like na meet lang kung saan) kilala? manyak & cheap guys, yan ang tingin ko sa kanila. lalu na kung may personal info sila doon like family & close friends tapos ia-add nila itong mga tao na ito na hindi naman nila talaga kilala.

walang pagkaka-iba sa pakikipag textmate or phonepal...hindi dapat ginagawa kung committed ka nang tao.

[joeygirly]

baka mahilig mag flirt si BF? yung bf ko ngayon nagkkwento about how flirty he was nung bata bata pa siya and isa yan sa mga ginagawa niya..

tell him it bothers you.

[lady_avoidant]

may na discover din ako sa bf ko ngayon lang.. nag a add naman siya ng mga girls na kaparehas ng kumpanya namin pero nasa ibang branch naman yung ibang girls.. yung ni a add pa niya e yung may mga appeal na girls .. nagtanong ako kung sino sa kanila yung nag add.. siya mostly e.. ok lang sana kung nagiging kasakasama namin yung girl sa branch namin kaso nasa kabilang lugar e.. nagkakasalubungan nalang nung may event.. bakit pa ni add niya..kainis.. baka mag assume tuloy yung mga girls na may gusto sa kanila bf ko...o baka totoo naman din.. baka sa isip isip nila na kawawa ako kasi ganun bf ko.. nagkakagusto pa rin kahit may gf na.. exag lang kaya ako sa emotions ko at bakit nai kwestyon ko ang ganyang bagay sa kanya??

[insanelypurpleprincess]

lady_avoidant, there's this gut feel / intuition thing that women have and we shouldn't ignore it. All I am saying is, if it bothers you, then do tell your guy about it. His reaction and action thereafter will be the basis for you to re-assess the situation. Ngayon kasi may Facebook na kaya may ganitong issues. In the past, when we didn't have Facebook, the issues were also different.. More on texting naman. Truly, regardless of the medium, I feel that you should be open enough to express how the situation makes you feel. May you have the courage to bring it all out on the table. Good luck, sis!

To answer the question about the guy adding random girls on FB, it personally doesn't bother me, per se. However, what the guy does after the connection has been made through FB is what concerns me more. Kasi kahit naman FB friends ang mga tao, for as long as wala namang interaction, then that should be fine. However, if adding is merely just the first step to greater things, aka, flirting and all, then ibang usapan na yan.

[Girltalker2]

pepurpink, huwag ka magalit sa akin ha..pero alam mo tingin ko sa mga lalake na naga-add ng random pretty/cute girls na hindi naman nila personally (like na meet lang kung saan) kilala? manyak & cheap guys, yan ang tingin ko sa kanila. lalu na kung may personal info sila doon like family & close friends tapos ia-add nila itong mga tao na ito na hindi naman nila talaga kilala.

walang pagkaka-iba sa pakikipag textmate or phonepal...hindi dapat ginagawa kung committed ka nang tao.

Agree with this.

In fact, there is no valid reason for anyone to just randomly add anyone - moreso girls lang ba talaga ina-add nya and NO random guys?

Obviously TS, your guy is scouting or scouring for girls. 

First you should NOT ignore it.  Second, nasa sa iyo iyan kung gusto mo pagtyagaan, but men like these should not waste anyone's time. It is obvious na ayaw nila pumirmi pa sa isa. They are not ready for commitment.  Kaya palayain mo na iyan, sasakit lang ang ulo mo diyan.

[t_r_i_s_h]

I find this act annoying. But I've come to accept the fact that guys are naturally "friendly" as they call it but syempre that's BS they know for a fact that it's flirting na rin.

[annamarie88]

Ang daming guys na ganito sis grabe kakainis lang.. Hindi mo alam bat add ng add kahit wala interaction, point kasi jan bakit gusto pa maging friends on fb kahit pa kawork, eh kung hindi naman close hehe ano? Para makikita mga pics, status ganyan? Hehe

Dami din page/account ng mga babaeng pasexy na napakadaming followers, for me kasi feeding the maniac self ba haha diba by looking at other girls' accounts.. 

Boyfriend ko is really firm about privacy! Haha fine nakamove on na ako sa phase na yan na walang pakialaman ng fb, dati nga pinlano ko pa i-hack account nya at deactivate forever, pero tanggap ko na, deadma na lang.. Mukha naman walang interaction whatsoever nagpaparinig na lang ako (in a joking manner) na kung sino sino inaadd nya at nakikita ko mga nila-like nya na photos.. I think tinamaan, kasi mukhang nagstop maglike, so okay na yun haha

Tag mo na lang palagi ng pics nyo hihi

[Girltalker2]

^ you won't know if he has another account just for girls.

You cannot stop a guy from adding random girls in FB. Nasa sa nature na niya yun.  What you can do is ditch him or be part of his mess.

Ine-enjoy lang naman nya pagka single nya. Meaning not respecting you as a GF.  But by sticking it out as his GF, parang in-a-accept mo na ang pambabastos nya sayo.

Guys ba lahat ganyan?  Or Pinoy guys lang?  Kasi wala akong FB.

[baliwsayo]

Definitely annoying. I will break up with him for sure. Feel niya pa pala mag-landi eh so obvious na kung ano lang ako sa kanya (if that is the case).

[JINJIN:*]

ex is like that...sa tingin ko pang pogi points lang yun nila...

but guess what hiwalay n kmi kase nambabae siya..lol

[annamarie88]

I would know kung may ibang account just for girls

[k_fine]

Ganyan din ako before, add ng add ng people (boys and girls) kahit once ko lang na-meet. Though wala naman malisya yun. Si hubby naman nagagalit kasi bakit ko daw ina-add, baka daw may gusto ako sa kanila. Ayun pinag-unfriend ko lahat ng hindi ko naman close. Baka ganun lang din si bf mo tulad sa akin. Better ask your bf and tell him how you feel about this.